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How do I improve my self-esteem?

Work on your negative self-talk.

Each time you remember something and cringe or insult yourself, you overwrite that memory with you feeling shitty about it. It's a terrible feedback mechanism.

Instead, laugh at your silly mistakes, celebrate your successes and failures, and forgive yourself.

It will take a long time to unwind the stuff you have done to yourself, but this is one technique you can just start doing - recognize when you are beating yourself up and do a little better.

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What's something in your life that you got through that you didn't think you'd get through?

I thought I was dying in my 30s.

I have IBS and it just skyrocketed in its effects on me over a period of a few years. Doctors had no clue.

I lost my job, went bankrupt, and had a lost decade.

Turned out I had a hernia that turned my IBS into regular intestine blockages. Public benefits paid for the surgery, and here I am almost twenty years later. (Worth noting that I met a woman who never thought she would find love or get married, and she demanded I get the surgery.)

I am back to being unemployed and need some simple remote work, so if anyone has ideas, much appreciated.

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How easily do you make friends?

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And if you don't want to leave your house a ton, find online hobbies that let you find and meet people, like card games, board games, roleplaying games, etc.

Granted I had my board gaming friends but when COVID hit and we couldn't play, I made a D&D campaign for them.

We had never played that together before but everyone was in, and one of the players had never played but had read a ton of novels (Dragonlance, Frizzy [Drizzt!], etc) and was fully committed.

Now we have all taken turns as the DM, and two of us usually swap out for our own stories.

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increase rise with boule

I am not a bread expert at all, but I would suggest bread flour instead of all-purpose. I think that extra protein will help gluten development.

I have also thrown some ice cubes in the dutch oven to steam the bread and help the crust to remain pliable so it can rise more. But I also cracked a clay dutch oven doing this, so be careful.

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What are your feelings about the same question being posted across multiple instances?

I browse all, so it annoys me but I also realize that's what I set myself up for.

When it really annoys me I block the less popular community or the one who keeps annoying me.

But the ones that really really annoy me are the people who join and then make a community "Just for their thoughts, ideas, and links."

Get a fucking diary. (Again, this is still a me problem, it's just what annoys me.)