This is (I think the word is) cathartic for me.

I used to have a mini crush on a ex-marine coworker, until he uttered the words "planned parenthood is obsolete" to me. I nearly took his head off and threw it in the extruder.

Planned Parenthood is such an excellent and important health clinc, for she, he, they, and everyone or anyone. If offers all kinds of services.

edit: I love how they used "horny oyster farmer" in thier article, omg amazing

congress serves the people, not their dem friends. The People

I think youre right.

In my family there are.. well all of em cept me and one my sisters, are unhealed, miserable, wont do therapy type people. I was telling her the other day, I dont know what we did that had us come out different then them. She said, "I think we just wanted it (healing) more."

I rejected the idea at first, but I think she's right. Some people just want to get better more than others. :(

One that is simple can be to change space. Having a fucking panic attack in your room? Move your body to any other room or outside.

it's not magic, but a step and tool in coping.

I called a crisis line once years ago with my young son. We both were overstimulated and emotions were at the front. The worker kinda interupted us, and asked us both to attempt to say the alphabet backwards. Of course we had trouble with the task, but that wasnt the point, we both, my son and I, had to stop our feelings for a moment and think logically. Immediate relief.

It's corny, but it helps many in crisis to mangage it more easily. Yeah sometimes its hard to turn on the logic when in this state, but thats why there are a butt ton of ways to do it.

My fsvorite thing about lemmy, is even when the internet is absolute trash, lemmy works. lol

My son had an incident the other day. He got introuble over something, and felt so embarrassed, before I even got a chance to talk to him about it, he took off on his bike.. like took off took off. I had to get the police involved, my entire neighborhood was looking for him. 3.5 hours he was gone, they found him 9 miles from home, covered in mud, wet and cold, just before sunset. It has been hands down, the most terrified ive been as a parent since I birthed him.

He's going back to a youth out patient group therapy program. He loves it there. During the intake yesterday, we got a lot of hope. They are going to retest him for ASD. He has been before, the result "shows symptoms but not enough for diagnosis". But this center knows my son pretty well by now, and they are really recommending we test him again. Half my siblings have ASD, guess it's obvious to a lot of people just talking to others about it.

So out of a scary thing, were getting some hope. My son is getting support. I am "the future looks bright" once more

It's just a coping mech for individuals.

To be in crisis sucks.

Turning on the logical brain so the emotional brain calms tf out is effective. We cannot defeat the status quo while in a state of emotional wreckage.

Whether one is so depressed they go from ideation to planning, whether one is overstimulated and heading toward meltdown, whether one is so anxietal if feels like their head is going to spin so fast it falls off... the advice to turn on the logical brain so it overrides the emotional, is vauge enough advice anyone can tailor it to their needs.

get grounded, and fight the good fight.

I remember my last severe panic attack. I also have c-ptsd, and after decades of being poor, over worked, and re traumatized a couple times, I found myself living with my now husband, not working as a choice (so no finacial stress, and in therapy. I was safe. I was just begining therapy, but one day having a really hard time in my head that devolved into.. a messy, aweful panic attack. I was alone, crying like a sob, and realized, "Im safe, I have people who love me, and no one will hurt me here". I repeated this a few times, well, many times, and after a few minutes, calmed down and regulated.

Ill never forget it. it's about 6 years later, and feeling healed is so beautiful.

Im eventually going to carve out a spot for raspberries. I imagine you have to weed the area often so it doesnt spread where you dont want it to.

There's a comm called dullmensclub (or similar, my brain is bad rn), and I stay out of it cuz im not a man.

because hot means "youre really attractive when I look at you" here. You dont know what they like, they dont know their hobbys, their style of humor, only what they look like. That is the difference.

If you said, "you know I find you to be really hot when your wit is so quick" its different.

Ive told my husband, "Youre so hot when youre getting excited over basketball cards" cuz, he is, im not objectifying him. His personality is what makes him hot, not his giant cock.

Also, telling someone youve known as a person for a time, like talked to them before, know them already a bit, hot is less off putting and random, than a person you just met. A person you just met the only thing you can call them hot for is how they look. Thats objectifying.

just popping in to say youre amazing :)

I like that DDG lets you put date perameters on searches. Usually when looking for reciepies, I seach only from 1998-2016.

lemme get some of that sweet old internet

honestly, this feels pretty sexist towards men ngl

"men are just horny"

oh okay, every man is just horny guys, theyre all pervs so you should not let them know youre gay

/s for anyone in the back of the class

Is that why I have had to lie? Its not repectfully backing off. Its boundry pushing- to a point until youre telling them you have a man in your life even if you dont. It's not that they respect you for being taken so they back off, its fear your man gonna come out swinging at them.

The ones who don't fear this, will keep going at it even if you tell them you have a man.

A man who respects, takes the first.. at most the second "no thank you" and leaves it.

I described a person I know (who has always been well off) as sheltered not too long ago. The person I said it to disagreed, until I mentioned that this person has never once in their 70 years of life lived under, or anywhere close to the poverty line.

Sheltered. When you live like this, your survival insticts are different. In some people, it also frees them of accountability.

So you get useless fools up at the top of the fucking established heirarchy who can't do anything for themselves because they never had to.

drugs.

when you meet older, even long recovered drug addicts, they often have the minds of children. Long term hard drug use seems to freeze brain development in people

suey eyes

Anyone read down the end end of the article where Ford is like, nah bro, dont let this in the US? This is stiffling innovation more than humans wanting drinking water.

Im really happy for Mexico.

I was such an asshole after I dropped 100 pounds in my 20s. I did it, you can too!

I was such a dick. I had actual anger towards fat folks for a few years.

Its like being mad folks are poor, just, knock it off. None of these comments actually help people lose weight. It actually scares them off further into the downward spiral. Lest not forget age gets us all, and you dont know what these people have been through, or are going through. You dont know.

My country, the shit stain one, they dont allow citizens to walk anywhere. Start there. I stayed fit when I could walk/bike places. Once I moved somewhere carcentric, guess what happened. Im not a dick to fat folks anymore.

Its not so black and white. The older I get, the more I realize its systemic, at least here in the god forsaken states.

remain positive, internal work is internal, and you cant make choicss for others. I wanted to give fitness to everyone when I was younger. But not everyone is brave enough to ride a bike in car city. I still get mad when I see parents giving their fat children candy. Sets them up for a lifetine of failure. I used to have my gaurdian lock me in a room, call me fat bitch, and literally throw a bag of mcdonalds at me in my teens.

you never know what someone has been through. Always kindness.