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Has there ever been an industry that's been "enshittified" and then un-"enshittified"?

I got curious and did a bit of searching since I couldn't really think of anything. Apparently Fender (guitars) was originally amazing, was sold to another company and really degraded in overall quality, and then was purchased back by some of its engineers and returned to a better quality. Pretty nice to see that people who were actually passionate about something regaining control and saving something they loved.

https://www.soundunlimited.co.uk/blogs/articles/fender_timeline

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Blahaj zone hacked

Thank you 🫂 I've been through some disastrous code deployments, but I know those experiences could never truly compare to something like this- stress, fear, accountability, and just feeling violated. You all must have put in sooo much effort and had to make some difficult decisions. Thank you for all of your time and knowledge to creating and supporting this space for us 🩷

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How do lonely people find friends/ how did you find friends?

Recently...they've kind of just adopted me. I'm incredibly shy, but I had been going to a little local coffee shop (just to get out of the house) and always tried to be kind and engage with the people working there when they would talk with me. I had a few really emotional weeks, and one of the owners picked up on it. She handed me a note with her number, and let me know I could always talk with her. She ended up inviting me to a little Halloween pumpkin painting night with some of her friends, and I connected with them super well! Now they invite me out to little activities, food, movie nights, etc.

That's kind of how I've meant most of the friends I've had- be kind, be interested, and be present! People get more comfortable the more they see you around, so even if you're a little shy or awkward, someone might extend a hand and bring you into their circle.

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Not autism but yep I do this

I once had a meltdown when I was suuuuper young after my dad threw away my bowl of salad, which at that point was just the cucumbers I was saving as they were my favorite part. He yelled at me for crying and thought I left them because I didn't like them, my mom comforted me and yelled back at him explaining why I ate that way. One of the many moments that I'm sure compounded until their eventual divorce. Yay traumatic memories! So going to buy some cucumbers when I go to the store next 🤤

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Sooo true! Every friend I have that has a partner/so has or is playing BG3 together. I love hearing them talk about their adventures and always giggle when they get to the romantic side of things - never any jealousy, just cheering each other on 🤭

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Spotify Premium "Ad Free" plan

Just a reminder that Tidal is amazing, has higher quality audio, a real shuffle, daily playlists, doesn't shove podcasts in your face, pays artists more, and provides ways to import your playlists over 🩷 I also listen to some pretty obscure music and haven't had issues not finding songs.

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Interviews

The interview process is what is causing me the most anxiety right now. Lost my job at the end of June, and I KNOW I need to be looking harder, but I'm just dreading the whole interview process. I've been procrastinating like crazy...I just don't want to relearn a whole culture of a new team; it's so mentally draining. 12 years somewhere and the idea that I have to start all over again...😭

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Is it normal for ADHD people to find it hard to cum because you think about laundry?

This is actually something I've learned more recently, especially with women, is pretty common. Reaching orgasm during sex often requires a lot of focus on feelings (physical, mental/emotional) and being present - ADHD brains can struggle staying present which then leads to less orgasm frequency during sex. I personally have had issues with this and have had partners with similar experiences - the best way I was able to help them was to be very vocal and engaging to keep them with me in the moment (talking in their ear, asking questions, etc) . One of my friends recently noticed that she's enjoying intimacy far more now that's she's being treated for her ADHD.

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A lesson in housekeeping

A long time ago, as I was getting ready to get dinner with a friend. I asked her if she could start my dishwasher. It was all loaded and just needed the detergent which was under the sink...well, we got back and the kitchen was flooded and filled with suds and bubbles. Turned out she used the dish soap next to the sink instead of the detergent. Cleaned it up, laughed, and was reminded of the different experiences we all have from people who grow up in more wealthy households.

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Is this you?

Part of my mask is almost always asking people how they are feeling for the day when I first start my interaction with them. I used to avoid that kind of small talk, but it actually super helps me make adjustments to my conversations with them and gives me context to why they might speak to me a certain way. When I'm in a burn out phase, I tend to avoid it though because I don't really have the mental energy to process their responses and want to disconnect as quickly as possible.

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onions

Fructan sensitivity 🥲 I appreciate the flavor they add, buuut don't appreciate how they digest in my body. I carry food enzymes with me when I'm out though- kind of hard to avoid when I'm not the one cooking. I do want to try adding them to my oil infusions sometime!