What word or term annonys you?
Please don't think I'm here to complain about rizz or skibidi toilet etc. Thats all fine by me.
The term I dislike strongly is 'eeeh' before you make a statement disagreeing with someone. (This is over text only). Now maybe I've been pavloved bc it's always used by someone disagreeing. But I'm happy with people disagreeing with me normally its just the 'eeeh' or 'erm' that annoys me.
So what's a random term that annoys you?
PS. Saying "eeeh actually 'eeh' is a perfectly fine term" would be a ridiculously easy joke and I will judge you for making it. And I know atleast one person will. Especially bow that I've said all this.
Especially in news headlines: slams, blasts, mind-blowing, hack (or lifehack)
I'm sure there are others, but that's all my brain can handle at the moment.
@CuddlyCassowary ABSOLUTELY DESTROYS this topic!
"BREAKING:"
It's always superlatives, even for the most mundane and boring things
I really like your username btw... I now wanna cuddle a cassowary and/or you
Aww, thanks! I tried to find a very uncuddly animal and show it some love. Their claws (talons?) are terrifying.
They're beautiful creatures, though
Like living dinosaurs. So cool!
Ah all the typical clickbait words. I hate them too. Lifehack in particular is a word I'm sick of now
"I could care less" to mean "I could NOT care less"
Thing is... this sort of makes sense if you say it with a hint of sarcasm. But curiously the only people that use this phrase are Americans. And we all know how much they understand sarcasm 🤣.
I sometimes say "I could care less, but not by much"
This exactly! I always get so confused when people say that.
Is it really confusing? You know what they mean
In the example I gave it was pretty clear, but in other phrases it can get pretty confusing
https://youtu.be/om7O0MFkmpw?si=tKM8xq1MLdvvkxa_
Same with "Do you mind doing x?" "Yeah sure"; so you mind doing it? I get what they mean with the response, but it annoys me every time haha
I’ve always interpreted it as meaning that I care so little for something I can’t even be bothered to put the effort in to not care about it as much as I should… but, yeah, it’s used incorrectly way too often and makes no sense most of the time.
"Ding ding ding!" When someone agrees with something you wrote, but wants to make sure that you know that they already knew and claim ownership of the statement that you wrote. Condesending asshole. I did not arrive at your opinion late.
"Meanwhile" in cooking recipes. Just no. I am following a recipe in stepwise order. You do not get to tell me what I should have already done in the previous step.
The entire way recipes are written is trash.
"Add the flour and stir gently": How much flour? Why do I have to scroll back up to check?!
It makes sense to have the ingredients first for making a shopping list and prepping. However, I do agree, with recipes being online, it should be a small task to include the quantity in the description too, even if it is adjustable for different servings.
Because the amounts can vary based on the number of servings, but the method doesn't.
I'm doubling the amounts anyway, just give them to me in-line!
As much as I despise the fat-tongued mockney, Jamie Oliver's website is the only one I've seen that has the ingredients and method on two tabs so you can flick between them
Dunno why they're not all like that
Normally, portioning out the ingredients would be the first step of the process and is all done at once.
Probably not normally, but ideally. I doubt mise en place is all that common in most homes.
I see that you don't bake much. 🙂
I bake quite a bit and I don't do my mise-en-place either when it comes to baking, but that's not a problem. The way recipes are formatted works well for my process as well. I read through the steps ahead of time if it's a recipe I am unfamiliar with, then I'll just have the ingredients list open while I'm doing the prep. The things I make are pretty basic (cookies, cakes, muffin, etc) and the steps are all identical. Mix wet, mix dry, mix everything, bake.
I personally find that having less repeated information makes things easier and faster to read. The recipe says "add flour", you know that it's all the flour. If the recipe says "add flour (1 cup)", then I have to check back in the ingredients list to figure out if that's all the flour or only part of it. Then the more info you add to clarify, the harder it is to skim while you're cooking.
I agree that many recipes are poorly written. Especially non professional stuff from the web.
Still, I'd hate to prepare anything without having weighed all my ingredients beforehand.
How many tablespoons do you think I own?
Oooh yeah. Even saying, 'this'.
This. It's so useless. I downvote it automatically.
"Earth calls Mars"
'Should of" instead of "should've"
Oh God that's got to be the worst one.
This guy helped a lot of people from coming off stupid
https://theoatmeal.com/comics/misspelling
People getting brake and break mixed up annoys me, but I get it. If this is you, your car has brakes and you take a break from work after breaking your arm.
Upskill. I'm not 'upskilling' someone, I'm training them.
I’m allergic to corpospeak in general.
Can we sync on that real quick? I think we can ideate on some quick wins for your allergy that'll get you unblocked.
Mama, momma, mommas…
“Hey Facebook mommas, I’ve got a question about…”
I don’t know why, but it annoys the shit out of me.
Similarly, not a fan of when teachers and parents talk about their "kiddos."
Feels like they're needlessly using a more playful childish term to make themselves part of a separate "in group" who "gets it."
I hadn’t thought about that one. I occasionally use the word kiddo, but only to say, “hey kiddo!” I never use it to talk about my kids, like “we took the kiddos to the park yesterday.”
Yeah, it's specifically the not talking to a kid version that bothers me.
I pick up a subtext of self-importance and I think that's what I find irksome. A mom is a parent. A momma is a special parent who will do anything for their baby, you'd better watch out. A kid is a child. A kiddo is a specific child who has a close bond with their momma or teacher that you wouldn't understand. That's the vibe I get.
I'd like to introduce to my friend Freud.
I don’t think it’s some latent psychological issue. I get along great with my mom, and I’ve never felt any resentment toward her. I’m also not bothered by words like mom, moms, mother, etc. I don’t even mind when my sons call my wife “mommy.” It’s just that one word, “momma,” that bugs me. I wish I had an explanation.
Oh no I didn't mean that. Twas just a joke.
(I also dislike twas)
Enshittification. Everyone just learned a new word and has to use it at least once in every comment section to feel smart.
I'm also sick of it, but I also sort of like how it's gone viral. I had a very non-techy friend mention it to me the other day. I feel like most of the people who I see talking about it are jazzed because it makes them feel seen. My friend, for example, said to me that before she learned of "enshittification", she felt like she was going mad because of how things don't seem to work like they used to, especially in tech; she said that for the longest time, she had assumed it must be something that she was doing wrong.
Marxists have a hundred years of text dedicated to alienation from labor, the falling rate of profit, degeneration of art and creative disciplines under later capitalism due to the profit motive, cycles of class struggle, all based on a materialist analysis of changing production and class relationsi
But for some reason a trendy term like enshittification that vaguely means things are getting worse, without going into the basis about why they're currently getting worse, has caught on.
I'm convinced it's part of the tech grifter trend to take things that were already invented, slap a new name on it, repackage it, and sell it.
I suggest you read up a bit on how and by whom the term was coined and what it actually means. It's by no means 'vague' and it is also a bit more than just repackaging and selling something already known. I suspect many people using the term aren't even fully aware of what it describes and, crucially, what is being proposed to reduce the effects it describes.
Sure, but 80% of people stopped reading after that first word because of “socialism”
But yet it explains so much about the modern world. All this time we’ve been abused and mistreated, had our data collected and income extracted in so many scammy ways ….. and now we have a word that fits it so perfectly
OK yeah
im still a bit salty about 'literally'
also the constant failure to say 'i could not care less' correctly
That never bothered me all too much. Then yesterday i watched a video on youtube to kinda doze off. Dude made some insane stuff in Minecraft. Now i usually don't really watch these videos or Minecraft videos in general. But the production value, time and effort that went into it was beyond everything i have seen so far. The usage of the word literally kept me awake. Every time i had to flinch and at some point i had to turn it off, despite my interest.
I literally could not care less about literally. MANY words over time end up meaning the opposite of what they did, its just the nature of how humans use language. I love that we've seen this change happen right in front of us.
Eeh, you have a point, but on the other hand, if the word meaning "literally" no longer means "literally" then we need a new definitive term for the concept.
And we don't have one. We just have a word that is becoming more ambiguous every year
I don't appreciate the revenge 😭 (I do)
congratulations
I presume you must've seen em all Lucy
im just so happy you also have opinions. congrats
You could remove 99.9% of instances of “literally” and it wouldn’t change the meaning of the sentence at all. It’s just like “um” by now.
RIP "literally"
Someone could take all the answers here and create a copypasta equivalent of fingernails on a chalkboard.
I cringe so hard at the twitterist carebear-hugbox way of smugly claiming the intellectual high ground and shaming somebody:
"Be better." or "Do better."
The sentiment isn't terrible, but it's prevalent use is obviously just dripping with arrogance and thrown out in the most petty ways. Ugh!
They're the same types that appear in comment threads with contradictory arguments to literally fucking anything -
"We should save the whales"
"Yes but my cousin got splashed by a whale on a boat trip as a toddler and now has a terrible phobia that makes her wheeze whenever she sees one. Do you want that, is that what you want?"
"We should plan walkable cities"
"OH MY GOD SHES IN A WHEELCHAIR TOO DO YOU ONLY EVER THINK ABOUT YOURSELF YOU ABLEIST"
😂
My theory is that they're just unbelievably bo-o-o-o-oring, humourless people with nothing to add to a conversation but a desperate need for attention
The wheelchair one (whilst obvious hyperbole) is a great example of why this rhetoric isn't useful.
Often people who say we should plan walkable cities don't consider what that would mean for wheelchair users and other disabled people, because they don't have the lived experience to think along those lines. So it would actually be super useful if someone could say "okay, but what about wheelchair users?" in a constructive way, because there are additional considerations re: pedestrianisation and public transport. Disabled people are way too often treated like an inconvenience or obstacles to progress, and that's fucking exhausting, so it's useful to have allies who ask "hey, what about disabled people tho"
The people your comment is about don't do this. As you highlight, they make things about themselves, and if anything, this makes it harder to have productive conversations about what a 'walkable city' for everyone would look like. I suspect that for many of these people, it's based on a nugget of good intentions inside a blob of insecurity and dread at the state of the world; they feel like they're not doing enough so they resort to very loudly virtue signalling in the most bizarre ways.
See?
The "whilst obvious hyperbole" bit is the clue. The two situations/comments/opinions are just examples, never happened and never will
It wouldn't have mattered what examples I'd made up, someone like you would come along and go "wELL aKShULLy"
Fucksake!
My dude, I'm agreeing with you
Edit: effectively I was saying that I agree with you that there seems to be a particular kind of person who is overly contrarian, very loud and impossible to have productive discussions with.
I felt like the wheelchair example you picked was a great example of how this happens "in the wild". I wanted to build on your comment by using that example to elaborate on how these contrarian types cause harm, even if they might seem to be concerned and well-intentioned. I found the wheelchair example to be a good one because it is actually something that I've seen happen multiple times.
I feel that your reply is an unfair characterisation of my comment. Given how the internet's communication norms can prime us to read and respond to things in an overly adversarial manner (especially as it's clear from your original comment that you've got way too much experience with silly argumentative types, so I sympathise), I am hoping that your response was based on a misinterpretation of my comment and/or me being insufficiently clear in what I originally wrote (apologies if so).
No, you don't have a "challenge" for me. You have a problem and are trying to make it mine.
Man if that isn't just empty manager-speak, rephrasing things to BS you and be manipulative. Lol
"I'm just sayin'" ok but you're still an asshole.
It’s always to mitigate something heinous. “I’m just sayin’, Mussolini made the trains run on time.”
Also "Not gonna lie..." to start a sentence. Well thank you for that decency?
This one makes me crazy. And I've heard it so much I've caught myself saying it which makes me angry with myself.
"Know what I'm sayin'?"
"Not really. Do you know what you're saying?"
YES
Places using "gluten-friendly" to mean "gluten-free". I am gluten-UNfriendly. I do not want gluten. They've tried to be cute and actually managed to make the term mean the opposite of what it's supposed to.
I bake a lot of bread, including for my coeliac stepmother, so I've taken to labelling the loaves gluten-free and gluten-expensive
The corporate overenthusiasm "LET'S FUCKING GOOOOO".
Ugh. Sure, maybe the product launch went great, but still. Ugh.
Any corporation or even companies social media account being memey is annoying.
I just hate it when people try to elongate the word GO with more Os.
It’s now a new word. It’s GOO. Any further Os just make it gooier, not goier.
Can we just mean corporate speak in general. I can’t fucking stand all the buzzwords that get tossed around
"It is what it is"
I get the sentiment behind it, it's just usually so defeatist/dismissive of a situation to me.
That’s now how people in my subculture use it.
They use it to mean “it’s too late to avoid this problem; let’s talk about things we can change at this point”.
Example:
“If you hadn’t stopped at that rest area the killer never would have slashed our tires”
“Well if you hadn’t jumped for those cheap tires maybe he wouldn’t have been able to slash them with a butter knife”
“And if you’d paid for the triple A we’d have a ride by now”
“Look, it is what it is. Let’s just figure out a way to get back to town without having to follow the road”
Don't leave us hanging! Finish the story! Please let the person that said "it is what it is" die a gruesome, dark, and slow death. But not me because I didn't really say it.. I was quoting, and that doesn't count.
I’m currently going through a pretty bad divorce where my wife cheated on me, drained my accounts, lawyered up and send a letter demanding $280,000 and isn’t signing documents or responding to her legal council.
I’d love to get it all finalised and end that chapter of my life but realistically I can’t force her to do anything. I can’t make her sign documents, I can’t make her talk to her lawyer. So ultimately it is what it is.
Frankly, that saying has (since our separation) become an anthem to me. I can understand why you’d think it’s defeatism etc if it’s someone speaking of something they can legitimately do something about but truely sometimes it really is what it is.
Lemme get that shark cootchie board of curated meats
I feel like museums should get a pass on this one.
But along these lines, I’m SO over “bespoke.”
10 years ago I learnt that southern New Zealand slang uses bespoke or custom as an indicator of poor quality. Someone shittly welded a tow ball onto their car, that's a 'custom job'.
Your poorly assembled second hand IKEA bookshelf that's falling apart and well fucked? A bespoke piece of furniture.
Those words have never bothered me since. Thanks kiwis.
It's never a mistake, it's performance art.
Theres a hairdressers near me that is "Bespoke hair artistry" or some other pretentious bullshit.
I just threw up in my mouth a little.
Its not as bad as the overpriced clothing store "Bazaar Boutique Emporium"
Which is basically all white linen clothing.
Would you settle for a single clergyman?
I don't even like when people say that in context of a playlist on a music streaming platform...
I mean maybe they spent a lot of time picking individual songs but it's still just a digital playlist, nothing that special IMO
I actually love the word curate :(
Unless used pretentiously. But then any word is annoying
Not a term, but a lack thereof:
People I have to regularly interact with for work have been excluding "to be", especially with "needs", and it's infuriating.
Those sound so wrong
To quote Shakespeare, "Or not?"
My brother-in-law says the dishes "need washed" and it's nails on a goddamn chalkboard every time I hear it.
More of a grammatical mistake, but "should of" instead of "should've" or "should have" annoys the hell out of me for some reason. I completely get how people make the mistake, but it's more effort than just typing it correctly.
I judge the shit out of people for this. It suggests that they don't even grasp the meaning of the words they are typing or saying.
I work as a barista and get much too annoyed by people ordering a "regular coffee".
Like I know that 99.999% of the time they mean a drip/filter coffee (excluding that one lady that one time who was surprised I didn't parse "regular coffee" as a latte), but like can you just say drip coffee? Or even simply "coffee"!
I honestly don't even know why it annoys me this much.
I'm a waitress and "regular coffee" means different things across regions. Some people mean just "drip, not decaf" with no indication of cream or sugar. Some people mean "drip, black" with no indication of caffeine content. And where I grew up, "regular" means "2 cream 2 sugar", as in you'd be asked if you wanted your coffee "regular or black". It's the worst.
That latte lady was just crazy though... unless she meant "my regular"?
Ah, the four basic types of coffee, Regular, Posh, Italian and Wrong.
Personally I’m a fan of Irish coffee, but most coffee bars seem to frown on busting out the whiskey at 8a.
Regular coffee is a coffee. People say regular coffee because they've gotten fatigue from "which type?" questions. I'm more annoyed that the understanding of coffee has shifted away from the default just being an espresso. Over here in Spain if you ask for cafe you'll get a cafe solo.
Here a regular coffee would mean a milk based drink. Something like a cappuccino but not quite. Nestle ass drink.
This sounds delicious. Where is here so I can be there?
Pakistan, OK actually more dalgona than cappuccino
Okay, I've never even heard of a Dalgona before, and that sounds incredible. Like somewhere basically incredible hot chocolate is the default coffee
Where do you think?
“To be fair…”
“Cyber” 🙄
I thought you'd never ask!
Oh yeah absolutely. I'm a programmer and I see so many companies and recruiters etc use Cyber instead of Cybersecurity. It drives me absolutely mad, but these type of people drive me mad anyways. It's probably the same crowd who ruined AI by overhyping it into its grave, the same crowd who were hyped by web 3.0 and the whole Blockchain craze, and probably all those other dumb crazes before it.
Still, this cyber thing seems to permeate everything, and I've heard people using the term who I otherwise respect. For me it's a quick way to instantly become very sceptical of whatever follows the term
Ironic considering your username is almost an ASL
American Sign Language?
Age, Sex, Location. It's shorthand from old chatrooms. Used to strike up a conversation which could lead to cyber (short for cybersex).
Nah, it's an HTTP error.
So many things. In written form, I hate when someone writes "Period." after they make a point to mean "this can't be argued" or whatever. My good bitch, I don't think you understand how arguing works. 😆
"Full stop" is a close second.
It's a perfectly valid way to win an argument, end of sentence.
Ha serves me right ✌🏻
Q.E.D.
Q👏E👏D👏
That's fine as long as you don't spell out the periods. 😆
By the by, I'd love to be the guy with the confidence to end an argument with "thus it is proven". That'd be epic. I think I've only ever used QED humorously or ironically.
If you don’t have the periods it could just be someone saying qed really loud
Would that be pronounced KED or KWED I wonder? Or maybe just a large belch. 😆
"Hands down"
Yes ugh 😩
People using double negatives incorrectly. Like "I didn't do nothing!"
I'm so pleased to hear you admit that you did it. Your honesty is appreciated.
I ain’t talkin to nobody without my lawyer!
I didn't do no nothing wrong now, didn't I?
You don't deserve your existence
I'm afraid to say I kind of like that, although don't particularly use it much.
Ironically, the phrase "rustles my jimmies" really burns my biscuits.
I like both Rustles my jimmies and burns my biscuits, although I'm not sure I've ever heard it
The replacement of the term “conspiracy theory” with just “conspiracy”.
That’s two different things. If we equate the two semantically we can’t discuss them.
Which is exactly what they don't want us to be able to discuss.
Sounds like exactly the kind of duckspeak conspiracy I’ve come to expect around here
you can't just say Perchance
Perchance is a great word though. I think I'd probably use it if I knew how to do so appropriately in a sentence (though I imagine only a fraction of people who do use that word use it properly. That tends to be the case with formal or archaic words used in informal contexts)
People ending sentences with “rn”.
I'm literally doing that rn
My son started saying "what the sigma?" constantly. I've tried to figure out where it came from and only landed on some "Sigma Male" shit on youtube.
Drives me nuts.
Get a new son
Yeah, just "sigma" goes back to sigma male claptrap. But as with all internet memes, it evolved super rapidly and took on layers. "Sigma" started to mean just "the best", not in reference to male hierarchy necessarily. Then there was a cartoon clip with Squidward from SpongeBob where he said "what the sigma" and it went viral.
Websearch "what the sigma meme" today and you will get text and video explanations of the meme for old folks like you and me. I prefer ones from teachers who interact with middle schoolers; our frontline troops facing the bleeding edge of internet memespeak.
Start using it yourself. Use it in awkward, wrong, uncool ways. They'll drop that shit like, "What the sigma Dad!?!"
Also use it around your co-workers and peers who have children and would recognize it when you want to really get under their skin, it's skibidi sigma on cap
Bet!
I like bet. It's just saying "You can bet on it" in a fun quick way.
Hit your kids harder, dude.
"Have you ever tried simply turning off the TV, sitting down with your children, and hitting them?".
-Bender Rodriguez
Shut up, baby, I know it.
I think it might be from a SpongeBob SquarePants meme. You might wanna start there. Not sure why that’s tickling my brain.
Oh and I just found this: https://knowyourmeme.com/editorials/guides/whats-erm-what-the-sigma-meme-about-the-catchphrase-and-overstimulation-video-explained
So it looks like started as a TikTok thing and then spread into the SpongeBob world.
I’m not sure why my ADHD brain latched on to this question but I HAD to find the answer. I don’t know if this is definitive but it’s at least a direction.
This one really grinds my gears! I think it's because the person can't even be bothered to describe what they want you to do, just go fix it and don't bother me with any details.
Indian here. Redditors say that Indians say this a lot. I'd like to tell you that while Indians do use this sentence, it's almost always placed only after a long, somewhat-gone-off-tangent-in-some-places conversation that explained everything well.
Maaaaaaybe it was to convince you without describing tasks, but... mostly, it's not so.
Also, I don't remember hearing it IRL at all. Just felt like I have heard it at least twice in my 18 years of humaning around.
But why use such an awkward construction? Why not "please handle this" or "please take care of this"? Or even "please take the necessary steps to address this"? "Please do the needful" is saying Please [VERB] the [ADJECTIVE]. But the correct construction is to verb a noun. So you need a noun (e.g., "this") to act on.
And additionally, "needful" is an adjective, and rarely ever used anyway. For example, you could probably describe a homeless person as "needful", but it sounds awkward, and most people would say "needy" or "in need."
Peeeeeeople whoooo aaare not naaaaatiiiiiiiive!
Speakeeeeeeeeeeers!
Utilize, when they mean Use.
ｌｅｖｅｒａｇｅ
and they even have subtly different meanings that the talker often doesn't seem to realize.
you use something for what it's meant for. use a bucket to carry water.
you utilize something for something it works fine for, but it's not really the intended use. you utilize a shoe to prop opena window.
let's split the difference: usetilize,
“Beloved” in so many articles. Yes I tend to use a specific browser. No, it is not and never will be “beloved”.
That word is so jarring most of the time and seems to be everywhere online in the last two years. I can only assume it’s some sort of SEO, trying to convince Google it’s a personal article or something. I hope to god it’s not ai assuming that’s what attracts our attention
"At the end of the day..."
At the end of the day, it is night
"Live. Laugh. Love." or similar.
So just like L words?
balls
Maybe it hasn't crossed over the pond yet.
It's a sign usually deployed by left-over women as a kind of personal motto.
It always strikes me as a kind of display of personal conciliation. And then the next thought that occurs is "So what: it is not my concern.".
"The proof is in the pudding." It makes zero sense! The actual adage is, "The proof of the pudding is in the eating." It means that a dessert can look perfect and enticing, but if the cook used salt instead of sugar it will taste disgusting.
I don't know what people even think they're saying with "the proof is in the pudding".
when i was a kid, i figured it was a reference to some now obscure detective story, where a bowl of pudding contained the important clue as to who the killer was or something. it wasn't until much later that i heard of this etymology.
This is now top of my list
"bank grade security" grinds my gears, too
Having worked at actual banks, too, don't follow their lead....
Seriously, my bank used to have a password requirement that was 6 characters exactly, no more or less. Plus symbols were completely banned. The reason, it was also your phone password, so in reality it was a 6 digit numeric password where they interpreted the T9 letters as numbers.
When people say 'like' constantly between sentences or sentence fragments or before every adjective.
And (they) still can't understand similes.
Influencer
I quite like influencer I think it's good that they are called what they are being paid to do and not trying to hide. It's surprising honestly from a very dishonest industry.
Well, that’s a very interesting take on that and I never quite thought of it that way. Thank you
I recently heard someone say after they almost accidentally went in a wrong building entrance, "Good thing I didn't do that or I would regret my life choices."
A bit much for something minor that created no more than two seconds of awkwardness.
I unreasonably hate the word "moreover". I see no reason why you wouldn't use the words "also", "additionally", or even "furthermore" that sound way better when read.
Every stupid phrase that redditors compulsively say on every thread.
Bemused
It's used incorrectly so often that even when I suspect it's being used correctly I can't be sure. At this point its ambiguity makes it a bad word choice.
What's the correct usage? and the wrong one you've been hearing?
It means puzzled and/or confused.
Many authors seem to think it means amused mixed with some confusion or puzzlement or something else like that.
Some dictionaries have started to include definitions along those lines, which is correct to do if that is becoming a common usage. But that makes the word bullshit because it no longer conveys a clear meaning. Unlike some words that gain new meanings through misuse, it's usually not clear which meaning is intended from context. Usually I can easily imagine a character's response to something to be either of these definitions so I often can't understand the author's intention. I often find myself taken out of the story while I try to understand which meaning I should use. Because of this I think the word has become useless and shouldn't be used.
Correct: confused or perplexed
Incorrect: amused
Cleanse. it's a less efficient way to spell clean.
Oh come on you juicy dangler, you're not going to tell us the word and acronym?
Using the phrase "serious question" or "honest question" will make me immediately assume your question is the exact opposite of that. Probably I'm overreacting, but expecting that anyone might respect that declaration you've made about your own question, that gives me narcissist vibes.
Sometimes it's meant like "I'm about to ask what might sound like a dumb question, but I'm genuinely asking, so please take me seriously."
Or questions that sound like they're rhetorical, or being asked for provocation's sake, but are being asked in good faith.
Source: I say 'honest question' a lot, and not as a rhetorical device - I just want real answers to questions that might be dumb/asked dishonestly (e.g. as put-downs) in other contexts.
Sometimes it's meant like "I'm about to ask what might sound like a dumb question, but I'm genuinely asking, so please take me seriously."
Exspecially
All intensive purposes
Irregardless
I could care less
I will use irregardless to my dying breath. In fact I go out of my way to use dumb combinations of synonyms all the time, mayhaps, possentially...
That's incredually stupidous.
Perchance there's hope for you yet! Despite this happenstance of negativity.
Wait a minute...
It's "all intents and purposes"
I know, but the others are mistped or logically wrong but close enough to know what they meant and this one just has a completely different meaning unrelated to the context it is used.
It stood out from the crowd.
So like … what’s your answer?
Never mind I found it
...took the effort to nvm-d the post, but did not share how, where, or what etc
"Oftentimes"
Its always interchangeable with Often. Just use Often.
The exception that proves the rule.
People use it in a way where counterexample proofs that the rule exist when it's supposed to mean that the rule also handles exceptional cases.
Queer. Not all gay men (the one group I can safely speak about) like to be associated with an ex-slur and its connotations.
I am someone who really likes the term for myself, because it can encompass a whole bunch of complex identities across gender and sexuality. It feels like it simplifies things for me, and has helped me to properly understand the necessity of LGBTQ solidarity. There have been times when I have been told it's inappropriate for me to personally identify as queer because some people find the term offensive, which I find absurd because such a large and heterogeneous community will never be unanimous on what terms or labels to use.
However, much more frequently than that, I have seen people being insensitive to the reality that there are a ton of people who have pretty legitimate beef with the term and who don't want it applied to them. I'm talking about situations like "queer folk like us " or "the queer community". It's a pretty reasonable request if someone says "hey, if you're referring to a group that involves me, I'd prefer you not use queer as a blanket term". The appropriate response to that is "I'm sorry, my bad", but I have seen way too many people start arguments that actually the (usually but certainly not always) older gay men are obstacles to Progress.
I like the way that a friend of mine framed it when he said that he's actively jazzed to see a word that did such harm being reclaimed by a new generation who are finding great power and solidarity in it. But that's never going to erase the sting he still feels when remembering being victimised for years by people who'd shout that word. "You can't reclaim a slur if you ignore all its history and disown the members of your community who experienced it as a slur".
It boggles my mind that there are people who are heavy advocates of the power of self determination of one's identity, but who don't see the issue in forcing the label of "queer" onto individuals who have expressly rejected it.
I've always thought queer had 2 connotations. The first being the slur. The second is a catch all for someone not lgbt or someone who doesn't know what they are yet.
Agreed!
But there's also a certain expectation of "flamboyance" from the gay community, or you're "not gay enough" and I think a lot of self-identifying queer peeps are to blame.
On top of the poor history of the word, I just don't want to be associated with colourfulness and energy because that's simply not who I am. People from outside looking into LGBTQ+ assume that that's who gay men need to be because of media representation... It makes me tired.
actually huge pet peeve when people write out erm at all. also poor public speaking really bothers me. slow, with "um"s and "so like"s, monotone. really, really makes a work meeting drag by
IM SORRY ITS MY SECOND LANGUAGE. THIRD TECHNICALLY.
tbh ive seen incredible speeches by nonnative speakers because you can feel their passion and effort. the worst presentations at work you can just feel the laziness. i get lazy too, dont get me wrong, but they drag out SO LONG. just spit it out so i can take my desk nap 😭
"It is what it is."
It is lazy, circular, a cop out and means next to nothing. Vague enough to pass as a wise quip, to some. It is not.
Also not so much a saying per sé, but people who use quotes of famous people at the bottom or ends of emails. As if that implies a personality. If you are going to use something you think sounds smart, at least try to come up with that something yourself.
I've always interpreted it as being equivalent to "what's done is done"
This is known as a thought terminating cliché. They can be more than just annoying. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thought-terminating_clich%C3%A9
Per se
This one is mine too. It's used in a way that can give it more meaning (mainly, this is something out of our control), but logically the phrase is just corpo filler-speak that means absolutely nothing.
Whatever nonsense gen alpha started saying these days.
Nah that's rizzler shit on God sigma 10k
Supermassive?
Black hole
on the same note, "guesstimate"
Pronouncing realtor like "real-uhh-torrrrr"
"Hence why"
Syntactically makes no sense. Just say "that's why," that's what you are trying to say.
Starting every sentence with "So". "So" being the way to indicate the beginning of a sentence.
I do this too much. My defence is that I am a bad writer who's working to be better.
Can I suggest joining "the Toastmasters" https://www.toastmasters.org/ . I found it very educational. I learned that was rushing to fill the "dead air" before I had fully formed my thought (read:sentence).
All my "um"s and "er"s disappeared. You will be fine.
Thanks for the recommendation, I'm always glad to discover new resources. I'm also forever cursing the fact that science degrees don't put more emphasis on writing and speaking well.
I hear that! Toastmasters was part of my conversation long after it would have been helpful!
Good luck.
Game Changer, a stupid phrase that is so overused it has become meaningless
Game Changer was a game changer.
“Not me” doing something.
Just say you’re doing something, and accept that it may be a bit hypocritical or shameful that you’re doing it.
But that is them accepting it.
The question was “what word or phrase annoys you,” not “do you understand this phrase.”
I know what the phrasing means, it still bugs the shit out of me.
“Hang in there” bothers me for some reason.
Feels like fake caring?
For me it's "I'm offended" or "this offends me". I get it, some topics might be triggering for some people but if you get offended because someone has a different opinion, that's your problem, not the rest of the world problem.
Trump, Zuckerberg, Musk, Gates....
Kevin Gates?
Do you often look out your window and see everything you dream about and wish you had?
I do the "eh" thing sometimes without thinking about it but I agree with you, I don't like being on the other end of it either. I'm trying to work on that
Lemmings. A creature with a (erroneous but nevertheless extant) reputation for idiotically following each other off a cliff to die.
At least the video game lemmings look nothing like real-life ones.
SME (pronounced smee)
My company is flooded with SMEs who aren’t even good, let alone experts at anything
Property, when referring to a house/home.
Property, when referring to a key
Fucking “pre-prepare”. Prepare already means to get ready ahead of time.
"Folks" makes my skin crawl. I feel like it's used to make someone appear friendlier while saying "you people", in the context of being manipulated by someone with power.
It's useful when talking about race issues. Instead of saying white/black people you can say white folk or black folk. It just seems more friendly when discussing something that could be sensitive.
STFU!
'Playing Devil's advocate'.
Mostly because most people who use it do so in glaringly wrong ways.
I disagree. I play the devil's advocate every now and than just to show how biased people can get. I want to introduce some reflection into the discussion so people could at least try to see a different point of view.
Devil's advocacy is supposed to be, ultimately, constructive to the discussion. If that's what you're doing, then good on you. A lot of people just do it to throw a spanner in the works.
"For me"
I know it's your opinion because you're the one saying it. And the construction of it is just weird. "For" me. I dunno.
on the internet everything is true. therefore if you don't preface your thoughts with "CW: opinion" your writing permanently alters reality and people will be angry at you for inconveniencing them.
imho.
Valid opinion on the phrasing. Disagree with the premise that anything someone says is necessarily their opinion.
Example: "For me, potatoes are easier to peel with a knife than a potato peeler" vs "Potatoes are easier to peel with a knife than a potato peeler". The former says that this is my experience and yours may differ. The latter says that this is true in general and if you find it easier the other way, there's a good chance you're doing something wrong.
Holding down the fort.
You hold the fort. It's a military term. It's not taking off if you let go of it.
It could become accurate. I mean, with global warming and extreme weather increasing.
It's not a word but '...' ok... thanks... I guess...
What do you want? Is it on our do you want something else? It's fine...
Cmon.................
"Solidarity" as it's too often used to make others do things you want.
Reason number 201 why teachers are underpaid
Coffe-shop barista voice.
You all know what I mean: that 'I'm trying to make my voice croak but can't manage it." intonation.
Maybe this helps: https://youtu.be/WDfJn1kcQuU
They think I’m Mexican
I hate this too.
pretentious
Enshitification
A meaningless buzzword made up by nostalgia blinded millennials.
Also Saint Patty's day. God dam plastic paddies.
The only thing worse than people misusing the term 'enshittification' are people who criticise that but can't be bothered to get their facts straight.
No, it's not a meaningless buzzword. And no, it was not made up by nostalgic millennials. It would have taken you a mere minute of online research to figure that out yourself.
underwhelming
Not specifically a word, but i hate when people mix english with their native language
Its especially worse when they use words that are nearly identical
Do you mean English loanwords or when people switch back & forth?
When people switch between the two languages
Moist
im takin it back
"cis" I feel like it's an extra term for "straight". The "default" for lack of a better term (and one that isn't othering) is near the not trans & not gay part of the gender / sexuality spectra. To me everyone in that zone is "straight" (boring/default/whatever).
"begs the question" because people exclusively use it wrong. Just say "leads to the question" or "poses the question."
And I'm still really salty about everyone giving up on the term "literally" to allow it to mean its exact opposite.
There is a better term, it's 'cis'
Cis and straight are... Entirely different axes, though. How would you describe someone who is cis and gay, or trans and straight while applying "straight" to both sexual orientation and gender identity?
I find "cis" useful, personally. I'm bisexual, so certainly "straight" isn't applicable. In a lot of contexts I'd use "cis" to refer to myself, I suppose "not trans" would also work, but it'd be clunkier.
Plus, there are times when the thing I want to centre in my communication is the cisgender perspective that I have. For example, I was recently discussing with a friend that seeing trans friend's gender euphoria improved my own relationship to my gender because it made me ask myself whether cis people could experience gender euphoria and if so, why couldn't I recall any instances of experiencing it?
I feel like the term "cisgender" implicitly acknowledges that voices and experiences like mine are important in building a shared understanding of gender — i.e. trans people aren't the only ones who have a gender. Like, obviously I can't speak directly about trans experiences, but that doesn't mean that I'm expected to shut up and contribute nothing to the wider conversation.
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“Cis” is not an extra term for straight any more than “trans” is. These terms have nothing to do with sexual orientation. If you can handle the word “straight,” as opposed to “boring/default/whatever,” then you can also handle the word “cis” by the same logic.