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asklemmy·Ask LemmybyTwoBeeSan

what's the dumbest thing you've done online?

One time I posted my ass on a forum. A woman was posting her tits and I said my ass had more cleavage than her. She called me out. I posted. She deleted her account after being made fun of by everyone in the subreddit.

It then got reposted on reddit best of. So at least 2 separate groups of people laughed at my ass/that woman.

Even got my own thirsty message which was different.

I appreciated the confidence boost this gave me. But now my ass is out there. Maybe you've seen it?

What's a dumb thing you did online?

No ragrets tho

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relationship_advice·Relationship AdvicebyTwoBeeSan

Breakup: I love you but im not in love with you

Hello all

My (27m) ex (29f) broke up we with me out of the blue saying she doesn't love me how I love her. That I deserve someone who does. Never felt forced doing anything but cannot pinpoint when feeling left.

Had been together 8 months. Went on a vacation at 5 months that was incredible. Had come off a date on Wednesday that she said she loved before she got an Uber home. We were planning the next.

She had come over with the intention to stay and calm down/do homework then had a panic attack until confessing her feeling.

She was crying more than I was. Said she was following the feeling. Agreed you have to do that. But she was adamant it wasn't a specific thing and nothing could change.

Her last relationship was incredibly abusive. I am pretty much the opposite. People think I'm gay. She was the first person I had ever felt drawn towards romantically. First ever asked out instead of falling into the relationship. First ever explore sexuality with where it didn't feel forced.

I had always tried best to communicate any and all feeling. Or issues. She said I was an incredible human being and deserves someone who loved me the same way. But she wasn't in love with me despite loving me. I Didn't do anything. Nothing specific. She just knew I wasn't it.

Talking every day to cold turkey. Communicating every step of the way to make sure each of us weren't being clingy. we both werent that way but it felt natural to be it.

The only thing she managed to muster was ' I don't want to smoke weed and eat candy '. (Additional context: she did dabs I smoked bong hits. Prior and during. upbringing has told her it is bad. It makes her stop and feel. )

The expectations and goals she has for herself made any childish escapism feel like a waste of time. But at the same time she always felt like she was at the point of a panic attack. Like she needed to slow down and relax and take a breath. Incredibly busy. Depressive. Anxious. PTSD recovering. She always goes goes goes.

Incompatible.

Curious if anyone has had a similar experience. It feels like being robbed. I know better than to reach out first. She still has things to pick up. Its just so shocking. Her cars still in the driveway.

I know it's impossible to understand the nuances of a relationship from biased perspective, but I am wanting to hear others experiences.

Hopefully it'll ground me from this very odd shattering im having now. Can't help but feel I got constanzaed. "It's not you it's me."

Appreciate you all and your advice.

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I am creating a gay history information table for pride at a retirement community: What would you want included?

What would you show to illustrate the importance of gay culture and history?

Current ideas: Static table set up for June. They see it when they enter the lobby/on way to lunch. Can stop and read, cannot miss it.

Start at antiquity, show Sappho, Egyptian tombs, historical erasure.

Go to middle ages/ Renaissance, Christian persecution. Advent of modern institutionalized hate.

Modern, 20s acceptance to return of conservatism, stonewall 70s lib movement, law and protection creation. End with a photo of Jonathon Joss to really turn the knife that it hasn't fucking gone away.

Want to also highlight specific people in the eras. Maybe 1 to 5 with space we have. Harvey milk, Wendy Carlos, Alan Turing.

Looking for any suggestions to really make this a specisl learning experience/ way for the elder gays there to feel appreciated. Know we have a few and they're surrounded by a sea of conservative pricks.

Thank you!!!!

Tldr: suggestions for an educational gay history table. Elderly demographic.

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Asexuality Acceptance: Your Experiences

Hello!

Making this post to check in on other asexual spectrum people. Curious how attraction works for you?

Recently discovered the term "side" and feel that fits well. Always felt obligated for penetrative sex, liked servicing but awkward when things done to me.

Been with men and women. Recently with someone could not be more my type but could not perform. Twice. Wanted to (or so I thought) but it was wanting to be a people pleaser.

When it clicked. Dont like sex. Enjoy things around it, watching partner reactions,kissing, cuddling, performing oral, but actual? It feels like pulling teeth.

Searched and searched and this seems to be a hard Google. 🤷

What prompted me to make this post.

Asexual people what has been your journey of self acceptance? How does attraction works for you? How have partners been about understanding it?

Thanks for the responses.

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asklemmy·AsklemmybyTwoBeeSan

what is your coming out story?

Go on date with man. Tell mom going to gym with coworker. He didn't think we'd actually go but I'm not a liar so his makeup is ruined.

Leaving. He wants to go to families house. I don't want to. So we're just driving around, asking me where to go. Inadvertently give directions to the house. We both can't believe it.

Sit out under stars. I Apolgize in advance in case I'm uncomfortable since new to me. Turns out the stubble is the only difference with men.

Lireral romcom ass date.

Dropped off at home. Told mom "well, I got a bit of the gay." She laughed and said "Do we need to talk about it" shrugged "don't think so"

He moved in 3 months later.

Telling my Gma was funny. Never saw her eyebrows go that high. Think she was more taken aback that he was brown than a man lmao.

Feel lucky everyday for an accepting environment. Have heard many horror stories.

What was yours?

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asklemmy·AsklemmybyTwoBeeSan

Creepiest Cosmic Coincidences?

What i mean by this is something that is too peculiar to explain.

Happened recently. Made business cards. Proud of them. Feels like a continuation of father legacy to a certain degree. Edited them from advice he gave my mom when they started their business. Was cherry on top.

Next day. In meeting at work. Boss randomly calls me my dad's name. She has no family or any connection to it. She just felt called to call me that at that time. No knowledge beforehand of my dad's name.

Literally felt like his spirit hugged me. I am not typically a spiritual person... but cosmic coincidence is a spooky fucking thing.

Seen similar things but nothing to this level.

What are yours?

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The Future is Now: what were your thoughts on transitioning to a vape?

Curious what others have found when transitioning to a vaporizer. Been a flower bong smoker for 3 ish years and the hockers got to be too much.

Got the arizer xq2 yesterday and have been enjoying the lack of black phlegm but the high is much headdier as opposed to body of the traditional bong.

Vapor sneaks up on you lol, being able to blow it directly in with the fan is nice too. Haven't fucked with the bags yet as it seems a little much. Been treating lungs as the bags with that fan honestly

What were your experiences/thoughts when going to a vape?

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