How do people have spontaneous sex in random places without washing?
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In popular culture as well as in personal stories told by many people there's often mentions of spontaneously having sex in random places and sometimes with random people: in cars, in clubs, in bathrooms etc. But how do people do that without taking shower beforehand? Penetration is imaginable - if there's no strong bad smell, it might be tollerable, but what about oral sex? Sounds vomit inducing.
Horny brain can override a lot of better judgement.
That's why post-nut clarity is a thing.
@[email protected] there is much that needs overriding.
i spend 75-80% of my time; outside of work and sleep; inhabiting establishments where spontaneous/random sex are the primary attraction for people to come and (besides bath houses or some sex clubs) they're the same as any other social gathering spots.
it same social club like setting; same conversations/dancing/etc.; same thing all around except for the only difference being a dramatically more permissive attitude for public displays of sex.
women are extremely rare in the places that i inhabit, but i do know for that fact that both men-only and coed spaces operate by almost identical rules when it comes to the sex hygiene -- show up with in good hygiene and you must be experienced enough with both penetration and fellatio to know how to prepare yourself accordingly if you seek either one. (ie. you're not welcome if you don't know how to clean yourself enough to be public; or to be penetrated; or don't know how to give head without vomiting -- grown and fully functional experienced adults only).
the only thing that's different between these establishments and any other social clubs (again excluding bath houses and some sex clubs) is the entry price tag for most straight men.
If your or your partner's genitals are vomit-inducing half a day after your last shower and putting on fresh underwear in the morning, you might have a medical issue that needs checking out.
I don't think all these stories about having spontaneous sex are from people who had a shower half a day before the sex.
Also, condoms help. I've found having raw sex frequently makes the smell and taste a lot worse, a lot faster. I think it's cause you get two very different genital smells mixing?
Some people actually like the smells. I even think most people don't prefer clinically clean bodies.
Where's violet when you need her. I remember her posting about telling her boyfriend to not shower.
Busy being an underage thirst trap talking about fucking a guy as old as her dad.
She’s back again btw.
As another incredibly horny Violet out in the world, it’s always odd to read comments like this. Straight up had the thought “ but I never posted that meme on Lemmy” 💀
Is that weird?
I tell my wife not to when I'm in the mood, and it's much better that way IMO, she smells and tastes divine
And what about the taste?
Lol how to show your inexperience.
When you are in love/lust with the right person trust me anything goes and there’s no issue.
Unfortunately it doesn't always work like that.
If a penis is too dirty to go in my mouth, it’s too dirty to go in my pussy. I strongly believe everyone should live by that rule!
To echo others here - if everyone involved showered that morning and otherwise wasn’t sweating a lot during the day, it’s fine.
But even after peeing once there's some urine left. Is it okay for you?
Yeah as long as they’re wiping after pissing and keeping it relatively clean, I’m ok with a little bit of body funk.
It's nice people can be so accepting. Thanks for sharing your experience!
You know urine doesn’t have harmful pathogens in it unless your partner has a UTI right? Germs aren’t inherently harmful and if they’re not harmful why worry about it?
I have ARFID and taste is a huge factor so I can't live by that rule lol. But, normal people without eating issues, absolutely this rule.
This might be a reflection of your own hygiene. People are always surprised that I only shower once or twice a week and don't wear deodorant because I look and smell so clean. Ive had orgiastic sex camped out in the woods where no one had access to bathrooms or showers and honestly it was no smellier or grosser than sexing people in a place with showers.
Good diet and doing laundry properly goes a long way but honestly some people are just nasty as fuck with their genitals and no amount of access to running water will change this. There's unwashed pussies and dicks you will put in your mouth that taste wonderful and there are people who's junk will smell like yeast and rotten meat even though they just took a shower
Sex is a little nasty anyways. If you're not comfortable with other people's taint you're just not gonna be able to have as much sex. Not all taint is equal but it's all taint
Absolutely this, there's no way to be with more than one person and not have things end up sweaty and smelly even if you just showered ... and I am so into that.
Um. I don't think they're surprised because you look and smell so clean. If you only shower once or twice a week and don’t wear deodorant, you stink and you're nose blind.
Nah, he might just have good skin microbiome.
Wow. I got downvoted into oblivion for saying that people should shower everyday and wear deodorant. People on the Internet are not even remotely normal.
I ate out a woman who’d been dancing all night in pleather pants.
Sometimes you just do it.
I heard a guy call it 'Disco Moot', and he was in favour of it.
If you're into that sort of thing, then the ultimate is peeling a lady out of a latex bodysuit ... unless she used too much talc getting into it, lol
And the taste gets diluted very quickly with your saliva anyways. The intense flavor only lasts for the first ~half a minute
Reminds me of that old college humor skit with Batman.
Edit: https://youtu.be/Rt07rT5kNWU
jokes on you, i'm into that shit.
manstink drives me absolutely crazy.🥴
I wish my partner were like that. 😁
Depends on the man. A lot.
I had one once with that skin condition that means they always smell rotten, and it was not fun.
agreed
We exist because of a unbroken chain of horny humans existed in all types of conditions, only recently have showers been readily available. The human spirit will make due!
Aight, as someone that used to wash dirty bodies for a living, and insists on a level of cleanliness because of that, you're way overestimating the funk most people have in the short term.
The typical person that's bathing regularly (not even daily) and is changing clothing daily just isn't going to smell that bad.
Hell, if a person is actively sweating, they'll smell better because sweat will flush away the stuff that makes funky smell or taste, so all you get is saltiness.
For real, even in nursing homes with urinary incontinent patients, they didn't stink just by virtue of being in a wet diaper for a while. A washcloth (or the equivalent) and a light scrub would remove any aroma. For an ambulatory adult using basic methods to clear residual urine, you might get the lightest hint at the end of a long day.
Mostly, genitals just smell genital-y. A little light musk, some hints of sebum scent, and maybe the generic scent of skin. It's far from unpleasant, even when strong enough to detect while helping someone change clothes.
Now, I never went down on, or fucked a patient. Wouldn't have been interested in crossing that line even if they were otherwise compatible.
But I have gotten freaky with people after their work, after workouts, etc. The truth is that if they stink it points to something being out of whack. It's not the default at all. A person's diet and intake of things has way more influence on their taste and similar to their scent than just being out and about randomly.
For real, while I do prefer such intimacy fresh out of a shower because of my history dealing with people that did have something out of whack, it's not some kind of horrible experience otherwise. Like, it's less unpleasant than kissing after eating roasted garlic (which isn't really unpleasant tbh, just intense).
And it's not like a full bath is going to be significantly better at knocking down UTI risks than a wipe it washcloth and a light attention.
Seriously, where did you get the idea that crotches stink that bad just walking around?
I bet you have some interesting stories.
I used to be banned from dinner tables because of that lol.
My initial thought was what you were like camping, sitting around a campfire, just chatting.
He could be a bard singing at a camp fire, if you've play RDR2 i imagine a song like that.
I've done that :)
Sometimes I get lucky and a given gathering is up for the really gnarly (but still entertaining rather than maudlin) stories, and I end up going on for quite a while lol.
Wow this is some valuable information. It really puts things in a perspective. Thanks for sharing your experience!
I've had some bad experience.
I mean if both of you are daily bathers and not sweating all day, there is no issue. If anything a tiny bit of smell can be nice, really let's the pheromones do their work.
Hmm it's interesting how different people's perception of things might be. To mirror my question to other people who shared a similar opinion: but even after peeing once, there's some urine left. Doesn't it cause issues?
No, urine is generally cleaner than sweat, unless the person is dehydrated.
Wow didn't know that, thanks
Lol. How did our ancestors manage to have sex before showers.
Develop a bit more hygiene and libido.
Well our ancestors didn't wipe their asses and sometimes drank urine. Should we continue those practices, too?
This is such a bizarre post… OP you sound terrified of other people and intimacy, therapy would probably be a huge help
I have no issues with intimacy. What does having sex with dirty people have to do with that?
In movies people are always doing in on the beach all covered in sand. 🤮
Textured for nobodies pleasure.
I for one love using rugburn blood as lubricant. 🙃
Sex on the beach is the worst, but sex in the water is dangerous. Moving parts can create a vacuum which is very painful to break.
I hate this whole thread.
its dat good stank
My ex-gf (RIP) (she's not dead she just doesn't like me now) did not rly wash her hair. Nevermind about that. Historically sex has often been terrifying. We have got it so good you have no idea
::: spoiler CW: S.A., the most horrifying shit i have ever heard, do not read this
Before the October Revolution marital rape and giving birth too frequently with a poor diet followed by manual labor (serfdom was incredibly crushing after serfdom was supposedly abolished too, nobody really got lashes for treating their wife this way) was so common in Russia that women would regularly suffer uterine prolapse. I even heard that midwives would use peeled potatoes to try to physically hold the vaginal canal in for healing after prolapse. We truly have a lot to atone for, collectively. How long do you think until we balance out the suffering that's been caused? How do we know this isn't hell? Maybe it doesn't have to be for too much longer.
If you can't say no on those conditions, do you think telling your husband that he stinks like a fucking dog would stop him? Stalin, where are you? It's so dark in here. We need your help still
:::
Marital rape after giving birth still happens at such a high frequency that labor and delivery nurses have systems for when a male partner forces himself on his birthing partner while they’re still in hospital.
my fucking eyes
What the fuck. I've never heard this, and I wished it stayed that way
I wish i could say the same, but I’m a woman who has given birth before.
Pheromones have a big role in sex and pairing. Sex only after shower should be a definite no-no. You should have at least half a days skin excretion on. Otherwise from your bodys perspective you might as well be fucking a silicone doll and subconscious processes for pairing are left out.
I'm honestly confused by this. People smell nice when they smell like people, it takes a couple days for people to start smelling bad.
I don't know you, but for me, pussy doesn't start tasting too bad until like 2-3 days without a wash
People didn't even shower daily a few hundred years ago. Hornyness makes anything possible.
That said healthy people don't get that bad usually.
If you have a condom, penetration might be less icky.
Alcohol wipes. No, don't actually do that ... trust me.
Find an east asian partner, Koreans especially have been studied to genetically have no body odor in their sweat gland compared to others
I'm more curious about how people have sex that spontaneously in random places?
It takes up to hours to get into the mood and any random place is likely uncomfortable and distracting enough to lose the hard earned mood.
Less about forcing a mood, it's more about following when it does hit, exponential bonus points if you're an exhibitionist.
Also, chemistry is huge, here. People work really weirdly in the head, so if, say, there's a positive feedback loop in the dynamic, it can be explosive.
Clicker training is also valid. Or really any kind of training, which is likely what "pheromones" really is: horny people get stupid, funky unique smells happen, now you've built a taste for it.
Like literally just read about any kink ever.
And, if you aren't feeling it, maybe try something or somebody different. Or maybe you're ace spectrum, that's totally valid, too.
Also, shame is a powerful thing. It causes people to do things and to not do things.
Basically, all people are weird, and that's okay.
Yeah over the years I've found tha people are different and of course there's nothing wrong in that. No ill will towards anyone on either end of the spectrum.
It's just always surprising to see someone with a complete opposite of my experiences as i tend to forget about it completely and only reminded of it by outside influence and even then it takes effort.
That's my secret, Cap - I'm always in the mood
Hats off, i envy you.
Oh don't, this morning I've been trying to write a report, but at the back of my mind I have the dream from last week of me licking sweat from between my wife's boobs, playing on repeat ... it's hard to maintain focus
Fair, i can see the downside of that, but having a permanent spank bank is a rather good benefit.
I wish I could just switch it on and off as needed, lol
I totally agree, on/off switch would be the best option.
For some people it's a lot easier and faster to get in the mood.
Yeah i know, but it still suprises me. I envy those people.
I'm surprised I haven't seen the Napoleon letter telling his wife to not wash.
Lol