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sh.itjust.works

It varies as with anything in life. Sometimes it’s every day, sometimes I’ll go months without.

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It's probably been years. I prefer to read my porn. My brain just can't get around the fact that so much porn is non consensual, there's a lot of human trafficking, and even the ones who do consent aren't usually being paid well. And there's not a very good way to sus out the more ethical to the less ethical porn. Also the second someone starts obviously faking things, it ruins everything for me so, reading it is just significantly easier for me.

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My brain just can't get around the fact that so much porn is non consensual, there's a lot of human trafficking, and even the ones who do consent aren't usually being paid well.

some folks pay extra for that.

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lemmy.ml

My wife and I used to watch porn very often. Nowadays it's almost never. I cannot speak for her but for me the fakeness of it all became very cringey for me. Now, if I do watch, I stick to Lustery. It's a site that focuses on real couples. Watching loving couples laughing and enjoying each other is a lot hotter to me than most of the fake stuff out there.

Hilariously, many couples post travel vlogs with a sprinkle of sex in the end. I tend to watch the travel bit and skip the sex because I'm far more interested in the non-touristy places they go because the income comes from the porn bit rather than trying to be an influencer.

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Watching loving couples laughing and enjoying each other is a lot hotter to me than most of the fake stuff out there.

So hot! I've really enjoyed the evolution of porn in this way. So many candid, loving couples having fun together!

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the non-touristy places they go because the income comes from the porn bit rather than trying to be an influencer.

That's actually so clever! Paid to do what you love, on both fronts

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Occasionally. It's frustrating that most free porn sites are kind of bad at search and filter. You'd think a tagging system would be easy to implement but most sites seem to just have a barely functional search.

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I would poke around "romantasy" style fiction books. There's a lot of erotica in there and a pretty large fan base.

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Heh, no 😂 I just don't like it. Erotica art without sex is max that I like in this regard.

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europe.pub

Is there a podcast you subscribe to or something?

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Shibby is good as another commenter mentioned. If you don't mind visiting Reddit there's an erotic audio sub there that is unfortunately quite good and I don't really know a better source.

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piefed.social

Used to watch almost every day, then I started HRT. Now I never watch.

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that's rather interesting. most that I heard of, it was the opposite.

was your therapist surprised?

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It depends on my mental health. During certain periods, it's every day. Other periods, nothing for a month or so. The worse my mental condition, the more I watch. Not that I pretend to know what the "real" or "correct" way to watch porn is, but I only ever use it as a coping mechanism. It helps me escape reality for a few minutes. Recently, I have begun trying to limit my consumption, because I don't really want to escape reality. As of today, I haven't watched anything for about two weeks.

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Same. If I'm at home trying to sleep I will genuinely have a panic attack without it. It's the only thing that strongly occupies my attention enough to prevent a panic attack from setting in (that I can do while in bed)

Anything else is not personally engaging enough to prevent my mind from wandering (like listening to music, browsing Lemmy, or reading)

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I've toned down the porn and trained my brain to settle (usually) for clothed images of hot people and its imagination. It feels better and it leaves more room for escalation

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I think I've conditioned myself to the point where it's it's pretty rare I go a day without watching at least one thing. Doesn't mean I always DO anything while watching, but that's an answer for another question.

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Like a lot of the responses here, I don't like much video porn, it's more funny than sexy.

Written erotica, that can be so hot, but still not often. Mostly when I need it, imagination is the way to go.

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lemmy.world

Just watch? Everyday someone will send me a porn for sure somewhere, or it could be that I search for it. But surely at least one a day

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sh.itjust.works

Someone sends you a porn every day? What kind of friend group or polycule do you have going on?

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I would probably say about 5 times a week, I also read spicy books as well! I am a big fan of jockstrap rippers and healthy portrayals of man on man action!

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like once a week currently but at times have been every day. well maybe not quite every day but like its not quite every week now. Pretty sure a month won't go by without watching something.

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Maybe once per month? Probably less. I really tend to prefer audio and text.

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aww someone's fragile sensibilities couldn't take the image of jesus loving himself.

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lemmy.world

To whoever replied and then blocked me - it is a bit lame buddy. I'm only here to have balanced discussions, but you decide to use it for a teensy tiny little ego boost because you "epically dunked on someone and they can't reply back."

All it ultimately says is that you're incapable of advocating for your beliefs here, i.e "porn is good"

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quokk.au

If you block someone on Fediverse it only hides the person you blocked on your own account. You'll still see the comments from someone who has blocked you, they just won't see any replies from you. So, idk what you're ranting about, there's no other replies to you except velma even checking the .world instance directly. You're describing reddit's blocking system.

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