Finding the will to get out of bed in the morning. For twenty years I've gone to work 40 or more hours a week and honestly I just can't seem to find a care to do it anymore. I'm sure it's tied to depression or not being happy in my life or some shit but really it just seems easier some days to say why not just end it and not stress about being late on rent or having some awkward conversation telling someone you were sick and you know you shouldnt be missing days but really the work is just not fulfilling so I have no drive to keep doing it.
Not quite, I'm the mirrored version you see when you look in the mirror, except I must say the mirror must be fogged because it says lady in your name, so you'd have to be squinting hard. My beard is a bit hard to mistake, lol. Hope you find some sort of spark in your life soon that starts to make things better, I really need to find a new line of work probably.
I get like this if I have a good weekend, trip or vacation. It’s supposedly supposed to make you feel better in life but for me the stress beforehand (if it’s a big trip) and the depression afterward almost make it easier to bury my head in work and not peak too far outside my little bubble.
These are first world problems. Personally, I work for a few years before taking a a couple years off. I've did the math, and I need like 20-30 hours to maintain my standard of living. As long as I buy a house and save a few decades of taxes, I don't need much for a reasonable retirement. I'll probably buy a house big enough to turn part of it into an apartment.
I see myself as Benjamin Button. I might as well take my retirement when I'm young. I'll probably get killed in a car accident or something.
I picked it up very quickly. Swapping edge and linking turns in a few runs and jumping baby kickers and doing small board slides on day 2.
The only hard part by far is using T-bars. I still fall on them 😞 Even in the kids area lol. And yet I just did a few runs of my first black and only went down on that twice.
The thing that clicked for me was to look further ahead, keep up pace, and stop thinking. Kind of clicked in minutes after that.
I started skiing when I was very young and I was always bad at it. Never really improved, but golly I was really good at super pie-ing my way down difficult stuff.
I switched to snowboarding and it just clicked for me. It felt so much better and made way more sense.
Not to say it's easy, but give it a try. You might really enjoy yourself.
On a side note, I've since learned that I just suck at motion that has me with my feet facing forward. I can't roller skate or ice skate to save my life, but long boarding or skate boarding are find. I'm a little shaky on scopters, but it's not as bad as skates
My skiing days are done I think. But ya anything that moves that puts itself betweeny feet and the ground has never worked out well for me. Skating , roller skates, skiing snow and water
Your mouth cavity forms part of the instrument (like the body of an acoustic guitar) so you need to precisely control your lips, tongue, jaw, etc on top of the usual embouchure skills that you need for a wind instrument, while also being sure to only use the hole/holes you want. You get different notes when you blow and draw (suck), so you must control your breath so the note doesn't squeak - unless you're doing that on purpose, which lets you play notes outside the key of that particular harmonica. You also need to balance your in and out breaths so you don't get too full or empty of air (a few notes have both in and out options to help with this).
I have only ever seen one musician who could play the harmonica like a musical instrument. The guy from Sister Sparrow, Jackson Kincheloe. It was such a remarkable difference from the way I'd seen it played.
ETA, if you don't mind a YouTube link, here he is.
I think it's great that people make free music, I do so myself, but it'd be wrong to think that it'll fit perfectly.
I'd much rather see developers taking contact and getting custom made music that actually fits. Free or paid that's not the question, but just to have someone make a conscious decision of what actually fits the game.
It's such a large part of the game experience that it's a shame that it's often left up to random generic human or AI generated tunes.
A cool thing is that there are several instances on that site of people dropping a whole OST for a canceled game (often an RPG), so the music will at least be consistent with itself, if not your game, and if you're making something in the same genre a lot of it could fit (e.g. battle theme, super sad moment, boss battle).
Bitch is used colloquially to signify that something is excessively difficult or unpleasant as well.
You could also say mixing and mastering are fucking hard. But that would not be to say they are engaged in passionate intercourse; rather, fucking, in this context, simply emphasizes the difficulty of the task.
Turning when you're riding on a jetski and about to be in a head on collision.
Most people will panic and let off the gas to turn, but the jet ski isn't going to be able to turn much unless you're actually giving it some throttle.
I can build a house from start to finish and figure it all out easily. I can rebuild a car pretty easy too. Computer hardware and networking stuff is no problem. I started navigating the us with nothing but maps (pre internet access availability for me) at 16 and have driven all over since. I excel in spatial relations from what I'm told.
I don't understand nouns, verbs, adverbs, or anything that goes along with it but can speak and write clearly. Learning languages is a pita. Same goes for programming. Interacting with people outside of certain things in person makes me cringe. Interacting on the phone is worse unless I know someone, I'm currently still using my wife's debit card to access my bank account 7 years after she passed because I have to call the bank to fix mine and I can't stand the thought.
It's easy to be friendly at work. But turning that "work-friend" relationship into a real friendship, one where you do things outside of work together, is still a mystery to me. I have no idea how people do that. Others make it look so easy. I can't imagine anyone at my job dislikes me, we all compliment each other, laugh at each others' jokes, and hold fun conversations on the clock. Yet when a crowd gets together after work and plans where to go next, I'm baffled. I'm too anxious to invite myself, but nobody ever invites me, so I just try to ignore it so I don't feel hurt. :')
Warm white lightbulbs, anti blue coatings on glasses and settings in every device, and occasionally remembering to not drink caffeine past 4pm (even if you're a 'caffeine makes me tired' person it still keeps your brain kicking and out of rem sleep) were the kickers that got me into a good sleep schedule
The second I had a pair of glasses with those night driving amber lenses I genuinely noticed my sleep being better, felt myself actually getting tired and would actually go to bed early.
I accidentally did it yesterday. Took the dog for a walk, passed a woman sitting at the park bench near the park eating lunch. She was the instigator though I think, asked if I was local and what was the best thing about living here.
Having a smallish cute dog might be the key, but in this era of everyone staring at their phone it's harder than usual.
Turned out she was waiting for her kids friends to arrive, and they were out harvesting fruit from god knows where.
Just being outside is probably a good enough start. A pet is a handy excuse with added virtue signalling I guess.
Apparently, applying window tint is more difficult than it seems.
I regularly see cars with large bubbles between the tint and the glass. I decided years ago that if I want window tint but can’t afford to have it professionally applied, then I can’t afford tint. Having no tint at all is better than living with poorly applied tint.
Being happy. Living. Staying alive. Also, networking. I'm pretty good at computers, being able to build computers and compiling my own Linux based OS, but networking is witchcraft on another level. Still love it though
Keeping a car clean and mostly (not fully) scratch-free
You get into it thinking it's a fun hobby and now it's sunday night, you're on the floor crying outside next to your car realizing you need another $100 to do any decent polish job, and that it's fucking impossible without a garage
Folks often ask me how I manage to keep my old cars looking & running so great. I'd love to say it's because I do all the maintenance, and of course that helps. But the real answer is because I keep them in a garage. It really is that simple. It blows my fucking mind that America is so car-centric on every other aspect except having housing with enough garage space.
It's not even keeping it in the garage for me, it's that I need a garage to do anything. Working on the street is so annoying.
Right now, to do a polish&protect I gotta ask other people with private property (I live in an apartment) and they always bug me with "oh it's my holiday, so YOU can't work" or they keep nagging to me about how what I'm doing is pointless, or that I spent too much money on this (I did...but don't tell me what to do!!...)
1 It's not work, it's a hobby, and 2. Next time you try to have me be a delivery boy for you during a holiday I'm saying no, unless I forgot to check your holidays.
Like god damn just let me do my nice hobby in peace. I already helped you with countless things even during my work hours, let me have a nice time and stop imposing your religion, financials, and whatever other crap on me.
I feel like I'm the only guy around here that just helps however he's asked to without imposing my views on others as I'm helping them.
Flying an fpv quadcopter. Actually the whole hobby. Not talking DJI. Building, programming and inevitably fixing them. Flying them in acro mode is not easy. Come to think of it, line of sight is even harder.
Line of sight flying is something i can hardly comprehent. I'm not bad at it, most people are actually really impressed by it, but damn, every time i do it, i count on losing or crashing my drone and sweating my ass off the whole time.
I'm not a plumber but there's a variety of devices designed to address this problem because... everyone has the same problem. The one under our bathtub is called a plumbdinger.
Well that looks quite useful! Thanks for the suggestion. I'll probably still need to jackhammer away some concrete to fit it, but that's easier than digging down as far as the P trap (assuming there is one, hard to know with this old place) and risk hitting the dunny pipe as well.
I've heard that almost every single bath tub install has this problem.
Like on a new build the plumbers show up before the pad goes down to run the pipework. They measure out where the waste pipe is according to the plan but it might not be perfect to the mm.
Then the pad goes down. Then the carpenters show up and put up the walls. More measuring and inaccuracies and what have you.
The tub is the last to go in, and there's always going to be some variance between that first step and the final step, so there's always going to be something under the tub to connect it to the correct waste water.
We're planning out a renovation to take place in a few weeks. It's above ground floor with unrelated tenants below. Our guys need to drill a new waste water hole through a ~150mm concrete floor. The waste water pipes are in the ceiling of the tenancy below. The tenants are being weird about it... "you can only have access on Fridays!".
That said, our plumbdinger was leaking into their tenancy real bad 2 years ago. We couldn't really get at it without a full reno, which we didn't want to do, so we just put silicone on it as best we could with the nozzle through the grate of the bath tub waste water. That running repair has worked for the last 2 years.
In my case, arts and crafts. Even if it looks like something should be super easy I just don't have the right hand eye coordination to do it. I started making a diorama months ago and it's still looking like shit
nothing. most things are easy if you put in the right kind of effort and attention.
but people simple refuse to do it, this making their lives way more difficult than it seems. or they straight up reject instruction and assistance when it's offered.
Pulling out apparently
Can't fight millions of years of evolution
Yeah you did.
Where would apparently be pulled out from?
Probably a front loading clothes washer.
Step-bro?!
Oi, you got a loicense for that‽
It isn't that it is hard, it is because it is pointless.
Finding the will to get out of bed in the morning. For twenty years I've gone to work 40 or more hours a week and honestly I just can't seem to find a care to do it anymore. I'm sure it's tied to depression or not being happy in my life or some shit but really it just seems easier some days to say why not just end it and not stress about being late on rent or having some awkward conversation telling someone you were sick and you know you shouldnt be missing days but really the work is just not fulfilling so I have no drive to keep doing it.
It's almost creepy, are you me? This is exactly how i would describe the shit i am like for about a year now.
Not quite, I'm the mirrored version you see when you look in the mirror, except I must say the mirror must be fogged because it says lady in your name, so you'd have to be squinting hard. My beard is a bit hard to mistake, lol. Hope you find some sort of spark in your life soon that starts to make things better, I really need to find a new line of work probably.
I get like this if I have a good weekend, trip or vacation. It’s supposedly supposed to make you feel better in life but for me the stress beforehand (if it’s a big trip) and the depression afterward almost make it easier to bury my head in work and not peak too far outside my little bubble.
These are first world problems. Personally, I work for a few years before taking a a couple years off. I've did the math, and I need like 20-30 hours to maintain my standard of living. As long as I buy a house and save a few decades of taxes, I don't need much for a reasonable retirement. I'll probably buy a house big enough to turn part of it into an apartment.
I see myself as Benjamin Button. I might as well take my retirement when I'm young. I'll probably get killed in a car accident or something.
"unskilled" labor
Getting adequate mental health treatment
Most things. People underestimate the labor, time, complexity, obstacles that most jobs involve. We are wildly optimistic.
Speling.
Snowboarding, even without any tricks or anything fancy. Just cruising down the snow is also very difficult.
I picked it up very quickly. Swapping edge and linking turns in a few runs and jumping baby kickers and doing small board slides on day 2.
The only hard part by far is using T-bars. I still fall on them 😞 Even in the kids area lol. And yet I just did a few runs of my first black and only went down on that twice.
The thing that clicked for me was to look further ahead, keep up pace, and stop thinking. Kind of clicked in minutes after that.
I've only ever skied and I was awful at it. Snowboarding has always looked easier
Pro tip: It's not.
Consider this: unlike skiing, you don't have anything in your hands. You have to completely control the board by your legs.
I'm not a skier but I don't think you're supposed to control the skies with your hands either.
I started skiing when I was very young and I was always bad at it. Never really improved, but golly I was really good at super pie-ing my way down difficult stuff.
I switched to snowboarding and it just clicked for me. It felt so much better and made way more sense.
Not to say it's easy, but give it a try. You might really enjoy yourself.
On a side note, I've since learned that I just suck at motion that has me with my feet facing forward. I can't roller skate or ice skate to save my life, but long boarding or skate boarding are find. I'm a little shaky on scopters, but it's not as bad as skates
My skiing days are done I think. But ya anything that moves that puts itself betweeny feet and the ground has never worked out well for me. Skating , roller skates, skiing snow and water
Continuing to give a shit as the entire system collapses.
Playing the harmonica.
Your mouth cavity forms part of the instrument (like the body of an acoustic guitar) so you need to precisely control your lips, tongue, jaw, etc on top of the usual embouchure skills that you need for a wind instrument, while also being sure to only use the hole/holes you want. You get different notes when you blow and draw (suck), so you must control your breath so the note doesn't squeak - unless you're doing that on purpose, which lets you play notes outside the key of that particular harmonica. You also need to balance your in and out breaths so you don't get too full or empty of air (a few notes have both in and out options to help with this).
I'm very bad at the harmonica.
Great oral exercise.
I have only ever seen one musician who could play the harmonica like a musical instrument. The guy from Sister Sparrow, Jackson Kincheloe. It was such a remarkable difference from the way I'd seen it played.
ETA, if you don't mind a YouTube link, here he is.
https://youtu.be/AKzGhLTMkd4
Digital music production. Making a tune is easy, making it sound good and well balanced is a bitch.
I tried making music once for a game jam where we swapped roles with someone
I've learned to never even think about making music in the foreseeable future lol
same. luckily there's lots of good music out there under permissive licenses
I think it's great that people make free music, I do so myself, but it'd be wrong to think that it'll fit perfectly.
I'd much rather see developers taking contact and getting custom made music that actually fits. Free or paid that's not the question, but just to have someone make a conscious decision of what actually fits the game.
It's such a large part of the game experience that it's a shame that it's often left up to random generic human or AI generated tunes.
A cool thing is that there are several instances on that site of people dropping a whole OST for a canceled game (often an RPG), so the music will at least be consistent with itself, if not your game, and if you're making something in the same genre a lot of it could fit (e.g. battle theme, super sad moment, boss battle).
Just use AI.
According to a customer i have
That customer might be over their heads lol
AI in game development is cringe
I did game dev for the love of the game, not to spin games up as efficiently as possible.
There's a reason why many people hate seeing AI in games. It's viewed as a passion project for many, and AI kinda tosses that out the window
Female dog?
Bitch is used colloquially to signify that something is excessively difficult or unpleasant as well.
You could also say mixing and mastering are fucking hard. But that would not be to say they are engaged in passionate intercourse; rather, fucking, in this context, simply emphasizes the difficulty of the task.
Bitch is censored on lemmy.ml for some reason
That’s actually hilarious. The Stalinist censors are still active even now, it seems!
I've always wanted to produce music, but knowing just how difficult it would be to make something good, I never have.
I’d recommend downloading FL studio’s trial version and experimenting by making a simple trap beat. The only cost is your time!
Working from home. It sounds like a dream, but it's called a job for a reason.
It's certainly a double-edged sword. Being at home is a net positive, but the pay cut, workload, and weird never-leaving-the-office feeling is there.
most things. swimming, jogging, balance, juggling, knitting, whittling, lathing, bathing, dogs, pogs, poker, snooker, cooking, docking, greeting, seating, studying, cuddling, fishing, threshing...
technologic
technologic
technologic
technologic
Yes. Boats don't really have brakes. Just an anchor.
Trees don't grow in the dark, too.
Turning when you're riding on a jetski and about to be in a head on collision.
Most people will panic and let off the gas to turn, but the jet ski isn't going to be able to turn much unless you're actually giving it some throttle.
It varies from person to person.
I can build a house from start to finish and figure it all out easily. I can rebuild a car pretty easy too. Computer hardware and networking stuff is no problem. I started navigating the us with nothing but maps (pre internet access availability for me) at 16 and have driven all over since. I excel in spatial relations from what I'm told.
I don't understand nouns, verbs, adverbs, or anything that goes along with it but can speak and write clearly. Learning languages is a pita. Same goes for programming. Interacting with people outside of certain things in person makes me cringe. Interacting on the phone is worse unless I know someone, I'm currently still using my wife's debit card to access my bank account 7 years after she passed because I have to call the bank to fix mine and I can't stand the thought.
If you don't think mudding and taping drywall is more difficult than it seems, I'm impressed (and a little disbelieving).
Teaching (elementary school). It's my third career and definitely the hardest of the three.
Teaching in general is way harder than most people think
Just getting the kids' attention is half the battle, and in a crowded classroom that battle's already lost.
Then add in modern parents that think their disruptive kid can do no wrong...
It's easy to be friendly at work. But turning that "work-friend" relationship into a real friendship, one where you do things outside of work together, is still a mystery to me. I have no idea how people do that. Others make it look so easy. I can't imagine anyone at my job dislikes me, we all compliment each other, laugh at each others' jokes, and hold fun conversations on the clock. Yet when a crowd gets together after work and plans where to go next, I'm baffled. I'm too anxious to invite myself, but nobody ever invites me, so I just try to ignore it so I don't feel hurt. :')
Same as any relationship you just ask. Make it easy and do a group drinks after work first then if you hit it off plan something.
I swear as someone who overthinks everything it amazes me I don't with this and other people do lol
Oh gosh, I was already nervous about asking just one person. Asking a group?! I can feel my soul dying already.
Do you work with a team/department? Just say let's go out for dinner/drinks after work. Just like outside work expect maybe 50% to commit.
Going to bed before midnight and actually sleeping
Warm white lightbulbs, anti blue coatings on glasses and settings in every device, and occasionally remembering to not drink caffeine past 4pm (even if you're a 'caffeine makes me tired' person it still keeps your brain kicking and out of rem sleep) were the kickers that got me into a good sleep schedule
The second I had a pair of glasses with those night driving amber lenses I genuinely noticed my sleep being better, felt myself actually getting tired and would actually go to bed early.
The doomscrolling in bed didn't help either
For me, making small talk. I don't even try anymore.
How 'bout that weather we're having? Sure is, weathery.
The only way to talk about the weather is to be opposite. Enjoying the nice day? Actively hailing outside
Bright and sunny outside
What a lovely day to die.
"Today is a good day to die." Excellent conversation starter.
I accidentally did it yesterday. Took the dog for a walk, passed a woman sitting at the park bench near the park eating lunch. She was the instigator though I think, asked if I was local and what was the best thing about living here.
Having a smallish cute dog might be the key, but in this era of everyone staring at their phone it's harder than usual.
Turned out she was waiting for her kids friends to arrive, and they were out harvesting fruit from god knows where.
Just being outside is probably a good enough start. A pet is a handy excuse with added virtue signalling I guess.
Apparently, applying window tint is more difficult than it seems.
I regularly see cars with large bubbles between the tint and the glass. I decided years ago that if I want window tint but can’t afford to have it professionally applied, then I can’t afford tint. Having no tint at all is better than living with poorly applied tint.
Starting (anything) Executive function issues people unite!
Explaining yourself
Specifying exactly how to make a PB&J sandwich: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cDA3_5982h8
Being happy. Living. Staying alive. Also, networking. I'm pretty good at computers, being able to build computers and compiling my own Linux based OS, but networking is witchcraft on another level. Still love it though
Keeping a car clean and mostly (not fully) scratch-free
You get into it thinking it's a fun hobby and now it's sunday night, you're on the floor crying outside next to your car realizing you need another $100 to do any decent polish job, and that it's fucking impossible without a garage
I exaggerated a bit but I swear it's not far off
I want a fucking garage :-/
Folks often ask me how I manage to keep my old cars looking & running so great. I'd love to say it's because I do all the maintenance, and of course that helps. But the real answer is because I keep them in a garage. It really is that simple. It blows my fucking mind that America is so car-centric on every other aspect except having housing with enough garage space.
It's not even keeping it in the garage for me, it's that I need a garage to do anything. Working on the street is so annoying.
Right now, to do a polish&protect I gotta ask other people with private property (I live in an apartment) and they always bug me with "oh it's my holiday, so YOU can't work" or they keep nagging to me about how what I'm doing is pointless, or that I spent too much money on this (I did...but don't tell me what to do!!...)
1 It's not work, it's a hobby, and 2. Next time you try to have me be a delivery boy for you during a holiday I'm saying no, unless I forgot to check your holidays.
Like god damn just let me do my nice hobby in peace. I already helped you with countless things even during my work hours, let me have a nice time and stop imposing your religion, financials, and whatever other crap on me.
I feel like I'm the only guy around here that just helps however he's asked to without imposing my views on others as I'm helping them.
Asking intelligent questions.
Playing guitar
Flying an fpv quadcopter. Actually the whole hobby. Not talking DJI. Building, programming and inevitably fixing them. Flying them in acro mode is not easy. Come to think of it, line of sight is even harder.
Line of sight flying is something i can hardly comprehent. I'm not bad at it, most people are actually really impressed by it, but damn, every time i do it, i count on losing or crashing my drone and sweating my ass off the whole time.
Haha yeah I can only LOS in acro if I’m really high up and have room to correct otherwise it has to be angle and even then I can’t really.
what if it cuts your dick off by accident
It happens to 1 in 5 pilots but it’s a risk willing to take for the absolute hard-ons you get from successfully flying.
Art. Even if you're a natural you're still putting a lot of work into it.
Satisfying the borrow checker.
Accepting self.
Replacing a bath with a shower on concrete slab. That drain is four inches away from where I want it.
I'm not a plumber but there's a variety of devices designed to address this problem because... everyone has the same problem. The one under our bathtub is called a plumbdinger.
Well that looks quite useful! Thanks for the suggestion. I'll probably still need to jackhammer away some concrete to fit it, but that's easier than digging down as far as the P trap (assuming there is one, hard to know with this old place) and risk hitting the dunny pipe as well.
I've heard that almost every single bath tub install has this problem.
Like on a new build the plumbers show up before the pad goes down to run the pipework. They measure out where the waste pipe is according to the plan but it might not be perfect to the mm.
Then the pad goes down. Then the carpenters show up and put up the walls. More measuring and inaccuracies and what have you.
The tub is the last to go in, and there's always going to be some variance between that first step and the final step, so there's always going to be something under the tub to connect it to the correct waste water.
We're planning out a renovation to take place in a few weeks. It's above ground floor with unrelated tenants below. Our guys need to drill a new waste water hole through a ~150mm concrete floor. The waste water pipes are in the ceiling of the tenancy below. The tenants are being weird about it... "you can only have access on Fridays!".
That said, our plumbdinger was leaking into their tenancy real bad 2 years ago. We couldn't really get at it without a full reno, which we didn't want to do, so we just put silicone on it as best we could with the nozzle through the grate of the bath tub waste water. That running repair has worked for the last 2 years.
making friends and keeping them (or social skills in general)
As someone who does this occasionally, I still feel this.
In my case, arts and crafts. Even if it looks like something should be super easy I just don't have the right hand eye coordination to do it. I started making a diorama months ago and it's still looking like shit
Doing something that looks like shit is the first step to doing something that looks sort of okay.
Things get better with experience and experience is just having a long list of failures to learn from.
Probably everything.
Existence
Quantum physics.
If observing a system changes it, then quantum mechanics is just the science of everything getting awkward once you make eye contact.
Fundamental particles run on Autism? That explains so much.
No.
Having positive, coherent, and thoughtful discussions on most topics online.
After years of martial arts training, actually defeating a determined opponent in a physical confrontation.
Also, cryptography.
Are you allowed to use cryptography in those martial arts confrontations? If so, is a calculator ok, or do you bitshift in your head?
All of it.
Saying: "I am sorry."
Juggling
nothing. most things are easy if you put in the right kind of effort and attention.
but people simple refuse to do it, this making their lives way more difficult than it seems. or they straight up reject instruction and assistance when it's offered.