I am so fatigued with so much negativity that happens in the world and in my personal life as well. I have become numb to the topics I used to care such as politics, equal rights, environment and so on: I just want my day to end and that's it. I don't think I'm depressed tho (I used to and I know what it is like).

I don't know what to do. What would you suggest doing? Thank you.

XMPP and Matrix are very similar protocols that aim to accomplish roughly the same things. I'm looking to install a server on my (quite powerful) home server in order to communicate with my tech-savy friends and my girlfriend.

I would like to use the "perfect" one between the two, but I can't come to a decision.

Pros of Matrix

• Has more functionalities (albeit as far as I know XMPP can do pretty much the same with its extensions)
• It is JSON-based which helps reduce overhead, not by much, but it's free lunch
• I can't set cryptography wrong since it's built-in
• Messages and conversations can be synchronized from other servers if mine goes down for a short while. Its state seems generally stronger than XMPP's

Pros of XMPP

• More lightweight
• Less metadata leaks and supports aliases in public MUCs
• It's more "open" (less centralized)

Which one would you pick? We don't need to shield ourselves against the CIA but I'm a privacy freak so I'd like to pretend we do. Thank you.

I work in a software house where everyone uses AI. Some of them can't even write a single line of code, let alone analyze it. I was shocked when I saw their work is CTRL-A, CTRL-V into Claude and CTRL-V into the IDE without a single neuron being activated. They even ask it to summarize and generate a response for 3 lines of text in a Slack message! (Partially because they don't know what they're doing and partially because they're too lazy to think).

Well, everyone talks enthusiastically about AI, some have unrealistic expectations (thinking that it's actually intelligent, when it is not) but what bothers me is that they're indeed faster than me so sometimes I think "why am I even resisting?". Well the answer is that I love to keep my brain active and having the control of what I'm doing. Does anyone else feel kinda similar? Am I in the wrong?

P.S. Also I just want to point out that I've seen with my own eyes the deterioration of cerebral functions in people who heavily rely on AI. I'm not talking about just "forgetting how to code" but I see them losing space awareness (invading personal space, sitting like a liquid on the chair), self awareness (loudly burping, hoarding half-drank bottles of water on the desk), focus and they're easily irritable. It's multiple people behaving like that and they weren't like this before. AI is a drug.

Hi, I'm 27 years old and I'm a software developer at a particularly toxic family-run software company, and I absolutely want to make a change.

I'm also trying to graduate. I'm halfway through and I think it'll take me several more years.

My goals, which are mutually exclusive, are to earn enough to move out on my own, graduate, and travel the world since I've barely left my hometown and I'm almost 30. My past life choices have led me to not being the person I wish I was

My concerns are:

• Should I look for a part-time job so I can have more time to study even though I'm close to being 30?

• Should I look for a remote job so I can travel in the meantime?

• Should I join a consulting firm (e.g. Accenture) to expand my skills since they're very demanding, or should I join a firm focused on a single product to continue on the knowledge I have (.Net) even if it's not very specialized?

I'd be very grateful to anyone who can guide me...

I feel the need to help people in need. I am witnessing so many people dying around me and I see that the only thing that truly matters in life is to leave a better world behind us.

The problem is that I have a full time job and I couldn't find any organization I could join at night only or in weekends. The only thing I'm doing is donating to charities but I feel it's not enough.

For information I live in Europe.

I use a 2016 laptop as my server which has an old Nvidia 740M. Albeit slow and old, it's a chip I'd like to use. Unfortunately nothing I tried (Immich AI tagging, local AI etc) supports that. Is there something it could be useful for?

cross-posted from: https://piefed.blahaj.zone/c/wholesome/p/428550/it-s-true

Hi everyone. I am looking for someone to listen and to give my support to. I also suffer from anxiety and I hope we can create a safe space to track our progresses, talk, vent or whathever.

Also I feel that I have the support of nobody and that I am always on my own. I'd really love to feel it from someone.

Since completing my education, I've noticed a decrease in mentally stimulating activities in my daily life. For this reason I've been experiencing a sense of cognitive decline, feeling like my mind isn't being challenged or engaged as much as it used to be. I'm looking for ways to stimulate my brain back. I'm interested in exploring activities that can help, such as reading, puzzles, games, and other intellectually stimulating stuff. Could you recommend some engaging and challenging options to help me get started? Thanks a lot

Hello everyone,

I'm reaching out today because I'm feeling overwhelmed with anxiety as I reflect on the past eight years. I've struggled with mental health issues, including a mild depression as diagnosed by my therapist, and more recently, anxiety. While these issues haven't severely impacted my daily life, I feel that I've stagnated and not made the progress I had hoped for.

During these years, I've remained in the same low-qualified, low-paying job. I dropped out of university due to feelings of inadequacy and never moved out of my parents' house, despite my dream of living abroad. Now, I find myself just going through the motions, waiting for the weekend, which often doesn't bring the joy I expect.

I'm approaching 30 and feel like a failure, a loser, and too old to turn my life around. At the same time, I feel that my problems are trivial and that I shouldn't be posting here. I'm not sure if this is the right community for this kind of post, so I apologize if it isn't. I'm just looking for a bit of advice or resources that might help someone in a similar situation.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

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I enjoy scrolling the local/global feeds but I often come across NSFW content, which despite being blurred, annoys me. Is there a way to completely hide that? Thank you

Whenever I talk or interact with people I feel I don't talk like a "normal" person would nor I feel other people's feelings towards me are positive.

Their interactions with me seem always cold and superficial and it's not their fault. I told that to my psychologist, even asking whether I may be autistic or suffer from other conditions. She said I don't, but heavy neglect affected me when I was a kid and it's not possible for me to become like others, I can just work on myself. The problem is that I don't know how to work on this. I really wish for somebody to point out evey mistake I make when I talk to them so I can know what I'm doing wrong.

Sorry it's probably just venting but I genuinely got tired of that.

Hi everyone. I created this community here on Lemmy because I wish to give others what I have never felt: the love and the support of a father.

My father is alive and well, but I've always felt like he was dead. I've never received support, love, or hugs but I instead received disapproval, criticisms, insults and high expectations from him. I remember telling kids in elementary school I had no dad.

I am at an age where this should not affect me. I am an adult with his own life but I am unable to feel indifferent to it. His words (or the lack thereof) still affect me. I want him to be proud of me, at least once in my lifetime, and whenever I try to say something that I think will make him proud, I always leave disappointed telling myself "never try again".

My mother was emotionally unavailable too as she has a schizophrenia diagnosis. I don't know what I am looking for by writing this post, maybe just some nice words.

I still wish to be someone's cherished son. Thank you for reading.

Edit: Thank you to all, really. Your thoughtful comments warm up my heart.

As you can see, there are "1 new reply" and "3 more replies" buttons but if I press them nothing happens. It's not a problem of my app (Voyager btw) because the same happens on the lemmy.world website.

The problem is not this particular post, but almost under every post I encounter this issue. Does it happen to anyone else? What causes this?

Kim Jong Un is a dumbass

Israeli assailants set homes and vehicles ablaze in three West Bank Palestinian villages and pelted Palestinian cars with rocks on Sunday night

I will start first

• I didn't notice my diy NAS motherboard had Pci-E Gen 2.0 (old gen) before buying it. It's not a great limitation (still 500MB/s) for the two spinning disks I have on it, but it'd be if I will decide to switch to SSDs
• I cheaped out on the PSU. I bought another one without waiting for that crap to burn down so I eventually spent more
• I often break the software. Sometimes I kill the OS or mess with some BTRFS pools

Sometimes I just feel not adequate for it. Does this kind of things happen to you too?