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My sober partner got absolutely smashed while out with friends. They're going to have to sleep it off in their car, I'm not sure how to navigate (more in body)
Hey, that’s a difficult situation for you and I hope you‘re still alright. It is touching that you try to be there for your partner even though they‘ve had a relapse. Firstly I want to encourage you to look out for yourself. You are their partner not their therapist. And it’s better for you both if it stays that way. Of course you can help them if you can but this is still something they have to manage themselves with the help of professionals. Especially so when you write that they get angry under the influence. But then, addiction is a chronic disease and relapses are a part of it. It’s important what they think about it once they are sober again. And it’s good that you’ve set boundaries to keep you safe. You should tell them again what your boundaries are once they’re sober again, maybe encourage them to seek help, tell them you’re there for them as a partner but that you can’t fix and their addiction and can’t tolerate them consuming. It is good for them to see your anger and your love. I hope they and you will see through this! Source: studying to be a social worker to work with addicts.