Actually there's a woman at my company who I see about once a month. No idea what her name is or what building/team she works in. She's one of the most attractive women I've ever seen. Like, I can count on my fingers how many times I've seen a woman that attractive in my whole life.
I find it interesting that a majority of the top comments assume the image is referring to a female coworker. The gender neutrality of it leaves much room for interpretation. I haven't seen the latest Lemmy demographic stats, but this doesn't exactly paint a balanced perspective.
If I spend 40 hours a week with someone and still I'm attracted to them then they're attractive and probably a nice person.
One of my coworkers is physically extremely attractive but to be honest I would quite like to have her beaten to death with a mallet. No amount of attractiveness can overcome her lazy petty vindictiveness.
In my experience, attractive people are used to get what they want because society subconsciously favors them. I'm not generalising as there are plenty of attractive people that are good human beings. But I think attractive people tend to be narcissistic than their non attractive counterparts.
If you can spend forty hours a week with them and still find them attractive they’re probably actually attractive both physically and at least somewhat as a person too
yeah, but ALSO - people often find themselves attracted to people they otherwise might not, after all those hours together. doesn't take away from the fact that you found you a winner.
I wish. Couple of newly added women that are annoyingly attractive. I don't work closely enough with them for the 10 ft thing to apply, but I work in a big city so these things happen. Still not gonna be a creep tho.
I think this advice only applies to idiots. I've been dating coworkers for years and it's never once screwed me. My fiance is a former coworker. As long as you both understand the risks and are decent to someone after a break up, you really shouldn't have a problem.
Dude I'm not going to waste my time correcting one comment because some dork online goes and throws a hissy fit like you are right now. Grow up in a real sense.
Counter-counterpoint: my coworker is obnoxious and is not attractive and I'm afraid I'm starting to develop Stockholm Syndrome from the amount of my life I spend having to listen to them die on anthills all day.
last one i thought was hot was actually in a different department separated from me by an eight inch thick cinder block wall with one door in/out at least 100 feet away and no reason for her to be in my department for anything.
Instructions unclear, dated attractive co-worker in 2007. She farted on our first date, loud enough to be heard over the music and loud drunks at a steakhouse.
Counterpoint: my place of business hired a person who was a regular customer that I found distressingly attractive, like "Oh no, that hot customer is back, okay don't be weird, give them their space."
Once I worked with them for a few months I found out they were a total space cadet. I didn't suddenly find them un-attractive, but I definitely revised my estimation such that their presence was no longer a problem.
You're not entirely wrong. Any conversation with them would inevitably drift off into the weirdest tangents, and they would happily continue their side of the conversation, even if the person to whom they were speaking had to walk away or start doing another task. They weren't bad at the job, but they weren't great either, and they were consistently odd, and not in a fun quirky way.
Lies, lies, lies. I'm gonna ask her out and she how my life will end. Rejected and fired for sexual harassment? Or blackmailed after the first hot night? /joke
Are you talking about the same thing? The parent comment is talking about how this single threads post has 12.7k upvotes. If you're looking at daily active users, threads has about 150M, compared to lemmy.world's 13.2k monthly active users.
You also get to walk away from your coworker and not think about them every day at the same time, which luxury is no longer available when you become a couple.
My coworkers are almost entirely the same sex as me, and I'm not into it, so I never have this problem, but someone I follow on Facebook for reasons I can't remember posted a private detective video of his wife cheating on him, and someone in the comments sympathized and said he and his wife had split after he discovered she was cheating with two of his employees of the business he owned. Talk about shitting where you eat.
Almost seems backwards. If you’re spending that much time in close proximity to a person and you are finding them attractive, that would seem to be a good sign.
The point is that you shouldn't feel that comfortable with your coworkers. People have lives outside their workplaces.
You should bond with people you spend lots of time with. You shouldn't feel you have to date them just because you're bonding with them over that time.
Anywhere but apps. In person, irl is where I've seen the most success.
Eeh depends, if the app is specifically made for dating or you use it to find a date? Your chance of success is low and i'd suggest to change strategy but if you find your love in a random chat of a random social without any intention of dating? Hell it can work very well
I think that dating can happen on apps or in person, I’ve had success with both. It’s a numbers game either way. Regardless I definitely learned don’t do food on the first date in case you need to bail!
Can go either way on your second point. I have also been friends with a colleague before working together and made friends with colleagues after starting. That being said it’s awkward when someone clearly has no personal life and tries to force it.
Agreed with the caveat that I shouldn’t be told to socialize in my off work hours with colleagues for team building if I’m not paid. It can happen organically, but work sponsored/mandated team building should be on company time.
Imagine 10 feet around you :)
Actually there's a woman at my company who I see about once a month. No idea what her name is or what building/team she works in. She's one of the most attractive women I've ever seen. Like, I can count on my fingers how many times I've seen a woman that attractive in my whole life.
I find it interesting that a majority of the top comments assume the image is referring to a female coworker. The gender neutrality of it leaves much room for interpretation. I haven't seen the latest Lemmy demographic stats, but this doesn't exactly paint a balanced perspective.
If I spend 40 hours a week with someone and still I'm attracted to them then they're attractive and probably a nice person.
One of my coworkers is physically extremely attractive but to be honest I would quite like to have her beaten to death with a mallet. No amount of attractiveness can overcome her lazy petty vindictiveness.
In my experience, attractive people are used to get what they want because society subconsciously favors them. I'm not generalising as there are plenty of attractive people that are good human beings. But I think attractive people tend to be narcissistic than their non attractive counterparts.
Pretty privilege is definitely a thing and it's everywhere
This is so fucking stupid I can't every single time I see it.
Every situation is different.
I've been married to a former coworker for 10 years. She's incredible.
Generalizations are stupid
If you can spend forty hours a week with them and still find them attractive they’re probably actually attractive both physically and at least somewhat as a person too
yeah, but ALSO - people often find themselves attracted to people they otherwise might not, after all those hours together. doesn't take away from the fact that you found you a winner.
Lmao, imagine,
So goofy
I set my standards low so I'm never disappointed.
I wish. Couple of newly added women that are annoyingly attractive. I don't work closely enough with them for the 10 ft thing to apply, but I work in a big city so these things happen. Still not gonna be a creep tho.
Counterpoint: your coworker is attractive and they don't need to be a goddess among trolls to be worthy of interest.
Counter-counterpoint: any good person becomes attractive if you spend enough time with them
More of an addendum, but I totally agree.
Addendum: dining rooms and bathrooms are different rooms for a reason, don't shit where you eat
I think this advice only applies to idiots. I've been dating coworkers for years and it's never once screwed me. My fiance is a former coworker. As long as you both understand the risks and are decent to someone after a break up, you really shouldn't have a problem.
food service doesn't count, because you're more akin to family than coworkers. so dating them is okay.
Dualing banjos intensifies
Also healthcare
If thats your goal, just marry your best bro who also cant find someone.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-7hjdC8-jbw&pp=ygUUc2NydWJzIGp1c3QgdHdvIGd1eXM%3D
Its been a while since i remembered this song. Thanks.
Life's to short
Your to is too short.
My to is remarkably average
Ok, don't care.
😱 uh oh someone is "to cool"™ for ✨grammar✨ on social media 🏳️⚧️
Dude I'm not going to waste my time correcting one comment because some dork online goes and throws a hissy fit like you are right now. Grow up in a real sense.
I just thought the edgey snarkiness was silly. If I didn't care, I wouldn't have responded.
I'm too cool to fix a typo 😎 grow up dork
Yeah who cares. Life's a fucking coin toss anyway, be chaotic.
Life is to short. Like a stock.
I think you mean it's too long
"They tell you life is short. No it's not. Life is long, especially if you make the wrong decisions. "
-Chris Rock
What's the wrong mistake that will Fuck up they're lives forever, really I'm getting tired of this timidness from people.
Life is quite short for being so long.
Counter-counterpoint: my coworker is obnoxious and is not attractive and I'm afraid I'm starting to develop Stockholm Syndrome from the amount of my life I spend having to listen to them die on anthills all day.
Hell if they're someone who not only can stand me but I can stand them, then we're already halfway there lol
You miss every shot you don't take.
I don't even possess a method of taking shots anymore 👌
How I met my wife.
And how she met the guy she divorced me for.
Well that's a roller coaster of emotions
I want to get off Mr Bones Wild ride.
Oof
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last one i thought was hot was actually in a different department separated from me by an eight inch thick cinder block wall with one door in/out at least 100 feet away and no reason for her to be in my department for anything.
I find the inverse true. I work at a place that has a few women I thought were very attractive. Now that I've worked with them for years, I'm over it
Jobs really crush the human spirit, don't they? They are an evil, twisted perversion of what once was.
Instructions unclear, dated attractive co-worker in 2007. She farted on our first date, loud enough to be heard over the music and loud drunks at a steakhouse.
We've been married 17 years.
A love story for the ages but unironically.
An interesting way to share your fart fetish with us
Oh no, thats not my fetish, its too tame.
I was boutta say put a ring on her but seems you were 17 years early to my idea
My coworker is also very attractive. We've been in various stages of relationship since highschool and were engaged before she got hired, however.
Edit: She would like the Internet to know that I woo'd her with compliments about her puke-green eyes.
Beautiful puke-green eyes.
That is why I know they are attractive, both inside and out.
You must be REALLY close knowing their insides are attractive.
What else to do during lunch break?
Vore?
Eww, No. People are eating there you know.
Counterpoint: my place of business hired a person who was a regular customer that I found distressingly attractive, like "Oh no, that hot customer is back, okay don't be weird, give them their space."
Once I worked with them for a few months I found out they were a total space cadet. I didn't suddenly find them un-attractive, but I definitely revised my estimation such that their presence was no longer a problem.
What's a space cadet in this context?
Someone too focused on being an astronaut to pay any attention to the work that needs to be done at their normal job
You're not entirely wrong. Any conversation with them would inevitably drift off into the weirdest tangents, and they would happily continue their side of the conversation, even if the person to whom they were speaking had to walk away or start doing another task. They weren't bad at the job, but they weren't great either, and they were consistently odd, and not in a fun quirky way.
Lies, lies, lies. I'm gonna ask her out and she how my life will end. Rejected and fired for sexual harassment? Or blackmailed after the first hot night? /joke
Speak for yourself. My bosses are all 50 plus year old perverts, so they're only hiring incredibly attractive women.
Sometimes going into work sucks for me the way it might feel for a goblin sewer cleaner to walk out into the city.
Hi, one of your coworkers here 👋
We actually spend a lot of time talking behind your back about how hot you are
Yeah, They really should do something about their fever.
They are too cute to be sick.
Oh god. It went from threads to reddit to lemmy. I want to hurl.
Threads is still relevant?
I mean it claims 12 k somethings.. that's probably more upvotes than total upvotes cast in a day on lemmy
As occasionally using Meta services, I have a feeling that they are by far in the dead internet, the bots outnumber humans.
Sure, but.. a top post in 6hrs here might be pushing 1k upvotes and 50 comments.
Let's just be honest about how things are
Lemmy.world alone counts 13k/m, counting the top 20 instances we reach over 20k, crazy how we have more people than meta threads
Dead internet theory in action.
Are you talking about the same thing? The parent comment is talking about how this single threads post has 12.7k upvotes. If you're looking at daily active users, threads has about 150M, compared to lemmy.world's 13.2k monthly active users.
Ooh my bad, i though it was the active users on the platform XD
If she ain't on Threads, I'm not even wasting my time.
I think you'll have to go to Ireland, it's not very popular in other places.
Lol, how else are we going to see it here if we don't go to reddit on threads?
That…is the name of this community after all.
You're in threads and reddit?
You also get to walk away from your coworker and not think about them every day at the same time, which luxury is no longer available when you become a couple.
Until she quits and gets a better job. And he does the same.
Worked for us. :-)
Isn’t that what they call an “office 8”?
A friend recently said to me "you're at least a village 8.5". I'm still not sure if that's a compliment or an insult.
Depends… do you live in a village or the city?
My coworkers are almost entirely the same sex as me, and I'm not into it, so I never have this problem, but someone I follow on Facebook for reasons I can't remember posted a private detective video of his wife cheating on him, and someone in the comments sympathized and said he and his wife had split after he discovered she was cheating with two of his employees of the business he owned. Talk about shitting where you eat.
This explains why my wife-to-be showed any interest at all in me at first.
I better write this down...
Almost seems backwards. If you’re spending that much time in close proximity to a person and you are finding them attractive, that would seem to be a good sign.
The point is that you shouldn't feel that comfortable with your coworkers. People have lives outside their workplaces.
You should bond with people you spend lots of time with. You shouldn't feel you have to date them just because you're bonding with them over that time.
OOP's statement still holds up for some of us who work alone.
There is a severe lack of attractive coworkers these days. Terrible for morale.
Don't insult my mom like that
Okay, fine, your mom is very attractive. She single?
Maybe... what are you intentions ?
A nice place to work.
You have a much better shot at his mom than finding a nice place to work.
That's uncool to say, no matter how true it is.
Depends on the HR policy.
My coworker IS attractive. My coworker is also my spouse.
As the Sapnish saying goes "el roce hace el cariño", that roughly translates as "you get fond of the people you spend time with"
Why is it in English then that familiarity breeds contempt?
It's probably because of the English. Don't get too close to them.
Becuse they are talking about the English
What if you thought they were hot as soon as you started? It has happened to me and I am pretty sure they were attractive.
Isnt it reasonable? that the people you spend so much time with would build trust?
The Propinquity Effect: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/between-you-and-me/202203/the-role-of-familiarity-in-attraction
Hey, I can be two things 😢
They're a 9 in the office, 6 on the streets.
Anywhere but apps. In person, irl is where I've seen the most success.
My coworkers who are friends would disagree. Funnily enough I knew more than one before starting to work together.
Sounds boring. If I'm going to spend half my waking hours somewhere I might as well try and make it pleasant.
Eeh depends, if the app is specifically made for dating or you use it to find a date? Your chance of success is low and i'd suggest to change strategy but if you find your love in a random chat of a random social without any intention of dating? Hell it can work very well
I think that dating can happen on apps or in person, I’ve had success with both. It’s a numbers game either way. Regardless I definitely learned don’t do food on the first date in case you need to bail!
Can go either way on your second point. I have also been friends with a colleague before working together and made friends with colleagues after starting. That being said it’s awkward when someone clearly has no personal life and tries to force it.
Agreed with the caveat that I shouldn’t be told to socialize in my off work hours with colleagues for team building if I’m not paid. It can happen organically, but work sponsored/mandated team building should be on company time.
I didn't see a single one of these comments. Your generalization of others is severely inaccurate.