That was far and away my favorite part of playing in a band. Shows are exhilarating and all don't get me wrong, but just a regular opportunity to jam with other people is fricking amazing. Good call!
Heatedly debate with them from a place of bad faith about events and concepts that are not actionable and we have no control whatsoever about, getting extremely winded up and emotional during the entire process, speaking louder than what's socially acceptable, using very cheap half baked arguments and ultimately appealing to made-up authority figures if they corner me, until they admit I'm right, even if just out of sheer exhaustion or sarcastic condescension.
Me? Dance dance revolution. It's so much more fun with a partner, not exclusively but in part because you feel less dorky with someone else doing it with you. If I had more stamina hubs and I would play for hours.
Mostly for goofing around haha, it's just fun to do. I can't play nearly as well as I did when I was fifteen and a dude, so I'm pretty sure I'd die in any sort of competition.
I really enjoy hiking, especially in the sort of places where you can explore and choose different routes ... hiking is nice, because you're getting exercise, fresh air, and you can talk to whoever you're with, with enough time to have a proper in-depth conversation.
And when you're out in the middle of nowhere, surrounded by nature's beauty, you can fuck them.
They give one example and explain the nuances of it but its really can be any sort of dancing or adult sports or board game nights or movement arts like taichi, judo, jiu jitsu, or climbing gyms for practicing bouldering, could be volunteering in some cases or LARPing, any sort of rexourring outdoor group that is physically away from devices and is pro social in a way that is low stakes where everyone has their attention on something else so the shy people have a easier time to get in
I've been figuring out lately that I'd probably like dancing if I wasn't so sheltered growing up. I know what what you mean about the movement flow state from doing stuff like cutting wood, I think there is something good about learning to cultivate flow state anytime too which is a bit difficult to explain but it just makes everything better.
What sort of stuff do you reccomend for dancing? I think to start out with it for me it would probably be easier to find solo stuff I can learn but partner dances seem pretty appealing for a lot of reasons.
That is exactly what I was thinking about contra, it seems like the kind of thing where the reward and structure is best for beginners looking to learn broadly by trying everything but not as much as something to just go do often because the skill tree hits a wall quickly.
If I've learned anything its that I can learn everything, I think I'd be decent at dancing because I do things which I think might be dance-like in the kitchen where I turn parts of my body just a little bit more here and there to get the most reach and dexterity out of various parts, I'm not crazy flexible but I think I can go a bit more than most and I'm rather tall and lanky so everything feels better to just be moving often.
I think I got the favorite music part down, but ill have to consider what of the music I like is danceable, that's a good tip I hadn't considered, pretty much I'll find a way to enjoy anything but I do have things I like more than others but its very all over the place.
Just one person? And aside from pleasantly passing the time with random chatter...
Squash.
Loved playing squash with someone of similar ability, just socially keeping score in a endless game until we're too tired to play.
Thinking of nothing else for a time, focused on the game.
Sadly my health hasn't been up to that for a while now... But that was great.
As a group activity. Table-top RPG with long-running worlds.
Usually D&D but even system-less story-teller games. Whether running the game or playing it.
Role-playing with an experienced and familiar group of friends that can flip instantly in and out of character to chat about the game as much as play it - that's great fun. We could do that all day (and in some instances most of the night)...
Like alt timelines, butterfly effect, philosophy (especially ontology), space travel, aliens, fermi paradox, time dialation, black holes, you know, all the very werid stuff...
But unfortunately, people IRL seems to not like to talk about these things...
The other thing is just... I guess exchange life stories...
We call this type 2 fun. It might not the most fun at the time but once you're off the hill and having a pint you say it was the best time ever, because you survived.
Also allows to I've climbing and skiing.
I challenge you to ride a mountain bike down a muddy hill, brakes on full lock, tyres skidding, while you barely manage to keep it upright and not have the most fun of your life! Yeah there are definitely parts that fall into that category of 'fun now that we're home' but a lot is primary fun.
I don't know where you live but the Scottish Highlands can produce some seriously "fuck this" weather. When you're still hours away from home and the sleet and winds pick up, your soaked to the bone and hands too cold to pull the brakes, you look back on it with more fondness than you felt at the time.
OK that definitely sounds not fun. I'm in Aotearoa New Zealand which doesn't get that bad. Even in the middle of winter, in the northern bike parks, it's pretty ridable without risk of hypothermia. I hope I do get the chance to ride over there one day though
Don't get me wrong, we have good days too but the weather can change in a heartbeat here. It's what catches most people out, especially on the mountain, too many people head out thinking it's a nice day then the weather changes, cold wet and zero visibility. Easy to get tired, lost and confused and needing to call mountain rescue only too find out they were only 10 minutes away from the car park.
I remember biking years ago in Wanaka and climbing at hang dog in golden bay on the south island. Beautiful place, can't wait to go back, take my kids. It's just so far away.
I've never rode in the south island, would love to but accomodation etc is so expensive. South island is definitely the more picturesque place, it would be a wonderful place to live
Back when I was young me and the missus spent months in a shitty van traveling around. Back then you could rock up outside the airport and find a van with the keys and paperwork and a note saying to take it as the previous owner had left.
I'm super bad at yappery most of the time, but when you have someone cool to yap with and are comfortable enough it can be super engaging. That's totally fair!
Either having a deep conversation or sharing an activity that we're both passionate about. Things involving genitals don't make it to that list in my case anyway. I count those as chores.
Touch their genitals!
With my mouth.
millions or even billions of answer choices and you somehow chose the only incorrect one
Stuff that involves their genitals.
Had to check the comments to make sure my answer wasn't already given.
Laugh
At their genitals
Play games
With their genitals
Playing music (jamming or performing) together. Nothing beats getting into a groove with fellow musicians.
That was far and away my favorite part of playing in a band. Shows are exhilarating and all don't get me wrong, but just a regular opportunity to jam with other people is fricking amazing. Good call!
Yes, the groove of other musicians genitals.
Eat pancakes.
But not too many pancakes.
Why not?
Then you have eaten too much, and then it's not fun any more.
At least get their permission first.
That's a good one.
This has to be a euphemism for something sexual
What's wrong with sharing a few good ol flapjacks with friends?
Usually Jack isn't flappy for very long.
Fall asleep cuddling
How is this not at the top?
Heatedly debate with them from a place of bad faith about events and concepts that are not actionable and we have no control whatsoever about, getting extremely winded up and emotional during the entire process, speaking louder than what's socially acceptable, using very cheap half baked arguments and ultimately appealing to made-up authority figures if they corner me, until they admit I'm right, even if just out of sheer exhaustion or sarcastic condescension.
Hey, I'll take what I can get.
hbu?
Me? Dance dance revolution. It's so much more fun with a partner, not exclusively but in part because you feel less dorky with someone else doing it with you. If I had more stamina hubs and I would play for hours.
I hear it's very cathartic. Is it mostly for goofing around or do you get competitive?
Mostly for goofing around haha, it's just fun to do. I can't play nearly as well as I did when I was fifteen and a dude, so I'm pretty sure I'd die in any sort of competition.
Sounds great. Hope you get to do it again soon.
Hi mom
Found my narcissistic spouse’s account!
I hope you mean ex-spouse. If not, good luck. <3
😔 I wish
Gotta work on that cardio
I really enjoy hiking, especially in the sort of places where you can explore and choose different routes ... hiking is nice, because you're getting exercise, fresh air, and you can talk to whoever you're with, with enough time to have a proper in-depth conversation.
And when you're out in the middle of nowhere, surrounded by nature's beauty, you can fuck them.
Can it still involve their genitals?
I like it when they give me money
I like it when they give me money too! What kind of money is your favorite to receive? I like it when it's in pixel format when they have a lot of 0s.
rpgs
Yeah but getting new rockets is super costly and hard to do. Stupid NFA getting in the way of my morning desk pop.
Hey I just got a RSS feed post about this topic
https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/Mqg2bqFw8k79sW7C2/you-should-try-contra-dancing
They give one example and explain the nuances of it but its really can be any sort of dancing or adult sports or board game nights or movement arts like taichi, judo, jiu jitsu, or climbing gyms for practicing bouldering, could be volunteering in some cases or LARPing, any sort of rexourring outdoor group that is physically away from devices and is pro social in a way that is low stakes where everyone has their attention on something else so the shy people have a easier time to get in
I've been figuring out lately that I'd probably like dancing if I wasn't so sheltered growing up. I know what what you mean about the movement flow state from doing stuff like cutting wood, I think there is something good about learning to cultivate flow state anytime too which is a bit difficult to explain but it just makes everything better.
What sort of stuff do you reccomend for dancing? I think to start out with it for me it would probably be easier to find solo stuff I can learn but partner dances seem pretty appealing for a lot of reasons.
That is exactly what I was thinking about contra, it seems like the kind of thing where the reward and structure is best for beginners looking to learn broadly by trying everything but not as much as something to just go do often because the skill tree hits a wall quickly.
If I've learned anything its that I can learn everything, I think I'd be decent at dancing because I do things which I think might be dance-like in the kitchen where I turn parts of my body just a little bit more here and there to get the most reach and dexterity out of various parts, I'm not crazy flexible but I think I can go a bit more than most and I'm rather tall and lanky so everything feels better to just be moving often.
I think I got the favorite music part down, but ill have to consider what of the music I like is danceable, that's a good tip I hadn't considered, pretty much I'll find a way to enjoy anything but I do have things I like more than others but its very all over the place.
Yeah I'm just saying difficulty is not an issue
Just one person? And aside from pleasantly passing the time with random chatter...
Squash.
Loved playing squash with someone of similar ability, just socially keeping score in a endless game until we're too tired to play.
Thinking of nothing else for a time, focused on the game.
Sadly my health hasn't been up to that for a while now... But that was great.
As a group activity. Table-top RPG with long-running worlds.
Usually D&D but even system-less story-teller games. Whether running the game or playing it.
Role-playing with an experienced and familiar group of friends that can flip instantly in and out of character to chat about the game as much as play it - that's great fun. We could do that all day (and in some instances most of the night)...
I really wanna just talk fringe topics...
Like alt timelines, butterfly effect, philosophy (especially ontology), space travel, aliens, fermi paradox, time dialation, black holes, you know, all the very werid stuff...
But unfortunately, people IRL seems to not like to talk about these things...
The other thing is just... I guess exchange life stories...
My dude you just need better people. My spouse and I gab about stuff like this all the time.
go explorin. downtown, in the neighborhood, new building. just lookin around with a pal. good times
Is the anus a genital?
Mountain biking in the rain. Biking is fun in general, but in the cold rain and mud, it's a mission you're on together.
We call this type 2 fun. It might not the most fun at the time but once you're off the hill and having a pint you say it was the best time ever, because you survived.
Also allows to I've climbing and skiing.
I challenge you to ride a mountain bike down a muddy hill, brakes on full lock, tyres skidding, while you barely manage to keep it upright and not have the most fun of your life! Yeah there are definitely parts that fall into that category of 'fun now that we're home' but a lot is primary fun.
I don't know where you live but the Scottish Highlands can produce some seriously "fuck this" weather. When you're still hours away from home and the sleet and winds pick up, your soaked to the bone and hands too cold to pull the brakes, you look back on it with more fondness than you felt at the time.
OK that definitely sounds not fun. I'm in Aotearoa New Zealand which doesn't get that bad. Even in the middle of winter, in the northern bike parks, it's pretty ridable without risk of hypothermia. I hope I do get the chance to ride over there one day though
Don't get me wrong, we have good days too but the weather can change in a heartbeat here. It's what catches most people out, especially on the mountain, too many people head out thinking it's a nice day then the weather changes, cold wet and zero visibility. Easy to get tired, lost and confused and needing to call mountain rescue only too find out they were only 10 minutes away from the car park.
I remember biking years ago in Wanaka and climbing at hang dog in golden bay on the south island. Beautiful place, can't wait to go back, take my kids. It's just so far away.
I've never rode in the south island, would love to but accomodation etc is so expensive. South island is definitely the more picturesque place, it would be a wonderful place to live
Back when I was young me and the missus spent months in a shitty van traveling around. Back then you could rock up outside the airport and find a van with the keys and paperwork and a note saying to take it as the previous owner had left.
SCUBA diving. The best part about it is peeing on your buddy....
But seriously having someone to talk with after a dive where you have seen something amazing is a great thing.
ROFLMMFAO
Talk about cats
Gamimg
Either going for food or playing board/video games together!
Board games!
Inis, Innovation, Bruges, El Grande, Finca, Jaipur, or Targi is an excellent time with other people.
How you doin'? 😉
TTRPGs and occasionally a lil' crime.
Yap
I'm super bad at yappery most of the time, but when you have someone cool to yap with and are comfortable enough it can be super engaging. That's totally fair!
My wife and I began having a great conversation on our first date, and ten years later it's still ongoing.
Either having a deep conversation or sharing an activity that we're both passionate about. Things involving genitals don't make it to that list in my case anyway. I count those as chores.
Drive down to a beach nearby and sit in the car with a bag of chips, watching people walk by with their Very Good Dogs. My wife and I love it.
Talk.
Dance.
Having a good meal.
A succulent Chinese meal?
Sometimes. A sometimes my family wants fish n chips. I'll make a clubhouse.
Fish Pool Picnic Loaf
There's many other things that don't immediately involve any genitals... but, the night is young. May you find the right love, in all the right places
I always hated when the school cafeteria served us fish pool picnic loaf.
Games
Bar trivia or other kinds of trivia. It’s fun!
Football
I LOVE buying my husband gifts. Especially small treats. :3
Sharing snacks eg nachos, chips and dip
My best mate and I love to play co-op games over Discord.
A massage
Choking each other.
kinky.
Video games and talking about music, movies, and TV shows.
Avoid them.