No, sex should not hurt. Does it hurt when you put in a tampon?

A couple of things to think about. One, yes the skin can be too tight, that can ease with time. Two, if you are not warmed up and turned on, you won't have a good time. Lube does not substitute for arousal, arousal makes room and slip, lube only makes slip. Three, penetrative sex has always felt good not bad to me but only started feeling Really Good after I'd had kids and wasn't so tight structurally.

Maybe for now do things that don't involve penetration, and talk to your GYN - you should do that before having sex anyway, to discuss birth control, etc.

El fronsch!

CrawSahnt is hor I would transliterate the American pronunciation. With the emphasis on the second syllable. I would not usually order one by saying Kwasahnt.

I do order the chocolate ones by asking for pan chocolat, though. Pain Chocolate!

Ok I did make the request

Jesuchristo, a year?

I would never advise that. It's fine to enjoy sex. Some guys are more into chasing and just want a challenge, lose interest once you fuck - I don't want a guy who likes chasing, I want a guy who likes sex with me. I don't want the first time to be the best time either. That long buildup then a letdown is too big a risk to gamble a year on.

I'm old now but still would say a physical relationship is a shallower level than an emotional relationship, and having sex soon into any relationship has worked better to find a good match and, well, at least got me plenty of sex.

Not advising the OP here (She may not even want a physical relationship at all) - just responding to the idea that it's better to wait. In my life I have never found it better to wait.

Lemmy is chill. You want I ask that you be made the supermod? I had to do that for myself for the other community when the original guy disappeared. You or I can ask for Spicyjimmy to be removed because he has disappeared, and adjust it so you are main.

ETA if you want to make this request, the place is Lemmy World Support community they are the admins and they are pretty responsive.

If you don't count investing.

$2, on a lottery ticket; most I have won is $78. Overall have at least broken even, i think, I don't buy them often, just once had a winning streak of $2, $5, $20, then the $78, all on the same numbers that came from a fortune in fortune cookie I got twice in a row in two different cities that said

"Battle the enemy as long as there is life."

If you count investing, 17k, my 401k was halved in a crash at the same time I was laid off from my first real job.

No worries, I have only had to moderate thrice on the Cocktails one and it's a lot busier!

I think that's not because of alcohol - I am a light drinker (3 a week, or less) now and it's because my life is better and I am healthier and not as stressed or poor. I can drink not daily because I'm not an addictive sort of person. Yeah my health is better now than the years I didn't drink but it's because I have more money, can get medical care, have time to exercise too, all the benefits of the easier lifestyle we finally reached.

I don't think it's so harmful, nor helpful, always take July & December as dry months and see no difference in how I feel.

I know that's anecdotal, but unless they are controlling for income and overall lifestyle, my guess is that light drinking is an indication of a healthy moderate sort of lifestyle not an actual healthy factor in one.

Title sounds like Yoda. Fuck them, do you?

Fuck them, you do!

Like the old idea of endomorph, mesomorph, ectomorph, I always leaned ectomorph, and guess you would be mesomorph. I do think there is real body type difference- the midwife said I didn't have an "estrogenic" body type, lol. No T&A. Also just not big even when strong. So it is sort of disorienting, I don't want to harm my bones by getting skinny right now, but lost part of my identity! I feel womanly always but so enjoyed the more androgynous build.

As others have said, it's a backlash against the pill mills, we have overcorrected.

I get migraines occasionally, and have Imitrex shots for them. I love that drug because it is not at all druggy - it leaves me clear headed with no migraine, there is a nauseating unpleasant rush when administered, then it's just like walking back in time, headache fades to nothing.

But a handful of times (like literally 6 times in 30 years) I get status migraine. Imitrex does not avail me, 4 days no food no water I will puke even a spoonful of water.

I used to be able to go to the doctor and get some shots with some opiate and fenergan. They would do one, I would still be puking and crying, they would come back every 20 minutes or so and do another until I was so far away from the pain it wasn't bothering me. Then I could sleep and it worked every time, even though it did not work by killing the pain immediately (painkillers don't work for migraine) the high plus sleep always worked. Maybe $50 -$100 total cost.

But the last two times I got this, the doctor couldn't do that, it was outlawed. They sent me to the emergency room. Cold IV in a cold room, some advil stuff that doesn't work, then send me home still hurting, can't sleep, headache 2 more days but I don't die from dehydration. $1,600 for a worse result.

I understand why they say the opiates don't work for migraine, they don't directly kill the pain. But the previous protocol worked, and with electronic health records, can they not tell this is a very infrequent event for me? I don't even like downers. I just want the headache to break and that was the only protocol that ever worked.

ETA: and it is spotty - when I had surgery to repair my finger, the doctor gave me 50 pills of oxy, he said hands can hurt bad. But mine didn't (and yeah I also have a tolerance for pain) and that many pills seem like enough to cause dependence, WTF? I kept a few for rescue med and tossed the rest.

I am here for you! There is so much good country music, what they play on the radio is mostly shit. But like with every other sort of music, what's good is good.

Jason Isbell

Hayes Carll

Tyler Childers

Joshua Ray Walker

Charlie Crockett

Sturgill Simpson

The gay cowboy with the deep voice - Orville Peck

And a few I heard on the Saving Country Music top 25 this year and liked:

Charlie Marie, Mack Geiger, Sam Platts

If they are ladies into ladies - Kacey Musgraves, Waxahatchee, the supergroup album The Highwomen, and all of the members, Charlie Marie has such a voice.

AFA radio guys, Alan Jackson, Allison Krause, Lyle Lovett are good.

ETA - since this whole conversation came from some racist rant - there is a straight line from country to R&B and you can hear it in Charley Crockett's music, Leon Bridges, Carolina Chocolate Drops. Music is all related. You can always find a path from one style to any other style but almost all those paths were laid down by black people first, at least here in the US.

Duplicate post, sorry

I don't get that, it's hard for me to build mass but cardio just drops my weight so much, even though it's good for appetite. And I'm cold a lot, so whoever postulates that's a slow metabolism, I'm not convinced.

Lifting does distribute my body mass better (well, sort of) because my ass & legs get bigger but arms get a little shape and stronger never big. I'm kind of tall and a lady, it's ever been so. Menopause did give me both hips and boobs, bleah I lost my very skinny build but stuck here at some size where I feel fat and others say I am slim. Normal I guess.

Huh. I have always liked guys my age, whatever that age is, and always for some reason have been pursued only by guys my age or younger (defining "my age" as a few years in either direction). Will need to see if that holds, but I didn't expect it to still be true at this age so maybe.

Looks wise yeah I think more younger guys look better but OMG when I see a fit guy my age, that strikes me much more.

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Caw! caw! Crows before bros!

Life of Pi. My kids warned me not to read it, they had to for school. I read fast, it was a slim volume, I thought why not, it will be quick. It was quick but I want that time back. I don't get what anyone likes about it, it's unlikeable.

Long arm of the paw!