But seriously, are there really women who talk about men in those terms?
Yes. Personally, I see it as the mirror image of the "tradwife" thing where toxic men see their partner as a subservient maid. Seeing men as primarily an income source comes from a similar place imho.
Yep, they've been called 'gold diggers', for quite a while now.
There is still a huge portion of American women across the political spectrum, across wealth classes, across religious or irreligious beliefs, who ultimately have a huge part of what they want in a partner be 'how much stuff can he buy me', who will bully or shame or guilt trip or emasculate or outright violently abuse their male partner, regardless of how hypocritical this is with their other espoused beliefs, to get them to pay for things for them or cover their debts.
Just get on tiktok or instagram, you basically can't miss it.
Its more than just the opposite number of conservative tradwives. There are plenty of self described liberal or leftist, feminists or social activists of one kind or another that ultimately still want their male partners to provide far more for them than they provide for their partner.
Just looked through some of that stuff. Holy hell, it would be easier to be seen as without sin through the eyes of an angry old testament God than it would be to be seen as worthy of dating from that crowd. And that's fine, because I would want less than zero to do with it.
(Assuming it's real. Who knows? Could be a bunch of neckbeards cosplaying, but if I've learned anything in life, it's that there are shitty shitty men in this world, and that there are equally shitty shitty women in this world)
The "trad wives" (traditionalist / paleoconservative middle class women who believe that their religion is good for women) are looking for a husband in the traditional sense, a type of business owner / patriarch who owns them and provides for them; see: husbandry. That's so that they can produce a lot of offspring while pretending that raising kids in near or full homeschooling is a good thing and she's very successful (culturally).
They're the homologues of incels and traditionalist bros who want to be rich so that they maintain some informal harem. And they deserve each other.
Yeah, and we shouldn't suppose women can't degrade as much as men, that's unfair. r/femaledatingstrategy had an overblown fame for being a femcel den before it got banned, you can read on them in the media. But you can discover more than that on chan-boards, as they are probably the origin of a lingvo natural to this discourse. Just like with in incels, there's a typology of women and men adapted to biological and social context a typical ciswoman is in.
As for IRL, I've heard such terms only as a joke, but that means there's some penetration into higher net.
Every gold digger ever. Books about it, subreddits. You been living under a rock? Literally, good how to marry a rich man, and there will be digital or printed guidebooks
Idahoan here - yeah coming from a fairly mormon-laden family tree (and community), it's pretty common around here. And like others said it typically goes both ways - the guys treat it like the gals are helpless without a man to carry the income. This place is fucking backwards and culturally prehistoric.
Don't even get me started on the bigotry & maltreatment towards trans/gay folks. If there were a progress bar for moving toward healthy / compassionate behavior towards those groups this place would be at fucking 0%, genuinely. Obscenely disrespectful.
The messiest polycule breakup / explosion was a bunch of autistic IT workers around the DC area. Sub Dom drama plus one dude fucked his pesudo-girlfriends sister.
I'd just got back from working overseas and was renting a room in their house. Just kinda watching the whole thing burn. While getting back to normal.
If he's poly and and she's poly and everyone knew everything, is it still awful of him to have sex with her sister? Seems like it's OK if it's OK with everyone, even if other people find it gross?
I know of very very few poly people who would be okay with that. And even if they were, poly requires open communication, and he did it behind her back (which we know she wasn't okay with it because it ended their relationship). So a double whammy.
Highly recommend the book Opening Up to understand how many different types of poly there are and what they might look like.
Sorry, I didn't mean to cause offence at all, I just assumed that in a poly relationships the boundaries were open for negotiation, and that like you say open communication would be key. I didn't know he went behind her back, I know nothing about this story other than what I read on this thread.
I get that in a conventional relationship, leaving someone for their best friend or their sibling would be a particularly heinous betrayal, but didn't assume that that would be the same for someone in a poly relationship. I didn't mean to offend anyone by asking and I apologise for any and all offence caused.
I get that and I appreciate how respectful you're being. I think we can tell by the subtext that it wasn't okay to sleep with her sister (they broke up over this, after all)... and also that is kinda soft incest (to share a sex partner between siblings) so majority of poly people in the west would really not be okay with it due to social norms.
Someone leaked their discord and there were a lot of instances of them discussing grooming as an avenue to creating their "perfect high value male" or whatever they called it.
Let's not monopolize the word nerds for us computer nerds. There are also engineering nerds for example, the guys that have 2 3d printers, 3 CNC machines, and a few industrial robot arms in their garage so that they can build the tiniest bike ever.
I grew up Catholic, and (at least here, Catholicism is a really big place) it's not so much "he has money" as it is "he will bring stability."
The second commenter's "cash cow" comment is a bit of an outlier in my experience, because usually the highlights of dating a nerd are more akin to the second comment. They'll be an active father and attentive husband, and they're less likely to cheat (in their view). I've also heard things like this about D&D/Warhammer players, because they use their imagination alot (making them good at entertaining children) and the hobbies take a lot of focus (meaning they'll be willing and able to tackle problems that arise).
Older catholics are used to men whose only role in the family is "produce baby and produce money", so a lot of modern dating advice is in the guise of "make sure he's a good man before you marry him"
Because most people nowadays see everything as a transaction, including "love". You really can't expect anything else in a society that sees everything through the prism of money.
Define "liberal". Many liberals these days are conservative rather than progressive, so I won't disagree with your statement.
Conservatives are not able to experience empathy for anyone outside of their in-group, so they tend to see every interaction with "others" as transactional.
Conservatism is a vile plague of inhumanity, oppression and death and should be treated as such. It is due for a cure.
Conservatism is a vile plague of inhumanity, oppression and death and should be treated as such. It is due for a cure.
And yet they seem to be the majority, or close to it. So one has to ask, why is that so many people turn to it. It has to give them value. And is that value real or perceived.
For some it is very real, usually the exceptionally wealthy. Which means conservatism is profitable.
Not having empathy for anyone outside of your in group would make it easy to dismiss or justify the fact that the first rule of capitalism is find a weakness and exploit it
But more so that Catholics and other fundamentalists expect the man to be the provider, and largely base the worth of the man on how much money he makes. If you think that's gross and demeaning, then don't fucking date Catholics lol
Really? I thought Catholicism was about Jesus, sharing, caring, love... guess I was wrong... who would have thought that a religion that is allegedly supposed to spread piece and love, would be all about money, huh 🤔.
When has Catholicism never been about money? They literally have codified paying your way into heaven for nearly 2000 years with "indulgences" lol
It's like one of the most blatant examples of a corrupt religion being used to control and siphon money from people, it has one of the most well documented, terrible histories.
These girls are old school. You make the money, they pump out the children. They don't believe in birth control or abortion, so if you want to maximize your reproductive fitness, you could do worse than a Catholic girl.
anyone who picks at every little thing a partner or potential partner does by requiring the Internet to approve it is toxic as hell. asking the Internet if a behavior that doesn't effect you is a red flag is a massive red flag.
i mean, it's more about letting the Internet decide for them. a person that is so incapable of making their own assessments that they have to ask a random mob permission to date another isn't going to be a good person to date. didn't be or date someone that would trust random Internet weirdos who collectively have an incredibly awful track record of giving advice over just talking about it or doing some reading.
It’s literally any alternative lifestyle community. I’ve never lived somewhere that didn’t have board game nights for the bdsm community. Lots of polyamory and nerdiness there
Meh, I see it as a free 'filter' of sorts. If-you're going to judge someone's value as a life partner based on the type of phone they have, then you're probably not the type of person I'd want to be with anyway.
In a confession Aug. 21, however, Reiser said he used "the most unsophisticated chokehold that any judo instructor would completely despise you for ever using," according to a 30-page transcript obtained by The Chronicle
take stuff apart and put it back together. install obscure operating systems. build a network and servers for just yourself. put multiple operating systems on the same computer. repair a broken laptop or phone. just fun things like that
Any pointers how to get into FreeBSD? I might need that for my game engine, especially as two of the main three consoles nowadays use some heavily modified versions of it (even if unfortunately I have to provide them as closed-source addons to the engine, since neither Sony nor Nintendo don't like open sourcing their stuff).
another easy way to get started is to install it in a VM. once you have the process down, you could try installing it to a secondary disk or partition on hardware.
Because the distro is nothing without the kernel, the kernel is nothing without the distro, a PC is just for getting shit done of have "fun" and you should stop wasting your time on Lemmy
And the fact that they'd rather troubleshoot Arch with a girl than anything else... and 90% of women would put up with those requests, BUT only if you make a lot of money.
I don't want to talk about all girls since they are different of course but for me, there is a shitload of girls that are just too fucked up to be around. They put shit in their lips or tits, they constantly focus on how they look, they have zero confidence without getting a million likes for how they look... Fuck those girls. I want a real person, not some shallow barbie with shit for brains.
But, add the kind of society we live in where social status is measured through money and how you look, plus the overall state of IQ in the population, which is getting lower and lower, and... well, you really can't expect much else from the general population 🤷. Sure, there are exceptions, but they're so little, they're either taken or you just don't meet any of them in real life.
Most people, no matter the religion or gender see everything as a transaction (since everything in this world revolves around money). This is what's left from the society, that's why we should all try to change the world and make it a better place.
I think we really just need to remove the burden of having to work yourself to death just to pay for the existence you didnt ask for.
Which is why UBI or other similar strategies are becoming popular again. Ive thought a lot about this recently and we have too large or a system that depends entirely too much on transactions of money because it is a much easier way to trade goods and services as opposed to some kind of bartering system.
But money and power corrupt everything over a long enough period of time. Massive turmoil can short circuit that as in times of crisis where values can shift greatly.
I think the systems we rely on can't really be dismantled at this point. We need to create an equilibrium before we can start that dismantling of useless,broken,restrictive,unethical, ways in which we transact with other people.
UBI should be used as the mechanism to achieve that equilibrium so that everyone can use the system. If we arent able to financially exploit people anymore than the people will be able to live for the themselves.
Not everyone will want to use that opportunity for self improvement, and we need to work to build a system that lets people not have to be a part of it while it still provides for them to live their unasked for existence in much more meaningful manner.
No, it can't be dismantled and it won't, no one will allow it. Not corps or people... especially now since we can clearly see right winged individuals and parties all over the world rise to power.
The solution is to wipe the slate clean, start from scratch, make an economy where the core values are nature and how we are tied to it, i.e. the basics are, if it doesn't do good, neither do we. I'm not a green piece advocate or anything like that. I'm just pointing out the facts - WE NEED IT TO SURVIVE! Thus, it has to be our no.1 priority, everything else is secondary.
And we have tried to clean the slate many times throughout history, but we always get back to where we are. And it will probably work, but i dont think we can until we weaken this digitally reinforced system this time. I think it needs to be broken more before we can get rid of it and the mechanism to breaking it is very simple, we the people need to use the system as much as the corpos do.
So if we keep money circulating and OUT of investment, we gain power again over finances. Maybe not enough to reverse the problems, but enough that we CAN get to a clean slate.
I think it will take a world war that changes the maps forever to happen any other way, which i think would be worse for too many people who wont survive. If this was in ukraine hasnt already shown us
We've never been so close to wiping ourselves out in history as we are now...
Agree on the part that we need to show how broken it is by breaking it even more. That is something that is viable as an option and might work if given enough time and people push towards it... which I think they will, since it's fairly easy and they might even profit from it... a good idea 👍.
I think it will take a world war that changes the maps forever to happen any other way, which i think would be worse for too many people who wont survive. If this was in ukraine hasnt already shown us
This is what eventually needs to happen IMO. I stopped saying this because people called me crazy, but a true clean slate is exactly this. A few million left alive, everyone else gone... unfortunately, if we even have a chance to wake up and realize what we need to survive as a species, is exactly this and nothing else. Yes, I agree, a lot of collateral damage, which could have been avoided, but god knows the signs were there... people were warned, nature warned us, everyone did... we didn't listen... let's just hope the new world order will eventually put an emphasis on values that we now see as weakness in people.
There’s only one Catholic approved birth control method according to my Catholic education and it surprisingly isn’t not having sex (yeah not fucking your spouse from time to time is a sin, pressuring sex is a sin, but part of mutual marital duty is to have loving sex). It’s swimming in the Red Sea. Period sex is the official birth control method of the Catholic Church and the only one they approve of. Don’t want to do that or have kids, better hope you were called to a celibate order or the single laity.
As much as I enjoy shitting on Catholics (I would hang out on a church roof pretending to be a pigeon if I could get away with it) the title of this post would be accurate with one fewer word. "Apparently, dating is all about money."
No it doesn't. Apparently, you can. You just have to be a nerd, make a ton of money, use Linux and hit it off with someone that agrees to live with you.
And I'm already in therapy... not doing much good unfortunately.
Well, I am not trying to justify the person in the post since I do not know who the person personally and what she means; but as a guy, I would also want my partner to be earning good money. You know, to raise a family.
Us soft, lol 😂. I agree, but that goes both ways, women have gotten a lot worse than men ever did.
And then they wonder why shivery is dead, why there are no real men... well, you kinda killed the idea of all that when you started not accepting compliments (or plain out right laughing at our faces and calling us corny), seeing everything through the prism of money, started getting pissed off when men would like to treat you as equals on dates and split the bill.
Sorry, I have no respect for those types of women. Sure, there are some that are not like that at all, but they are so few, they're mostly taken.
All girls are shallow. I'd rather, "he got money" shallow than "he tall" shallow. At least one is something you can do something about. I don't know why people pretend that it is wholesome when the girl falls in love with the physically handsome tall guy, but then somehow less wholesome when the girl falls in love with a guy who through talent and hard work made something of himself.
Dear linux users. Is it a red flag if she is active in a Catholic Dating group?
Edit:. and that she is still on reddit?
The 'she' part works for me!
Why would they need to date anyway? That's just questioning God's Plan for them.
It's God's way of training them for their true partner. Free will and all that. Now kisth.
God works in mysterious ways. Maybe their one and only, doesnt even use an iphone!
Yes. We only accept our true gods and leaders here: Linus, Richard, Tux and Xenia.
You mean Xena, right?
Probably not.
Oh. TIL. This fox is cute as well :)
Blazing red flag.
Run
Ooh, I'm a cash cow apparently.
But seriously, are there really women who talk about men in those terms?
Yes. Personally, I see it as the mirror image of the "tradwife" thing where toxic men see their partner as a subservient maid. Seeing men as primarily an income source comes from a similar place imho.
Yep, they've been called 'gold diggers', for quite a while now.
There is still a huge portion of American women across the political spectrum, across wealth classes, across religious or irreligious beliefs, who ultimately have a huge part of what they want in a partner be 'how much stuff can he buy me', who will bully or shame or guilt trip or emasculate or outright violently abuse their male partner, regardless of how hypocritical this is with their other espoused beliefs, to get them to pay for things for them or cover their debts.
Just get on tiktok or instagram, you basically can't miss it.
Its more than just the opposite number of conservative tradwives. There are plenty of self described liberal or leftist, feminists or social activists of one kind or another that ultimately still want their male partners to provide far more for them than they provide for their partner.
That sounds like 99.9% of population in developing countries like mine
I don't think that's a fair comparison as Nerd is usually seen as a negative trait, where having good traditional traits is seen as a positive.
It's taking a nerd and using that negativity despite not liking it to exploit gain.
Where as having traditional wife is choose a positive because you like that positive.
If I can't be a milk cow, then at least let me be a cash cow
You have never opened the box of "Female Dating Strategy". Welcome to the world of "low value males"
Just looked through some of that stuff. Holy hell, it would be easier to be seen as without sin through the eyes of an angry old testament God than it would be to be seen as worthy of dating from that crowd. And that's fine, because I would want less than zero to do with it.
(Assuming it's real. Who knows? Could be a bunch of neckbeards cosplaying, but if I've learned anything in life, it's that there are shitty shitty men in this world, and that there are equally shitty shitty women in this world)
Aww yea. Sounds like some rough femcel horse shit right there.
It exists?
The "trad wives" (traditionalist / paleoconservative middle class women who believe that their religion is good for women) are looking for a husband in the traditional sense, a type of business owner / patriarch who owns them and provides for them; see: husbandry. That's so that they can produce a lot of offspring while pretending that raising kids in near or full homeschooling is a good thing and she's very successful (culturally).
They're the homologues of incels and traditionalist bros who want to be rich so that they maintain some informal harem. And they deserve each other.
Yeah, and we shouldn't suppose women can't degrade as much as men, that's unfair. r/femaledatingstrategy had an overblown fame for being a femcel den before it got banned, you can read on them in the media. But you can discover more than that on chan-boards, as they are probably the origin of a lingvo natural to this discourse. Just like with in incels, there's a typology of women and men adapted to biological and social context a typical ciswoman is in.
As for IRL, I've heard such terms only as a joke, but that means there's some penetration into higher net.
Every gold digger ever. Books about it, subreddits. You been living under a rock? Literally, good how to marry a rich man, and there will be digital or printed guidebooks
You have been sleepwalking through life...
Idahoan here - yeah coming from a fairly mormon-laden family tree (and community), it's pretty common around here. And like others said it typically goes both ways - the guys treat it like the gals are helpless without a man to carry the income. This place is fucking backwards and culturally prehistoric.
Don't even get me started on the bigotry & maltreatment towards trans/gay folks. If there were a progress bar for moving toward healthy / compassionate behavior towards those groups this place would be at fucking 0%, genuinely. Obscenely disrespectful.
Waifus don't count to normies.
That person should've seen how much gold I farmed in WoW using my Honorbuddy bot!
The messiest polycule breakup / explosion was a bunch of autistic IT workers around the DC area. Sub Dom drama plus one dude fucked his pesudo-girlfriends sister.
I'd just got back from working overseas and was renting a room in their house. Just kinda watching the whole thing burn. While getting back to normal.
Being poly doesn't make relationships less real, how ignorant. She wasn't a pseudogirlfriend. He was also a real piece of shit.
If he's poly and and she's poly and everyone knew everything, is it still awful of him to have sex with her sister? Seems like it's OK if it's OK with everyone, even if other people find it gross?
Why do people think poly=no boundaries?
I know of very very few poly people who would be okay with that. And even if they were, poly requires open communication, and he did it behind her back (which we know she wasn't okay with it because it ended their relationship). So a double whammy.
Highly recommend the book Opening Up to understand how many different types of poly there are and what they might look like.
Sorry, I didn't mean to cause offence at all, I just assumed that in a poly relationships the boundaries were open for negotiation, and that like you say open communication would be key. I didn't know he went behind her back, I know nothing about this story other than what I read on this thread.
I get that in a conventional relationship, leaving someone for their best friend or their sibling would be a particularly heinous betrayal, but didn't assume that that would be the same for someone in a poly relationship. I didn't mean to offend anyone by asking and I apologise for any and all offence caused.
I get that and I appreciate how respectful you're being. I think we can tell by the subtext that it wasn't okay to sleep with her sister (they broke up over this, after all)... and also that is kinda soft incest (to share a sex partner between siblings) so majority of poly people in the west would really not be okay with it due to social norms.
Lol 🤣, wtf 🤣🤣🤣.
SpongeBob and Ariana Grande are exhibit A
Got a little queasy hearing someone describe their husband as a cash cow
Red flag behavior.
Definitely should check your future wife's whole online comment history, just to be safe.
My current spouse and I have full transparency with each other about our socials :)
It just organically happened over many years. There is no distrust if we're on each other's phones, and we respect stated boundaries.
It's nice.
Wait until you see femaledatingstrategy then.
Would've thought FDS had been shut down by now after the grooming scandal.
OOTL, what grooming scandal?
Someone leaked their discord and there were a lot of instances of them discussing grooming as an avenue to creating their "perfect high value male" or whatever they called it.
Yikes :/
I didn't even know about that they always come up with a new thing.
I am running linux already, when does the money flow in?
git cashout
git cash pop
Git my L1 cache filled
git blame
$ sudo apt install €$¥
You're dowing it wrong!
A good catholic man would use TempleOS
There is also UbuntuCE (Ubuntu Christian Edition)
I don’t want to Google that.
Nerds fix stuff around the house? Girl, I couldn't even repair that plumbing if I wanted to. This is a job for a professional.
Nerd here that was EXTREMELY disappointed in losing the opportunity to own a house.
I wanted to get into the home electronics/plumbing stuff. Although to be honest, I am less keen on the plumbing since it's a wet mess.
We like to mix water and electricity anyway, like pipewire
Yeah, PoW (Power over Water) is awesome! I use it everywhere.
Still don't get the name...
Oh, the wetness is far from the worst part.
Depends if you are messing with blue pipes or black ones.
Mine are all copper and iron.
Beats lead...
Actually, some nerds are handy with electronics and stuff like that, myself included.
It could be even worse. Some needs enjoy to learn things, anything. Doesn't,t matter if it's NixOs or plastering.
Oh yeah, I love learning things. It doesn't mean I love actually doing them.
This is me. Software developer by day, endless diyer and hobby starter by night (at least on nights when I'm not dissociating on the couch)
Let's not monopolize the word nerds for us computer nerds. There are also engineering nerds for example, the guys that have 2 3d printers, 3 CNC machines, and a few industrial robot arms in their garage so that they can build the tiniest bike ever.
Nerds of all sciences unite!
It says a lot that when I read that my first thought was "oh so like keeping the self hosted services running and whatnot" for a second 😅
this would work on me tbh
Usually what they actually mean by "strong family values"
Found out the hard way to be honest...
Going on Reddit for dating advice is a mistake.
"Neckbeards unite! We have some advice to give!"
Don't date him if he doesn't run TempleOS.
Monster got him, failed run
No way am I dating a Catholic. I will not be a "cash cow" for their weird religion.
Is there any reason all(or most) catholics would want that and it isnt just these people on reddit?
I grew up Catholic, and (at least here, Catholicism is a really big place) it's not so much "he has money" as it is "he will bring stability."
The second commenter's "cash cow" comment is a bit of an outlier in my experience, because usually the highlights of dating a nerd are more akin to the second comment. They'll be an active father and attentive husband, and they're less likely to cheat (in their view). I've also heard things like this about D&D/Warhammer players, because they use their imagination alot (making them good at entertaining children) and the hobbies take a lot of focus (meaning they'll be willing and able to tackle problems that arise).
Older catholics are used to men whose only role in the family is "produce baby and produce money", so a lot of modern dating advice is in the guise of "make sure he's a good man before you marry him"
Because most people nowadays see everything as a transaction, including "love". You really can't expect anything else in a society that sees everything through the prism of money.
Because most
peopleconservatives nowadays see everything as a transactionFTFY
Yeah, as if liberals are immune to that kind of rationing.
Define "liberal". Many liberals these days are conservative rather than progressive, so I won't disagree with your statement.
Conservatives are not able to experience empathy for anyone outside of their in-group, so they tend to see every interaction with "others" as transactional.
Conservatism is a vile plague of inhumanity, oppression and death and should be treated as such. It is due for a cure.
And yet they seem to be the majority, or close to it. So one has to ask, why is that so many people turn to it. It has to give them value. And is that value real or perceived.
For some it is very real, usually the exceptionally wealthy. Which means conservatism is profitable.
Not having empathy for anyone outside of your in group would make it easy to dismiss or justify the fact that the first rule of capitalism is find a weakness and exploit it
Conservativism and Capitalism are closely tied. They both profit from people's weaknesses and flaws.
American?
I mean it could be true everywhere but it dure seems exacerbated in rhe USA.
I don't have to be, things are not much different everywhere else.
But more so that Catholics and other fundamentalists expect the man to be the provider, and largely base the worth of the man on how much money he makes. If you think that's gross and demeaning, then don't fucking date Catholics lol
Really? I thought Catholicism was about Jesus, sharing, caring, love... guess I was wrong... who would have thought that a religion that is allegedly supposed to spread piece and love, would be all about money, huh 🤔.
When has Catholicism never been about money? They literally have codified paying your way into heaven for nearly 2000 years with "indulgences" lol
It's like one of the most blatant examples of a corrupt religion being used to control and siphon money from people, it has one of the most well documented, terrible histories.
Good providers, not lovers
These girls are old school. You make the money, they pump out the children. They don't believe in birth control or abortion, so if you want to maximize your reproductive fitness, you could do worse than a Catholic girl.
There are a lot of hot Catholics.
There were hot nazi chicks, what's your point?
I'm going out on a limb and I'm going to guess "sex".
Ok Stalin
???
Dated a few of Catholics, and they aren't any grosser than the Protestants, Atheists, Muslims, or Buddhists I've been with.
A few of them even are in your area.
If only I were able to click some sort of link to be able to meet with hot Catholics in my area. Oh well.
anyone who picks at every little thing a partner or potential partner does by requiring the Internet to approve it is toxic as hell. asking the Internet if a behavior that doesn't effect you is a red flag is a massive red flag.
TBF, if a potential partner is super excited about something you never heard of, looking into it is a good thing.
Conservatives, and other assholes, are good about hiding their crazy behind seemingly innocent things, like pepe the frog.
Where are the leftist pepe fans at?
I misread that as "Where are the leftist Pope fans at?" and thought Europe, but then I realised my mistake.
But why would your question be "is this bad?" Just learn a little about it and decide for yourself.
i mean, it's more about letting the Internet decide for them. a person that is so incapable of making their own assessments that they have to ask a random mob permission to date another isn't going to be a good person to date. didn't be or date someone that would trust random Internet weirdos who collectively have an incredibly awful track record of giving advice over just talking about it or doing some reading.
I like my women like I like my distros. Stable.
Dangit, and here I am running arch btw
Might need some therapy
I can fix her
Judging by the name RungeKutta62, named after a class of numerical integration methods and thus two mathematicians, I'd say they're a nerd themselves.
So what, that makes it OK to look at nerds that way?
Turns out, religious fundamentalists view men as providers and base large parts of their worth on how much money they make, whodathunk??
It means it was a joke
Jokes are discriminating, since nerds are autistic and don't get them.
Hey, if women get to call discrimination on every little thing they just don't like, so do I.
I saw this guy scream “FIRE!!!” in a packed room once. So I decided I get to do that also!!
Wait. Nerds being wanted in relationships is bad now? Lmfao. You nerds will never win. Wait. I’m one too? You are sure. Fuck.
It's bad cuz we're wanted for all the wrong reasons.
They are wanted for stability. I see you are framing it negatively though.
You didn't read the cash cows part, did you...
Also lol at nerds automatically not cheating
They fail to realize that we are also human... not only that, but we're undersexed humans.
What? Nah I was just thinking because most of the nerds I know have multiple partners.
You might wanna share some people from your contact list 😁.
It’s literally any alternative lifestyle community. I’ve never lived somewhere that didn’t have board game nights for the bdsm community. Lots of polyamory and nerdiness there
Not many of those where I live unfortunately.
I learn a new word every day.
Yeah, I made that one up 😁.
The weird thing is, spell check didn't underline it 🤔.
All words are made up.
Hm, also true 👍.
Interesting
Yep, not what I thought it meant...
Meh, I see it as a free 'filter' of sorts. If-you're going to judge someone's value as a life partner based on the type of phone they have, then you're probably not the type of person I'd want to be with anyway.
Exactly. Can you imagine dating someone that uses an iphone? 🤐
Marrying Linux nerds never goes wrong
In a confession Aug. 21, however, Reiser said he used "the most unsophisticated chokehold that any judo instructor would completely despise you for ever using," according to a 30-page transcript obtained by The Chronicle
I probably shouldn't laugh, but.... :D
At least he critiqued his own work instead of assuming it was the best thing ever.
It’s a narcissistic attempt to diminish his culpability by saying it was a weak attack without special training.
Compare with “I barely even touched her!”
Oh that's what happened to RieserFS
An object lesson in bus factor.
Should have defragged first.
I'm a nerd and dirt poor, what am I doing wrong?
you may have yourself checked, you may be a dork, which is a nerd without marketable abilities
Oh shit
You're not doing work around the house.
Follow me for more insightful thoughts 👍.
Nerding. Duh.
You need to install Linux for the money to come.
Okay, I'm putting together a second PC for Linux Mint, especially as I need Linux for testing.
take stuff apart and put it back together. install obscure operating systems. build a network and servers for just yourself. put multiple operating systems on the same computer. repair a broken laptop or phone. just fun things like that
Any pointers how to get into FreeBSD? I might need that for my game engine, especially as two of the main three consoles nowadays use some heavily modified versions of it (even if unfortunately I have to provide them as closed-source addons to the engine, since neither Sony nor Nintendo don't like open sourcing their stuff).
easiest would be to install it on a ras pi: https://freebsdfoundation.org/freebsd-project/resourcesold/installing-freebsd-for-raspberry-pi/
another easy way to get started is to install it in a VM. once you have the process down, you could try installing it to a secondary disk or partition on hardware.
Why is she even asking the question? Shouldn't she just be quiet and submit like her magic book tells her to?
Windows is Christianity
Apple is some strange cult
Linux is Nihilism
Why is Linux Nihilism?
Because if you're evolved enough to use Linux, you realize how shitty the human race is.
All my friends and family, even I myself happen to be humans. That's mean.
Sorry for being blunt.
Because the distro is nothing without the kernel, the kernel is nothing without the distro, a PC is just for getting shit done of have "fun" and you should stop wasting your time on Lemmy
Why not?
Average Reddit moment
Wait, this is why she chose me?
I actually know this for a fact.
Too bad for her I don't make a lot of money 🤷.
Why wouldnt nerds cheat? :)
The logic is a bit lacking here but I guess it's some variation of that nerds would be so grateful to have a girl that they won't cheat...
And the fact that they'd rather troubleshoot Arch with a girl than anything else... and 90% of women would put up with those requests, BUT only if you make a lot of money.
I don't want to talk about all girls since they are different of course but for me, there is a shitload of girls that are just too fucked up to be around. They put shit in their lips or tits, they constantly focus on how they look, they have zero confidence without getting a million likes for how they look... Fuck those girls. I want a real person, not some shallow barbie with shit for brains.
Completely agree with that.
But, add the kind of society we live in where social status is measured through money and how you look, plus the overall state of IQ in the population, which is getting lower and lower, and... well, you really can't expect much else from the general population 🤷. Sure, there are exceptions, but they're so little, they're either taken or you just don't meet any of them in real life.
I know...i think the iq just went off the cliff in the last ten years. I guess this is end game capitalism where consumers are just shallow idiots...
End game or not, that is what suits most corps, thus this will only get worse and worse.
so red flag to use linux not red flag to abuse alter children as priests got it.
They are obviously joking around...
abortion rights that got reversed by facist judges
I don't think she's planning to date a priest.
Why does this sound AI generated
Nope, there's a link somewhere in this thread.
If there’s a link it means a human wrote it!
You have a point there...
Jokes on them, I'm real bad with money and went into debt and destroyed my credit!
But I run proxmox for fun 😎
That statement is far too narrow. Religion is all about money.
Obviously the Catholic women on reddit see dating as a transaction lmao, fucking classic.
Most people, no matter the religion or gender see everything as a transaction (since everything in this world revolves around money). This is what's left from the society, that's why we should all try to change the world and make it a better place.
Those are nice thoughts... sadly, that needs a social and economical order change, as well as reeducation.
I think we really just need to remove the burden of having to work yourself to death just to pay for the existence you didnt ask for.
Which is why UBI or other similar strategies are becoming popular again. Ive thought a lot about this recently and we have too large or a system that depends entirely too much on transactions of money because it is a much easier way to trade goods and services as opposed to some kind of bartering system.
But money and power corrupt everything over a long enough period of time. Massive turmoil can short circuit that as in times of crisis where values can shift greatly.
I think the systems we rely on can't really be dismantled at this point. We need to create an equilibrium before we can start that dismantling of useless,broken,restrictive,unethical, ways in which we transact with other people.
UBI should be used as the mechanism to achieve that equilibrium so that everyone can use the system. If we arent able to financially exploit people anymore than the people will be able to live for the themselves.
Not everyone will want to use that opportunity for self improvement, and we need to work to build a system that lets people not have to be a part of it while it still provides for them to live their unasked for existence in much more meaningful manner.
No, it can't be dismantled and it won't, no one will allow it. Not corps or people... especially now since we can clearly see right winged individuals and parties all over the world rise to power.
The solution is to wipe the slate clean, start from scratch, make an economy where the core values are nature and how we are tied to it, i.e. the basics are, if it doesn't do good, neither do we. I'm not a green piece advocate or anything like that. I'm just pointing out the facts - WE NEED IT TO SURVIVE! Thus, it has to be our no.1 priority, everything else is secondary.
My 2 cents...
And we have tried to clean the slate many times throughout history, but we always get back to where we are. And it will probably work, but i dont think we can until we weaken this digitally reinforced system this time. I think it needs to be broken more before we can get rid of it and the mechanism to breaking it is very simple, we the people need to use the system as much as the corpos do.
So if we keep money circulating and OUT of investment, we gain power again over finances. Maybe not enough to reverse the problems, but enough that we CAN get to a clean slate.
I think it will take a world war that changes the maps forever to happen any other way, which i think would be worse for too many people who wont survive. If this was in ukraine hasnt already shown us
We've never been so close to wiping ourselves out in history as we are now...
Agree on the part that we need to show how broken it is by breaking it even more. That is something that is viable as an option and might work if given enough time and people push towards it... which I think they will, since it's fairly easy and they might even profit from it... a good idea 👍.
This is what eventually needs to happen IMO. I stopped saying this because people called me crazy, but a true clean slate is exactly this. A few million left alive, everyone else gone... unfortunately, if we even have a chance to wake up and realize what we need to survive as a species, is exactly this and nothing else. Yes, I agree, a lot of collateral damage, which could have been avoided, but god knows the signs were there... people were warned, nature warned us, everyone did... we didn't listen... let's just hope the new world order will eventually put an emphasis on values that we now see as weakness in people.
Anyone involved in any of these sort of groups will either cheat, leave you financially ruined or are an actual emotional vampire
Not being funny but when it comes to Catholic dating at least they're looking for income and not age this time 😂
This was addressed to ladies. Look for the post addressed to Catholic men.
Not being funny but making a humorous statement and ending it with 😂
Thanks for the analysis boss 👍
As long as they're not using BSD, obviously.
Don't mention it, you'll confuse them even more...
I think exclusively dating within your particular religious demonination should be a red flag
Any religion is a red flag, especially Catholicism. One defective condom and your life is ruined.
Their religion prohibits condoms too
🤢
There’s only one Catholic approved birth control method according to my Catholic education and it surprisingly isn’t not having sex (yeah not fucking your spouse from time to time is a sin, pressuring sex is a sin, but part of mutual marital duty is to have loving sex). It’s swimming in the Red Sea. Period sex is the official birth control method of the Catholic Church and the only one they approve of. Don’t want to do that or have kids, better hope you were called to a celibate order or the single laity.
Religion is the red flag.
True Catholics use Slackware.
You’re thinking of a different denomination
Bob Dobbs approves.
If “he” uses Linux, there’s probably something xe/xey isn’t telling you.
Check their Amazon history for socks
Oh, come on, that's just mandatory equipment for ThinkPad usage*
^*(if^ ^running^ ^GNU+Linux)^
It's more problematic when using and older thinkpad with coreboot ...
If the pronoun choice is "xe/xey" instead of "per/pers" do they even GNU?
Maybe they use Alpine
Xe/xey ?
Him: ?
https://www.reddit.com/r/CatholicDating/comments/1eu7u3d/ladies_is_it_a_red_flag_if_he_uses_linux/
Possibly relevant: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_wealthiest_religious_organizations
Sure they have a lot of money and income, but they have a lot of expenses too you know!
Like paying the continuous stream of victims of sexual assault since those pious clergymembers can't seem to stop raping children
For a lot of women marriage (and divorce) is all about money.
This just hurts my brain. I don't get what "Linux" here is supposed to represent. Wealth, intelligence, fidelity, fanatical devotion to Free Software?
Being a nerd. It's in the picture.
I find it very hard to believe that anyone vetting a spouse in such a way cares about the spouse being a nerd in and of itself.
Again, in the picture... apparently, they do... cuz, you know... we have money 🤣.
As much as I enjoy shitting on Catholics (I would hang out on a church roof pretending to be a pigeon if I could get away with it) the title of this post would be accurate with one fewer word. "Apparently, dating is all about money."
No, apparently, just using Linux MIGHT be a red flag...
But, on the other hand, some people also say that Linux nerds are cash cows, so they can't be that bad I suppose 🤷.
wtf
Casholic with a lisp.
I'd say it would be a red flag. They'll likely try to convert you from Catholicism to Linuxism
as jesus intended
Nerds are like dogs it seems
My dog doesn't make squat for income.
Your dog doesn't use Linux either.
NotAnIncel LARPing
Only if he uses Linux and insists on anal as a form of contraception. 😂
One comment said "You could think of it as protecting personal data which could translate to protecting his family's personal data."
I'm 99% sure that they're joking.
You'd be surprised how people think.
😂
Literally what is the problem? Who gets offended at shit like that?
Ummm, I did... if I get to be the cash cow, then honey, you shouldn't mind being the maid, a perfect mother and my personal sex slave.
No it doesn't. Apparently, you can. You just have to be a nerd, make a ton of money, use Linux and hit it off with someone that agrees to live with you.
And I'm already in therapy... not doing much good unfortunately.
What…
Oh you read me right.
Well, I am not trying to justify the person in the post since I do not know who the person personally and what she means; but as a guy, I would also want my partner to be earning good money. You know, to raise a family.
Completely agree.
But, if I do accept an arrangement where I'm the cash cow, you better be all that I listed above.
I mean, why would you go out with a walking red flag to begin with lol.
Why not... it's not like I'm marrying her on the first date.
So Catholicism?
It Catholic Dating...yes...that's what she's signing up for.
What a catch. No wonder your women become feminists.
You're all pathetic excuses of "men". We used to go to war and not expect anything in return. Several decades of comfort has made ya'll soft.
Don’t mind him, incels gonna incel
Wow what an alpha you are.
Us soft, lol 😂. I agree, but that goes both ways, women have gotten a lot worse than men ever did.
And then they wonder why shivery is dead, why there are no real men... well, you kinda killed the idea of all that when you started not accepting compliments (or plain out right laughing at our faces and calling us corny), seeing everything through the prism of money, started getting pissed off when men would like to treat you as equals on dates and split the bill.
Sorry, I have no respect for those types of women. Sure, there are some that are not like that at all, but they are so few, they're mostly taken.
All girls are shallow. I'd rather, "he got money" shallow than "he tall" shallow. At least one is something you can do something about. I don't know why people pretend that it is wholesome when the girl falls in love with the physically handsome tall guy, but then somehow less wholesome when the girl falls in love with a guy who through talent and hard work made something of himself.