Butter
I went to open the new container of butter at work and saw that someone else got there before me. Who does this! :'( Needless to say, I smoothed it out. I'll get to see what it looks like when I'm back in on Monday.
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Who does... what? What am I missing here? Somebody took some butter... weren't they allowed to? Was it yours and they used some without asking? I'm really lost.
So the answer is you!
Have you been tested for autism and ocd?
on this website? never
Nope. It's just mildly infuriating, not something I'd lose sleep over. If it started to mould because of bread crumbs in it, then I'd be more annoyed because of food wastage.
Honestly if this is "mildly infuriating" IDK how you make it through the day.
This really is infuriating
Because people not showing respect to food - and keep it in its perfect shape and structure, as it's supposed to be!
And obviously, I'm not diagnosed with anything, only my wife complains, that's it really hard to cook with me ;-)
I refuse to cook with my partner because she can't just acknowledge that everyone does things in their own way, which is not necessarily better or worse than her way.
Basically, she's super bossy.
My partner thinks the same of me 😞
I'm very focused on optimizing things and sometimes I just want to ask, why she is doing things her way, because I think, that I'm maybe missing something.
She always brings up the example, that I even tell her, she washes tomatoes wrong, because she used warm water.
But they are just easier to cut, when they are cold and the skin doesn't already separate
She takes the critique very personal and now it's mostly me cooking...
Which is fine, but I'm feeling bad, because I didn't want to say, that she does something wrong, I see such things as external and we can improve, not attached to the person as a being.
So, when she does something better, I don't feel bad, I try to adapt her style.
Other way round, it's always a personal critique it seems
But I'm also very picky with food and obviously not an easy person. So I'm happy, she still sticks with me and I'll happily cook for her
When she does something better, do you say something to her that shows her you've learned something and are going to change how you do it? It might seem like you have a "I always know best, my way or the highway" attitude but if you show a bit of humility and can accept that you don't always have the best methods, it might show her that you don't want things always done "your way", you're just looking for the "best way".
I ask, why she does that this way, so I can learn, and yes, I then tell her, that this is cool and I'm happy to do it that way as well
But asking already is triggering a defense mechanism now... 😞
In general, we are perfectly fine though and very happy with each other
So this is not a real problem, just would like to do it better
Edit: and no, it's not about "my way"
As I said, for me this is just an external thing I'm doing and isn't connected to me - like it's not a personal fault, if I do it wrong
I often ask her for help, because I know she does many things better, where I can't
We have the saying, together we're one good monkey
It's just some things, and I'm not sure how to it better, when I want to tell her about my learning experience/mistakes I've already made, and want to show, that's easier or better that way
And even then, I don't say, that I'm doing it correct, I only say, I do it that way, because I think it's easier/better
And I usually ask, why she is doing something her way, because I want to verify my own approach - because I think, I'm doing something wrong or miss a thing, I haven't thought about
Edit 2: current example:
In our bedroom it's getting bright quite early and I said, maybe we should think about curtains, because the window blinds don't really work that good
She said, she is worried about mold on the walls with them, and I said, ah, yeah, you're right, I haven't thought about the winter months
So hopefully, you now have a better picture and don't think of my like an asshole anymore, that doesn't let any other idea being ok ;-)
Final edit:
I just saw now, that you aren't the guy I was talking with first
I was hoping for an exchange with another one, that is seemingly in the same shoes like my wife, so I can maybe have an idea how to do this better
That was the original idea, why I started talking
Maybe you have an input yourself, but at the moment, you misinterpreted my situation
Isn't being a member here pretty much a full diagnosis?
I think I've gained enough lemmy experience to earn both if those feats by now. I may have transitioned as well
Congrats! : hands you your left handed chop sticks:
Not sure why this would be infuriating. Someone just used the butter, whats wrong with that?
Clearly they wanted to be first and it was mildly infuriating
Nah, OP probably likes to scrape a thin layer of butter off the top. This softens it a bit and makes it easier to spread straight out of the fridge onto toast.
I'm not sure I'm understanding. It's margarine or spreadable butter in a tub. How is someone supposed to use it? If I need a could tablespoons of it, what should I do that isn't that?
I also always skim off the top to keep it level. I feel you, friend.
Like I said in another comment, I thought I'd share something I thought could be relatable to some people. I thought it was pretty innocent and I didn't realise I would ruffle so many feathers. :(
It's fine. All this really means is together you have generated multiple posts worthy of this sub with a single photo. Very efficient of you, I appreciate it.
Thank you! Though I still think I will hesitate posting here again.
I would too, unfortunately, but it's not you, its them.
I think we're mostly fascinated to see a different perspective on things. I'm glad you shared.
Thank you. I'm not a stickler for a lot of things, and this butter thing was 1/10 on my "infuriating" scale, so it's pretty mild. This just got way more attention than I expected and didn't expect people to question my mental status based on a single photo/post, haha.
Imo it just means its not as relatable as you thought. It happens, no need to take it personally. Just move on and enjoy your next post.
Its easier to spread this way, but you'll never be able to share a butter container with other ppl.
Most definitely this. I share butter with others, there's no problem. 1/10 on my "infuriating" scale, it's not like I can't close the lid and have it on my mind for the rest of the day. I've got way more important things to do!
Just pop it in the microwave for 3 minutes and back in the fridge. It’ll be GoOd aS NeW the next morning!
Don't forget to clean the nuclear explosion inside the microwave after you're done.
It's at work. Why clean it, nobody will know it was me.
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It’s a TUB of butter… it’s one thing if it’s a free standing stick but you dig into a tub.
But you can't spread a blob of butter as easily as slices. Do they eat it with a spoon?
Have you ever had a tub of butter? You just slide the butter knife across the top and it creates a thin slice of butter. You don't scoop a blob of it. Just think about it for a second.
But they did here.
Maybe they didn't have a knife
Where is the after smoothing picture?
Is this really butter or just margarine? It looks too soft for butter.
In that case, a post well done.
I can't remember. I'm sure it said "spreadable butter", so it'll have vegetable oils in it to make it soft.
You can get butter that's been mixed with oils to make it more spreadable.
Do people actually use butter butter as a spread?
Who doesn't? Majority lactose intolerant nations?
Butter is basically lactose free.
The Brits, se Germans, ze French and de Dutch do, yes (don't know about the rest of Europe).
Marmite on toast with lashings of butter. Yum.
Hell yeah :)
That's wild. In Finland butter is only used for cooking. For everything else we use butter+oil spread like Oivariini or Ingmariini
I used to use margarine, but I can't get any without palm oil anymore.
Sorry mate, you seem to have spelled Vegemite wrong
Also nice, but it's cheaper to import Marmite in Germany.
Oh, hell yes! That's one place where butter is much more enjoyable than any of the margarine varieties.
Don't get me wrong, margarine (despite its many drawbacks) has its place in cooking. But butter is my preference as a fat spread. You get a less single note flavor for one thing. Since the taste doesn't come from a chemical being added, you get more complexity even with shitty butter (mass produced butter is usually produced by cows fed very limited diets).
It also spreads differently. When cold, it spreads difficult, compared to margarine. But this isn't a bad thing in all cases. When room temp, or manipulated to soften it, it's easier than margarine. But the key is that you get a slightly less uniform spread. While this may or may not be a benefit to everyone, it does lead to the experience being varied. Margarine tends to spread very evenly in comparison.
What else should I do with it than spread it on a bread?
Besides obviously cooking with it, but in a bread, yeah, it's getting spreaded
Bake cakes and biscuits (cookies)!
Ok, that one's on me for only mentioning 'cooking' ;-)
But honestly, we don't bake much. I don't think we baked anything sweet ever.
I bake a lot of biscuits because bought ones all contain palm oil nowadays. I just make a 3-2-1 dough and add cocoa, or I put jam on top.
Sounds very good, especially with getting rid of palm oil
We're just not so sweet here and only sometimes get an urge, but that's not enough for baking...
To only thing I did were hash brownies, but that was quite some time ago... ;-)
yes, i have a stick on the counter in a butter dish. if it sits out too long i use it to cook.
What is this "sits out too long"? Haha
Yes.
Gotta be honest, I’d probably do the same here. There’s no room on the sides to take from the side to not make it noticeable like that. Kind of like a cream cheese container.
I've always been one to just skim off the top. I've seen worse a few weeks back with a lot of bread crumbs mixed in, but didn't think to take a photo.
Oh, someone forgot to add breadcrumbs there
Ooh, and a little bit of jam mixed in that has begun to solidify.
Is the infuriating part supposed to be that someone got to the butter before you? Or is it that you don't like how it was scooped? What is the "correct" way if this is "incorrect"? Genuinely curious.
No, I don't mind if someone got there before me. That actually never crossed my mind!
I always thought of it this way: because the top is always exposed to air, it starts to go rancid and harden before anything else below it does. The more you dig, the more butter is exposed to air. I do not go through a tub very fast on my own.
Also, skimming layers makes it easier to spread, especially on soft breads and buns.
Doesn't seem too bothersome to me
Yay! Finally a post that’s mildly infuriating, instead of actually infuriating! I don’t care what the others say, you win this sub for the day in my book, OP!
Aww, thanks for the support! I really did toss up the idea of deleting the post within the first hour. It really was just what I thought would be a fun, light-hearted post, but there's some pretty serious comments on here.
You have butter at work? And it’s shared?
Can I assume it's the weird little flipped up part that's the problem, not the fact of it having been scooped into? Because while it wouldn't bother me, it would mean that little section is more exposed to air and that can be a negative over time. Oxidation is rarely a good thing in that situation.
If it's just that it isn't level, I don't get the mild infuriation tbh.
I mean, it is mild infuriation
This is how I took this butter/margarine thing - it's just a mild irritation, and thought I'd share something I thought could be relatable to some people. I didn't realise I would ruffle so many feathers. Perhaps I have read the room wrong and I shouldn't have posted here?
No idea; there’s possibly just a lot of butter murderers out there who are yet to experience the joys of evenly scraped butter
This calls for a Butterian Jihad!
Haha, great post. This wouldn't annoy me, but it annoys you. So this is the community for that
I posted a picture of my loaded dishwasher to show people how my adult daughter just didn't know how to do it. The responses were 50/50, half were annoyed at me for posting it, the other half annoyed at her because she's so lousy at it LOL
Thank you for your support! It was only mildly annoying for someone to dig their knife in like they were stabbing it and wedging out a piece.
Haha, that's great! There's definitely a way to stack dishes to make it efficient, I agree. I admit, I'm not great, so I won't make a post about me mildly infuriating myself and others, lol.
This is the equivalent of making ski slopes in cheese
Is anal retentive hyphenated?
What's wrong with that? Keeping margarine level when you use it is not something I've ever seen done before.
Side note - margarine is not butter! It's a dyed oil product made to mimic butter.
Butter doesn't come in tubs.
Butter does, in fact, also come in tubs.
huh! i stand corrected. i've never seen them, but yeah they exist! interesting.
A mixture of butter and margarine maybe. Butterine. But real butter usually doesn't.
Source please.
https://www.tinehandel.no/produkt/tine-meierismor-250-g-beger-1034.html
I’m thinking this is really because you don’t like your job.
Ignore all the armchair psychologists, this is definitely mildly infuriating, along with people who leave the microwave with a few seconds left so you can't see the time and you also need to cancel their remainder before you can use it.
I will, thanks! Or someone who leaves only one sheet of kitchen paper on the roll when they could have just changed the entire roll (new ones in the cupboard above) and left the single sheet on top of the new one.
You should! Or people who leave their empty wrappers in the tub with the uneaten chocolates/sweets.
100% will! Or those who leave the kitchen sponge in the sink still full of yesterday's cold water.
Have you considered pushing your comfort level with your next new tub of butter?
You could put a knife in the middle and twist
You could segment it into smaller blocks inside
You could dig a bit out if each corner.
Personally typing those idea made me feel sick so I understand your rationale.
Not a chance! 😂