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6 ways to emotional regulation (according to Neuropsychology)

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"I've got demons to slay", sounds wayyy cooler than "I'm trying to better myself"

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Divorced parents/nasty custody battle/switching school/lunching alone, for a time. It was a long time ago, and I've worked through it, for the most part. My original parents never did, I think, but moved on, nonetheless. I used to feel sad for them but the more I age, the more I realize it's probably for the best. Can't mend together what we refuse to face, individually.

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I suspect it's more common than you may imagine. Fwiw, blood children are also treated this way.

https://www.lovetoknow.com/life/relationships/6-dysfunctional-family-roles-their-characteristics

Healing is available. It's a slow, often painful, messy (non-linear process). But it's doable. The alternative is stay sick, get sicker, perpetuate the cycle. You're willing to talk about it a little, so it indicates the wounds haven't yet calcified, and that's a good sign. I encourage you to look into it, and various healing modalities.

https://www.lovetoknow.com/life/relationships/6-dysfunctional-family-roles-their-characteristics

https://www.simplepractice.com/resource/attachment-styles-worksheet/ (applies to all relationships)

https://ineffableliving.com/50-shadow-work-journal-prompts-that-go-deeper-than-surface-reflection/ (I would leave this until you're stabilized and hitting plateaus).

In fact, I recommended starting with the basics, and exploring what help may be available to you until you stabilize*. But I have full faith in your capability to manage the journey.

Best to you, fellow traveler. 🫂