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Nothing makes them back off faster IME...

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I'll also add that context matters too. How you hit on someone at a music festival is vitally different from how you hit on them at a community potluck. I've had success flirting with a woman I hadn't met before by complimenting how her boobs looked in the corset she was wearing, but had I not been in an event where sexual forwardness, including between women, is normal. To make a comment like that basically anywhere else would be mortifying.

Generally try to err on the side of respectful, but learning what are normal and acceptable styles of flirtation and general interaction in a space is part of hitting on people in that space.

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Residents who live near data centers say a constant low-frequency vibration is ruining their health and homes

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We need an anarchist Mr. Rogers. Just someone pure of heart to talk to kids about taking care of their neighbors no matter what the government says. Little everyday lessons in consensus and how to deal with the conflicts that arise when different people have different big feelings. How everyone is special just for being themselves and we should encourage our neighbors to be their unique selves.

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The traditional suburban street design of winding roads and cul-de-sacs is just as responsible for U.S. car dependency as the distances created by sprawl, according to new Yale research.

Yeah anyone who's lived in one can tell you that. Blocks are easy to walk and you can put shops inside because they're convenient. This type of suburban neighborhoods just can't do the same. Even attempts to put shops and restaurants nearby wind up being good, but just no genuine substitute for the real thing of a walkable neighborhood.

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Yeah, I'm the (pop culture understanding of the) bottom in my marriage and I'm the one who brings home the veggie bacon. My wife still pays at sit down restaurants, but it's with money I earned. At bars though I get the drinks so she doesn't have to get up.

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Finally an explanation

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But we must always focus on our goal of minimizing suffering. The path to evil comes when we focus more on us vs them and hurting the enemy than we are on building a better world. Fetishization of violence is a dangerous path.

I lament that I believe that violence and public executions are necessary, but I do. But I also don't believe it's sufficient. We must also build a better world.

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Is it okay to express your feelings for someone even if you don't think they reciprocate

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Yeah, love is only for people you're in a relationship with and those you aren't seeking a relationship with. You can say you love your best friend, but if you start dating them, while the intensity of your feelings for each other may increase, the relationship is back to an early stage, just in a new track. You haven't built that track up enough for that word to feel safe and comfortable.

When you're pining over a friend you're partly thinking of them in the romantic relationship track. This means professing love doesn't just come off as "I care deeply for you" or "I'm interested in romance", it comes off as "we're getting pretty serious in my head, you should get in on it."

In general mismatched feelings are deeply uncomfortable and the more mismatched they are the less comfortable.

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That tracks with the people I know who aggressively pursue liberty. Those of us with tits average about 1 out.

Shit now I kinda want to put up a statue of a French anarchist…

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You wrote the history book vs You were in the history book

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Yeah it's really hard to completely destroy history if your enemies are dedicated to preserving it. For example Franco couldn't kill the republican narrative of his war, he could only drive it into secrecy.

Soldiers ensure your reign, but scholars legitimize it. Oh and minority groups have a vested interest in maintaining their own scholarship that's proportional to how hard you try to stop it.