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Cutting people off

I hate that I do this, but there are friends/acquaintances in my life that I would mask around, and my mental health and general motivation has been very bad lately, meaning that when they reach out to me, I just don't have the mental stamina -- which I usually had -- to open that message/take that call and reply to them. We were friends sort of out of inertia from the past, and I was kinda hoping we'd drift apart naturally, but they keep calling me even though I told them that my mental health is bad rn and I'd reach out later. I just want to be left to be depressed in peace rn plus seeing them again I'd have to address my compounding guilt of ghosting them, and that's something I'd have to mentally barge though. But it's not their fault that I'm tired 'of them', so it's a tricky situation and I feel like a terrible person for it ending the way it does.

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For the unmedicated: Dynamic Pomodoro method

If you struggle to be productive due to your workflow being too unstructured, allowing you to get distracted too easily, this is one way I have found structure your time:

  • In essence, you switch from centering your attention around the task to centering it around a timer.

  • You start at a timer. You plan what your next step will be (baby steps), and write it down. You allocate yourself time to do that task. Repeat.

  • The one sentence goal statement is crucial because it reminds you what you are supposed to be doing during the timer if you get sidetracked.

  • If the timer runs out before you finish, that's fine, but you are obliged to come back to the drawing board and re-write the goal statement.

  • Snoozing the timer is a bad habit.

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