Why do people insist on not answering ALL the questions in an email or text message?
For example I'll send an e-mail with 3 questions and will only get an answer to one of the questions. It's worse when there are 2 yes/no questions with a question that is obviously not a yes/no question. Then I get a response of
Yes
back in the e-mail. So which question are they answering?
Mainly I'm asking all of you why do people insist on only answering 1 question out of an e-mail where there are multiple? Do people just not read? Are people that lazy? What is going on?
Edit at this point I’ve got the answers . Some are too lazy to actually read. Some admit they get focused on one item and forget to go back. I understand the second group. The first group yeah no excuse there.
Continuing edit: there are comments where people have tried the bullet points and they say it still doesn’t help. I might put the needed questions in red.
Yes.
Take your upvote and choke on it, prick.
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Considering your wording in the last paragraph, I'm going to guess that your writing style is frequently overwhelming. Making sure that questions are clearly isolated (I'd suggest using numeric lists or bullet points) makes it clear what response you're expecting.
Additionally, if you're asking several difficult questions, it's likely that people will lose the thread partway through.
This. It's pretty common in my industry for people to either copy and paste your bullets into their reply and put their responses directly after each or edit your original email in the chain with the answers in red below the bullets.
I work in text.
You can keep your infix replies and fancy colors. I want my replies to look like forwarded email as per rfc1855.
https://www.rfc-editor.org/rfc/rfc1855
We need a bot for that.
Same. At my work and everywhere I’ve worked, almost everyone responds like that to emails with multiple questions in them. It’s either OP’s workplace is an outlier or his formatting isn’t conducive enough for people to respond appropriately.
If you put it in red, loads of people will read it in black. Dont use html.
This is what I was thinking too. Failure to exercise brevity is the leading cause of people not having the time for your email.
That's a wonderful wording!
Yeah that’s gonna become part of my vernacular.
I'm really confused by people's reaction to OP here. I agree that I personally don't share OP's experiences, but what's wrong with that last paragraph? It's not overwhelming at all, so how does it indicate that their writing style is overwhelming? (I know MINE is, no need to point that out)
If people have trouble understanding it, then reading comprehension must really be at rock bottom.
I agree that formatting is important with l proper text length, but this is literally two lines, this isn't in need of bullet points.
If 90% of people have bad reading comprehension then it doesn't do much for anyone to point that out and stick to the way you are writing instead of making it understandable to everyone.
OP's last paragraph contains three question marks and essentially one question - the first is their actual question with the following two being escalating statements. If you threw this into a work email with five other questions some people's brains would seize up and just refuse to answer more than one question because they're not certain if there are six or eight genuine questions.
In life and especially a professional setting we're interacting with people in the top 1% of communication skills... and the bottom 25%.
Not OP, but I experience difficulty articulating what I mean while staying formal. How to improve?
Bullet points. If you don't have a rapport spell things out paragraph style and then finish the email off with something like this...
I'm sorry but there is no difference between putting them in bullet points, or typing like I did. People need to learn to read.
Side note :
I've tried bullet points.
I've tried putting multiple return carriages between each question.
I've putting all the questions end on end
and it makes no difference end result is the same.
Add in a lot of the other comments saying they have the same problem it isn't just me
Your own report suggests there is a difference. People aren’t answering your questions. You do not have their attention apparently.
The burden is on you to get your questions answered. Other people have other concerns. Like it or not, you have to do the work of getting these answers. You may need to have a conversation instead of a list of demands.
Perhaps try an email thread instead of a single monolithic email?
Open the thread with a single key question. Listen to their reply. Does your next question still pertain? Then ask it in your reply.
People are not vending machines that contain answers you must shake out of them. A proper relationship, even if just email, is still the best way to achieve your goals.
My two cents as a person who experienced such frustrations early in my career.
Try being more direct, you can still write out your whole email with the full description, but put in a section somewhere that's easy to see that's labeled as "QUESTIONS" and then enumerate the questions you want answered. I often will have the whole section bold and further highlight important words in red. This makes it easier for people to answer inline on the reply and helps ensure questions weren't missed.
The truth is, most people don't like the 'email' part of the job and may only check it once or twice a day and I'd most likely just skimming through several messages and not fully devoting much time to each message. By making it easier for them to reply you end up with a better result.
You can also use this when you expect someone to take action from your email. Let them know precisely what you want them to do, and make it very easy to find 'The Ask'.
EDIT: Or, you can just downvote any comments that actually offer suggestions and stay of the opinion that everyone else is wrong and only you are correct.
But it seems you're the one having the issue. Rather than hoping people will learn to read better it might be a better option to write in a way that caters to those bad readers.
"Do people just not read? Are people that lazy? What is going on?"
Not much, what is going on with you?
I KNOW THIS ONE AND THE ANSWER IS : IT"S MICROSOFT'S FAULT.
Back in the day when Email first became popular, it was normal and accepted use to do "in-line-quoting". You would hit "reply" and get the text of the original mail with a quote character, mostly ">" in the begining of the line. Then you would put some empty lines at the point where you wanted to answer/comment and type your reply in the middle of the email you received, easily giving context to your words, and making it obvious to what this comment relates, while also showing which part was by the sender and which by you (due to the quotation symbols)
This was a very good system, and then came MICROSOFT OUTLOOK
and they defaulted to giving you a empty page when clicking reply and just dumping the whole mail you replied to somewhere below, out of sight.
everyone using Outlook started "top-posting" to the annoyance of every intelligent being in the galaxy, but because Outlook was the first email experience many people had, the culture of in-line-quoting was destroyed by the unwashed microsoft masses.
fast-forward to today, where a young person (that is below 50) posts about a topic just to vent, and a old person (over 9000) replies with a sincere history lessen from a time where even email were better.
yours truely,
someone who is still salty about that and just decided to make a youtube rant about it.
You can't just say you made a youtube rant about it without posting a link.
Appears to imply they have yet to make it
They probably didn't link it by default because of Rule 4. However, I think there should be an exception when other users ask for links. (Maybe the rule should be, "No unsolicited self promotion"?)
For the record, I would also like to see this rant.
That rule exists because reddit wanted you to pay them ads. It doesn't make sense in Lemmy.
Also to prevent people from answering with little more than a link.
I said I **will **make one, and as soon as I **did ** i will post the link (*)
(*) as a person with ADHD, the chances of both those things happening before the heat death of the universe indistinguishable from zero.
It reverses the natural flow of the conversation.
Sounds almost like
lastly (doThis (then (first input)))Method chaining ftw Input.then().doThis().lastly()
Also it formats better.
Sorry, I prefer
input |> then |> doThis |> lastlyI'm a younger person (32) and didn't know about this norm until I saw an older person doing it. Now I do it as well but make it obvious what the intent is.
For example:
Hello (person),
See responses below in red
Blah blah blah original email text
Red text
Blah blah blah
Red text
Etc.
It works really well. Said person will even respond in green to my red. We do all this in new outlook, which to be fair, is still a mess for other reasons. Don't even get me started on the search lol
I dont use ms products, but I can't believe that's the default. Very rarely does someone reply to me without the message quoted. And most still quote lines manually with >
Honestly, what I would like and I've never seen is a 2-pane reply window; left side is the reply, blank, and the right side is the previous emal. Both panes are scrollable, and if you highlight something on the right side, there's a <--- button in between that lets you shoot that text to the reply pane as a quote then continue composing as usual.
That might be nice for replies on social media like this, too.
That's how I write code and I can't stand text editors that make it difficult to have side by side panes of two files or the same file
https://marketplace.visualstudio.com/items?itemName=buhe.vscode-mail
Unfortunately 3 years out of date.
You can get mad at everyone else or you can start playing to the lowest common denominator.
Question 1
Question 2
Question 3
I'll do this and they STILL only answer the first question
“Thank you for your answer to my first question. Could you please also address questions 2 and 3?”
At least by numbering the questions you make it easier to re-ask them.
Send separate emails. Schedule them 15 minutes apart.
No. This is not the way and will get you even less answers.
This gets you “oh, I never got that email. It probably got blocked by the spam filter.”
Yep exactly. It pisses people off.
This is so extra when motherfuckers could just read.
Reply:
One down, two to go!
This.
And if they don't answer all three, the only response they get is a repeat of the missing question.
After a day.
jokes on you, they still wont respond them, or even mark which one they responded to. you have to send 3 different messages even if emails
Tried that. Got the same result
Try again.
Agreed, especially if you're writing to someone who's not completely fluent in the language. Also use short sentences and common vocabulary.
Few people can focus enough to read.
I work in a technical field. In the past few years I’ve learned that interacting by email usually requires one-line sentences or bullet points, with any questions being numbered. No fluff, no secondary thoughts or possibilities. Keep it as minimal as possible.
It still fails to elicit a coherent response about half the time, but it’s the best I’ve found so far.
It didn’t use to be like this. But what’s to blame; screen addiction, microplastics, covid, increased stress, … ?
Schools (both K-12 and university) keep loosening their expectations of students, and now we have kids starting college with 6th grade reading levels.
School administrators don't want their graduation stats to look bad, and universities don't want to lose $$ by flunking students out, so there's a massive conflict of interest that is ultimately resulting in a disservice to students and society at large.
The other day, I saw this 8th grade graduation exam from a county in Kentucky in 1912, and it drives home how much things have changed:
A whole bunch of angry Americans would fail to answer that question correctly these days...
That might explain younger workers, but those in their 50s and above are just as bad.
I'm sorry but what the fuck is number 2 under arithmetic?
…but some things don’t. “Locate Servia on a map?”
They can’t even blame that on autocorrect; obviously the text was originally written on a qwerty keyboard though.
Just as a point of reference, my 8th grade tests were harder than that one (in Canada).
In 1912, "Servia" was the accepted English spelling. British journalists started using "Serbia" around 1914.
I don't disagree it's a focus thing for many people. I'm often stunned at the lack of comprehension or attention to detail using any medium, even in person (also technical field).
Like look, I just said to do what you're asking would require 250 firewall rules...why are you now talking as if firewall rules aren't required? I even went through the simplest math out loud during this meeting, so everyone would understand how I came up with that number and didn't just pull it out of my ass.
People pay attention to what they want to pay attention to (or as my grandfather would say - people hear what they want to hear). If those questions aren't a high priority for their own work, they simply don't see them.
For OP: email is a terrible medium for such things, unless there's been a conversation about it, and this is part of moving a project forward. Anything out of left field isn't important to your audience, and... people dislike comitting to anything in email. As you work with people up the food chain, you'll find less and less happens via verifiable comms like email (which is archived).
Everyone should be required to take Plain Language writing courses.
There's a lot of factors at play as to why more people prefer it now, but who cares really. Writing in plain language makes it accessible for everyone and doesn't hurt anyone.
Yes. If you're going to add context, it better be after your main point or main question. Most people just want to know what you're ultimately trying to convey and will not read the entire thing.
It's not that they "insist" on not answering, they just have limited reading comprehension and/or attention span. With experience you learn to ask exactly one question in an email, and maybe you'll get an answer some of the time, and if you're lucky it will be coherent.
It really is a sad State of affairs that reading comprehension is so bad that people can't answer questions in written form.
I mean it's literally written down you can't miss it.
And to clarify this is more of me complaining because I've experienced this a lot. It's most apparent in online discussions, where seemingly a majority of what you say gets completely skipped missed or misinterpreted and replies often focus on just a couple words of your statement instead of understanding sometimes even just a whole paragraph.
if we're referring to people in the U.S. it's important to remember that over half of the population can't read beyond a 6th grade level. -That's according to our own Former-Department of Education.
It is a sad state but it's like the weather, you can complain about it or dress for it.
I enjoy raging against it.
Good point, I rant about winter all the time.
... Or both?
Why make a false dichotomy out of it?
People read the subject line, assuming it's not longer than about seven words, and then the first 30%, and last 15% of your email, in my experience. You can increase this by adding line breaks and bullets. In my experience, the best responses come from a short paragraph, followed by a couple bullet points, then a couple sentences, then your salutation/signature. I try not to write anything longer than that.
This. OP is mistaken if he thinks all people had to carefully read all email. We techies love to explain things too much, but executives are administrators, they don’t delve into technical details unless needed.
My technique to get busy executives to answer my emails is being direct and brief.
That’s it. If they need more, they will ask you. If you need more, send three emails, or make it very clear in the first line that you’re asking three things, and make them a bullet list.
Also, this works surprisingly well with people other than executives.
That's right. The brains of these super-efficient high performers and most valuable members of our society are so above everyone else, that they need babysitting and special care taken of their needs. It's why they also deserve to get paid so much more than everyone else and not have any actual responsibility for their genius decisions!
Every day I feel so bad for these leaders and am inspired by the self-sacrifice they bring to make the world a better place.
Dude, tell me you haven’t been in a management position without yadda yadda etc.
They’re not genius or more valuable, their workflow is different. In development I could solve the same problem for days, and know the ins and outs of it; as a manager. When I pivoted to management, I understood I have people who know their shit, so I don’t have to worry about the details while I make sure they have everything they need to accomplish our compromises.
I had to learn to let go of the tech work so I could be more effective as a manager. I’d love to talk about Postgres optimization during dinner, but I can’t devote much time to that during the work day. That’s someone else’s job. I’ll just give them the resources.
Yep. Basically you need to respect their time, and not ask them to duplicate the work you’ve already done. This is especially important for executives, but works well on anyone… if you really need someone to do a thing or answer a question, make it easy for them to focus on completing your ask.
Address the email to one person who you need action from.
Tell them succinctly:
Why is this important?
What do you need from them right now?
After that, preemptively provide the answers to any followup questions they might ask - give them further context so they don’t have to dig for it. Don’t ask them to read a whole email string below if you can summarize it.
try numbering them
OK, there are thousands, possibly millions of people who do this.
Reluctant upvote
I can read
S-trier trolling right here.
Cause frankly, your email is the 235th most important thing on my desk today.
Until it Cascades into a massive problem because you didn't read, which likely came from the 235 other times you didn't read and now you have to backtrack yet again. I've never been at a job that didn't have this exact issue. Everyone working extra hard to be lazy.
My colleagues complain of the same things, saying they've tried everything. But I never have that issue.
Here's an example of what they might send: Hello Bob, we have just recieved all your documents, so thank you. But upon review, we have found that we are still missing x,y,z. In order to expedite the process we ask for your cooperation.
Here's what I would say instead: Hi Bob, to finish the file we require:
I know of 5 people I work with who will moat likely send you 10 months of documents x (showing y) as a response to your example, 12 if you are lucky.
No, they will not even acknowledge #2. They would have the same reaponse to your first, wordier version because they are just doing the first request and barely noticed you had a two digit number.
That's the point where you start with the "Thank you! In case you missed it..."
Almost never fails to get an apology and a smug feeling of superiority. God, I hate those people. Luckily I don't have to work with those brainless corpo drones too much.
I do a mix of both.
Start short and get to the point.
Add any extra crap below it.
Hey Bob we need X/Y/Z to finish the thing. Can you send it ASAP so we can continue.
Additional details:
This is the correct answer. If people aren't answering all your questions, your not formatting your questions properly.
People are lazy, they get so many emails each day, they couldn’t be bothered reading messages properly. I have turned into a cynical annoying person and write emails with large clear action points like this:
Hi, I have some comments and questions.
Please answer 2 (two) questions so that I can proceed with my part of this work. Without an answer to both, no more work will be done and the project will be on hold.
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1. Yes or no- Does this mean that the flibbertygibbet must be completed first?
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2. You need to provide further information on the doohickey because there is not enough detail for me to be able to goober the whatchamacallit
And then keep forwarding the original email every day until I get the required information. When the boss asks why no progress has been made, I can show him the email trail asking for information.
Cover your ass, keep asking the same questions until you get an answer.
TBH this is a bit wordy
No, we can test groksponk without flibbertygibbet. But, when rolling to production, flubbertygibbet will need to be in place before grokspunk due to how the gonksponk end-user documentation is written (at least, for now).
Oh, sorry, "doohicky" is how me and my team call them. They are actually , specifically chapter 4, section 2 (in my 2012 copy it is titled "Hippydip Operations and Serialization"). Hopefully that connects well with the existing goober documentation, but let me know if you need further details/clarification.
Been doing email since it began. Same frustrations.
Solutions (workarounds):
Step 1. Stop emailing my boss.
Step 2. Recognize that if you're thorough and verbose, people's eyes will glaze over and they won't actually read what you send. Conversely, if you're concise and direct, people will complain that you're aloof and not sharing information.
Step 3. Resign yourself to things only getting worse as you get older.
Reading comprehension has gone down the tubes. I dunno if it's from people watching too many TikToks and their attention span can't handle reading more than one sentence anymore, or what, but I have definitely noticed a change in people's ability to read and understand the content of what they just read.
Where I work, my old boss never wrote anything down, did not like to communicate via email, and insisted on phone calls/verbal meetings instead. When they announced they were taking a new job, we begged them to create an SOP of all the things they did with detailed instructions because NONE of it had ever been written down. We were told no, they couldn't do that. No explanation other than "I can't." And I'm convinced that they simply couldn't read, or could BARELY read.
So I created the SOP instead, detailed as hell, everything in one place. Sections, subsections, hyperlinks, it's all there. 2 new employees come into the office, I'm supposed to train them. I do, and I show them the SOP, tell them "everything you need to know is in this SOP", so that AFTER I train them, they can reference it.
They never reference it, ever. They ask me how to do the things they've forgotten instead. I just point them to the correct section in the SOP and tell them to read it. BUT THEY DON'T READ. It's insane! How do they get by in life in general!?
You're right. The illiteracy is everywhere. It's a very troubling sign.
I wonder, were there any other points in history, post-literacy, where a significant amount of people went to school yet still lacked literacy skills? If it has happened, would it even be recorded? Or is this aspect of modern society truly novel?
It'd be nice to know how such a situation would've been rectified in the past, but I get the feeling the solution would be the same thing I've been calling for since my own childhood - a comprehensive public educational system with a focus on critical thinking.
It would be interesting to see if it's ever happened in the past, for sure. I too assumed it was due to poor education, but the three people I mentioned (my old boss and the 2 new coworkers) all came from different areas of the U.S. and are each in different generations (1 Boomer, 1 Gen X, 1 Millennial), so they all have very different backgrounds/education experiences, yet they ALL struggle to read anything longer than a single sentence. It's infuriating. I try to be patient, because hey, we all have our thing we suck at, but it's honestly a little scary that they and so many other are out there not following directions simply because they can't read them.
Literacy rates in USA are pretty awful and getting worse. And probably happening in other countries as well.
It's especially bad when you work in an experienced field where a primary job function is reading comprehension (software engineering). And you have folks who are supposed to be software engineers who can't seem to read or understand documentation. Never mind being able to productively engage in the various forms of debate that come along with any engineering practice.
I will put 3 simple 1 sentence questions in a numbered list and get a single answer back.
Idgaf any more I just copy/paste the same 3 questions and send it back.
Poor reading comprehension skills are more prevalent than we think
Ignoring the slightly superfluous 'average', but... Wow. I'm surprised. I guess there's a lot of people in far rural areas, or impoverished, or just surfing is their life (California has the lowest adult literacy!), who never learnt to read.
In CA the inland is full of dumb rednecks and the coast is full of smart immigrants.
CA probably has the highest literacy rate of any state...in Hindi, or Mandarin lol
The level of frustration from online discussions when the things you say are entirely missed or misinterpreted is a great example of this.
Even mildly complex topics that touch anything politically charged or emotionally charged tend to be subject to groupthink dynamics in a format where group think is largely just a result of poor reading comprehension.
No.
I started listing the questions as 1. 2. 3. And so on. Which helped a lot.
I hate when i do that and they still refuse to answer more than one
At least now you can rely back with “can you also provide feedback for #1 & #3?”
Repeat until all items are cleared. Not perfect, but at least you don’t have to waste time rewording a follow-up email.
For me? Usually it’s because answering the first question on the list took a lot of time, research, or mental energy and I had forgotten there were other questions by the time I finally had the answer written down. Sense of accomplishment, hit send.
People are kind of stupid and lazy, and if there's no immediate benefit for doing something or punishment for skipping it, they'll do whatever's easiest. We're all like this to some degree, in some contexts or other.
It is a little funny to me that some people just don't have professional standards. I would make a good faith effort to respond completely to a work email because that's the job. But I don't think that's it for a lot of people.
There's a lot of ADHD and friends in the world, and a lot of it is untreated. They're not skipping questions out of malice. They're probably trying their best. Still failing, but trying. That counts for something.
A lot of people also don't read well. They won't likely show up on a texty medium like this, but they're out there. It may be uncomfortable and embarrassing for them to try to read your email, especially if the level of diction is high and the vocabulary extensive. Most people are emotionally kind of fragile, and won't put up with that shame for very long. I think that's why a lot of people want to hop on a call or have a meeting when it could've just been an email. They can talk fine, but communicating in written words is harder.
Sounds like your emails are too long. Trim it to the minimum amount of words to get your point across and be professional, and put all questions in a numbered list.
How are the questions formatted?
This. Use bullets or bold each question so the number of questions is clear before each question is fully read.
In a workplace environment, I shouldn't have to format emails as if they're to be read by a 12 year old.
Welcome to the workforce! (I’m assuming you’re new…)
No, just very stubborn
It's not simply a reading comprehension thing with bullet points. If your questions require research on my end having them already structured in bullets does a few things to help with that process.
The asker's bullet structure gives something to mimic. You can even put your answers directly below the question, so the asker can be reminded of their own questions.
The bullets also help skimming, if I need to see which item id is needed next it's easier to do so without losing my place.
Bullet grammar structure also allows for much terser sentences. If I need to reread your question it's easier if I don't have to ignore a bunch of words that don't substantively alter the meaning.
Do I need any of these? No. Could I put the questions into bullets myself for the reply? Sure. But it's easier to spend more time and effort on answering your questions if you save me a few steps.
Sure, depending on the issue. But the main issue is that some people actually DO need those, and for those people, it's absolutely a reading comprehension thing (which could have roots in being overworked, not caring, low attention span, poor schooling, any number of things, but the end result is poor reading comprehension).
If you don't care enough about the topic to take a few seconds to proofread and format your questions why would I care to decipher them? 12 year olds learn that taking the time to write a first and second draft will improve the final product.
Definitely some acceptable variation between informal chats and emails being sent to whole teams so know your audience.
Who said anything about not proofreading? My emails are perfectly legible and written in proper English. You're equating "lack of dumbed-down easy to digest bullet points" with "sloppy, error-filled writing". They're two extremely different things.
I should not have to read emails as if they're written by 12 years old either.
Agreed, and also a non sequitur?
Not non sequitur - Chiasmus
Yeah I had to look them up.
Human communication isn't perfect. Some people have too many emails. Others need cues only audio visual interaction can provide to quickly parse info.
Use numbering, paragraphs etc.
Its their responsibility to read shit but its yours to be clear and concise.
Big shout out for enumerating questions. Makes it clear you need an answer for each one. Makes it easier to follow up if you need more info on a particular question. Makes it easier to pester the person with "hey, I need an answer to 2 by EOD or project deadlines will be significantly impacted" (copied to your PM).
People's poor reading comprehension is annoying. But the right move is to do everything you can to get the answers you need, creating a polite paper trail as you go. Usually the other person will get you the info you need sooner if you pester them enough, with the implied threat that you are building a case against them if the project is delayed. Because if they don't answer your questions in a timely fashion when you do everything possible to get the answers you need, it is their fault.
On average a communication has more readers than writers, so it is better for writer(s) to use effort in order to save effort on the behalf of the reader(s).
This was especially true in the days of mailing lists and me having to beat TOFU users about the head with a clue-by-4. But, it remains true today. The median communication might be 1 to 1, but it's much more frequent for additional readers to be added that additional writers, so maximum effort with writing is still true.
But, man, it is annoys the heck out of me when I compose informative, contexual email/SMS with several open-ended questions and get back: "yes".
In email, I always make my questions the last thing right before my signature as a call to action. I think many people skip reading the entire email, but may read the line above the signature if they see a question mark. You always want the last thing they read to be the idea they have to act on THIS part.
If you write open ended or ambiguous questions you risk your audience having to take time to think about a response and they get distracted. Risky questions in this area are: "So what do you want to do here?" or "What do you think?"
My rule is more than 2 questions and it's a phone call.
If it's more than 2 questions, I want it all in writing
That's why you have the phone call, to discuss it, and in closing state you'll send an email.
If it's more than 1.1 questions, I want it all in writing
Yes
Yesn't
Because people choose the easiest question to answer. You can't change people, but you can change how you communicate.
It annoys the heck out of me too. Generally what I do is reply with the remaining questions they haven't answered; sometimes they get the message and answer all of them, sometimes we go round and round until I have all the answers I need.
I work in IT so for the most part, if I have 5 questions, that's because there are 5 things I need to know. And I need to know because they want me to solve their problem, so if they want to do this one question at a time that's fine, but if I start out going one at a time I get complained at for being too slow.
I've also tried everything I can think of short of being explicitly rude in my messages. Numbering them doesn't work. Bullet-points don't work. One question per paragraph doesn't work. Asking them explicitly to answer all questions doesn't work (how did these people ever pass an exam?).
(And yes I'm aware I haven't answered all your questions (-: )
Ah, one of my top complaints about digital communication. Doesn’t matter if it’s SMS or email, someone plainly doesn’t read the entirety of what you wrote even if it’s relatively short. Irritatingly sometimes taking another two follow-ups regarding the exact same subject or question ending up with both parties likely getting frustrated.
I've gotten passive agressive / aggressive about this depending on the person.
Now if I ask more than one question and they only answer one, I'll just forward them the same email again with the first question struck through.
As per my last email…here’s the same email again.
Digital communication is near instant. It's not like snail mail where you have to cram your letter with as much information as you can, or it will be ages until the next reply.
Not sure what your point is. Just send a ton of messages when one will (should) do? If the information is pertinent or pressing then it’s not useful to have to send multiple messages.
Whatever works...
In the US it's probably because literacy and reading comprehension is the lowest it's been since the 80s.
It's a mixture of stupidity and laziness.
You can mitigate most of it by having extremely clear emails that are fast to read, with clearly numbered questions.
Eh, still about 50-50 with these people. I've sent an email with 4 nicely formatted and numbered questions and had them respond only to question 3. Like... You read some of it, decided to answer one, and then give up with no other acknowledgement? Shit is wild.
The human brain processes information by chunking - bundling up information into chunks to remember it. It's like a .zip file or compression on an image. That process is a bit lossy. If you've ever tried to write a technical document or a rules-set for a game, and had a user go through the document undirected, you'll see it in action.
The more complicated, technical, or tedious the instructions are, the more likely loss or misinterpretation will occur. A friend of mine says that writing a technical document is like programming a computer that skips every 7th line.
As a person who has written many of these, I've found ways to counteract / ameliorate their problems:
I hope this helps!
Hopefully you use astricks to bold because if you're using HTML then lots of people won't see all of those text decorations
I've also found it helps to, if you have just a few questions that aren't really related, break them into separate messages. And space them out a bit, if you've got time.
You are wrong. People do not insist. People are free to do.
For example, if I know the answer to question #2 then I can give this answer and why shouldn't I?
And I feel free to remain silent where I don't know things, or to forget that there have been more questions, or I don't have the time, or whatever...
People can’t be bothered to read or do shit because their comprehension is trash. This happens constantly. I taught college courses for years and it was pulling fucking teeth to get people to answer essay prompts. For example:
In One Hundred Years of Solitude we see generational cycles of behavior blah blah blah, which characters fit this pattern, which characters do not, and why?
95% of answers: only characters that fit the pattern. They read the first few words and ignored everything else, and then have the audacity to complain that I said they only answered half the question.
Proceeds to write an essay about Goku.
Bad reading comprehension
As others have suggested, in order to communicate effectively, you have to tailor your message to your audience. Dumb it down, break it down, shorten it, order questions from most to least important or most to least relevant to the recipient, or just badger them relentlessly with follow ups until you have the information you need and talk shit about them behind their back to any competent coworkers you have.
Regardless, they're not going to just magically change, so it's up to you to do something different if you want a different result than you're getting now.
For me it's not intentional. I get fixated on one of the questions that require more mental energy than the others and then forget to answer the rest. I have no excuses. My bad.
They are either distracted or don't understand that there are multiple questions. In a few cases they don't want or know how to respond to multiple questions in an email format because they are afraid of changing your text formatting (yes, at least three people have told me that was why they didn't).
Quite a few have terrible reading comprehension.
Some are.
It is a mix of a lot of things, all of which are different versions of poor communication skills.
Yes they are that lazy. The average office worker also has the attention span of a gnat. Write shorter emails with fewer questions if you can.
Conciseness and directness help.
As an example, there was someone I worked with that tended to ask around a question.
"What do you know about x? What do you know about y? What do you know about z?"
Instead of "How do I get from x to z?"
I think they just want to understand the underlying process. And I can understand that. But I wasn't their mentor and it was at times frustrating.
Not suggesting OP is doing this. Just a general thought I had in regards to the question.
Put the questions in bullet points so they're easily visible. If it's part of a paragraph, it's getting lost.
People are lazy and stupid, you can ask one question at a time or better yet setup a meeting to ask them verbally, you aren't getting any answers otherwise
I recently emailed my professor about a question on a take home test. I asked for clarification because the wording was weird. I also asked how I should format the answer, and where in the textbook I can find info relating to it. His email back to me just said "the answer is on page 75". It was not.
That's what you get for not buying the very latest edition of the textbook. /s
Seriously though, you're clearly trying to actually comprehend the material, but even the professor was too checked out? I wish I were surprised, but that's just upsetting. Nobody takes responsibility for education anymore, not the instructors, not the administration, and none but maybe a handful of students who get zero support from either of the above. I've learned more from reading on the internet for free than I have from any classroom. But learning for free on one's own doesn't give someone a fancy paper that attracts employers. Gotta spend money to make money, yet again.
I tend to answer them all, but I’m weird that way
I read an email more than once to make sure I didn't miss anything. Not sure if the majority of people I exchange emails with has ever done more than skim an email.
The only ones who correctly respond to emails longer than a single sentence in their entirety are the legal folks.
As a neurodivergent engineer, I will either respond to half of your email, or 115% of it
Edit: …eventually. Or immediately. Or maybe never. Or I thought I did but didn’t press send.
So accurate.
Yeah this drives me crazy. It's to the point where I have to drip feed my questions one after the other sometimes. (╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻
Learn to ask better questions. Understand that you may only get one answer and ask the best most important question in a clear and concise way.
May I ask, regarding your typing are your questions buried in text?
If the questions are buried in text similar to your last paragraph, your not getting all those questions answered.
As far as I can tell their last paragraph is three clear and distinct questions.
Did all the questions get answered in this post?
Edit: Yes, found it!
I have the same question, as I will receive replies through text messages that are like this:
I get responses like this all the time, and I don't feel like my initial text is too much.
This is a perfect example.
For me it’s
*Is my firewall set correctly (with how the firewall is set )
And
*I will hold off on installing the new program until I hear if the firewall is correct
The answer I get back?
*Did you install the new program?
Are you serious?
As per my previous email
There's a whole academic study and degree for technical documentation. I wish more people knew how to write things.
The problem is partially you. You want to write an email that can be skimmed by someone who only reads 10% of it and they'll quickly be able to understand you and reply to you
The person on the other end is probably an overworked wage slave. You can't expect them to read every email cover to cover.
Yeah i get about 100 emails a day and tht ais already a confusing mess. I spend more time on a reply checking and looking up a name to add, because we have lots and lots of thrid party contractors. I domt have time to also mind read the sender
"Can you get todays reference number"
Do they really want to say "yes i can receive emails with reference numbers in them" or are they asking if i have already received it.
The question they are answering is the first one they read.
(/s)
LOL, literally happened to me this morning, except my tormentor said "nope."
I'll harass him about it next week
A lot of it is laziness but on the other hand my boss will often cc me on irrelevant emails, rather infamously sometimes forward an entire 20 responses email chain and tell you to read it, and send 8 paragraphs of questions with only one related to me. Frankly, it is overwhelming and a waste of time. I've started not responding and my productivity and mental health have improved.
Emails and texts need to be succinct. The higher up the chain you go the more true this is. The higher up the chain the more emails you get think 200+. If someone writes a paragraph you're skimming for relevance generally.
Tldr; professional communication does not need length. Justify your questions separately from actual bulleted or numbered questions.
Use bullet points as it helps. A lot of people suck at reading and a lot aren't great at writing. Some peoples' styles are also just not very compatible.
I had a trouble with this a lot when I was younger and got told:
They don't want to. Lazy, careless? Who knows. They zero in on one thing, type the one word answer and hit send.
Like others say, I bullet point multiple questions (usually with just a - , I'm not using a word processor to write emails) and if they don't answer some I'll quote the whole bullet list including whatever they answered and paste it back.
I'm a little blunt though and it puts some people off.
People hate to read. I write emails that try to cover all bases, because I can't assume grown adults with advanced degrees know what's going on. Sadly, they'll not only not read it, but ask me to write less. Cutting the word count only leads to more confusion.
I'm so done with humanity sometimes.
I run into this when texting my mother.
She'll ask the same thing from 2 different perspectives (probably a better word but I can't think of it atm). Both are technically the same question, but I can't just say "yes" it "no", because it answers the question from just one or the other, but indicates the opposite from the other question's pov. Or sometimes needing to know between 2 possibilities she asks about one and then follows it up asking about the other.
For example, if we've recently met up to see my baby niblings (not even sure if this is a common use word, but I mean my nieces/nephews, aka her grandchildren), she could ask "Could you send me the photos you got in a text?" And then she would follow up with something like "Or did you already send them to my email?"
Now, I can't say "yes" or "no", I have to spell out what I did.
Other times it will be a question that she knows I picked one of the 2 options, but instead of just "did you do option A? Which would allow a quick answer "yes" which conveys that I did A, or I could say "no", which would indicate I did option B. One word, clear defined message. But she'll (sometimes during the process of replying- oof that's frustrating), she'll add "or did you do option B?" meaning I now have to spell out what I did.
I like efficient communication, and hate wasting a lot of words. And I'm any other circumstance, a 1 word answer works so well to convey the entire thing. But she almost always throws in a wrench by adding another question that conflicts with the ability to do that.
Just say "Yes" and let her figure out what you meant.
Lmao I wish. I still usually try it, sometimes the timing can imply what I mean. But she always asks.
Probably has to do with her liking using extra words. I say the following without a trace of exaggeration.
If she's in a room with any person she's familiar with, she seems to have a complete inability to stop talking, other than if the other person is replying.
There can't be silence at all. Lately she's slowed down a little because she's gotten hooked on her Facebook feed, so she gets distracted. But even this just slows it down. She really just likes talking and hearing voices.
Whereas I only really engage in topics of interest or points of contention. She will literally try to repeat past conversations ad nauseum if she runs out of ideas.
I really can't tell if she likes talking or being talked to more. But given that growing up, none of us (her children) share this trait, she usually is the one to fill the gaps. I feel like she thinks her mouth and ears are the bus in the movie Speed. If the words being spoken per minute drops below some imaginary quantity, she'll explode.
So, answering with a should-be-sufficient-but-is-now-vague answer, she'll use that as a launching point to another subject too.
It's rough in the streets lol
I make a point to ask one question.
First I ask it as the first line.
Then I elaborate on the question, what I mean, and why I'm asking in the body of the email.
Then the last a paragraph is restating the question in a different wording.
If you want to communicate clearly, then put effort into avoiding all ambiguity. If you have many questions, write many emails.
I number my questions. Helps for visual organization.
Yep that's fine push to production by Friday plz.
It's funny that some replies are saying your post itself is too wordy or long. People just can't focus on anything anymore. As for the suggestion of bullet points, I've had people reply a single answer to an email that just had three short bullet points. So no, it's not always because the questions are buried in text, it's because people react to the first thing they see and don't finish reading.
Yeah, the post is short and clear and everyone's assumptions are that the poster is wordy and unclear. The reponses are mostly examples of exactly the people who can't focus on an email longer than a sentence.
I'm not sure. Maybe. Sometimes. I don't know.
I can only tell you that my best results have come from replying with a neutral "Thank you", then repeating the questions. I prefer it when they answer all my questions, but ultimately, if I want answers, I need to persist, and so I do.
I've been reading the responses and it reminded me of the class I took called Business Communications, where they emphasized that CYA style communication was absolute nonsense, your responsibility when communicating is to convey information in a way that can be received, and if that doesn't happen it's your fault, not the recipient's, you can't control them only you.
So if this is just one person who misses all the questions, sure, it's them, but you still need to figure out how to get your answers. If it's everyone, it's you. Maybe these questions aren't amenable to email, maybe it's your format, if you want answers (and not just to prove you asked in some sort of gotcha game) you need to ask the people who aren't answering why they aren't.
Everywhere I've worked, people answer these by choosing a different font color and writing answers back in the email, but there are not a lot of questions by email. Maybe a note to "provide answers in BLUE" with the word blue in blue font would help?
I skip questions I don't want to answer.
If you ask 10 questions and I know the answer to two of them, I’m going to answer the two and respond expecting someone else to answer the other questions.
If they are all directed at me and I’m the only person in the TO, then I’ll answer what I can. The times I don’t answer is because I either don’t have an answer or don’t want to answer it right now.
Instead of immediately blaming the other person, reflect upon your words. If someone sent you the same message with different but similar questions, how would you respond? Were the questions clear and concise with reasonable answers or do they need discussion? If yes/no is asked, is the question really a yes or no question?
Remember, as busy as you are, the other person may be busier or dealing with emergencies and they are at least attempting to respond rather than just no response at all.
Do you acknowledge the questions you haven't answered and state that you'll respond to them at a later time or want another person to chime in?
ADHD
That sounds like technical jargon...
I can confirm that it doesn't work at all. My advice is to send one question per email, or one chat message per question. It's better.
AI bullshit
The reader might think that your questions are overlaping, making adressing every question redundant. You might want clarity. The reader thinks you can figure it out based on their one answer. They don't want to spend the time to confirm that which you already have the tools to get to yourself.
If you've got questions, put them in bullet points.
I'm not scanning a wall of text to find everything.
Even when we converse, we get across just one point at a time. You have to respect other people's time and bandwidth (Okay, one or two points).
Yes because when are conversing in person you are conversing synchronously.
Only one person talks at a time and for the most part only one major subject idea question or problem is considered at a time. You talk about one thing and then you move along and talk about another thing.
This is not necessarily the case with written language. Where you have the benefit of talking about many things, changing subjects, and listing information out. And the reader can work through this at their own leisure and at their own pace without feeling overwhelmed
I've had my fair share of issues with not getting a complete response from e-mails. And so I changed the way I look at it. It's not like it will take weeks to get all the information you need just because you didn't get everything in one go.
Speak for yourself. We've had YEARS of delay because someone answered "no" to a 2 part question when they completely ignored the first part.
Even you ignored the first part of what I said, but I don't blame you. That's how conversations go.
You weren't speaking to me, just making a general statement. Under those circumstances it's perfectly reasonable to address only part of someone else's statement.
I guess it doesn't apply to you...
Sometimes I'm busy man and trying to get something done
I usually number my questions, makes it more obvious
I haven't done it very often, but the few times I haven't answered all off the questions in an email has been because some of the questions are a waste of time. I had an engineer recently ask me if I could move the location of where I was running a pipe through a floor grating. Changing the location would have changed nothing, made my job more difficult, and would have been a tripping hazard. All off this could have been avoided if they had gotten or from behind their desk and just gone and looked at what I was working on in person. I ignored their question and sent more pictures of the area. They finally said that I was good to proceed with my original plan.
"can't change it, I can show you why in person if you come over real quick"
Hi based on you current post,
Why do people insist on answering only one question?
**Do people just not read? ** I would say most people have a lot to read, especially emails, I get dozens of them daily, archive a few thousands yearly. So I will gloss over, see if it's addressed to me, of not I will probably wait until it becomes my problem to react/reply
Are people thatLazy? No people are busy, is this the same question as the first, out a request for alternatives causes to not reading?
What is going on? This question is vague, I see no point in replying, except maybe an opportunity to troll, or belittle you in this email that had now accumulated 30 people over 7 departments, and possibly one or two customer that were involved a week ago when the thread was about something entirely different.
In short, be specific, and format your message for readability. ;
Name whoever you expect to reply. Split your questions.
Make sure they're actual questions you need definitive answers to.
Tbh I would rather have someone do this not realizing I'm expecting a reply from them than to reply only to some of it, because when the latter happens it's usually like pulling teeth to get a response to the rest.
Gonna be honest, always write my mails structured with listed out questions that try to be specific yet not overloaded with info (hard to do, but possible. Mostly) and yet...
I get two answers to my three questions, with one answer even on topic, and the other being astrology divination of polar bear's butthole position over png of africa.
Yeah I get that too.
Should the report be sent by mail or e-mail?
IMO, email isn't for answering questions. Email is for documenting that the conversation occurred.
If they won't answer the questions in email, ask them in a phone call, then send a "Per our conversation" email summarizing the answers they provided. Until they send a rebuttal, I am free to act as though my email was their answer.
Do you...need a hug?
Mod removed before I could ask the same
If you want me to help you you sure as fuck do. Otherwise figure it out on your own.
Email 1 - 32 words, 3 questions
Email reply - 1 word, zero context, zero answers
Email 2 - *I don't reply back, youre on your own.
Ah, to be 6 years old again.
Didn't know all my old coworkers were on Lemmy lol
Why are you sending an email with multiple questions? If you have more than one question, it merits a phone call. Nobody has the time to answer all of your questions via email all day every day.
I personally receive over 200 business emails a day. Can you imagine what it would be like to answer multiple questions from each one?
If you have more than 1 question, call. Don't wanna call? Then it's not that important.
Maybe that works for internal and business communications, but if it is communication externally with clients there are a lot of people that just don't answer their phone. Sometimes it is important stuff, and sometimes there are followup questions.
"XYZ is no longer available. Would you like ABC instead?
How many of ABC would you like?"
This is an absolutely insane take. The documentation that emails provide cover everyone's ass.
You answer multiple questions from 200 phone calls every day?
Why would you even waste your time to reply if you're not going to read what you're replying to?
So when I'm writing to tech support (and they DO NOT offer phone support) exactly how do you suggest i call them?
I put in the two or three questions to save time. They can learn to read or get out of the business. There is a reason I put the questions in one email so they can read all three and get the answers back to each of the questions. If the three questions are related to each other show me the problem. This is especially important if the three questions are either related to each other, or contingent on each other.
Some people dont use phones for security reasons, and its also good to have things in writing.