You need to make it as easy and safe as possible for yourself to find people. You're essentially doing it right now by making this post, which is great! You just need to keep at it :)

Basically figure out the way of doing this that is most comfortable and least scary. You need to be a bit creative for it, because only you can figure out what exactly that means. Maybe that means just more commenting on some Lemmy posts. Maybe you could private message someone whose comments you like and ask if they'd like to talk a bit. Maybe there's a chat in a community of some of your interest where people casually talk online, like a Matrix or Discord server, and you could join that and do some talking. You can also go outside to some event or whatever with the sole goal of observing and not interacting, just to get some feel for a place/group, ideally with a way to easily and quickly leave.

Most important of all is to be kind to yourself, this kind of thing is super hard to overcome and you're doing great in even attempting it! I had to go through a similar thing, I was extremely lonely however luckily never completely alone, but I remember how hard it was for me. It's still hard but not crippling anymore :)

If you want to talk, sure, otherwise I wish you so much luck and success and just the best experiences possible for you :)

Can someone please tell me how Americans, or whoever this meme is about, pronounce croissant? Because I only know the french pronunciation and can not imagine another one.

Fairphone is not perfect, but Fairphone.

Yeah the problem is not the browser, it's that websites are so big. Firefox works perfectly fine on low bandwidth if you use ublock origin and block media and script loading.

I use this often for the same reason, many websites don't display properly or at all anymore but at least it's more usable.

Wrong continent, but I appreciate the offer :)

That's what you think, but as soon as I leave this comment thread and become unaware of it, I'm sorry to say, but you will stop existing. Tough luck.

I tried doing that. The problem was that being in contact with these groups or people massively increased the amount of bad news I came into contact with. I really tried, but I just couldn't handle it and had to retreat again.

I seriously don't know how I can help consistently without breaking down. I'm trying sometime but then I just have to shut down again because I feel so utterly terrible.

I just don't know how to find that right group. I've been going out for so many years, trying again and again and never managed to. There's always like 1 (or whatever small fraction) person out of the whole group I get along with and the rest are varying amounts of shitty.

But thank you for your words and trying :)

I've driven my car until it shows 1km and then 0km expected distance, and then a few kilometers more.

Thanks, I'm trying :)

Unless you have to get someone up the stairs or over some rubble, isn't grabbing their arms and dragging them the best way to do this?

The problem here is that he obviously didn't get her new Tupperware after.

That's exactly why you should not blindly follow things though. There is literally no advantage to a nicely made bed except that it looks nice. If that is not worth the effort of making the bed, then why would you do it?

Having to make my bed has a negative effect on my mental health. But yes, that's why I said to evaluate it individually.

I mean I assume you don't have much sex or a girlfriend or anything.

In that case, at least from what I know from myself or my friends, this desire to look is completely normal. I think you might follow that desire a little bit too much (as it is something you can control), but the base feeling you have is something most men experience.

Your nature is telling you to approach women and have sex with them. For some reason, you don't, maybe because you're scared, socially anxious, people have told you being sexual is terrible, whatever. This part of your nature is very strong, and as it seems the only thing left for you is looking, of course you're going to want to do it.

If you actually approach women and have a healthy sex life, that desire probably goes down, but of course now you've also made it a kind of compulsive habit, so it might be hard to break.

It's honestly quite ridiculous to me that you're ashamed of looking at sexually attractive people. Despite what some radical feminists or whoever will tell you, just looking and being sexually attracted is nothing shameful. It's more likely that this shame itself is causing the issue, since you're sexual, yet that is for some reason shameful so you can't satisfy it, causing you to have more of a sexual desire since you have so little of actual action.

Sexuality is our main drive, it is constant, and there's nothing wrong with it as long as you inquire about people's boundaries and respect them.

Of course coffee counts. It's still water and has no salt. It will not be close to enough, but still.

The definition of small talk is literally establishing common ground in some way. It's only meant for people you don't or barely know.

It's absolutely unnecessary for people you already know deeply.

Dude, it's ok to be wrong sometimes, no one would judge you :) In fact, it's a sign of strength to be able to admit you're wrong, and people will like you more for it. It'll also be good for you personally as you will be more effective in more things :)

It's almost like it encourages crazy sneaky infiltrations that would otherwise be impossible. It's almost as if it enables unbelievably fun missions. It's almost as if it makes the players feel like heroes with superhuman abilities.