I feel like people don't do this anymore. My highschool was very large and I don't think myself or anyone I know even knew who is responsible for it so it never happens
A lot changed in my life after graduation, including my first name and my surname (the latter due to marriage, the first thanks to deed poll, I always disliked the name my parents gave me...).
A few dear old friends from school knew about me living abroad, about all the other changes going on in my life and since all of us were the weird folks back then, we decided to prank everyone else big time.
So, I went there as a friend of one attending. Fricking no one recognised me. Not a soul. But they kept asking why person x was the only one no one found contact details of online, or any other way of contact. The person they knew just disappeared into thin air after graduation.
A big mystery no one could figure out who wasn't in on the ruse. Some great theories we've overheard that evening included, but were not limited to:
A) dead
B) in prison
C) became a hermit
I stood right next to those people I went to school with for over 10 years, some I knew even longer.
It was a fun challenge for me keeping a straight face for the entire evening while drinks were also involved. Not one person could figure out they knew me in the first place. :D
Fuck no. I was done with that shit the moment it was over. I didn’t give a fuck about them back then and I certainly don’t give a fuck about them now. Anyone I cared to keep in touch with I’ve kept in touch with.
I went to the first one and didn’t enjoy myself. Saw the assholes are now cops and most of the self-proclaimed cool kids were now shilling one MLM or another. Everyone still hung out in the same groups they did in high school. They held a moment of silence for the popular dickhead who got drunk and drowned in a river after high school.
Having not gone to any of my 40-or-so reunions, I feel like they would only get interesting after 20. Maybe 30. That's long enough for everyone to have finished all the school they're going to do, for people to have moved beyond their first jobs, or even first careers, and to have experienced enough life to really become their own people.
No. I've spent a long, long time and a lot of effort to try and fundamentally change the shitty person I was back then. I don't want to revisit that chapter at all.
The venn diagram of "people who organize and attend high school reunions" and "people I want to ever see again" are two circles drawn on different pages in different books on different shelves.
I'd moved out of state by the time the first one came around. Seemed like a lot of bother and expense to see people I didn't keep in touch with otherwise.
No, because all of my high school peers were enemies. High school - or rather the entirety of my childhood - was a time of bullying. All I learned was how to hate and eradicate myself. How the fuck am I still here.
Absolutely not. No desire to see those people again. I didn’t enjoy high school, and I don’t like the person I was back then either. Everyone is better off going their separate ways.
I’m so relieved to find a ton of other “no’s” in this thread!
I always felt like I was being a bit antisocial not to go to one. I’ve never been to a college reunion either. I’ve kept in close touch with only one person from high school and a handful from college. Add to that: 1) I don’t feel like I have much to brag about; 2) I would feel icky bragging even if I did. And that’s what I imagine reunions to be, if you haven’t kept in touch generally: just a bunch of near-strangers posturing to each other to feel better about themselves. I just don’t have any interest in that. It’s much the same reason I got off of social media about 10 years ago (minus the link aggregators/forums).
I didn't like the bulk of my classmates 40 years ago and from what I've seen in the FB group for my class, which I joined to find those few I did like, time has not improved them at all.
No. I kind of forgot they existed. With modern communications, I don't need to meet up with a bunch of people I don't care for in order to keep in touch with the handful I do.
I only went to high school for two years then took all my classes at the community college, so I wasn't like super well known or liked or anything. I've also had a gender change since then, and I don't wanna have that conversation the whole event.
I didn't like most of the people in my high school, I'm sure some of them grown to be nice people, but my best friend in high school is still my beat friend now. In fact she is family and we share the same last name. (but we didn't get married!)
So back in the day we very briefly dated but it was clear to both of us that wasn't going to work but we've remained been friends ever since. Fast forward a few decades and I've finally came out and transitioned like I always wanted to. Was already no contact with my birth family for unrelated reasons, so when it became the time to legally change my namd... I took hers! She is the only person that felt like family anyways, every major holiday, birthday, breakup, we've always been there to help each other. So now we call each other sisters, I'm the cool fun aunt to her daughter and I've been maid of honor in both of her weddings and married to my own gorgeous wife. Life is good! Everything worked out, happy endings all around.
(Fun fact: technically you can say I lost my virginity to my sister 😜 )
But back on topic, I thought about going to a high school reunion just to see if I'd pass but even if I did, then I'd just be some random lady no one recognized? I felt like I didn't belong around those folk because of my own issues, but since I never made happy young memories at the time, I wouldn't have much to reminiscing about at the reunion either.
Yes and I even volunteered to plan it. We didn't have one until 20 years and it was nice to see how people all kind of become normal. Even the kids that were assholes were reasonable to talk to and several apologies were made.
I went to a smallish high school (a handful more than 100 per grade) and all of us were together since kindergarten. Some people flat out said they wouldn't come and I think they missed out.
We had some teachers show up that were still in town. Some dude was like "hey dream_weasel I'm sorry I used to pick on you here's why I did", and some ancient crushes and gossip got revealed. It was on the whole pretty fun. I think we will do one for 25 years now.
Edit: All the "no" in this thread is wigging me out. Morbid curiosity would have made me say yes at some point.
i forget how it came up, but last year someone mentioned high school reunions and i was thinking, "hey, my ten year should be coming up soon. i wonder if it'll be worth going" and then later that night one of my old friends from high school mentioned he just got back from it. i'm sitting there wondering if i would be generous enough to grace them with my presence while the event was currently going on and i wasn't even invited! the more things change, the more they stay the same
Did not like the people much back then but was still interested how it all developed.
I had some nice talks. It was fun talking to my highschool crush she seems to still be the same person. Glad it did not work out back than otherwise I'd propably still be stuck back there.
The most interesting part was seeing people that told me they thought I was the cool person back then while I was very insecure back then and definitly did not think of myself as cool.
Oh fuck no. There are a handful of people from highschool I wouldn't mind catching up with, but the vast majority of them I either never met well enough to form an opinion, or actively disliked.
...and as long as it's been, every single one of us is a completely different person now. It'd basically be like meeting a few hundred complete strangers. And at that point, I can just go to a bar or something and meet complete strangers right here - why travel to reunion for that?
I changed high schools midway through my sophomore year, going from an all-boy catholic school to public, so I didn't really know many people from the public high school, besides my immediate social circle. Also they were the cool, class-skipping, weed and cigarette smoking kids, so I doubt they'd be at the class reunion, and they're probably the only people I'd want to see anyway.
There was this beautiful girl I went on a date with once who went to my high school... a couple years after I graduated, I saw her at a bar, and she gave me her number. I didn't even remember her. We went on exactly one date, where she revealed that she nanny'd for a super rich summering-in-a-french-villa family, and for some reason it intimidated me so much I had a panic attack, and before we even got to where we were supposed to go on the date, I turned the car around and took her home. Apologized, and never really spoke again.
I still think about her, and how beautiful she was, and what the fuck came over me that night. But I doubt she'd be at the reunion.
Also I haven't been very successful in my own life (not terrible by any means but, not great) so I wouldn't really be able to show off much of anything except that I'm much more handsome and physically fit now than I was then. I dunno. Doesn't seem like much when I'm still riddled with student loan debt and anxiety.
No, I never had a close relationship with anyone in high-school. As the gay, neurodivergent kid...I didn't fit in all that much. I ignored all my reunion invites.
I was asked by some friends that I hadn't seen since HS if I was coming to my 10 year reunion. It happened to also be the same day of my wedding and when I saw pictures, looked like maybe 40-50 of class of 300 showed up. There wasn't a 20 planned that I'm aware and honestly with social media I don't see a point.
I was invited to my 10 year. The person running it had encouraged my exgf to break up with me years ago. It wasn't being held at the school, and by all accounts only a few people were going. I think it was going to be at a Denny's essentially. It sounded miserable so I skipped it. No regrets.
I did not go to the tenth or twentieth. I can’t imagine how they’d even find me for the thirtieth in the 2030s, I don’t really do any social media these days.
I’m an introvert and haven’t kept up with anyone from high school. Seems like it’d just be awkward.
Both times I just had another option with actual friends that I wanted to do more. I don't really give a shit about anyone from high school, but curiosity would have gotten me to go if it wasn't for the other option each time.
And, to be honest, I've seen a lot of them on Facebook and they're looking a lot older than I look, so I guess I could have rubbed it in the faces of some of the people that thought they were hot shit back then.
It was joining Facebook long ago and adding people I knew that made me realize I'm not going to ever bother going to a reunion. I only had a few close friends in high school, and the rest... well, let's just say it didn't take long for me to block their constant postings about all sorts of junk topics. My mistake was seeing Facebook as a newer version of the BBS forums, but once I figured out it's all about saying "look at me", and not about actual discussion... not my thing.
No, and I doubt anyone would remember me. I sure as hell don't give a shit about any of them. I was relentlessly bullied and picked on in school, to the point where my parents took me out and homeschooled me during my freshman year onward because it was obvious that the school staff wouldn't do anything about it.
I remember peering into the facebook group where they were planning our reunion, they were making a list of all the people who "most likely wouldn't show up" and therefore "didn't need an invite".
The list was basically all the unpopular kids they didn't like.
No. I'm still working on unfucking myself after the way those assholes treated me. Why would I want to see them again? I'm not successful enough to flex on anyone.
We haven’t had one, but if there were, I would probably go. I was pretty much friends with everyone, and I still stay in touch with a few people I am very close with.
My feelings towards a middle school reunion is pretty much the same as everyone's feelings towards high school reunion. I would never show up to a middle school reunion. There were some people who tried to do one 10-15 years ago, and I never went, and I never will. The people there sucked. I never want to see them again. If I do then I pretend not to know them and I am pretty sure they do the same.
I'm in my 40's and have never gone to one of my own.
It's pretty simple. I had one really good friend in high school and about a dozen friends I hung with often. I was in the rebellious out group and didn't really like the vast majority of the people at my high school, and thanks to social media, I already get to see how boring or train wrecky their lives have become if I ever get curious.
Fuck no. I dropped out of High School thanks to a bunch of racist Hawaiians and Samoans because I started standing up against their bullying midyear.
Kids that look like they might be military brats got targetted quick. I wasn't one of those kids, but I was just another "fucking haole". School staff turned a blind eye to the harassment and intimidation. Shits a lost cause when the campus security is literally related or close with these kids families.
Dropped out, got a GED, got a job, started a family, moved back stateside, never looked back. Aloha Oe, ya fuckers lol
I think it's something more for the Boomer generation that didn't have social media, honestly. My mom and dad loved high school reunions before he passed away.
I got pulled out of highschool before my junior year and got my GED, so I never really graduated, which probably explains why I've never gotten an invite. Even if I had graduated, I wasn't very popular so it's possible I wouldn't have gotten an invite anyway.
But even if I had, most of my friends were a year or two older, so there wouldn't be many people there that I'd actually care about seeing.
Nope. Didn't have any friends in school so why would i want to go back? Didn't want to go to prom or much of anything else for that matter. My mother insisted I go... ended up going to be treated like crap about 5 minutes after arriving so left and spent the night playing pinochle in a bar. I was the best dressed guy there though.
Honestly didn't care about the graduation and didn't care to walk across a stage to say I graduated. I was already testing beyond a high school level when I was in middle school so it wasn't really that much of an achievement in my mind. I didn't want to go but again my mother insisted.
Absolutely not. I was dismayed when they finally found me to send an invitation to what would have been a THIRTY year reunion, that's how long I dodged them. Really probably the worst hours of my life were high school, and I've been through plenty. It just sucked and teenagers feel everything so much. Not that I didn't have any friends, but the overwhelming feelings I have about those years are trauma & dread. Fuck no.
Nope. I figured I wouldn't get invited due to not having a Facebook account and only staying in touch with two friends from HS. Even if I did get invited, I planned on ignoring it. There's no reason to go back to my hometown. I've moved on to bigger and better things and frankly don't see the point in looking backwards.
Well, i live 1200 miles away, so i just decided i didnt care enough. Probably be another one eventually. Also deleted my socials, so never got officially invited.
Either they don't have those here (UK) or I've never been invited to one. I don't go looking for open invite reunions either way, so as you might guess, I doubt I'd go to one, morbidly curious or not.
Most of the people I went to high school with I don’t give two shits about. Maybe 3-4 of them do I care about. I don’t need a reunion for them. Hell like me they wouldn’t go anyway. In my opinion, reunions are either for people who peaked in high school and wanna relive that adoration or want to brag about their life to people who looked down on them in high school. I didn’t peak in high school nor would I want to brag to people I don’t care about their opinions.
I guess you could just want to see how people turned out is another option. Maybe I’d like to verify a few bullies that I’d bet died of alcoholism in their 40s.
I left school 27 years ago. I Don't think there has ever been one.
My school was in a small town. Half the kids lived in the town, the other half (myself included) didnt. When school ended the kids from town all stayed friends and ended marrying each other.
I've kept in vague touch with maybe 3 people since that time and that's barely anything except a happy birthday message every couple of years.
Yes, the 20th one. The school had long closed, so it was at a hotel ballroom at a city central to everyone. It was awesome hanging with old friends and catching up. Even better was seeing the bullies turn into meek little men. After too many drinks, one tearfully apologized for being such an asshole. Lots of closure all around.
A couple of retired teachers showed up, and it was great talking to them like peers. And the one EVERYONE had a crush on, now with two kids and an ex-husband. Still hot as hell.
I never had any desire to go to one. I had a fine time in High School, college was much better. I had a good strong circle of friends in high school. That circle was a bit odd. There was four of us who hung out all the time and that started in the second half of my sophomore year.
In my quartette was me, two dudes who were one grade ahead of me and one guy who went to a different high school. There was also an extended circle of friends but the four of us were the core group.
So my high school reunion would mostly be people I didn’t spend a lot of time with in high school. I don’t have any animosity towards any of them, I just don’t have any desire to see any of them.
Now back when I did Facebook I did join a group that was my high school class and I recognized a lot of their names. The stuff they posted with the typical range of stuff, Many had kids and familes etc. A couple were religious fruitcakes. One ran for Mayor of the burg I grew up in.
A billion years ago, someone added me on Facebook and I accepted because I thought it was someone else. Then I realised it was someone who graduated alongside me and they were in a group organising a reunion and I blocked that shit so fast. One of the last things I did on FB.
Since leaving Facebook, I'm pretty sure I'm untraceable for anyone from back then so if they get any ideas about inviting that girl that most of them used to think was weird and best avoided, they're shit out of luck. I don't want to meet any of those people and those that I might tolerate for a bit don't balance it out.
I'm not close to anyone from high school. I haven't talked to anyone from that era in years. I wasn't my best self back then, and I don't really want to relive it.
I dont know if my school even has them. I wont be going anyway even if i find out they do. Theres only a handful of people I'd want to see and they've got just as much Internet access as me. If there was anything worth talking to eachother for we would have done it by now. I don't want to force stuff and have it be weird.
And the majority that I really don't want to see I guarantee are all "doing better" than me. It turns out being smart and getting good grades doesnt mean shit if your dad isnt already a big wheel at the cracker factory.
My graduating class had seven people in it. Three of my classmates were from different foreign countries. One of the remaining is in prison. Oh, and the school closed the year after we graduated.
As far as I know there's never been discussions of a reunion, but I also moved far away and don't use social media lol
Definitely, and enjoyed each one. I went to school in a tiny town where there is one school K-12. A classmate owns a winery, so we all get together there from time to time.
I looked for info about my 20 year reunion and couldn't find anything, so I didn't go and I'm not bothered one way or the other. I guess it might be cool to see some folks again, but no guarantee they come.
No, because disaster struck. My high school’s tradition is that the graduating class hosts the reunion party in a decade, and everyone else who can attend is invited. When it was our turn, a weather disaster struck our hometown, so the reunion was canceled and we donated the pooled funds instead.
Not at all. I graduated a semester early and moved to a nearby city where I immediately lost all my friends from high school. A few years later I moved across the country and never looked back.
I think I went to my 5-year as I was going to be in the area anyway, but nothing after thati only attended that school for one year, but still had some good memories. This was before Facebook and I think even myspace. I actually moved my final year of highschool so most of my memories of that one we're good.
My class has been kind of shit at getting the word out about reunions. There was allegedly a 5 year reunion but no one I know got an invite to it. I think it was kind of unofficial but together by a specific group of friends
10 years rolled around, they did a little better for that one, but I still didn't hear about it until it was too late to RSVP, so instead I met up with them like 3 people from my class I still talk to and went and had a couple drinks somewhere.
15 years I kept my ear to the ground, and did actually find it early enough. Decided I didn't want to go but did my part to try to get the word out to whoever I could in case they were interested. Met up with the same three friends again instead.
We'll have 20 coming up soon, and I expect my plans will be mostly the same.
Never have, despite living within the same school district I graduated from currently. I don't cling to people like that. I did attend a "hey, so-and-so is back in town for a minute" party. I didn't know any of them or have anything in common with them, or even talk much.
I ran into the daughter of someone I was on the diving team with. She was nice but looked a bit uncomfortable when I said to tell her dad I said hi, and had no idea her dad even was on the diving team.
I'm just a private person. I wouldn't hate catching up with someone one on one, but I can't imagine attending a big event and doing it 50+ times in a night with people who likely haven't spared a thought for me since 1991. Maybe I'm the asshole, but I don't care what they're up to and it would be weird if they pretended to care about me.
I quit high school in grade 10, and I was still more literate than the graduating peers of my youth. After writing my GED and going to university, I went on to qualify for disability.
Went to one. The most recent I was like "I'm not driving 3 hours for a potluck at a sand green golf course I didn't like playing when I lived nearby." And the people I cared about seeing were in the same boat.
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I feel like people don't do this anymore. My highschool was very large and I don't think myself or anyone I know even knew who is responsible for it so it never happens
I did, but undercover. It was hilarious!
A lot changed in my life after graduation, including my first name and my surname (the latter due to marriage, the first thanks to deed poll, I always disliked the name my parents gave me...).
A few dear old friends from school knew about me living abroad, about all the other changes going on in my life and since all of us were the weird folks back then, we decided to prank everyone else big time.
So, I went there as a friend of one attending. Fricking no one recognised me. Not a soul. But they kept asking why person x was the only one no one found contact details of online, or any other way of contact. The person they knew just disappeared into thin air after graduation.
A big mystery no one could figure out who wasn't in on the ruse. Some great theories we've overheard that evening included, but were not limited to:
A) dead
B) in prison
C) became a hermit
I stood right next to those people I went to school with for over 10 years, some I knew even longer.
It was a fun challenge for me keeping a straight face for the entire evening while drinks were also involved. Not one person could figure out they knew me in the first place. :D
Fuck no. I was done with that shit the moment it was over. I didn’t give a fuck about them back then and I certainly don’t give a fuck about them now. Anyone I cared to keep in touch with I’ve kept in touch with.
I cannot physically escape my high school reunion in this lifetime.
I went to a fairly small school and I was the only one who graduated that year.
So every moment of every day for the rest of my life is my high school reunion.
On the upside though, I was the valedictorian, a fact which has actually helped me get jobs.
I went to the first one and didn’t enjoy myself. Saw the assholes are now cops and most of the self-proclaimed cool kids were now shilling one MLM or another. Everyone still hung out in the same groups they did in high school. They held a moment of silence for the popular dickhead who got drunk and drowned in a river after high school.
Having not gone to any of my 40-or-so reunions, I feel like they would only get interesting after 20. Maybe 30. That's long enough for everyone to have finished all the school they're going to do, for people to have moved beyond their first jobs, or even first careers, and to have experienced enough life to really become their own people.
Do you have a reunion every single year?
I think it means the reunion when they're around 40 years old
If one was held, then I was not invited. In any case COVID fucked up my last 2 years of highschool, so I feel it would've been awkward.
I'm good. I didn't even attend my own graduation, much less any reunions.
No. I've spent a long, long time and a lot of effort to try and fundamentally change the shitty person I was back then. I don't want to revisit that chapter at all.
You know what? Same.
It took me longer than it probably should have to mature. I'm glad not to have a reminder of it out there.
The entire purpose of highschool reunions was rendered irrelevant as soon as social media was invented.
Good point…
This year would be my 25th. Never been invited to a single one. There have been several, as a friend has confirmed.
I'm not worried about ever seeing those assholes again. K-12 was spent being tormented for being different. Not something I need to relive.
If I was invited, I doubt I'd go. It's not even worth my time to flex on someone I couldn't be bothered to give a cold shit about.
I keep in touch with my real friends, always. No need to reuinte with a bunch of bigots who made my youth a hell in a box.
Never once. I still talk to the only people from there I care to know.
Nope. Hell I'm not even sure there was one.
The venn diagram of "people who organize and attend high school reunions" and "people I want to ever see again" are two circles drawn on different pages in different books on different shelves.
No.
I'd moved out of state by the time the first one came around. Seemed like a lot of bother and expense to see people I didn't keep in touch with otherwise.
Never got invited lol. Not that I'd go, I have no interest in mingling with white supremacists. I grew up in a fun area.
Thought about the 10 year then went to see phish instead
No, because all of my high school peers were enemies. High school - or rather the entirety of my childhood - was a time of bullying. All I learned was how to hate and eradicate myself. How the fuck am I still here.
damn, i hope you're feeling better now..
Thanks! I'm learning to be able to feel anger towards them instead of hating myself. But it's a long journey.
Grit?
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=grit
Which one of these? 😅
Absolutely not. No desire to see those people again. I didn’t enjoy high school, and I don’t like the person I was back then either. Everyone is better off going their separate ways.
I’m so relieved to find a ton of other “no’s” in this thread!
I always felt like I was being a bit antisocial not to go to one. I’ve never been to a college reunion either. I’ve kept in close touch with only one person from high school and a handful from college. Add to that: 1) I don’t feel like I have much to brag about; 2) I would feel icky bragging even if I did. And that’s what I imagine reunions to be, if you haven’t kept in touch generally: just a bunch of near-strangers posturing to each other to feel better about themselves. I just don’t have any interest in that. It’s much the same reason I got off of social media about 10 years ago (minus the link aggregators/forums).
Oh hell no.
I didn't like the bulk of my classmates 40 years ago and from what I've seen in the FB group for my class, which I joined to find those few I did like, time has not improved them at all.
No. I kind of forgot they existed. With modern communications, I don't need to meet up with a bunch of people I don't care for in order to keep in touch with the handful I do.
I only went to high school for two years then took all my classes at the community college, so I wasn't like super well known or liked or anything. I've also had a gender change since then, and I don't wanna have that conversation the whole event.
Oh fun, story time!
I didn't like most of the people in my high school, I'm sure some of them grown to be nice people, but my best friend in high school is still my beat friend now. In fact she is family and we share the same last name. (but we didn't get married!)
So back in the day we very briefly dated but it was clear to both of us that wasn't going to work but we've remained been friends ever since. Fast forward a few decades and I've finally came out and transitioned like I always wanted to. Was already no contact with my birth family for unrelated reasons, so when it became the time to legally change my namd... I took hers! She is the only person that felt like family anyways, every major holiday, birthday, breakup, we've always been there to help each other. So now we call each other sisters, I'm the cool fun aunt to her daughter and I've been maid of honor in both of her weddings and married to my own gorgeous wife. Life is good! Everything worked out, happy endings all around.
(Fun fact: technically you can say I lost my virginity to my sister 😜 )
But back on topic, I thought about going to a high school reunion just to see if I'd pass but even if I did, then I'd just be some random lady no one recognized? I felt like I didn't belong around those folk because of my own issues, but since I never made happy young memories at the time, I wouldn't have much to reminiscing about at the reunion either.
No. High school sucked because teenagers suck. Any decent people from then I just kept in touch with. Those who peaked at 17 are pretty pathetic.
Yes and I even volunteered to plan it. We didn't have one until 20 years and it was nice to see how people all kind of become normal. Even the kids that were assholes were reasonable to talk to and several apologies were made.
I went to a smallish high school (a handful more than 100 per grade) and all of us were together since kindergarten. Some people flat out said they wouldn't come and I think they missed out.
We had some teachers show up that were still in town. Some dude was like "hey dream_weasel I'm sorry I used to pick on you here's why I did", and some ancient crushes and gossip got revealed. It was on the whole pretty fun. I think we will do one for 25 years now.
Edit: All the "no" in this thread is wigging me out. Morbid curiosity would have made me say yes at some point.
i forget how it came up, but last year someone mentioned high school reunions and i was thinking, "hey, my ten year should be coming up soon. i wonder if it'll be worth going" and then later that night one of my old friends from high school mentioned he just got back from it. i'm sitting there wondering if i would be generous enough to grace them with my presence while the event was currently going on and i wasn't even invited! the more things change, the more they stay the same
Yes.
Did not like the people much back then but was still interested how it all developed.
I had some nice talks. It was fun talking to my highschool crush she seems to still be the same person. Glad it did not work out back than otherwise I'd propably still be stuck back there.
The most interesting part was seeing people that told me they thought I was the cool person back then while I was very insecure back then and definitly did not think of myself as cool.
Oh fuck no. There are a handful of people from highschool I wouldn't mind catching up with, but the vast majority of them I either never met well enough to form an opinion, or actively disliked.
...and as long as it's been, every single one of us is a completely different person now. It'd basically be like meeting a few hundred complete strangers. And at that point, I can just go to a bar or something and meet complete strangers right here - why travel to reunion for that?
I changed high schools midway through my sophomore year, going from an all-boy catholic school to public, so I didn't really know many people from the public high school, besides my immediate social circle. Also they were the cool, class-skipping, weed and cigarette smoking kids, so I doubt they'd be at the class reunion, and they're probably the only people I'd want to see anyway.
There was this beautiful girl I went on a date with once who went to my high school... a couple years after I graduated, I saw her at a bar, and she gave me her number. I didn't even remember her. We went on exactly one date, where she revealed that she nanny'd for a super rich summering-in-a-french-villa family, and for some reason it intimidated me so much I had a panic attack, and before we even got to where we were supposed to go on the date, I turned the car around and took her home. Apologized, and never really spoke again.
I still think about her, and how beautiful she was, and what the fuck came over me that night. But I doubt she'd be at the reunion.
Also I haven't been very successful in my own life (not terrible by any means but, not great) so I wouldn't really be able to show off much of anything except that I'm much more handsome and physically fit now than I was then. I dunno. Doesn't seem like much when I'm still riddled with student loan debt and anxiety.
I did not. If I wanted to keep in touch with people I would have.
Did not attend. I didn't like those people when I was in highschool. There's no way I want to see them now.
No, I never had a close relationship with anyone in high-school. As the gay, neurodivergent kid...I didn't fit in all that much. I ignored all my reunion invites.
I was asked by some friends that I hadn't seen since HS if I was coming to my 10 year reunion. It happened to also be the same day of my wedding and when I saw pictures, looked like maybe 40-50 of class of 300 showed up. There wasn't a 20 planned that I'm aware and honestly with social media I don't see a point.
No, 'cuz it's just "look at me! Look how successful I am!" Boring as shit.
I couldn't wait to get those people out of my life. Why would I want to see them again?
I was invited to my 10 year. The person running it had encouraged my exgf to break up with me years ago. It wasn't being held at the school, and by all accounts only a few people were going. I think it was going to be at a Denny's essentially. It sounded miserable so I skipped it. No regrets.
I did not go to the tenth or twentieth. I can’t imagine how they’d even find me for the thirtieth in the 2030s, I don’t really do any social media these days.
I’m an introvert and haven’t kept up with anyone from high school. Seems like it’d just be awkward.
Both times I just had another option with actual friends that I wanted to do more. I don't really give a shit about anyone from high school, but curiosity would have gotten me to go if it wasn't for the other option each time.
And, to be honest, I've seen a lot of them on Facebook and they're looking a lot older than I look, so I guess I could have rubbed it in the faces of some of the people that thought they were hot shit back then.
Invites were probably on Facebook and I don't give enough fucks to login.
It was joining Facebook long ago and adding people I knew that made me realize I'm not going to ever bother going to a reunion. I only had a few close friends in high school, and the rest... well, let's just say it didn't take long for me to block their constant postings about all sorts of junk topics. My mistake was seeing Facebook as a newer version of the BBS forums, but once I figured out it's all about saying "look at me", and not about actual discussion... not my thing.
I can not imagine voluntarily entering the 7th ring of hell.
No, and I doubt anyone would remember me. I sure as hell don't give a shit about any of them. I was relentlessly bullied and picked on in school, to the point where my parents took me out and homeschooled me during my freshman year onward because it was obvious that the school staff wouldn't do anything about it.
I remember peering into the facebook group where they were planning our reunion, they were making a list of all the people who "most likely wouldn't show up" and therefore "didn't need an invite".
The list was basically all the unpopular kids they didn't like.
No. I'm still working on unfucking myself after the way those assholes treated me. Why would I want to see them again? I'm not successful enough to flex on anyone.
We haven’t had one, but if there were, I would probably go. I was pretty much friends with everyone, and I still stay in touch with a few people I am very close with.
My feelings towards a middle school reunion is pretty much the same as everyone's feelings towards high school reunion. I would never show up to a middle school reunion. There were some people who tried to do one 10-15 years ago, and I never went, and I never will. The people there sucked. I never want to see them again. If I do then I pretend not to know them and I am pretty sure they do the same.
I vaguely remember tossing some mail about a reunion a number of years ago, never planned on going to one.
I can count on one hand the number of people I've willingly talked to since highschool, and none of them in the last 15 years.
Plus I guarantee nobody would be friendly to a Trans person. My highschool once made national news for a hate crime...
No. High school for me was spent with people with which I have nothing in common, so I didn't keep in touch with anyone there.
I still stumble into people I once knew, and I of course say hi and engage in some chitchat, but nothing beyond that.
I'm in my 40's and have never gone to one of my own.
It's pretty simple. I had one really good friend in high school and about a dozen friends I hung with often. I was in the rebellious out group and didn't really like the vast majority of the people at my high school, and thanks to social media, I already get to see how boring or train wrecky their lives have become if I ever get curious.
So there's just no need.
I never even heard that one was planned
Fuck no. I dropped out of High School thanks to a bunch of racist Hawaiians and Samoans because I started standing up against their bullying midyear.
Kids that look like they might be military brats got targetted quick. I wasn't one of those kids, but I was just another "fucking haole". School staff turned a blind eye to the harassment and intimidation. Shits a lost cause when the campus security is literally related or close with these kids families.
Dropped out, got a GED, got a job, started a family, moved back stateside, never looked back. Aloha Oe, ya fuckers lol
Is that actually a thing people do?
I think it's something more for the Boomer generation that didn't have social media, honestly. My mom and dad loved high school reunions before he passed away.
Especially for the generation of people that rarely moved more than 10 miles away from the city they were born in.
It's a lot easier to organize a high school reunion when everybody's living down the street from where they lived in high school.
I moved 5,000 miles away from my hometown and rarely if ever go back, and I have no social media presence, so they couldn't find me if they wanted to.
I got pulled out of highschool before my junior year and got my GED, so I never really graduated, which probably explains why I've never gotten an invite. Even if I had graduated, I wasn't very popular so it's possible I wouldn't have gotten an invite anyway.
But even if I had, most of my friends were a year or two older, so there wouldn't be many people there that I'd actually care about seeing.
Nope. Didn't have any friends in school so why would i want to go back? Didn't want to go to prom or much of anything else for that matter. My mother insisted I go... ended up going to be treated like crap about 5 minutes after arriving so left and spent the night playing pinochle in a bar. I was the best dressed guy there though.
Honestly didn't care about the graduation and didn't care to walk across a stage to say I graduated. I was already testing beyond a high school level when I was in middle school so it wasn't really that much of an achievement in my mind. I didn't want to go but again my mother insisted.
Absolutely not. I was dismayed when they finally found me to send an invitation to what would have been a THIRTY year reunion, that's how long I dodged them. Really probably the worst hours of my life were high school, and I've been through plenty. It just sucked and teenagers feel everything so much. Not that I didn't have any friends, but the overwhelming feelings I have about those years are trauma & dread. Fuck no.
Nope. I figured I wouldn't get invited due to not having a Facebook account and only staying in touch with two friends from HS. Even if I did get invited, I planned on ignoring it. There's no reason to go back to my hometown. I've moved on to bigger and better things and frankly don't see the point in looking backwards.
I was correct, did not receive an invite.
Because we don't have them in this country
Not really. Early on, if I wanted to stay in touch with people, there was Facebook. Later, I didn't really care.
Well, i live 1200 miles away, so i just decided i didnt care enough. Probably be another one eventually. Also deleted my socials, so never got officially invited.
Either they don't have those here (UK) or I've never been invited to one. I don't go looking for open invite reunions either way, so as you might guess, I doubt I'd go to one, morbidly curious or not.
Went to both my and my partner's 10 year. Both sucked. Would never do it again.
No. It always seems to happen when im going through financial crisis. granted feels like half the years are financial crisis.
Nope, for pretty much most of the reasons everyone else in the thread didn’t.
Most of the people I went to high school with I don’t give two shits about. Maybe 3-4 of them do I care about. I don’t need a reunion for them. Hell like me they wouldn’t go anyway. In my opinion, reunions are either for people who peaked in high school and wanna relive that adoration or want to brag about their life to people who looked down on them in high school. I didn’t peak in high school nor would I want to brag to people I don’t care about their opinions.
I guess you could just want to see how people turned out is another option. Maybe I’d like to verify a few bullies that I’d bet died of alcoholism in their 40s.
But no I wouldn’t, and haven’t, gone.
I left school 27 years ago. I Don't think there has ever been one.
My school was in a small town. Half the kids lived in the town, the other half (myself included) didnt. When school ended the kids from town all stayed friends and ended marrying each other.
I've kept in vague touch with maybe 3 people since that time and that's barely anything except a happy birthday message every couple of years.
So no, I probably wouldn't ever attend a reunion
Yes. My graduating year had a lot of tragedy occur, so we were all really tight knit (even with standard teenage drama). It was good fun catching up.
No, I don't understand the point of reunions.
Fun to see how others ended up.
Yes, the 20th one. The school had long closed, so it was at a hotel ballroom at a city central to everyone. It was awesome hanging with old friends and catching up. Even better was seeing the bullies turn into meek little men. After too many drinks, one tearfully apologized for being such an asshole. Lots of closure all around.
A couple of retired teachers showed up, and it was great talking to them like peers. And the one EVERYONE had a crush on, now with two kids and an ex-husband. Still hot as hell.
Nothing like Grosse Pointe Blank, but still fun.
Love that movie
I never had any desire to go to one. I had a fine time in High School, college was much better. I had a good strong circle of friends in high school. That circle was a bit odd. There was four of us who hung out all the time and that started in the second half of my sophomore year.
In my quartette was me, two dudes who were one grade ahead of me and one guy who went to a different high school. There was also an extended circle of friends but the four of us were the core group.
So my high school reunion would mostly be people I didn’t spend a lot of time with in high school. I don’t have any animosity towards any of them, I just don’t have any desire to see any of them.
Now back when I did Facebook I did join a group that was my high school class and I recognized a lot of their names. The stuff they posted with the typical range of stuff, Many had kids and familes etc. A couple were religious fruitcakes. One ran for Mayor of the burg I grew up in.
Haven't been invited. Really small school, for all I know there hasn't been a reunion
No.
A billion years ago, someone added me on Facebook and I accepted because I thought it was someone else. Then I realised it was someone who graduated alongside me and they were in a group organising a reunion and I blocked that shit so fast. One of the last things I did on FB.
Since leaving Facebook, I'm pretty sure I'm untraceable for anyone from back then so if they get any ideas about inviting that girl that most of them used to think was weird and best avoided, they're shit out of luck. I don't want to meet any of those people and those that I might tolerate for a bit don't balance it out.
No. Don't think I was even invited to any.
I'm not close to anyone from high school. I haven't talked to anyone from that era in years. I wasn't my best self back then, and I don't really want to relive it.
I was interested in attending my 10 year but I guess no one actually organized it so there wasn't one to go to.
I'm not even sure if my school had one, so no.
I did not go to mine. But I did watch Grosse Point Blank last night, still holds up.
I dont know if my school even has them. I wont be going anyway even if i find out they do. Theres only a handful of people I'd want to see and they've got just as much Internet access as me. If there was anything worth talking to eachother for we would have done it by now. I don't want to force stuff and have it be weird.
And the majority that I really don't want to see I guarantee are all "doing better" than me. It turns out being smart and getting good grades doesnt mean shit if your dad isnt already a big wheel at the cracker factory.
My graduating class had seven people in it. Three of my classmates were from different foreign countries. One of the remaining is in prison. Oh, and the school closed the year after we graduated.
As far as I know there's never been discussions of a reunion, but I also moved far away and don't use social media lol
Definitely, and enjoyed each one. I went to school in a tiny town where there is one school K-12. A classmate owns a winery, so we all get together there from time to time.
I looked for info about my 20 year reunion and couldn't find anything, so I didn't go and I'm not bothered one way or the other. I guess it might be cool to see some folks again, but no guarantee they come.
Going back to Bob Jones as a pansexual atheist is not particularly high on my agenda.
No, because disaster struck. My high school’s tradition is that the graduating class hosts the reunion party in a decade, and everyone else who can attend is invited. When it was our turn, a weather disaster struck our hometown, so the reunion was canceled and we donated the pooled funds instead.
Never. For the 10 year I did go to the bar in town where I was certain everyone I was interested in catching up with would be.
After that - pretty much moved on from those people and that town completely.
I guess this year would be the 30 year actually - hadn’t even considered that until replying to this post 🤔
No, there was like four people that I actually liked the rest of them can get in the sea.
Actually they're probably all right now but they're not a tits when they were kids, but I have no desire to find out.
Not at all. I graduated a semester early and moved to a nearby city where I immediately lost all my friends from high school. A few years later I moved across the country and never looked back.
I think I went to my 5-year as I was going to be in the area anyway, but nothing after thati only attended that school for one year, but still had some good memories. This was before Facebook and I think even myspace. I actually moved my final year of highschool so most of my memories of that one we're good.
My class has been kind of shit at getting the word out about reunions. There was allegedly a 5 year reunion but no one I know got an invite to it. I think it was kind of unofficial but together by a specific group of friends
10 years rolled around, they did a little better for that one, but I still didn't hear about it until it was too late to RSVP, so instead I met up with them like 3 people from my class I still talk to and went and had a couple drinks somewhere.
15 years I kept my ear to the ground, and did actually find it early enough. Decided I didn't want to go but did my part to try to get the word out to whoever I could in case they were interested. Met up with the same three friends again instead.
We'll have 20 coming up soon, and I expect my plans will be mostly the same.
AFAIK we only had a ten year reunion. It was okay. I haven’t seen anyone from my high school class since then
I never had any interest in hanging out with anyone from high school except my wife. I never saw the point of going to a reunion.
The 5th year reunion happened on the same day as my wedding. Haven't heard anything about any others since then.
40th will be in a couple years. I won't go.
Hell no
Never have, despite living within the same school district I graduated from currently. I don't cling to people like that. I did attend a "hey, so-and-so is back in town for a minute" party. I didn't know any of them or have anything in common with them, or even talk much.
I ran into the daughter of someone I was on the diving team with. She was nice but looked a bit uncomfortable when I said to tell her dad I said hi, and had no idea her dad even was on the diving team.
I'm just a private person. I wouldn't hate catching up with someone one on one, but I can't imagine attending a big event and doing it 50+ times in a night with people who likely haven't spared a thought for me since 1991. Maybe I'm the asshole, but I don't care what they're up to and it would be weird if they pretended to care about me.
I quit high school in grade 10, and I was still more literate than the graduating peers of my youth. After writing my GED and going to university, I went on to qualify for disability.
Went to one. The most recent I was like "I'm not driving 3 hours for a potluck at a sand green golf course I didn't like playing when I lived nearby." And the people I cared about seeing were in the same boat.
Mine never even had one.