cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/51860922

Please don’t give this the usual

YouTube = downvote

Lemmy treatment. This is a very helpful and hilarious couple talk about autism, ADHD and relationships between autistic/adhd/audhd people and neurotypical people.

Hope this helps some people be seen.

My poor wife has to deal with my adhd all the time, which includes cooking. I can't stand cooking, and have always looked for ways to avoid it. I've seen lots of people on here express the same sentiment, and I'm curious if anybody has any advice? What works for you to trick your brain into cooking?

Which one of these works better for you and your ADHD? Vyvanse or Adderall extended release? My Dr. started me out on 15mg of the Adderall ER, but the effects were so intense that I could only make it two days of taking them. I was so jittery, anxious, sick to my stomach, I could not eat or sleep for 2 days.

So she changed me to 10mg Vyvanse, which wasn't as bad, and I kept taking it daily until I was moved up to 30mg. I can eat fine and sleep while on it. And now my next appointment is tomorrow, and I think I'm gonna ask for 40mg and maybe a booster. But the only issue is I recently tried some of those 15mg Adderall ER I still had for 2 days. Instead of taking my Vyvanse, I took the Adderall, and it really wasn't bad, nothing like the first time I tried it. Instead, it just helped my ADHD like the Vyvanse does, but I think I felt more energy. I could also eat and sleep fine on it. The only thing was that on the second day, 6 hours after I took it, I got so, so drowsy that I had to go take a nap. Like, I could not hold my eyes open at all. I thought this stuff was supposed to last longer than that?

But yeah, anyways, what do you all think? Which do you prefer, Vyvanse or Adderall ER? Do you still get that initial "rush" or good feeling at the start of both, or is the Adderall stronger at that, that you feel? I'd really like to know what you all think because I see my Dr. tomorrow, and the option to change back is on the table.

I'd really like to hear from only those who have tried both. Thanks a lot.

TL;DR: I’ve tried both Vyvanse and Adderall ER, and I’m trying to decide which one works better for my ADHD before my appointment tomorrow—so I’d like to hear from people who have tried both.

Contemporary psychiatrists might detect behaviour (in the plot of Herzog's latest film) consistent with autism or ADHD hyper-focus. Not Herzog. “I do not relate to all these trendy terms – I just can’t hear it, it dusts out of my ears,” said the Bavaria-born US-based director, speaking in the idiosyncratic, heavily accented English familiar to viewers of documentaries like My Favourite Fiend. “Neurodivergence sounds like there’s some sort of clinical aberration – these sisters are dead centre.”

I've always made up a person to fit in. Masking has taken a toll and I hate the person I've pretended to be. That person is boring, polished, and an over achiever. Since.I was punished severely on a daily basis at 4 years old and afterwards, my true self never was known to me. Only my self who could survive.

Where do we find our unmasked real self after reaching "the big one" burnout? When your braim stops working, you're no longer functional, and the person you made can no longer be sustained, what do you do?

I'm in my 40s and it's rough.

I’ve been off work in April. I’d been struggling to do anything, even the simplest of tasks and eventually everything ground to a halt. It’s usually pretty bad during winter times, but some years it’s particularly horrible. I was diagnosed initially as Bipolar Type 2 as the issue seemed to be a cycle of long downs and ups. Then I got an ADHD diagnosis and the medication helped with the ‘brain fog’. But it didn’t solve everything. After awhile the task initiation problem always reappears. My doctors often say it’s depression and increase the anti-depressant medication I’m on. Sometimes you get a temporary bump in activity a few weeks later but it never really goes away for good.

A recent trip to the northern summer where my symptoms mostly alleviated suggested it’s likely a co-morbidity between Seasonal Affective Disorder and ADHD. I’ve started light therapy which is helping a little, but I still feel stuck.

The attached image is my ‘model’ for how I function. Currently, at the start of Spring, I feel the same as I did late April when I left work. This makes sense accordingly to the model. But it feels like the uptake in energy during the summer is masking this task initiation problem rather than being a ‘cure’ for it. Every time the energy dips below normal it reveals how much I’m struggling.

I’m sick of this. I just want to go back to work. Summers are great – I go running, eat healthy, get creative, fix up the house. Every other season is rubbish.

This is more of a rant than anything else, but any advice would be appreciated. Other than saying ‘just start small and do the task’ that is. I’ve been given that advice way too many times to no effect.

I cannot function without stress. I don't work better under stress, I can ONLY work if I'm stressed. So all my life I'm rushing and hurrying artificially even if there is no objective reason to do that. This model was working great for me all my life until now when I'm in my twenties and my body is collapsing with GERD, proctological issues, bruxism, headaches, tinnitus, fibromyalgia... They say, "Oh, you just have to do things based on novelty and interes" but bitch you cannot make EVERYTHING interesting and new. When I start to give a fuck about everything and relax I end up doing no shit. And honestly I don't know what to do. The meds they were giving me just cause the same stress artificially elevating my noradrenaline and the evening crush is even worse compared to days when I'm stressing myself on my own means. I feel myself in a "stress yourself out and die or don't do anything and die as well" situation... Psychiatrist and meds, psychologist, supplements, weekly meetings in ADHD support group, physical activity, good sleep, good nutrition, all these ergonomical lifehacks like "pomodoro", "make the task easy", "just divide the task into subtasks", "reward yourself", "body double", "listen to podcasts while cleaning" etc... All this shit is not working. There is no brand new method left that I haven‘t tried and I'm deeply frustrated. I can only stress myself out until my body completely desintegrates. Just venting

Hello everyone,

I'd love to hear your personal stories and honest reflections regarding ADHD medication. Whether you've been on it for a few weeks or several years, your perspective matters.

Could you share:

Initial Thoughts: What were your fears, hopes, or expectations before starting?

The Experience: What effects did you notice first (both positive and challenging)? How did it impact your focus, emotions, and daily routine?

The Balance: Looking back, how do you weigh the benefits against the side effects? Do you feel it was the right choice for you?

I cannot describe the visceral level of aversion I have to mainstream shit. It doesn't matter if the show is the best thing on earth, if the general public knows about it (And I don't mean the internet I mean the general public) then I refuse to watch or partake in it. I have no idea why and it genuinely kills me to be like this and I have no idea why.

It prevents me from joining most fandoms nowadays unless the fandom is super niche. Things like Hotel Hazbin, Star Wars, The Office, K-pop (in general), Kpop Demon Hunters, most popular anime... WHY. WHY AM I LIKE THIS?? Is anyone else like this? Even people just mentioning "Oh yeah I love One Piece, you should watch it sometimes" makes me go "Oh fuck nah I'm good" as if the damn show was a personal insult. I feel like a stuck-up prick when I do this but I genuinely can't control it, why????

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/47101901

How do you deal with hyperfixations taking over your life?

Sometimes I'm afraid of doing new things because I can become so obsessed, I abandon necessary jobs and routines for like 2 weeks and then I need to build momentum back, it pisses me off a lot

@adhd

#adhd

I was reading about it in Wikipedia, and it seemed very promising:

• Non-stimulant, noradrenaline-only selective action
• Lowers blood pressure
• Used to treat anxiety and trauma (PTSD / CPTSD)

I am mostly under-motived / unfocused, and don't have as many symptoms of restlessness. Anxiety: check, trauma: check, high blood pressure: check.

What were your experiences with it? What was good about it and why? What was bad and why?

Thank you!

Fucking hell. I lost 70$ and my IDs and even someone else's ID. I was so busy with packing, travelling and planning that I lost my wallet somewhere along the way.

The one time, I dared to forget to keep constantly thinking about my wallet's location, I lose it.

The worst part is I skipped a proper dinner today because I thought that I was being frugal and saving money.

Fuck. Fuck.

Lessons? I guess

• Wear tighter pants
• Don't keep cash in the wallet
• Sleep and eat well

I am currently working on a project, because life forces me to do it. But I have to say if the topic is right then working on a project is incredibly fun. You create and learn so much new things and work on different aspects of the project. I never really tire out of the tasks because new challenges and topics are just that common. But be warned, scope creep is the beginning of the boring shit. It gets repetitive real quick when you want to add and add and add in one domain of the project. Start small, stay small and achievable and just work on it consistently.

This post is like a little shower thought, because I was just playing around on my phone, getting lost in mini games / puzzles or social media and that stuff gets so boring so quick. I have seen and played these games before and I just come back to them because they are easy, but they give me nothing.

Upcoming Psychiatry appointment. Unmedicated. 31 YO male predented with diagnosis last year ( i think)

Military. Diagnosis made by paying out of pocket to psychologist. Got referral for therapy afterwards. Got appointment thru military to discuss treatment (allegedly). Appointment was about 4 months out. At appointment they immediately questioned the veracity of the diagnosis and basically just said you'll have psychiatrist appointment. That one about a month out, now happening this week.

Overall about a year or so process. Now if the psychiatrist asks me about what meds would i want to start with (should that happen) can anyone say Start with non stim Or start with stim?

With valid reasoning, or experiential reasons?

I am rather sick of my medical system and my trust in them is completely gone.

I did so today and I just achieved a lot today that I don't think I would have done without them. If i could be this motivated and unshakeable every day, it'd be good for me.

It's been hard figuring out if it was safe to take two a day, if it was even helpful, then remembering to take them at the right times (or at all), getting out of the habit of drinking tea (creates heart palpatations). Such a small thing, so much self work

AuDHD here, and I certainly can't.

I'm specifically thinking about Big Walk, but this applies to every co-op game I've ever tried. Portal 2 co-op also springs to mind.

I figure things out way more slowly than everyone else. I have no sense of direction, so I constantly get lost and lag behind.

And the freeform, "Let's go and look at this… Oh, or, actually, we could go and look at that first…" shit is just overwhelming. Most of the time I don't really understand either of the two options, having not noticed the same landmarks as the other players – and even if I did, I can't visualise where I am in relation to them. So I just say "dunno" or "either is fine", and worry about missing out on the other option – even as I'm stuck not actually contributing anything to the game.

People walk into a new puzzle and can instantly start putting the pieces together. I could, if I had time to have a look around and figure out all the different "parts" to the puzzle… get my bearings, y'know? But in a co-op game, what invariably happens is that everyone else figures it out while I get more and more confused and feel like crying.

Either that or I end up basically being "the guy who holds the light" while the actual human players have fun all around me. 🙄

And then I get to be the "moody" guy who ruins it for everyone by having a shit time and complaining. It's unbearable, it makes me feel like such a joke of a failure of a person.

Can anyone relate? 🙈

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ETA: Thanks for all the replies, I'm loving hearing everyone's thoughts and it's made me feel SO much better. 💖

Over the decades, I keep switching between caffeine times and caffeine-free times.

It's like this:

• need an extra boost for morning or afternoon, and it is really important
• it becomes a regular thing again, at least 1xmorning, 1xafternoon
• ups and downs are too strong, switching to guarana
• it works, even boost now
• It turns into madness, e. g. not enough sleep, and it prevents me from napping, or even night sleep is not good anymore. Also, completely dysfunctional in the morning.
• optionally increase up to double dose
• unpleasant withdrawal
• back to start after a month, year or two years

Right now, I'm on day 3 or 4 of a very unpleasant withdrawal again. Headaches, poor sleep quality, muscle and joint pain. Also, the Elvanse boost is really diminished, a lot. Tragically, in terms of productivity and mood, it worked really well with caffeine, just too much madness.

Do you think just staying off for good is the way to go?