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Man, i can't deny that you have a valid point, but from a practical standpoint: does it matter, if it makes you happy?
I was never on the fence about wanting kids. I had a shitty childhood and my guiding purpose was always to rectify that by making sure my kids grew up with the support and resources they needed that I didn't have. And I sacrificed a lot to make that happen - while all my friends were enjoying their 20s, I was grinding my career, hard, to make sure I could pull it off.
I wouldn't go back and change a single thing. Yeah, the early years sucked. Yeah, it was a huge risk either way for my wife. Yeah, I could have traveled more or used all that money for stuff for ourselves. I think what I got instead was infinitely more valuable.
I'm sorry that we live in a bullshit world where financial constraints even make this a problem for people. Having kids should be a slam dunk easy decision if it weren't for those implications, and modern medicine has drastically lowered infant and maternal mortality (not enough to trivialize it, but it's not killing 30% of women like it used to).