shes a classmate not my girlfriend, and I know about her I just don't know if her family is poor or not or if they are struggling.

'I just don't get it as far as I'm concerned they raised me this way "a asshole is an asshole no matter the race of person." "treat others the way you wanna be treated." "take someones kindness and pay it back with equal kindness". none of these specify race so I don't get why race is so important now when it never was before, especially in the black community.

dude I already am on multiple situations chief among them is the 'im not anti white im pro black' BS my mom uses to justify being a dick to white people.

Yes and no. they have come to collect me a few times because I went some place without them knowing so I just let them know where i am to avoid that. if i need to go some place really far away i'll need my dad to drive me since I cant drive myself or call a friend, so I need their permission to go plus. if I leave on my own without my parents knowing where I'm going it just a constant stream of calls and worry and both are heart patients so that isn't good for them or my patience.

in this case what happened was essentially I said "Ex-gf invited me out on X-day to the mall" and they started asking normal questions before saying im not going. I am complying since right now I dont have a mode of transportation available to me.

how do I do that? its not the first time I've been told to forget about casual sex, or sex in general, but when I try the thoughts just pop out more. "Huh (insert female classmate) looks really nice in those shorts" or randomly I'll be pulled into a fantasy about me boning a female classmate who I don't even know the name of while studying for a quiz. it just happens with no reason. How do you do it?

Semi-vent sessions, they know I'm letting out my emotions but also know I welcome feedback and other ideas. its just that the intensity and complexity of my situation and how I feel is far beyond their pay grade since we are all college students.