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Garlic bread is an old ace meme. Where the community generally agreed garlic bread is better than sex. (And my non-ace partner would probably agree but that's besides the point.)
Not all psychiatrists or therapists are equipped to deal with all problems and all people. Mental health is hard and everyone is different. I hope you can make some progress on this, and I'm sorry things have been hard to discuss. I agree that talking about these things should be less taboo. It certainly would have helped me figure out some things.
I like the memes route, but it may take a while to break the shell it sounds like he's built. The real answer is probably to get a proper second opinion from someone who deals with sexual health, or maybe a couples counseling to discuss "sexual incompatibility" so as to not put the blame on him. But that may be too forward right now.
Just remember, unlike what society has kinda taught us, sexual drive is a complex thing and sexual health looks different for everyone, so conversations are important even though we aren't supposed to have them supposedly... Thanks society!