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Gf wants baby

So many people here telling you to break up, calling it an irreconcilable difference... Reddit moment, I guess?

A couple of things pop into mind:

I think she would be extremely sad if she stayed with me and if we didn't have kids

You think, but would she be? That's something the two of you have to talk about. Essentially - you both have to know what the two of you want. Don't be afraid of honest conversations, it's what relationships often need the most, even if they can get pretty uncomfortable. Maybe she's not super keen on children, either?

I hate work culture and I don't want to work until I'm 80 because I have kids, it's the biggest issue for me.

Just because you have kids doesn't mean you have to work until you're 80 - but what I understand from that is you don't want kids unless things are financially stable, which is very reasonable. The question for me is: would you be OK with having kids if it wouldn't make a difference in terms of your financial situation (or would you maybe even want them then)? Maybe there are solutions to financial issues, and it might be worth addressing them even without the question of kids. Again, something you need to talk with your gf about.

I want to live as frugally as possible.

Question is, do you want to live as frugally as possible out of principle or because of a tight budget? If it's the first, then that could get difficult when it comes to having kids, since it's something you should avoid imposing on your kids (I'm not saying smother your kids with expenditures, that's wrong as well - you need to find a proper middle ground). If it's the second, then as mentioned above, it's something you should look at more closely, with or without the prospect of kids.

in addition to that I have hobbies and I want my time spent on my hobbies and interests

That's a more difficult one. You will have less time for your hobbies, but there definitely should be some time left for your hobbies and interests (I'm assuming we're talking about a couple kids at most). And who knows, maybe they're interests you can share with your kids, depending on if they're interested? Then you can even use that to bond with your children later on.

I don't know what I'm looking for by posting this

The impression I get is that you know neither what you want nor what your gf wants. And that's something you should change. Talk with each other openly. Explain your concerns. If you're not sure about what you want, let her know about that. Ask her what she would like, how strong her preferences are, etc.. make it clear that not everything has to be solved in one conversation, take as many as you need. A number of short, honest conversations are better than one long winded one. Give things time to cool down. Sleep on things. And maybe continue to make it a recurring thing, even if this topic is resolved. Communication is one of the most important parts in a(ny) relationship.

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Going opposite directions at night, what should men do if approaching a woman?

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As much as this is the right answer, I understand where OP is coming from.

OP: to expand: you're not responsible for other people's fears or phobias. The best thing you can do is exactly that: nothing, just act as if the person were a guy you don't know. Trying to "prove" you're not a threat is exactly the thing a person who is a threat would do, so you're going to set off a whole bunch of alarm bells by doing that. And that's not just valid for women - at least I would be kind of creeped out if some guy did some of the things some people have mentioned in this thread.

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Framework responds to complaints that BIOS update bricks Ryzen 7040 laptops

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Probably referring to Framework's somewhat puzzling support of DHH, who openly supports far-right racists.

As to the BIOS issue, it should be noted:

Framework’s statement to Ars says:

… in addition to replacing in-warranty Mainboards, we are making exceptions for out-of-warranty replacements where we can confirm a stable-release BIOS update caused the board to become non-bootable.

Framework is also introducing a “Crisis Recovery Mode” BIOS functionality to enable a path for failed updates to be directly recoverable.

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Anon visits IHOP

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It's in German: "Ei" (pronounced "I") means egg.

The one was called "Ei Love you", the other "Ei Love you more" (apparently even my autocorrect didn't want me to write it). No, I'm not telling the person behind the counter something that could be misunderstood as I love them, not happening.

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How to win a trade war

Apple iPhone 👉 Buy a Samsung

Samsung phones are better than iPhone, but in the meantime only slightly. Their bootloaders have become pretty much impossible to unlock, meaning you're stuck with Android (Google). At the moment Linux is not particularly workable as a daily driver for most people, but it's good to think ahead in hopes that we might be able to rid ourselves of the Appl-Google duopoly some time in the future, and being able to unlock your bootloader is one of the keys to that, since it is a precondition to installing a different operating system.

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Anon visits IHOP

There's a bakery close to where I live that I used to get stuff from regularly. One of the things I liked had a really cringeworthy pun as a name, though, so I just said something along the lines of "the one with ham and eggs". I regularly got asked "so one [cringeworthy pun]?" At some point I said, "yes, the one with the cringeworthy name". The employee (who seemed to be a more senior employee) said I should use the product names because it would apparently confuse the apprentices otherwise. When I said that it's just too cringeworthy she started saying things like "no one else will notice that it's cringeworthy" and going in the direction of "come on, you can do it". Well, I don't go there anymore.

EDIT: since a number of people are commenting on my use of the word "cringeworthy": for one there are a number of places where it's fairly normal to use that word (and I mean IRL), and for another this happened in a different language.

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Some people don't mind cringeworthy things. For me, saying something that cringeworthy can hurt inside. Also, I just really don't like being coerced to say something in a certain way just to match some marketing shtick. The question shouldn't be "why don't you want to do it", but "why do you feel the need to compel me to use a term you made up".

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Germany’s affordable answer to the Fairphone with a "super battery" at a bargain price: Gigaset GX6 Pro review

Honestly I'm not super impressed, even though I was hoping to be, because I would love to see more variety in the space. €380 is not all that much less than the just over €500 which can get you a Fairphone 5. The Fairphone 5 should have support until 2031, the GX6 Pro until 2032. Fairphone has a solid legacy of providing updates, which Gigaset doesn't necessarily have - add to that, the GX6 Pro has a MediaTek chipset, and those are notoriously difficult to support, the Fairphone 5 has a Qualcomm which is much better in that regard. The review mentions regular lags - problems I don't have with my FP 5 (unless I'm just not that sensitive). Honestly, the only upside I see to the GX6 (other than the price - but again the difference isn't that big IMO, especially considering Gigaset doesn't have the focus on sustainability and ethics) is the wireless charging, which I wish Fairphone would stop being so stubborn about.

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Fox continues to be out of touch

I've said it before, I'll say it again: I can't help but think there are people at Fox News who like these kinds of ideas, and while they know it's their job to make them look bad, they purposefully do it badly so that they end up looking good after all. Honestly no other explanation makes sense to me.

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Supply chain attack on arrayref

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The would protect against malicious code running on the Dev's computer (which AFAICT is the case here), but not against the code created using the infected library running on users' computers. And honestly, seeing the regularity of supply chain attacks in recent times, I think we need to find a better way to work with supply chains going forward. Although I admittedly don't have any solutions myself, tbh.