Spyke

The kid may still come around some day, but it's probably going to get worse before it gets better.

I have no idea what it feels like to be a horny teenage boy roiding up to get muscles, but I can say for a fact that messaging girls and having nothing to show but a muscled-up body and roid-induced anger isn't going to work the way he seems to think it will. When I used dating sites, seeing a guy's shirtless, muscled profile pic was always a turn off, if not a red flag in itself. Include the picture if you want, but put it amongst all the other normal pics you might have, because seeing it as a default pic smells of desperation. If that's what you want to put out, don't be surprised when your only responses are from shallow people (if you're lucky) and (if you're unlucky) catfishers that can sense your need for validation from a mile away.

This isn't hating on muscle bros. I'm sure there are plenty of good guys that just like exercise, or who get caught up in the idea that big muscles are what women want to see. But when they get burned by shallow women and/or scammers that just want to use them, it often reinforces misogynist beliefs, making the cycle of manosphere nonsense harder to escape from.

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lemmy.blahaj.zone

Could be worse, my older brother had his fiance dump him and he went from feminist democrat to manosphere MAGA.

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Depending on how far out he's gone, be kinder to him. I have had a few friends who went into the manosphere after their breakups. And, some of them came back. During our chats, one of the things that kept coming back was how easy the manosphere makes it to channel their anger.

For someone in an emotionally vulnerable state, it can get hard to figure out when they moved from, "Fuck her, I want to focus on myself" to "its all women's fault".

Tbf, couple of them really kept going deeper into that cesspool and now I have no contact with them 😅, so ymmv.

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Serinusreply
lemmy.world

So after he lost he committed to losing? What would you call someone like that?

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Macreply
mander.xyz

an Incel. The manosphere lures them in by making all the problems belong to the woman.

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daggermoonreply
piefed.world

They prey on insecurity. I would have been easy prey for those assholes if I was just a bit dumber.

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Gonzakoreply
lemmy.world

Yeah, same. i'd have gone down the pipeline shouldn't have I watched contra points video on incels

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Thinking of my partner is terrible motivation when I’m mid-set. It just makes me want to leave and go hang out. The transactional view of relationships feels pretty gross. Which is the point, but verbalizing it helps me see where it gets weird

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lemmy.zip

No, It's likely the greentext is a few years old

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Most likely, but there are also other sites that do the same thing. Last time I tried it seemed a shadow of what it used to be. There were always bots but far more than there used to be.

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It was shut down a while ago, but apparently the domain and trademarks were sold at auction and the new owner is planning a relaunch of some sort

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