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Thoughts on this?

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Good points, and it actually leads us to the words "hysteria" and "hysterical," which were the words recently used to describe a (sexist and incorrect) emotional distress based on the possession of a uterus. Which would... kind of support, by being the inverse of, what OP is saying.

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Is at-home laser/electrolysis worth it? Does it work?

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If you're light skinned, oh yeah does it work. I used on my legs for 6 weeks, once a year for 2 years in a row, and now the hair that did regrow is so much thinner and lighter that I didn't even shave this summer. Whoever is saying it can't be used on face - not true, get one with a facial attachment. Whoever is saying it takes a long time or isn't effective - I was shaving weekly anyway (which you have to do before each treatment) and lasering my legs I got down to 20 minutes; it's not much extra time but it had a drastic effect on my comfort level going more than 2 days without shaving. Doesn't work on my darker private bits but for legs, body, pits, and face, it was a complete game changer for me. I got the Braun silk expert pro 5 back in 2023. I would look for one with a better continuous-pulse now, but am otherwise quite satisfied.

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"Too many steps" day

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To reduce steps, I keep the electric kettle on the counter. Then it's just steps 5-12. But you also forgot step 10.B = forget about tea, and 10.C = remember tea and try to figure out where you left it.

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This. I have run fundraising offices in multiple cities. There's often one or two "trashy" people in each office, who could learn people's names but don't, who insist that everything they do is perfect and others need to change to see it, who love being loud and living large themselves but won't respect other's choices or beliefs even in shared professional spaces. They litter. They steal from people they know. They often hide behind a veneer of religious faith, to deflect criticism. They refuse to learn, or reflect upon their actions with anything but praise.

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What habit do you possess that seems very normal to you, but would seem odd to anyone else?

Have a very large vocabulary and go out of my way to avoid utilizing the same noun or adjective more than once in a conversation. Also keeping multiple conversations on different topics going at once with any people in the same room, a habit I learned/inherited from my ADHD physician mother who was always on calls while talking to my brother and I and also making dinner at the same time.

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Sunglasses suggestions

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Goodr is the answer. Only $25, look as good as Ray bans or better, lots of color choices, and they have this plastic coating on the nose arch that you don't notice or think you need, until the first time you happen to run, sweat, or look down and all other sunglasses flop around your face. Goodrs stay in place!

Also, never get aviators if you have hair longer than 1", the nose pads will get tangled.

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Whats an absurd luxury you enjoy every day in your life?

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Get a hot tub. My partner and I are both tall and both love to relax in hot water. Now we get to submerge our tense monkey bodies in our personal hot spring and just float any damn day we want to, for as long as we want to. It's great for our relationship. Plus, foot jets! We spent $7k on ours- a true luxury- but it was one of the best health / self care purchases I've ever made in my entire life.

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What actionable steps can you take to build community?

  1. Make plans with other people.
  2. Don't bail. Rinse and repeat.

But for real, finding ways to volunteer for your personal interests - whether online or in person - is the best way. It will connect you with other similarly interested people, give you a bit of responsibility so they see you're trustworthy and how you think, and once you are "work-friends" you can invite them to personal things also like going on a hike, watch/discuss a movie, go to an event, co-work, play a game, etc. The most important part is, of you say you'll do something that they're relying on you for, you gotta do it or communicate before hand why you can't. Community is just a group of people with similar interests that trust each other and communicate.

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What colors have you died your hair? Which was your favorite?

Done all the colors by now. Started with red and black, moved through fire-hues like red orange and pink, tried green, have finally settled these days on a nice pink-purple-blue-teal ombre, which looks nice and mermaidy in my wavy hair. Hardest to keep in is reds and pinks, easiest to keep is blue and green. I love blues and teal because they suit my eyes and skin tone - red and pink make me look flushed, but I do keep pink and purple around my face to keep things bright and fun and show some contrast & movement. Every Sunday I take some me time to refresh any fading colors, try to paint my nails, and take a nice long shower to wash out the dye. Edit to add: if you have medium length hair or longer, pay a professional to do your bleach! I do all my own color, but having someone do the bleach keeps my hair really healthy, even with lots of dye and product. When I did my own bleach, I had to keep cutting my hair shorter and shorter because I would always fry it somewhere and it would get frizzy.

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What sort of personality would you call this?

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As someone with a 5-year old, please define "children," because that is definitely not how they see their friends. They had one other child at 2.5 years, in preschool, who they both just naturally GRAVITATED to each other - not because they were getting anything out of it than mutual friendship. That friend has since moved away, devastating, and they do have other friends, but all other friendships pale in comparison. It's been amazing to watch how true friendship will just blossom randomly in the world.