Spyke

Would you hangout with yourself?

Just came across this question on reddit and tbh....i don't know

People have always told me(including my parents) that i am very antisocial, i don't know how to speak, i don't smile often, i'm shy, i look very judgemental or i'm just too egotistic....so i don't know if i'm actually someone worth hanging out with

And no i didn't make all these things up i have heard it all my life from my parents, teachers, friends etc.

I don't know if its just my luck or something about my looks or the way i speak but people don't really hold back against me

So what about y'all?

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feddit.nl

I don't see how "kill" could be in any other place than last.

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sh.itjust.works

Probably not. I don't really want to be around people who act like me. I've done a decent job of reigning in my most asocial behaviours, but they still get through.

On the flip side, other people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project, so I think I'm doing a good enough job.

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lemmy.world

people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project

The more times I read this, the deeper it gets.

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feddit.org

On the flip side, other people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project

I know that feeling too well. I honestly can no longer tell when I have started doing that or how much of it was originally there

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sh.itjust.works

If the new you is closer to the person you want to be, isn't that a win?

I feel like I do this enough that it becomes a comfortable habit. Occasionally, I still want to interrupt people to tell them how wrong they are, or how right I am, or just become the centre of attention. But that isn't who I want to be. And that urge seems to diminish as I learn to listen and ask questions, and then that becomes more of a habit.

But I guess it depends on what you're editing.

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feddit.org

Yeah, never thought if it like that. I always kinda felt like I lost something, that I conformed rather than maybe just bettering myself.

The version I present nowadays usually is better socially adapted and better able to integrate itself into a conversation than how I behaved maybe ten years ago

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sh.itjust.works

The version I present nowadays usually is better socially adapted and better able to integrate itself into a conversation

That seems positive. But it's your call.

For me, "conforming" means listening, considering my audience, controlling interjections, and asking people about stuff. I don't feel like I'm denying myself, I feel like I'm being more considerate.

I can see how other kinds of conformance could be awful. Denying one's sexuality or something like that.

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It's nothing that drastic, maybe I just find it hard to differentiate between natural change over time and stuff I pretended to have changed to better fit in

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I would hang out with myself and get a lot done. We'd code an app, make a podcast for antisocial people, and plant trees.

We'd agree to use the same encrypted messenger.

I've never been good at socializing and it just makes me exhausted.

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We'd agree to use the same encrypted messenger.

You've revealed the real reason we need cloning technology. It would be glorious.

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lemmy.world

Probably yes, I talk to myself all the time and my sense of humour happens to be pretty similar to mine. At the very least is worth a try.

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Agreed! We both like the same shows.. never fighting about what to have for dinner.. it's great

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One-on-one? Sure, I'm hilarious.

In a group? No. I'm an attention hog, I don't need the competition.

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Maybe use the opportunity to audit your behavior. Give others some room and shit. Could be a thing.

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Yeah. I would. I've been asking myself that for a long time and I've tried to become someone I would get along with.

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I have met a person nearly exactly like me, and they make a great friend

So yes, I'd love to hang out with me, at least I'll finally have someone that doesn't keep deliberately misunderstanding my words to have an excuse to harass me

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I wouldn’t initiate or invite, but if I just happen to be in the same room with myself it would be fine. It would be mostly quiet and we do our own thing, or the occasional silly philosophical or metaphorical discussions but probably nothing real or deep. Or maybe it’ll be a free therapy session, having 2 brains figure out my emotions

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No. Spending time around people different from myself offers me different perspectives, interesting conversations etc.

Hanging out with someone exactly the same would be like living in an echo chamber with a yes man.

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I would love to hangout with myself. I'm quiet, calm, and introspective IRL.

I don't have any friends because I'm disappointed in people my own age. I'd hang out with people 20-30 years older than me, but they're all dead soooo....

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I would hang out with myself, but I feel like it would be a very quiet meeting because we both would just be doing our own thing because unless someone else is spearheading the conversation or as a topic that I'm passionate about, I generally stick to myself anyway.

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lemmy.world

No. I get introduced to people who are "like me" and I don't like them off the hop.

I recently hung out with my own father, and when he would say words that were in my head, they sounded awful.

People like me. I have friends. I like my friends. But I do question their judgement being friends with me.

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I recently hung out with my own father, and when he would say words that were in my head, they sounded awful.

Yeah. I get that with some of my family members. I try to use it as an opportunity to be more open and learn to like myself more, but it rarely works. I'd prefer it if they didn't act the way I think.

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I would have an orgy with myself if I had a cloning machine.

I would try out for RLCS with my 3-me-team in Rocket League.

I would never wonder where my team mates are in The Finals, because now they are also me.

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I would hang out with me. I would play boardgames and learn about obscure subjects that I am interested in.

I would have trouble coordinating schedules with myself.

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I would totally sit quietly in a room with myself as we both played single player games, occasionally making recommendations to each other.

Good times.

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Depends on the day. Sometimes im fun, sometimes im not so fun. Like anybody, I have days where im in a decent mood, got plenty of sleep, and then other days, I slept like crap, im cranky, and im just trying to keep my head down and get through the day.

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Yes, but I wouldn't want to spend too much time because I'm very annoying.

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Antisocial is like killing stray cats and cutting off their heads and putting them in your sock drawer. "Weird people" are Interesting to those who don't smell their own brand. The infrastructure and the culture makes it hard for people to connect. You might have issues but other people are stupid. Two things can be right at the sametime. The world is on fire. Who is to judge really. It not like the collective contributions have led to anything constructive in the dum dum world of the lowest common denominator. https://youtu.be/MEL06Crmw8g

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A worthy opponent for all of my favorite niche games that I'll never convince my IRL friends to play.

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Well, that's a complicated question.

On one hand, I do already hang-out with myself basically all the time. I talk to myself a lot and I'm my own wall to throw stuff at.

On the other hand, I'm also very antisocial. I would definitely not enjoy spending this time that I spend with myself with another, physical person.

So, that.

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lemmy.ca

hangout

That's a noun. You want "hang out" with a space. It's the difference between asking "what's up, Chuck" and "what's upchuck?" Supdog is the exception.

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I'm apparently best enjoyed in small doses; nobody else really seems to enjoy my company long-term, so why would I be any different?

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When I was hanging out I think I would but im just sorta a boring, depressed old person at this point watching the world crumble around me. I would probably chat with myself at chance meeting like walking the dog.

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I would definitely jam in a band with three of my other selves. We'll be able to make music pretty quickly because we literally have the same minds.

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Yeah. I do cool shit all the time.

Wanna come over and have a fire in the backyard and do a barbecue, drink a few beers, play some games, watch some movies, play some music, record an album, build some shit in the garage, work on cars, write stories, play with electronics, do some computer shit, like, what's your flavor, pick your poison, I'm down for fucking anything, and if I had another me to do it with, all the fucking better.

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I would absolutely hang out with myself often.

I would help me get unstuck, and encourage my crazy projects to go even bigger.

I would run interference for myself when my social battery is low.

I would make collaborative art with myself, and try to outdo myself at stupid jokes.

Oh, and since I guess the question is implied, since everyone is answering - of course I would fuck myself. I have heard that I'm good in bed, and if I was bad at masturbating, I suppose I would do it much less often.

Edit: To respond to the downvote - you're right. I'm not actually all that great at masturbating. But I'm practicing as often as I can make time to! I'll get better!

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assuming this means hanging out with an exact clone of myself:

we would play a game of chance to see who gets the laptop and who gets the pc, then we would play minecraft together.

we could also play card games, chess, or some board game, although i wouldn't really talk to the other one since there wouldn't really be a point or anything new to learn that i couldn't learn by just thinking (as we would be the same person).

oh, we could also watch shows or a movie but i dont think it would feel like hanging out since we'd both just sit quietly and watch it.

so yeah, i would hang out with myself, and i wonder how rock-paper-scissors would go

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I have difficulty expressing myself around unfamiliar people. I would hang out with myself because I know myself very well. If I did not know the other me and she did not know me, then we'd probably both assume that the other thinks we're trash and would not hang out. But if we did then we'd enjoy it.

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Only for transactional practical reasons, not any kind of deep talk..

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God no, I have a hard enough time hanging out when I'm present, I don't need another me ruining the ambiance.

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Fuck yeah! I guess we might get a bit bored since most of the time I socialise I spend it preaching/arguing and we'd agree on all points? At least I'd have someone to nerd out over things like Legend of the Galactic Heroes at great lengths (not my wife's fault she can't do it for me, I'm not particularly interested in listening to podcasts about yet another crazy murderer either 🤷😅).

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Yes, I am. I'm also able to hang out with others, but because I don't hold red state views, I have to limit it for my own well-being.

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I believe that if you wouldn't be your own current-self's friend, then you are not your authentic self. You aren't doing what you like or acting in ways you find enjoyable.

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If I knew it was me, sure probably, I already talk to the voices in my head all the time so...

If it was a random person on the street with all my thoughts and mannerisms, probably not. I look rather unfriendly and am far too awkward.

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startrek.website

A hundred percent. I love alone time and I know exactly what kind of socializing I'm up for, so I'd be an easy person for me to spend time with. I have the same interests as me and the same taste in food too. It would be cool to go get a pedi together and then get a bit day drunk (or day buzzed, anyway).

I actually love this idea. How make happen?

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Our taste in movies would be a perfect match. Grab some popcorn and a bucket of wine and let's get this marathon started, baby. Plus, I haven't seen any of the movies I haven't seen. Ideal.

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I could, yeah. I would make me a delicious meal and listen to some music. I don't think I would necessarily want me at a party, I like to host but not the best guest.

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No. I can be a bit of a jerk and would probably say something to piss myself off.

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