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They're so spacious

"Ah don't wear a seatbelt because muh sisters cousins friends uncles neighbors mechanics grandaddys brother died while he was wearing a seatbelt and couldn't get out of the vehicle in time to avoid the freight train that he was too blind and deaf to see or hear coming."

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Same, very same

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my family would be better too.

I don't struggle with depression that deeply anymore but every once in a great while, I still have moments where I feel this way.

Nearly a century ago, my great-grandpa hung himself. I have no idea why. I do know that the impact was devastating and spanned multiple generations. One of his sons also killed himself about 20 years later. The one that survived, my grandpa, was never the same. He became "head of the household" at 15. Even though I never met him, every description I've ever heard of him was of a man who never got a chance to grow up. That made him a terrible father.

Even if you don't have kids, there are still people in your life who depend on you and need you, even if they don't know how to say it. Your absence would leave a giant crater in their lives that would probably never fully heal.

This knowledge has kept me here at moments. I'm glad you're still here too.

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Fear of taking medication- thoughts?

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but my doctor said I just wasn't trying hard enough. Broke my spirit.

That's how you know you're talking to the wrong doctor. "Just try harder" is not a solution to executive function disorders. If it were, I would have been a "straight A" student instead of a barely passing one. Stimulants revealed, among numerous other things, that I actually can do math and I'm not a complete and utter moron. My brain just has a physical defect whereby some parts of it are unable to sufficiently absorb neurotransmitters.

Through my extensive experience with doctors, I have learned that generally speaking -- not always, mind you -- doctors are familiar with their own narrow field and nothing outside of it. They also often have as much hubris than the average person and, much like the rest of us, tend to feel threatened by the unknown.

You need to find a doctor that that is either familiar with ADHD and how to effectively treat it, or one who is at least willing to work towards improving your quality of life and is willing to do some serious trial and error to that end.

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about that ticket we talked about yesterday

A good project manager is worth their weight in gold. Large scale projects are complex and have lots of moving parts. Someone who understands this and is good at keeping all the "parts" moving while heading off any potential issues is extremely valuable.

The problem is that often the people doing the hiring don't know what it takes to run a large project, much less what good project management looks like. They just hire some idiot with an agile certification whose only skill is moving items around a kanban board in a way that gives the illusion that progress is being made.

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Please help me under stand my spouse's gift and their hurt

One time my wife got me a really nice DeWalt jig saw for Christmas. I already had a jigsaw. It worked well enough for as much as I use it. Although the newer one was better quality and had a few nicer features.

You know what I did? I thanked her and told her how much I appreciated it. She saw something she thought would make my life a little easier and got it for me as a gift. It was a very kind gesture. If it were the wrong one, I probably would have talked to her later and asked if I could exchange it for one that would have suited my needs better while still letting her know that I appreciated what she was trying to do. I'm sure she would have been fine with that.

What I wouldn't have done was gripe at her for buying me a new power tool because I "don't like new things" or "I already have a jigsaw and it works just fine." That would be a terrible idea which would understandably hurt her feelings when she was just trying to do something nice for me.

It wasn't about the "thing". It was about the gesture. The fact that they gave you such a gift shows that they pay attention to what you do and they wanted to give you something to make your life a little easier. That was very thoughtful but you threw it back in their face. I completely understand why they're angry.

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Twitter, Reddit, Unity, Blizzard... who else?

Zoom: "wE cAnT cOlAbOrAtE iF wErE nOt In PeRsOn. We NeEd EmPloYeEs To ReTuRn tO tHe OfFiCe."

They have stiff competition but this has to be one of the most incompetent boners I have ever seen pulled by a major corporation. Stating very clearly to the entire world that you have no confidence in your own product. If Eric Yuan (Zoom's CEO) wasn't the principle shareholder he probably would have been fired out of a cannon by now.

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Copyright Industry Wants To Apply Automated Blocking To The Internet’s Core Routers

I would like to once again thank the motion picture and recording industry associations for their contributions to both the sophistication of media piracy and the quality of content.

Without their efforts, we would probably all still be playing Russian Roulette on Limewire for a low quality copy of Zoolander. The first person to record a movie on Betamax would probably shit themselves if they could have seen what could be accomplished with some arrogance, incompetence, and blind greed. There's no doubt that you guys are the real MVP when it comes to promoting media piracy.

The anti-piracy industry couldn't be more Mickey Mouse if it were run by the Marx Brothers.