I hug a tree. I dunno if it makes life noticeably better but it’s a vibe. I lost quite a few trees in a storm last year and feel like I’ve under appreciated them for way too long. No more!
My wife does the same, and after we tried shoots the first time, I do the same now. Lost our second biggest tree last year in a storm, fell due to to much water, so the roots came with it, but it happened where we don't need to trim it, so now it's just laying there. We'll let nature take it's course. And we have enough firewood.
It took me a long time to realize slack responses don't need to be immediate. I usually have a slightly emotional reaction, but given 5 minutes I can gather my thoughts and give a much better response
I read an interview with Jenna Jameson a million years ago. The interviewer asked what was in the future. She answered something about her career and then, "make myself cum every day, whether I needed it or not", and I think that is just about the greatest advice for anyone. I've rarely missed a day in at least 20 years.
Sometimes I get solo so tired and overstimulated I can't sleep at night. Even closing my eyes for 20 minutes during the next day can mean I get a decent sleep at night. Also 10 or 15 minutes of morning sunshine helps, I think it helps melatonin production iirc.
Yes, everyone is different. Something else that helped was a bunch of bs happening and having a major ego death. I happened to be unemployed, so took the time to stay to myself except for going out for food and toiletries, quit the little weed and drinking I did and got really into doing what Jung called shadow work. It was painful, messy, and all-around not fun. But wholly worth it. After this community project is finished, I'm probably going to get busy with that shadow work again. I can tell I've neglected it too long.
Im with you on unemployment unfortunately. Closing in on a year. Just read another we ware not going with you and have one active possibility (contact after resume). Which has almost where I have been constantly at since the spring. Was worse from just before the election through the winter though with spans of nothing return contact wise (outside of we are not moving forward with the role). I doubt I will find an ego death and I have nothing to quit but soda. Which aint happening.
If that were true, I'd actually have gotten used to people telling me "you just need routine", but yet it still annoys me, after all these decades. No offense.
I was in the army. Doesn't get much more routine than that. Didn't do jack shit for the problems. In fact, made them worse. Want to see the several hundred pages of different lab results and doctors statements?
What I actually found to help for the first time in my life (been literally complaining about these problems my whole life, GI-issues and sleep mainly, but up to actual seizures a few years ago due to the exhaustion... or smth, no explanation to them either) was a GFCF diet, a gluten- and casein-free diet.
But I have so many other issues now that it wasn't clear to me whether I could do a routine when sticking to that diet. Hopefully. I'm back off it because you have to be on gluten for celiac testing and whatnot.
The only job I could do for longer periods (I was in it for four years) was when we were allowed to freely change our shifts between workers. Because I don't have really any sort of rhythm. So I would do a lot of work but suddenly sometimes I just couldn't sleep and that would just build up.
Then they took away our scheduling, because of overtime hours weren't being attributed correctly and whatnot (we just did the shifts of another person, but even if the hours matched the pay often didn't, as you'd get more from a nightshift than a dayshift), so then I had to quit there as well.
I should've just stuck there to be honest, I'm sure I would've gotten disability by now because they wouldn't have been able to fire me for being sick. But nooo, I had to try to not be a problem.
But yeah if I could tell my kid self my dietary requirements I think my life would look quite different.
Make a cocktail before dinner. Not saying it's the right thing for everyone, but it brings joy, relaxation and a nice moment of quality couple time with my partner.
I do aperitif half the days of the week, after making supper but before eating it, and when weather permits, sit on the front porch or back deck to drink it.
It really is a nice pause. Not so necessary now I am working from the office again, when we had to work from home a drink was the absolute best divider between work day and personal time. Just one.
I chug a tall glass of cold water first thing in the morning. Wakes me up a bit, gets the guts moving for a morning shit, and obviously helps rehydrate after sleeping.
Swapping to water for 95% of my fluid intake has been a complete life changer. I wake up feeling better, I sleep better, I can handle the heat and cold better, I'm more alert and able to focus throughout the day. It's insane what just drinking mainly water does for you.
I greatly reduced how much news I consume per day and it's done wonders for my mental health.
I chose 2 sources of news that I trust and then I block news everywhere else in my life. Every morning I read the news from the two sources I picked and that is all the news I will consume for the day.
If I notice that I am consuming news elsewhere I will block/ignore/hide that source.
As an example, if I notice a community here post too much news I will just block it. I use Discord, so if one of the servers I'm in has any political or news channels I will mute them, etc etc.
Doing this, I find that the news I read is more relevant to me because the sources I chose are local news networks. In addition, because I am not getting news from social media, the news I read is much less sensationalized.
It makes the news that I read boring and I think that is a good thing.
As I have to go back to the office I am reading a book now in the bus. I also try to avoid news but sometimes, it is a bit hard as I am not aware if something has changed. It happened to me. For example: the price of the bus ticket went up. I just discovered it when I got in.... :( So, I filter.
I splash cold water on my face now and again. Triggers our mammalian dive reflex, pops the lungs open. Also removes excess grease without going too far. Feels great!
Dad taught me to do this as a kid to wake up fresh. He didn't know about the reflex, but it works.
I’ve been doing some stretching in the morning, and I have a small weight set that I do a little bit of lifting with. As you get older your body no matter its condition will start to break down. It’s good to have a better pan and diet as you get older.
I lift weights four days a week. It really has helped me with a lot of inflammation issues and I really have so much more energy. It's not every day exactly, but four days a week I'm lifting for about an hour and a half each session. My life significantly improved after about the first six to eight weeks.
Actually, having a Wednesday off is so great. You can go around the city, it is empty, you can enjoy the streets etc. I have always recommended my team to experience at least once a Wednesday off
Nah, not really. Beer is more of a drink after sauna, because it hydrates as well. (Yes the overall alcohol is a diuretic but beer as opposed to vodka.)
After sauna you can maybe have a shot or two but that's just for a weekend sauna or something.
Going to the sauna is hardly anymore special than taking a bath. In fact I'd argue that more Finnish households have saunas than bathtubs, although that is a guess. We have more saunas than registered cars.
Pretty much every apartment, even studios, built after like 1990 has a sauna. Perhaps of the tiniest ones don't, but a small one small two-room apartment built after -95 definitely would. Mine does. And these are cheap government rentbuildings.
There's no lake at my apartment building, so I just have to settle for a cool shower and/or sometimes standing on the balcony in the winter.
And if you live in an apartment building that you don't have a personal sauna in, there's definitely one in your building still which you're allowed to reserve as a tenant, for like an hour or two a week, some for free some for like 2e/h.
A couple of years ago I quit drinking coffee, so now I almost exclusively drink water. I find the water first thing in the morning is a brilliant way to wake up
In the evenings I go for a bike ride, giving me some fresh air, sunlight and exercise. Some nights I go for a 20 mile intercity route, some nights I just do an easy 5 mile route in town
After my bike ride I'll eat some ice cream, shower, then relax with a book in bed (my phone stays on my dresser and out of reach from the bed) before going to sleep
The right morning routine and evening routine really makes my days feel so much more fulfilling even if I haven't been particularly productive that day
Yup post ride ice cream to as a treat to cool down and replenish sugar after sweating a bunch. I otherwise avoid treats/excessive sugar, but something about ice cream after an intense workout just is amazing
A couple of years ago I quit drinking coffee, so now I almost exclusively drink water. I find the water first thing in the morning is a brilliant way to wake up. It is actually the best thing every to do in the morning. A glass of water. I read some articles about that it helps nicely, softly to wake up the body and also to prepare the stomach. And obviously to be hydrated. I do the same. Glass of water (quite big one) + Vitamins C, Zinc
Bruh...
If I get less than 7.5 hours sleep, I'm tired all day. But if I get more than 8.5 hours sleep, I'm also tired all day. There's the magic window of time in the middle where I wake up relatively refreshed.
I try to knock off work an hour earlier than I planned to in the morning and take my dog for a walk. Sometimes I even leave my phone behind. It is surprisingly relaxing just knowing I could have a heart attack back in the tree line and the dog would be the only other thing to know where I was.
I like to bow and namaste. Even with the worst things, I still give reverence to the universe, and despite my dislike for something or someone, these too have meaning, somehow, someway. It is not my position to know why, just that I recognize it and accept it.
If it's sunny: go for a good walk (about 5km/3mi). Or failing that, take the cat outside and sit on the back patio for a little while. The sun exposure gives me some much needed vitamin D.
Other than that, I make sure I get some quiet time each day to recharge away from other people, virtual and otherwise.
Writing a list of things I want to do at the start of the day. Don't need to get them all done, but it just gives some direction. Things can roll over too, if they seem worth it.
I think of three things for which I am grateful every day. Reminders fire on all my devices and I don't dismiss the reminder until I complete the task. That might be first thing after I get my senses after waking up. It might not be until 7pm. But I do it every day, almost without fail (unless ill or something).
for every 15 minutes I work, I take a 60 minute break.
Every email I send means a half hour break
I hug a tree. I dunno if it makes life noticeably better but it’s a vibe. I lost quite a few trees in a storm last year and feel like I’ve under appreciated them for way too long. No more!
My wife does the same, and after we tried shoots the first time, I do the same now. Lost our second biggest tree last year in a storm, fell due to to much water, so the roots came with it, but it happened where we don't need to trim it, so now it's just laying there. We'll let nature take it's course. And we have enough firewood.
Edit: shrooms dammit.
Shoots?
From context I'm guessing it's "shrooms".
Leave slack DMs 15-20 mins before answering
It took me a long time to realize slack responses don't need to be immediate. I usually have a slightly emotional reaction, but given 5 minutes I can gather my thoughts and give a much better response
My immediate emotional reaction is usually some degree of "have you misplaced your brain?" So it's good to pause.
Same reason I have a 3 minute delay for outgoing emails.
😃 Approved... On my side more depending who is trying to talk to me...
not giving a fuck
still giving to much fucks, but at least i'm tying
Good approach
You should consider selling your fucks instead, at least that way you get something for them
Hustle culture is a, as I believe he kids are saying these days, “not a vibe.”
https://youtu.be/Vqbk9cDX0l0
Very fucking good.
Masturbate.
I read an interview with Jenna Jameson a million years ago. The interviewer asked what was in the future. She answered something about her career and then, "make myself cum every day, whether I needed it or not", and I think that is just about the greatest advice for anyone. I've rarely missed a day in at least 20 years.
The realest life hack.
Lol Also But, with a help, sometimes, it is more fun
To be honest even my go tos are not working very well. Walking, bathing, nature.
Proper sleep?
I try but that is the one that gets goofed up first by life not being great.
Sometimes I get
soloso tired and overstimulated I can't sleep at night. Even closing my eyes for 20 minutes during the next day can mean I get a decent sleep at night. Also 10 or 15 minutes of morning sunshine helps, I think it helps melatonin production iirc.I always attempt to get about 8 hours a sleep everynight. I have been tossing and turning so my sleep has not been great.
Yes, everyone is different. Something else that helped was a bunch of bs happening and having a major ego death. I happened to be unemployed, so took the time to stay to myself except for going out for food and toiletries, quit the little weed and drinking I did and got really into doing what Jung called shadow work. It was painful, messy, and all-around not fun. But wholly worth it. After this community project is finished, I'm probably going to get busy with that shadow work again. I can tell I've neglected it too long.
Im with you on unemployment unfortunately. Closing in on a year. Just read another we ware not going with you and have one active possibility (contact after resume). Which has almost where I have been constantly at since the spring. Was worse from just before the election through the winter though with spans of nothing return contact wise (outside of we are not moving forward with the role). I doubt I will find an ego death and I have nothing to quit but soda. Which aint happening.
I just had two opportunities say that they won't be filling the positions at all, so that probably doesn't bode well...
I think shadow work was the point. Best to you, either way.
Eta: briefly skimmed this, it seems decent at a glance https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shadow_(psychology)
sleep
Serious upvote here. This is a game changer, it's right in front of our noses, and it's free.
Hardest part is figuring out how to make yourself actually sleep - just lying down in the bed isn't enough.
I sleep and eat almost every day.
Some people are able to sleep at the same time everyday and eat three times a day. I've never understood how.
Routine. If you do it everyday for a while your body get used to it
Edit: that's what they say
If that were true, I'd actually have gotten used to people telling me "you just need routine", but yet it still annoys me, after all these decades. No offense.
I was in the army. Doesn't get much more routine than that. Didn't do jack shit for the problems. In fact, made them worse. Want to see the several hundred pages of different lab results and doctors statements?
Lol no, I understand completly. I'm medicated now so that's why I able to adapt to routine. Just assumed you were not like me.
Also I was lucky because I changed jobs and i now have a job that somewhat matches my body sleep window.
I've also gone through like all the medications.
What I actually found to help for the first time in my life (been literally complaining about these problems my whole life, GI-issues and sleep mainly, but up to actual seizures a few years ago due to the exhaustion... or smth, no explanation to them either) was a GFCF diet, a gluten- and casein-free diet.
But I have so many other issues now that it wasn't clear to me whether I could do a routine when sticking to that diet. Hopefully. I'm back off it because you have to be on gluten for celiac testing and whatnot.
The only job I could do for longer periods (I was in it for four years) was when we were allowed to freely change our shifts between workers. Because I don't have really any sort of rhythm. So I would do a lot of work but suddenly sometimes I just couldn't sleep and that would just build up.
Then they took away our scheduling, because of overtime hours weren't being attributed correctly and whatnot (we just did the shifts of another person, but even if the hours matched the pay often didn't, as you'd get more from a nightshift than a dayshift), so then I had to quit there as well.
I should've just stuck there to be honest, I'm sure I would've gotten disability by now because they wouldn't have been able to fire me for being sick. But nooo, I had to try to not be a problem.
But yeah if I could tell my kid self my dietary requirements I think my life would look quite different.
One of my favourite activity
I am not needlessly cruel and violent to vulnerable individuals living in atrocity several times a day.
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Make a cocktail before dinner. Not saying it's the right thing for everyone, but it brings joy, relaxation and a nice moment of quality couple time with my partner.
A good drink can help to get back the good mood 😀
I do aperitif half the days of the week, after making supper but before eating it, and when weather permits, sit on the front porch or back deck to drink it.
It really is a nice pause. Not so necessary now I am working from the office again, when we had to work from home a drink was the absolute best divider between work day and personal time. Just one.
Stretch for 15 minutes 2 times a day
Get up at the same time every day, even when I don't have to. Having a nice solid circadian rhythm makes me feel much better in several ways.
I chug a tall glass of cold water first thing in the morning. Wakes me up a bit, gets the guts moving for a morning shit, and obviously helps rehydrate after sleeping.
Swapping to water for 95% of my fluid intake has been a complete life changer. I wake up feeling better, I sleep better, I can handle the heat and cold better, I'm more alert and able to focus throughout the day. It's insane what just drinking mainly water does for you.
I stopped needing to use chapstick every 20 minutes
dance
listen to music
make my home a better place
I greatly reduced how much news I consume per day and it's done wonders for my mental health.
I chose 2 sources of news that I trust and then I block news everywhere else in my life. Every morning I read the news from the two sources I picked and that is all the news I will consume for the day.
If I notice that I am consuming news elsewhere I will block/ignore/hide that source.
As an example, if I notice a community here post too much news I will just block it. I use Discord, so if one of the servers I'm in has any political or news channels I will mute them, etc etc.
Doing this, I find that the news I read is more relevant to me because the sources I chose are local news networks. In addition, because I am not getting news from social media, the news I read is much less sensationalized.
It makes the news that I read boring and I think that is a good thing.
What are the two sources?
As I have to go back to the office I am reading a book now in the bus. I also try to avoid news but sometimes, it is a bit hard as I am not aware if something has changed. It happened to me. For example: the price of the bus ticket went up. I just discovered it when I got in.... :( So, I filter.
I splash cold water on my face now and again. Triggers our mammalian dive reflex, pops the lungs open. Also removes excess grease without going too far. Feels great!
Dad taught me to do this as a kid to wake up fresh. He didn't know about the reflex, but it works.
I’ve been doing some stretching in the morning, and I have a small weight set that I do a little bit of lifting with. As you get older your body no matter its condition will start to break down. It’s good to have a better pan and diet as you get older.
Riding my bike to work
Walk my dogs through the woods for 30 to 60 minutes with my wife and kids.
I lift weights four days a week. It really has helped me with a lot of inflammation issues and I really have so much more energy. It's not every day exactly, but four days a week I'm lifting for about an hour and a half each session. My life significantly improved after about the first six to eight weeks.
Four days in a week in a row or you take in between some rest days?
I take off Wednesday and then every weekend. I appreciate sleeping in on Wednesday like you wouldn't believe.
Actually, having a Wednesday off is so great. You can go around the city, it is empty, you can enjoy the streets etc. I have always recommended my team to experience at least once a Wednesday off
Some yoga / back stretching, highly advise for folks getting older.
thankfully im getting younger
Fiber supplement
Hemorrhoids hate this one simple trick
This and electrolyte supplement (no sodium).
A good 30+ mins jog, especially for ADHD enjoyers.
Actually seems to help with general anxiety too
Sauna for 20m when i wake up.
You've got a sauna at home?
Yes, i highly recommend it! But you can often find saunas in community centers, gyms and other places where naked people hangout.
Are you from Finland?
No! But it would be an amazing place to live!
If he was, the routine would also involve an ice cold lake and vodka...
Nah, not really. Beer is more of a drink after sauna, because it hydrates as well. (Yes the overall alcohol is a diuretic but beer as opposed to vodka.)
After sauna you can maybe have a shot or two but that's just for a weekend sauna or something.
Going to the sauna is hardly anymore special than taking a bath. In fact I'd argue that more Finnish households have saunas than bathtubs, although that is a guess. We have more saunas than registered cars.
Pretty much every apartment, even studios, built after like 1990 has a sauna. Perhaps of the tiniest ones don't, but a small one small two-room apartment built after -95 definitely would. Mine does. And these are cheap government rentbuildings.
There's no lake at my apartment building, so I just have to settle for a cool shower and/or sometimes standing on the balcony in the winter.
And if you live in an apartment building that you don't have a personal sauna in, there's definitely one in your building still which you're allowed to reserve as a tenant, for like an hour or two a week, some for free some for like 2e/h.
I think, going to sauna in the morning can be a bit hard for me... (Morning and I...) But, I should try. Thanks for the tip though
Suomi?
Malesia
Meditate. It was difficult in the beginning but since doing it consistently every day I've found a way to "dissolve" almost instantly.
Your mom.
OP's mom is not a small thing.
Mine? Hmm...... I would say if you would see my mum you would think twice. She is a tough cookie :)
Daily multivitamins
Especially Vitamin C
Drugs
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Drugs.
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I have a few things I've picked up recently.
The right morning routine and evening routine really makes my days feel so much more fulfilling even if I haven't been particularly productive that day
Is the ice cream just a treat, or...?
Yup post ride ice cream to as a treat to cool down and replenish sugar after sweating a bunch. I otherwise avoid treats/excessive sugar, but something about ice cream after an intense workout just is amazing
having at least 10hrs of sleep
Bruh... If I get less than 7.5 hours sleep, I'm tired all day. But if I get more than 8.5 hours sleep, I'm also tired all day. There's the magic window of time in the middle where I wake up relatively refreshed.
you can get groggy, if you oversleep.
The aim which is hard to achieve
I try to knock off work an hour earlier than I planned to in the morning and take my dog for a walk. Sometimes I even leave my phone behind. It is surprisingly relaxing just knowing I could have a heart attack back in the tree line and the dog would be the only other thing to know where I was.
A joint before bed is always nice. It isn't everyday but its often enough
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Drugs
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I like to bow and namaste. Even with the worst things, I still give reverence to the universe, and despite my dislike for something or someone, these too have meaning, somehow, someway. It is not my position to know why, just that I recognize it and accept it.
Lift weights, lots of water and protein.
drink water
If it's sunny: go for a good walk (about 5km/3mi). Or failing that, take the cat outside and sit on the back patio for a little while. The sun exposure gives me some much needed vitamin D.
Other than that, I make sure I get some quiet time each day to recharge away from other people, virtual and otherwise.
Writing a list of things I want to do at the start of the day. Don't need to get them all done, but it just gives some direction. Things can roll over too, if they seem worth it.
I drink water
I set aside 20 minutes in the morning to journal. It's become sacred to me. It helps me clear my head and set my focus for the day.
Eat right, walk, shower, brush teeth, sleep, help in the community.
I think of three things for which I am grateful every day. Reminders fire on all my devices and I don't dismiss the reminder until I complete the task. That might be first thing after I get my senses after waking up. It might not be until 7pm. But I do it every day, almost without fail (unless ill or something).
Drinking a hot tea for breakfast while lookong the landscape from the balcony.
I take 100mg of welbutrin every morning. Seems to do a decent job of making my life better
Sex in the morning.
A shower in the evening.
Riding the ebike to/from work instead of driving.