lemmy.blahaj.zone has a decent amount of women and both their admins are women, it's not a "women's space" as one would describe since everyone is welcome there but it's probably the closest thing one would describe as an instance "by women for women".
I am obligated to mention that it is a queer instance and that many of the women there are either trans themselves or strongly supportive of trans people, and do not tolerate transphobia or anti-LGBT sentiment (including refusal to support LGBTQ people) at all.
As much as I appreciate the community and users at Blahaj, in my personal experience, the moderation was fairly wanting. At least a year or two ago (not sure about now), they tolerated some pretty freakish right-wing people who enabled chasers and other weird shit on their communities.
They certainly do not seem very tolerant of that now, they very commonly ban people for thinly veiled homophobia and transphobia that would normally slide on other sites. They do not even seem mildly willing to tolerate the intolerant.
Yeah Spinster is generally considered a hate site, and consequently is very widely defederated, even from general purpose instances like lemmy.world. Also it's less of a Reddit alternative and more of a Twitter alternative but is technically redundant since you can do everything you did on there on the real thing instead.
Lemmy has an undeniable woman problem that it carried over from Reddit. I've lost count of the number of pathetic blokes that I have blocked on here for anti feminism.
yep it's pretty horrible. any time gender issues are brought up there's dozens of comments saying "what about the men" and completely missing the point
EDIT: Look at the responses to this comment for the proof.
100%
It’s really bad and lemmy is really in denial.
Sexism here is much worse than it was on Reddit.
It feels like 2008 Reddit here sexism wise, except instead of Ron Paul libertarians tooting their horns everywhere we have heavy tracked vehicle enthusiasts.
I did hope lemmy having a left leaning culture would help but it does not.
Try making any post that focuses on situations uniquely or disproportionally experienced by women and you get mostly “everyone has that why think about women” or “what about men” or “men have it worst” responses.
Try making any post that focuses on situations uniquely or disproportionally experienced by women and you get mostly “what about men” or “men have it worst” responses.
that's kind of just how controversial things are on the internet though.
Evens shitposting from men will get similar responses from women, it's just how it is now. Sort of always has been.
Lmao look at that douchebag's comment history. Its arguably worse that than comment itself. God I wish there was a male loneliness epidemic because these fuckers stopped talking.
yeah bro, it's the internet, everybody has opinions.
"yeah so actually i think this is a big problem"
"yeah evidently it must be a problem, but like, this has always been a problem, and seems to be a consistent problem"
"YOU'RE LITERALLY THE PROBLEM!!!!"
Lemmy User: It’s not really about women. Everyone suffers from this.
also to be clear, you are literally straw-manning me here, i'm not saying that "men have to suffer with women having an opinions" nobody cares, it is what it is, i think it's interesting actually. You're the one arguing that because people discuss topics that they find personally relevant is somehow "oppressing women"
I'm not saying you shouldn't shitpost about that stuff in shitpost threads, by all means do, there's interesting dialogue in it. I'm just saying this is a common occurrence anywhere on the internet, for any community. Hell go find a community for something as mundane as lego, you'll find the same shit there.
Not everybody NEEDS to have their own specific issue that specifically effects them for it to be a valid or real problem. I just think this issue is far broader than most people expect it to be, ironically, i could argue you're literally behaving the exact same way you claim i am. Because you are, and that's exactly what's happening.
Do i care? No, i don't it's the internet do whatever you want.
Nah but have you ever considered that the reason that you think that there is a male loneliness epidemic is because nobody wants to hang out with insufferable misogynists?
no, i don't think that's a reasonable answer, because you're doing the fascist thing of "these people are wrong they need to change, and if they don't we can justify whatever shitty behavior we want, because we're morally superior"
It's not dissimilar to a lot of nazi rhetoric.
I think the problem ultimately stems from a disconnect in social development through out society. Feminism has pushed women forward, successfully in a lot of ways, but it has also pulled men back, in a lot of ways, that's not necessarily bad, but there is now a void there, and there is nothing filling it in, that's why the manosphere got so big so fast. It's literally capitalizing on an empty market.
If you want to solve the manosphere, the solution is simple, we need to fill in the void, and fix this disconnect that's been happening for probably 75 years now. How we go about that is complicated, and not particularly simple, but i think it's pretty clearly evident that the problem is aimless/directionless guidance for men especially in the last 20 years. Paired with historically contradictory ideas of manhood. Men are supposed to be strong and protect the weak, but it's hard to do that when they don't want it, or need it.
Once this void is filled in, this shit stops happening, simple as.
This seems like a very good niche for someone willing to do it. Problematic accounts could get a site-wide ban instead of each woman having to ban someone herself.
I would guess that most women wouldn't feel the need to be on a woman-focused Lemmy instance for their main / only account. But, some might want an alt account to discuss certain things there.
I’m a woman, and make no attempt to hide that fact in my posts. That said, I also don’t personally have much interest in talking about being a woman, so don’t sub to any of those places you linked.
Over on Reddit I just sort of let people assume I was male a lot of the time, since it wasn’t really relevant to what we were talking about. But from the start on Lemmy I’ve made sure to call out incorrect assumptions, downvote and give a talking to people stereotyping or being misogynistic, etc etc. And the more of us (of all genders) that make that same decision, the better things get
That's pretty brave of you. It's a lot of work to fight people's assumptions, and I'm sure it results in harassment.
But, you're right that things will never change if women don't do that. It's a chicken and egg thing. Nobody wants to be the first to do it, because whoever's first gets harassed the most. But, if enough people do it, it won't be abnormal anymore.
Good luck, and thanks for trying to make women on the internet more normal.
this is a bit of how Blahaj works as I understand it, so it's a good model - if anything I would think Blahaj might already be poised for this kind of instance-level protection of women
EDIT:
one of the Blahaj guidelines does include removing bigotry, including sexism, and would be a candidate for a safe space for women:
Inclusion and Acceptance
Embracing inclusion and acceptance means listening when people tell you who they are and what their needs are. It means not telling people that you know their experiences better than they do. It means not gatekeeping experiences of identities of others. It means no bigotry such as racism, sexism, anti LGBT commentary, ableism etc. It means doing your best to ensure that you don’t over-talk the voices of folk who don’t share your privileges.
That said, the women spaces on Blahaj are mostly for trans women, so a more general women's community would be nice.
Youre absolutely welcome to join Blahaj zone. Our wonderful administration team (both of whom are women) bans misogyny whenever it comes around to our communities. The mods for our main communities share a very aggressive moderation policy.
They also ban real users instead of the people literally calling their gender "dragonfucker" and "attack helicopter"
There were a bunch of users who got angry about these users mocking gender expression and then when they told the trolls to fucking stop Ada banned them
I give Ada a lot of credit. In the early days, I had the following interaction:
TOPIC: Something about sexual/gender preferences, I don't remember, asking people their preferences
Me: responds with my preferences (I'm straight cis male, I like women so I'm down with post-transition trans women but pre-transition don't turn me on)
Some random user: respectfully asks if I would be willing to date a pre-transition trans man
Me: I guess, but it probably wouldn't work due to the fact that what I like about their body, they hate
Some of those professionally offended people took a misleading screenshot of my response and started screaming about "chasers".
Ada did an admin post to the community backing me up and calling those idiots out.
So unless she's changed a lot, I don't think she's a troll. It would have been easy to go with the mob but she stuck up for me.
I don't have any deeper knowledge of that instance, just what I saw in all, so I don't want to put anything on them. That thought just came across reading your comment.
I have made a mental remark in the past that the posts and users on this instance are better treated from afar, though.
i dont understand, please explain further. if blahaj mods have ignored misandry, that would be a bad thing. hate is generally regarded as bad, and misandry is hatred of men. therefore, misandry should be generally regarded as bad.
That's true on face value. The issue is that accusations of misandry are almost always unfounded, and only made as a way to deflect and to attack women. So when people start talking about misandry, that's generally a red flag.
It's similar to how "all lives matter" is definitely a true and good value - but yet it is almost always said as a way to divert support away from vulnerable groups. So although the literal meaning is good, it is fair to assume that people saying it do not have good intentions.
It's why I couldn't stand r/TwoXChromosomes anymore.
The amount of people saying we should "kill all men" without being banned is insane, if someone typed the opposite they would instantly get dogpiled and removed.
The blahaj admins have a record of supporting trolls and hateful people, just as long as they use the "right" language.
I feel like the whole supporting trolls thing is overblown.
They said that you should still use someone's pronouns, even if they are trolling, because it sets the precedent that its okay to ignore someone's pronoun preference.
The pronoun was just "drag". PJ is the one who kept calling them "dragonfucker". You can go read dragonriders comments instead of just repeating gossip.
i mean, if they're doing it as a haha funny, i see no harm, but if they're also being assholes, i think that takes precedent. You aren't legally required to fill in your gender tagging appropriately so.
They are an asshole though, a serial pot stirring drama seeking troll that gets people banned for reacting to their ragebait. Yeah I identify as a refurbished ebike and you must relearn English to refer to me, and you only rather not because you agree with literal genocide. Funny!
I haven't seen the attack helicopter and the joke is pretty damn old tbh, but drag at least is/was kinda funny. Drag's profile specified that drag's pronoun is "drag" in not just third, but also first and second person, which is an interesting concept. Drag also stayed in character in drag's posts. Drag didn't ever really bother people with the whole thing IMO.
yeah, it's a dead beat joke, it's come around to the point now where you can do it ironically and nobody cares. Though i guess you could still just be an asshole at that point lmao.
It really seems like instance admins tend to do a much better job with a lot of stuff on here than the core devs. Its a shame that forking would take as much work as it would.
well some of the devs are too busy arguing over which authoritarian boot tastes the best, all under the guide of leftism, so yeah I imagine the bar isn't exactly high
As much as I appreciate the community and users, there are (or at least were) serious moderation problems on Blahaj, I did not feel safe there when I tried it a year or two ago.
I definitely cannot agree. I encourage anyone who has any issues with moderation to make a post in the Blahaj meta community. Ada and Kaity have been spectacular and have responded to every issue I have come across. There are limits, they can't preemptively prevent any kind of moderation issue but they respond quickly.
Pfft, I'd say overly aggressive to a fault. It's not a good thing when they're banning people for a passing comment where the worst offence is "gatekeeping" rather than something that matters.
Most of the fediverse is male, and there's a significant trans woman space, but there's no spaces that really cater to cis women or to trans men specifically that I've seen.
And yes, I think it's reasonable to look for a space that is strongly (though not exclusively) cis-woman, in the same way that a Protestant would feel out of place in a Catholic community, even though they're all Christian. I imagine most cis women feel the same way as I (a cis man) feel when going to blahaj - like a friendly, allied visitor in a foreign land.
every femcel community gets invaded by guys at some point. see: r/letgirlshavefun and r/femcelgrippysockjail.
theres one that went private and thats keeping out the men really well (and is the only community im still on reddit for)
I don't know any of them and would not even recognize their usernames. Just be real, there can't be that many women, it's just not consistent with Lemmy's userbase. To me that sub draws more attention from men who view it as a fantasy. Read the comments and the posts, many of them don't seem legitimate
i can assure you that the majority of regular posters on femcelmemes are in fact women, and many of the regular commenters as well. this is in part because of the wonderful dedicated group of posters who keep the vibe immaculate, and if it werent for femcelmemes, myself, and many other women would be much less active on lemmy.
reddit has /r/TwoXChromosomes which is one of my favorite subs. It's a general womens subreddit, and though it obviously leans feminist it's not its main purpose. It welcomes all genders, but remains a womens space.
Woman-centered is not an absolute. One does not have to be part of a single characteristic of a group to have a stake in it, to be an ally, an advocate, a partner, a family member, among countless other scenarios.
I would suggest reading up on intersectionality.
By the way, all of this is covered in the subreddit sidebar, including in an FAQ in the wiki.
You need to stay away from feminism and enby activism entirely until you've humbled yourself and seriously sat with how problematic this take is.
You're not helping anybody with that. Least of all enbies/trans people. And not just because it makes us look bad either, though that's certainly part of it.
I don't know how problematic this take is, and since you can't explain how it is, I'm convinced you don't either. You're just having an emotional reaction to deviation from the gender binary's norms, which construct womanhood as the opposite of manhood.
While I do agree with what you're saying, I actually think a "by women for women" instance has a slightly different impact than a "by women for women" community. There are definitely pros and cons for both, though
We used to have an equivalent on our instance, but it was constantly flooded with reply-bros and trans people complaining about the name, so we archived it as no women was willing to moderate it (for understandable reasons).
I wondered if they made the jump over here. Guess not, sadly. Reading that sub has made me a better man, because it offers some pretty harsh critiques of male behavior.
beehaw.org aspire to be nice, friendly diverse and safe. But they're more towards nice, not women. And we have lemmy.blahaj.zone for queer folks. To my knowledge, there isn't a place aimed towards women. Maybe heehaw is the closest... Still not really a fit.
You could go ahead and also ask in some of the women communities, see how they get along here on the Fediverse.
The comments here make me very disappointed in our little corner of the internet. If anyone wants this but doesn’t know how, neither do I but I’d be happy help.
I am disappointed but not surprised. The attitude of men here reminds me a lot of default subs in Reddit. People tend to be more civil, but there is so much "but what about men?" when talking about women's issues or belittling women still. Business as usual on the Internet, but I can see why it would cause women to avoid Lemmy.
I haven't been back to Reddit, but it makes me miss the small niches where I didn't see that as often.
i wonder if it's not just worse on lemmy, but gotten worse over time, with the manosphere shit and all it's relevant problems, neither feminism nor the manosphere, or traditional male gender role has really addressed this issue comprehensively, and we're starting to see pushback from this issue in real life now, men are enrolling into college less than women, they do worse in most environments, and also are generally worse when it comes to mental health.
I wonder if we just need like a dedicated "social issues space" where people can talk about this stuff.
I think you're underestimating how many women use the internet. They just don't go swing that around much because of the harassment it tends to attract.
womans only spaces (popping up because of male dominated spaces) do lead to male only spaces but who cares, ppl that want to be in those spaces can stay there idrc, they dont want my input I dont want theirs
Yeah, it's natural to have spaces that aren't for me. It's fine. I really just have an issue with spaces where I am supposedly welcome to be hostile towards me.
Well I would definitely put blahaj down as a queer-focused space rather than a women-focused space. It's inclusive, women are welcome, but the community there is very much about queer issues.
Dragonfucker isn't a gender, you enabling trolls makes LGBTQ spaces worse for people with real gender identities that experience real discrimination in the real world.
I bet you feel good when the people you hate get silenced though, like a drug addict chasing dopamine.
Nah I'm demanding clarity. A clear question "Do you mean excluding TERFs or excluding women" and the answer is "I want to be inclusive". It may not be meant as such, and I'm definitely not implying that it was, but that's exactly how a TERF would evade questioning.
A clear "Fuck TERFs" would have provided plenty of clarity, and been much shorter. Also, it would have said "Fuck TERFs".
They're also complaining about "women being excluded from women's spaces by agents of the patriarchy posing as women". They're also not necessarily using "TERF" as a label. They're using typical fascist-style "words mean whatever we want them to mean in the moment" type of stuff, hiding clear-cut positions behind pretend nuance, hence why I favour clarity.
This idea is pretty cool, i hope they will succeed to achieve that. Imo, we lack diversity on the forumverse except maybe mastodon.
It would provide an additional security layer, another governance. They could also benefit a lot from local community and can check vote, email, ip...Other have already mentionned good example with blahaj, beehaw...
On the other hand, it will render the instance more visible.
On my main instance, jlai.lu, i think we don't manage well sexist speech. They are moderated, we do our best to explain to our users what's wrong and slowly change them but we don't have the same sensibility as women.
Men explaining women...So we probably missed lot things.
Pardon my ignorance but what would be the point of that? You can sign up on any instance and participate in any women's communities. It's not like there's any way to verify the user's gender anyway.
Local feed is one of the best parts of Lemmy conceptually and a very clear indicator that the intended behaviour for users is to sign up to smaller insurances related to their location or otherwise significant individual interests.
It would only work if I don't subscribe to any other instances. That's a bad tradeoff.
The fediverse needs a tool to surf other instances local feed cause that's a common issue for both the threadiverse and twittoverse. Soon, we may have enough theme-oriented PixelFed instances for them to have the same issue. I believe PieFed multicommunity feeds to be the best way to tackle it so far but that's not even a good solution.
You really don't see the benefit to a group of similar people to have a space focused on them, their wants and needs and daily lives? A community of people like them? It's one of the most fundamental human desires.
Not women only but women centric and with additional moderation protection. And yeah, I'd also say that women should administer and moderate such an instance.
It really comes down to this: if you want your own space for particular interests, you should create one and find likeminded people to populate it. Just waiting for it to magically appear isn’t going to work. Be assertive.
Blahaj.zone is an instance aimed at queer people, but it doesn't have to prevent non-queer people from participating. I would imagine an instance aimed at women to be similar.
The only way I could see it being done while perserving some kind of anonymity would be to have a defederated instance, where members are invite-only, where members can invite their friends to join, there by verifying that there are no men joining.
Unfortunately, there is no good way of verifying the gender of a person that you don't meet outside of a forum.
I’ve mentioned this before in other threads that seek a women-centric Lemmy option, but there was at least one secret community on Reddit like that. Invitees’ post histories were vetted before an invite was sent, both to find women specifically, but also to prevent trolls.
I don’t know exactly how they did it, all I know is that I got an invite one day and found the most open, comforting community I’d ever seen online. It was a place where we could talk about anything from silly stories that made us smile, to complaining about specific issues with bras, all without fear of trolls hijacking the thread, or turning an ordinary thing for us into something sexual.
Sounds fantastic, I hope that you can find a community like that again.
Vetting the post history is probably the only realistic way of doing it, it is time consuming, I am sad that it is needed, but if that is what it it takes it is at least doable.
I wish you and all women online good luck in finding a community like that, everyone needs a good community to enjoy!
Can somebody explain to me a thing about anti-feminism: as a 99.5% cishet standard regular manly man man, even from an extremely cold, selfish, objective, all-for-me approach I cannot understand what I stand to gain by this. What's the point?
hexbear is heavily transfem and bans aggressively for misogyny/transphobia. Spending some time there when their recent domain crisis defederated from the rest of Lemmy was actually quite relaxing
that external opinion is usually either bigotry or supporting US empire from my experience. Other Lemmy spaces are just as likely to ban for wrongthink ie: not being pro genocide or whatever war libs are supporting this time.
i've never seen a pro genocide lemmy instance, everytime i've argued against it i've been banned or moderated on, granted my instance isn't pro genocide, so there's that. But that seems to be a regular occurrence on lemmy in my experience.
I posted one thing on the one hexbear thread people used and immediately got banned lmao, what a terrible instance. I just ended up blocking the whole thing because why even bother at that point.
Look man, from a technical language point of view there is nothing whatsoever wrong with calling people 'females'. However, by speaking to such people face-to-face you quickly learn that basically not one likes to be called that. The reasons are subtle, and frankly not very important. But the fact remains that calling people 'females' is now seen as a sign that you don't understand or respect them - on the grounds that you are using a phrase that you've been asked not to use. Just say 'women' instead.
Asking for a women-centric flavor of any site is parallel to asking for a version with less men. If you're implying there is a difference to the interests of both, I'd love to show you the Grey's Anatomy sub.
We just shouldn't consider either gender's interests as stereotypes. Also, if a community becomes one or the other "centric", then on some level, it's exclusionary.
You know that just because gender is a social construct, it doesn't mean we should or even can just ignore it? You took step one on the awareness ladder but stopped before step two
PS: Ok so it looks like people here are just as bad as redditors. I was answering the question in the Reddit caption of this post. Pinterest has been known to be an alternative to Reddit (as a link aggregator) which attracts women a lot more than men.
This is a KNOWN thing, check this 10 year old article from the people managing Pinterest stating as much
Of course women are welcome here, there is no question about it. Does it matter if there is an instance for women? I don't even know, I know women who love stereotypical male stuff and vice versa. I assume anyone, male, female or anything in the spectrum, can browse around and collate their favorite subs
Not funny, not ok. Women are just as welcome here as anyone else and your comment is exactly why they are asking. “It’s a joke” - nope don’t even. Be better than this.
I agree, but at a higher level the analogy works... like a sports car vs a pickup truck vs a minivan. Very different but at the end of the day they are all vehicles and men tend to like one of those more than others, same as women (and no, I am not implying women like minivans... my wife forbade me from getting one when our kids were little and I had given up on a cool car for the convenience of one)
Well my argument is that they fall under a different analogy. Something like a car and wheelbarrow? They're both used for transportation, sure, but they also have two distinct functions that don't cancel each other out.
I don’t agree in this particular instance, but in general I think you’re right - all this shit is really getting to me. And I always appreciate a good call out. Going to touch some grass, hope everyone has a great day ✌️
I think maybe it would have been clearer to just ask this question directly and openly. The way you phrased it is the way a lot of bigots do to try to start trouble.
Community-wise there’s ![email protected]
unfortunately I think this is the current answer, at least on Lemmy.
unfortunately?
Meaning there isn't an instance for women, nor are there multiple communities - as far as I know there's just this one community.
oh, I see.
I think there's also We are women on lemmy.ml and Women on lemmy.world?
sorry, I should have clarified that I was talking about active communities (where users regularly visit and interact)
lemmy.blahaj.zone has a decent amount of women and both their admins are women, it's not a "women's space" as one would describe since everyone is welcome there but it's probably the closest thing one would describe as an instance "by women for women". I am obligated to mention that it is a queer instance and that many of the women there are either trans themselves or strongly supportive of trans people, and do not tolerate transphobia or anti-LGBT sentiment (including refusal to support LGBTQ people) at all.
Good.
As much as I appreciate the community and users at Blahaj, in my personal experience, the moderation was fairly wanting. At least a year or two ago (not sure about now), they tolerated some pretty freakish right-wing people who enabled chasers and other weird shit on their communities.
They certainly do not seem very tolerant of that now, they very commonly ban people for thinly veiled homophobia and transphobia that would normally slide on other sites. They do not even seem mildly willing to tolerate the intolerant.
spinster exists but I think its the opposite where its antitrans
We all pretend that it didn't exist and do not acknowledge its presence; that's the informal rule.
Like Finland if it were real.
Yeah Spinster is generally considered a hate site, and consequently is very widely defederated, even from general purpose instances like lemmy.world. Also it's less of a Reddit alternative and more of a Twitter alternative but is technically redundant since you can do everything you did on there on the real thing instead.
The admin behind it is also a man so its for (some) women by a man. Literally the opposite.
I thought that was mastodon. Do they have a lemmy instance as well?
Nope, just micro-blogging.
Thought it was
blahaj.zoneAnyway, they dont have it AFAIK
Everyone Except Fascists and/or Tankies
I think that kind of goes without saying.
I wish
Lemmy has an undeniable woman problem that it carried over from Reddit. I've lost count of the number of pathetic blokes that I have blocked on here for anti feminism.
yep it's pretty horrible. any time gender issues are brought up there's dozens of comments saying "what about the men" and completely missing the point
EDIT: Look at the responses to this comment for the proof.
100%
It’s really bad and lemmy is really in denial.
Sexism here is much worse than it was on Reddit.
It feels like 2008 Reddit here sexism wise, except instead of Ron Paul libertarians tooting their horns everywhere we have heavy tracked vehicle enthusiasts.
I did hope lemmy having a left leaning culture would help but it does not.
Try making any post that focuses on situations uniquely or disproportionally experienced by women and you get mostly “everyone has that why think about women” or “what about men” or “men have it worst” responses.
you mean the comments that have been downvoted to the bottom?
Some instances have a left-leaning culture. Lemmy.world definitively does not.
that's kind of just how controversial things are on the internet though.
Evens shitposting from men will get similar responses from women, it's just how it is now. Sort of always has been.
THIS. EXACTY THIS RIGHT HERE. THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I MEAN.
Me: talks about issue disproportionately affecting women.
Lemmy User: It’s not really about women. Everyone suffers from this.
Lmao look at that douchebag's comment history. Its arguably worse that than comment itself. God I wish there was a male loneliness epidemic because these fuckers stopped talking.
oh no funny man on the internet yaps a lot about things.
I come here for sociological research more than anything.
I seriously doubt you know what the word research means.
i seriously doubt you have any concrete view of politics or sociology to begin with.
I bet you can take any situation and make yourself a victim
Stttooooppp you’re giving me old school internet sexism nostalgia. 😂 That 2008 energy.
Do you miss halo 3 lobbies too?
Mhm i knew it haha
yeah bro, it's the internet, everybody has opinions.
"yeah so actually i think this is a big problem"
"yeah evidently it must be a problem, but like, this has always been a problem, and seems to be a consistent problem"
"YOU'RE LITERALLY THE PROBLEM!!!!"
also to be clear, you are literally straw-manning me here, i'm not saying that "men have to suffer with women having an opinions" nobody cares, it is what it is, i think it's interesting actually. You're the one arguing that because people discuss topics that they find personally relevant is somehow "oppressing women"
I'm not saying you shouldn't shitpost about that stuff in shitpost threads, by all means do, there's interesting dialogue in it. I'm just saying this is a common occurrence anywhere on the internet, for any community. Hell go find a community for something as mundane as lego, you'll find the same shit there.
Not everybody NEEDS to have their own specific issue that specifically effects them for it to be a valid or real problem. I just think this issue is far broader than most people expect it to be, ironically, i could argue you're literally behaving the exact same way you claim i am. Because you are, and that's exactly what's happening.
Do i care? No, i don't it's the internet do whatever you want.
Yep. Picking the bear.
what if im the bear?
Nah but have you ever considered that the reason that you think that there is a male loneliness epidemic is because nobody wants to hang out with insufferable misogynists?
no, i don't think that's a reasonable answer, because you're doing the fascist thing of "these people are wrong they need to change, and if they don't we can justify whatever shitty behavior we want, because we're morally superior"
It's not dissimilar to a lot of nazi rhetoric.
I think the problem ultimately stems from a disconnect in social development through out society. Feminism has pushed women forward, successfully in a lot of ways, but it has also pulled men back, in a lot of ways, that's not necessarily bad, but there is now a void there, and there is nothing filling it in, that's why the manosphere got so big so fast. It's literally capitalizing on an empty market.
If you want to solve the manosphere, the solution is simple, we need to fill in the void, and fix this disconnect that's been happening for probably 75 years now. How we go about that is complicated, and not particularly simple, but i think it's pretty clearly evident that the problem is aimless/directionless guidance for men especially in the last 20 years. Paired with historically contradictory ideas of manhood. Men are supposed to be strong and protect the weak, but it's hard to do that when they don't want it, or need it.
Once this void is filled in, this shit stops happening, simple as.
This seems like a very good niche for someone willing to do it. Problematic accounts could get a site-wide ban instead of each woman having to ban someone herself.
Niche? Bruh, they're half of the population lmao
Unfortunately it is niche right now in the fediverse based on the stats. That could change but probably requires a different approach to achieve.
Nicole is on a mission to single-handedly skew those stats
I would guess that most women wouldn't feel the need to be on a woman-focused Lemmy instance for their main / only account. But, some might want an alt account to discuss certain things there.
While this won't be the case with everyone, it was mentioned a few times in a post I made here a long while back
https://lemmy.ca/post/9443464
That's pretty brave of you. It's a lot of work to fight people's assumptions, and I'm sure it results in harassment.
But, you're right that things will never change if women don't do that. It's a chicken and egg thing. Nobody wants to be the first to do it, because whoever's first gets harassed the most. But, if enough people do it, it won't be abnormal anymore.
Good luck, and thanks for trying to make women on the internet more normal.
we all know there's currently only 1 chick in the fediverse
There WAS 1 chick in the fediverse.
The situation took a dark turn recently.
P in that case Nicole's DMs are the Lemmy women's sub.
I don't know of any "men only" instances, the fact that it's gender-specific is niche rather than the specific gender.
Same reason womens magazines are more popular than mens magazines and womens subreddits and websites are more popular than mens.
Maybe one day we'll have full equality and it'll be weird to think of "women's spaces" as something that's necessary. But it's very much so today.
I don't believe they actively intended to exclude anyone, but there is/was Dull Men's Club, and I believe they've recently rebranded to "Dullsters".
Zero women have tried to make one so far regardless of how many would use a new instance. So it can't be all that in demand.
I think it naturally would occur if Lemmy grows in size. There's not many people here to begin with.
There's ![email protected] we started a little over a month ago and recently hit 1000 members
It's not niche being a woman obviously. What's niche is having a community exclude 50% of the population. Nothing wrong with it, but it is niche.
this is a bit of how Blahaj works as I understand it, so it's a good model - if anything I would think Blahaj might already be poised for this kind of instance-level protection of women
EDIT:
one of the Blahaj guidelines does include removing bigotry, including sexism, and would be a candidate for a safe space for women:
That said, the women spaces on Blahaj are mostly for trans women, so a more general women's community would be nice.
Lemmy needs block lists users can subscribe to like they can on BlueSky, it would make a huge difference imo.
Youre absolutely welcome to join Blahaj zone. Our wonderful administration team (both of whom are women) bans misogyny whenever it comes around to our communities. The mods for our main communities share a very aggressive moderation policy.
They also ban real users instead of the people literally calling their gender "dragonfucker" and "attack helicopter"
There were a bunch of users who got angry about these users mocking gender expression and then when they told the trolls to fucking stop Ada banned them
The blahaj admins are trolls
I give Ada a lot of credit. In the early days, I had the following interaction:
Some of those professionally offended people took a misleading screenshot of my response and started screaming about "chasers".
Ada did an admin post to the community backing me up and calling those idiots out.
So unless she's changed a lot, I don't think she's a troll. It would have been easy to go with the mob but she stuck up for me.
Still could be TERFS.
I don't have any deeper knowledge of that instance, just what I saw in all, so I don't want to put anything on them. That thought just came across reading your comment.
I have made a mental remark in the past that the posts and users on this instance are better treated from afar, though.
It's pretty harsh to just casually suggest that a person be a TERF without any specific evidence.
They also turn a blind eye to misandry.
You are part of the reason lemmy is unpopular with women.
i dont understand, please explain further. if blahaj mods have ignored misandry, that would be a bad thing. hate is generally regarded as bad, and misandry is hatred of men. therefore, misandry should be generally regarded as bad.
That's true on face value. The issue is that accusations of misandry are almost always unfounded, and only made as a way to deflect and to attack women. So when people start talking about misandry, that's generally a red flag.
It's similar to how "all lives matter" is definitely a true and good value - but yet it is almost always said as a way to divert support away from vulnerable groups. So although the literal meaning is good, it is fair to assume that people saying it do not have good intentions.
You are right, but what he is calling misandry is not misandry, and so many people like him think misandry is the bigger problem now.
Misandry is a huge problem in the space.
It's why I couldn't stand r/TwoXChromosomes anymore.
The amount of people saying we should "kill all men" without being banned is insane, if someone typed the opposite they would instantly get dogpiled and removed.
The blahaj admins have a record of supporting trolls and hateful people, just as long as they use the "right" language.
I feel like the whole supporting trolls thing is overblown.
They said that you should still use someone's pronouns, even if they are trolling, because it sets the precedent that its okay to ignore someone's pronoun preference.
Unless there is more that I missed.
If women have to be misandristic, then I'm quite happy to exclude bigots
Would you mind giving me some examples of the misandry? To see what you are talking about.
The pronoun was just "drag". PJ is the one who kept calling them "dragonfucker". You can go read dragonriders comments instead of just repeating gossip.
They imply the fucker part themselves, it's part of their troll
They are a troll and you are enabling them to harrass your community.
They were already banned for other trolling behavior, just not because they used neopronouns. Please get an actual bearing on reality.
Sorry I'm not allowed to use that space because I called a troll a troll before the Admins felt like doing their fucking jobs.
I'm not going back now, blahaj is a cess pool controlled by trolls.
i mean, if they're doing it as a haha funny, i see no harm, but if they're also being assholes, i think that takes precedent. You aren't legally required to fill in your gender tagging appropriately so.
They are an asshole though, a serial pot stirring drama seeking troll that gets people banned for reacting to their ragebait. Yeah I identify as a refurbished ebike and you must relearn English to refer to me, and you only rather not because you agree with literal genocide. Funny!
lmao good meme, sounds like a mess ngl.
I haven't seen the attack helicopter and the joke is pretty damn old tbh, but drag at least is/was kinda funny. Drag's profile specified that drag's pronoun is "drag" in not just third, but also first and second person, which is an interesting concept. Drag also stayed in character in drag's posts. Drag didn't ever really bother people with the whole thing IMO.
yeah, it's a dead beat joke, it's come around to the point now where you can do it ironically and nobody cares. Though i guess you could still just be an asshole at that point lmao.
also our wonderful admin kaity did what the lemmy devs couldn't and nuked the dm spam :)
It really seems like instance admins tend to do a much better job with a lot of stuff on here than the core devs. Its a shame that forking would take as much work as it would.
well some of the devs are too busy arguing over which authoritarian boot tastes the best, all under the guide of leftism, so yeah I imagine the bar isn't exactly high
As much as I appreciate the community and users, there are (or at least were) serious moderation problems on Blahaj, I did not feel safe there when I tried it a year or two ago.
I definitely cannot agree. I encourage anyone who has any issues with moderation to make a post in the Blahaj meta community. Ada and Kaity have been spectacular and have responded to every issue I have come across. There are limits, they can't preemptively prevent any kind of moderation issue but they respond quickly.
Pfft, I'd say overly aggressive to a fault. It's not a good thing when they're banning people for a passing comment where the worst offence is "gatekeeping" rather than something that matters.
Probably the ... fourth-worst well known instance. Idk if that's a good suggestion.
Most of the fediverse is male, and there's a significant trans woman space, but there's no spaces that really cater to cis women or to trans men specifically that I've seen.
And yes, I think it's reasonable to look for a space that is strongly (though not exclusively) cis-woman, in the same way that a Protestant would feel out of place in a Catholic community, even though they're all Christian. I imagine most cis women feel the same way as I (a cis man) feel when going to blahaj - like a friendly, allied visitor in a foreign land.
I can’t think of a single online space ever that has catered to trans men. It’s always infinitely easier to just act like a cis dude 99% of the time.
I guess there is Hudson’s Guide lol.
We have ![email protected]
its kinda sad how one of the biggest women’s community on the lemmy/mbin side of fedi is [email protected]…
i mean, it’s a great community, but yea.
There seems to be a majority of males even in that community though
every femcel community gets invaded by guys at some point. see: r/letgirlshavefun and r/femcelgrippysockjail. theres one that went private and thats keeping out the men really well (and is the only community im still on reddit for)
Well maybe if girls weren't weird and trying to make shaving fun they wou
I don't know how to finish this joke I'm tired. Finish it for me i give quest xp
Idk the majority of posters there are transfems afaik, with a smattering of femboys posting as well.
Are you talking about browsers/commentors? Cause almost all the prolific posters are women, unless you're being transphobic
I don't know any of them and would not even recognize their usernames. Just be real, there can't be that many women, it's just not consistent with Lemmy's userbase. To me that sub draws more attention from men who view it as a fantasy. Read the comments and the posts, many of them don't seem legitimate
Erotador, totallynotjessica, kewwwi, and squirrel are by far the people who post most there and they're all women.
My yin, I'm the one with the blahaj zone account here
i can assure you that the majority of regular posters on femcelmemes are in fact women, and many of the regular commenters as well. this is in part because of the wonderful dedicated group of posters who keep the vibe immaculate, and if it werent for femcelmemes, myself, and many other women would be much less active on lemmy.
Hahaha the name doesn't do it justice tbh, *cel has connotations that femcelmemes really just doesn't have
But like what even is a social media for women? I wasn't aware the ones we currently have were for men
reddit has /r/TwoXChromosomes which is one of my favorite subs. It's a general womens subreddit, and though it obviously leans feminist it's not its main purpose. It welcomes all genders, but remains a womens space.
The fediverse could really use that energy.
There's also /r/WitchesVsPatriarchy which is also very strictly woman-centered.
Damn women appropriating witchdom. Excluding boywitches just reaffirms the patriarchy's gendering of magic. It's re-inventing the same gender roles.
Neither the WvP subreddit nor the Discord excludes men from identifying as witches or from participating in discussions.
Then what does women-centered mean in practice? Is it just a nothing label?
Woman-centered is not an absolute. One does not have to be part of a single characteristic of a group to have a stake in it, to be an ally, an advocate, a partner, a family member, among countless other scenarios.
I would suggest reading up on intersectionality.
By the way, all of this is covered in the subreddit sidebar, including in an FAQ in the wiki.
I'm sorry, what?
It's women-centered because it's "against patriarchy"... not because it's witchy. And they are trans & queer inclusive as well.
I think it would be even more against patriarchy if it was enby centered. They should change that.
You need to stay away from feminism and enby activism entirely until you've humbled yourself and seriously sat with how problematic this take is.
You're not helping anybody with that. Least of all enbies/trans people. And not just because it makes us look bad either, though that's certainly part of it.
I don't know how problematic this take is, and since you can't explain how it is, I'm convinced you don't either. You're just having an emotional reaction to deviation from the gender binary's norms, which construct womanhood as the opposite of manhood.
Don't worry you have nothing to get from people identifying as "witches"
Narrow minded nonsense.
Yeah but thats a subreddit not REDDIT itself, you can similarly start a /c/TwoX on just about any Lemmy instance.
While I do agree with what you're saying, I actually think a "by women for women" instance has a slightly different impact than a "by women for women" community. There are definitely pros and cons for both, though
We used to have an equivalent on our instance, but it was constantly flooded with reply-bros and trans people complaining about the name, so we archived it as no women was willing to moderate it (for understandable reasons).
Lemmy supports local-only private communities now, might be a good use case for that
Nah, let the transphobic name die
As a trans person please stop. You're not helping & are being underhandedly misogynistic.
I wondered if they made the jump over here. Guess not, sadly. Reading that sub has made me a better man, because it offers some pretty harsh critiques of male behavior.
Its all technically ran by trans women which is mildly interesting, like the mods of 2x and the others on reddit and here I think
on reddit every female sub is ran by the same woman
beehaw.org aspire to be nice, friendly diverse and safe. But they're more towards nice, not women. And we have lemmy.blahaj.zone for queer folks. To my knowledge, there isn't a place aimed towards women. Maybe heehaw is the closest... Still not really a fit.
You could go ahead and also ask in some of the women communities, see how they get along here on the Fediverse.
Beehaw.org is nice, Heehaw.org is the closest, Hoohaw.org is the promised land
The comments here make me very disappointed in our little corner of the internet. If anyone wants this but doesn’t know how, neither do I but I’d be happy help.
I am disappointed but not surprised. The attitude of men here reminds me a lot of default subs in Reddit. People tend to be more civil, but there is so much "but what about men?" when talking about women's issues or belittling women still. Business as usual on the Internet, but I can see why it would cause women to avoid Lemmy.
I haven't been back to Reddit, but it makes me miss the small niches where I didn't see that as often.
I've said it many times before and I'll say it again, gender relations here are worse than they were on reddit when I stopped using it.
i wonder if it's not just worse on lemmy, but gotten worse over time, with the manosphere shit and all it's relevant problems, neither feminism nor the manosphere, or traditional male gender role has really addressed this issue comprehensively, and we're starting to see pushback from this issue in real life now, men are enrolling into college less than women, they do worse in most environments, and also are generally worse when it comes to mental health.
I wonder if we just need like a dedicated "social issues space" where people can talk about this stuff.
I mean there's like 3 women on lemmy, and 2 of em are trans. I don't think there really ARE any gender relations here.
I think you're underestimating how many women use the internet. They just don't go swing that around much because of the harassment it tends to attract.
lemmy =/= the internet
Ignorant
womans only spaces (popping up because of male dominated spaces) do lead to male only spaces but who cares, ppl that want to be in those spaces can stay there idrc, they dont want my input I dont want theirs
Yeah, it's natural to have spaces that aren't for me. It's fine. I really just have an issue with spaces where I am supposedly welcome to be hostile towards me.
Call it out when you see it. Keep the bar nazi free.
There's ![email protected]
Depends. You looking for a woman's space...or a terf space?
I definitely think it should be an inclusive, not exclusive space
blahaj.zone is a great one I've found. Extremely inclusive, brooks absolutely no bullshit from bad faith actors.
Is also very very queer tho JSYK
That could be our new Lemmy slogan.
I don't think we can equate "queer space" with "women's space".
I didn't.
Well I would definitely put blahaj down as a queer-focused space rather than a women-focused space. It's inclusive, women are welcome, but the community there is very much about queer issues.
Key word: you.
k.
Except the Drag person, obvious troll they keep around.
People are fucking weird about drag.
Honestly there are far more worthy things to get pissed about this day and age, open a window
I just blocked them and moved on. It’s just insane it took so long for the admins to finally ban them.
Don't call them a troll or Ada will ban you like she did me and half of 196
Good
Dragonfucker isn't a gender, you enabling trolls makes LGBTQ spaces worse for people with real gender identities that experience real discrimination in the real world.
I bet you feel good when the people you hate get silenced though, like a drug addict chasing dopamine.
You don't get to decide what is and what isn't a real identity :) if that makes you mad, the ban was justified just for that,
Either can describe a bar that throws out Nazis or a Nazi bar, depending on perspective.
now you're just being dickish.
Nah I'm demanding clarity. A clear question "Do you mean excluding TERFs or excluding women" and the answer is "I want to be inclusive". It may not be meant as such, and I'm definitely not implying that it was, but that's exactly how a TERF would evade questioning.
A clear "Fuck TERFs" would have provided plenty of clarity, and been much shorter. Also, it would have said "Fuck TERFs".
Idk man "exclusionary" is literally part of terf I don't think there's much ambiguity there. Fuck terfs though.
This is transmisogynistic and misogynoir as well as plain old misogyny. Don't ask me to explain. Just don't do it.
They're also complaining about "women being excluded from women's spaces by agents of the patriarchy posing as women". They're also not necessarily using "TERF" as a label. They're using typical fascist-style "words mean whatever we want them to mean in the moment" type of stuff, hiding clear-cut positions behind pretend nuance, hence why I favour clarity.
I regret my part in this recto-cranial inversion of a conversation
I want there to be a witchesvspatreiarchy here, but I'm a dude and it'd be messed up if I started it.
There's a couple of them, I think.
I found this one:
https://lemmy.ca/c/witchesvspatriarchy
Edit: Better link:
[email protected]
Thanks!
[email protected]
instance friendly link for those on other instances :)
Thanks!
Thanks! I was looking for witchesvsTHEpatriarchy for some reason.
Subbed.
Honestly chuckled a bit after checking out the front page and pretty much all posts were about.. men
But that (making fun of men) might just be the idea behind that subreddit and I'm looking at it wrong
EDIT: I dun goofed
Probably the "vs patriarchy" part
Probably should have googled the meaning of that word first
Mod of that community here! Please come join the coven, we're always welcoming like-minded people!
This idea is pretty cool, i hope they will succeed to achieve that. Imo, we lack diversity on the forumverse except maybe mastodon.
It would provide an additional security layer, another governance. They could also benefit a lot from local community and can check vote, email, ip...Other have already mentionned good example with blahaj, beehaw...
On the other hand, it will render the instance more visible.
On my main instance, jlai.lu, i think we don't manage well sexist speech. They are moderated, we do our best to explain to our users what's wrong and slowly change them but we don't have the same sensibility as women.
Men explaining women...So we probably missed lot things.
Lemmy,blahaj,zone is run by Ada, who is a woman
I wish I could recommend blahaj, there are a lot of trolls in the space that the admins have successfully been guilted into supporting.
And terrible at adminning
Ahhh, now that explains a lot.
Like what?
I rememebered Blahaj people accusing Lemmy instances of being misogynists left & right without any evidence
& were censoring anyone, just because they asked for evidence.
And what's the insinuation here, given that being told the instance admin is a woman your response was "That explains a lot"
The insinuation here is the instance behaves like a raging misandrist, nuff said.
Pardon my ignorance but what would be the point of that? You can sign up on any instance and participate in any women's communities. It's not like there's any way to verify the user's gender anyway.
A community like that would hopefully ban misogynists who go unbanned on other communities.
"Community" is the operative word there. OP is asking about an instance.
An instance can be a community in the general sense of the word.
Right but it has a very specific meaning here.
They (I think) meant that the instance would be a community, and the admins would ban misogynists.
I know what they meant but it's an important distinction here.
Local feed I guess. I wouldn't trade my french local feed to another despite the abillity to subscribe to the community that made it.
our local french feed 🤝
D'autant plus que je ne poste pas souvent dessus !
Local feed is one of the best parts of Lemmy conceptually and a very clear indicator that the intended behaviour for users is to sign up to smaller insurances related to their location or otherwise significant individual interests.
Couldn't you sign up on another instance and still subscribe to all the same communities?
It would only work if I don't subscribe to any other instances. That's a bad tradeoff.
The fediverse needs a tool to surf other instances local feed cause that's a common issue for both the threadiverse and twittoverse. Soon, we may have enough theme-oriented PixelFed instances for them to have the same issue. I believe PieFed multicommunity feeds to be the best way to tackle it so far but that's not even a good solution.
You really don't see the benefit to a group of similar people to have a space focused on them, their wants and needs and daily lives? A community of people like them? It's one of the most fundamental human desires.
That's not what I said.
with enough admin and moderation you could circle jerk your way into a "woman positive" or "woman friendly space" which would be the idea.
Create one!
I was thinking of making one, but I'm not a woman, so I'll think of something else
Like women only or hosted by women? Based on the selfhosted poll I’m guessing there is a 5% there is.
Not women only but women centric and with additional moderation protection. And yeah, I'd also say that women should administer and moderate such an instance.
Both of them
I feel discriminated
My apologies as I didnt intend to
I wont, im just suggesting them
It’s called “being an ally,” and it’s far more productive than faking outrage and borderline-doxxing people we disagree with.
Where did you get these informations?
Probably he browsed my mastodon profile
Why are you being so hostile?
Community wise we have ![email protected] its a women only community by women for women.
Even if not, you can create one :3
Be the change you wish to see in the world.
It really comes down to this: if you want your own space for particular interests, you should create one and find likeminded people to populate it. Just waiting for it to magically appear isn’t going to work. Be assertive.
how would they stop men from participating?
Why should they want to do that? That's not how most sites for women work!
I don't see a reason to deny men from participating.
Blahaj.zone is an instance aimed at queer people, but it doesn't have to prevent non-queer people from participating. I would imagine an instance aimed at women to be similar.
There is no resonable way to do that.
The only way I could see it being done while perserving some kind of anonymity would be to have a defederated instance, where members are invite-only, where members can invite their friends to join, there by verifying that there are no men joining.
Unfortunately, there is no good way of verifying the gender of a person that you don't meet outside of a forum.
I’ve mentioned this before in other threads that seek a women-centric Lemmy option, but there was at least one secret community on Reddit like that. Invitees’ post histories were vetted before an invite was sent, both to find women specifically, but also to prevent trolls.
I don’t know exactly how they did it, all I know is that I got an invite one day and found the most open, comforting community I’d ever seen online. It was a place where we could talk about anything from silly stories that made us smile, to complaining about specific issues with bras, all without fear of trolls hijacking the thread, or turning an ordinary thing for us into something sexual.
I miss it.
Sounds fantastic, I hope that you can find a community like that again.
Vetting the post history is probably the only realistic way of doing it, it is time consuming, I am sad that it is needed, but if that is what it it takes it is at least doable.
I wish you and all women online good luck in finding a community like that, everyone needs a good community to enjoy!
Just make it obvious that it's meant for women and most men will exclude themselves
On a public forum?
Lol you wish
It works at bars, play music made by women and the Nazis will find another place to sieg heil each other without even being to be told
ban the rowdy ones lmao
The femcel channel need more people if you like that type of humor
I'm on .ml, but I don't engage in any Marxist-Leninist communities. So it doesn't really matter on what instance you're on.
This isn't about recommending an instance but a community.
TW: crude and insensitive joke (hopefully the spoiler tag works lol)
ETA: lemme know if you need this taken down. Sometimes the intrusive thoughts win
spoiler tag didnt appear to work, but this indeed is very stupid and funny.
NGL I almost deleted it this morning, glad it made you giggle
i almost never delete things i post on the internet, i'm a firm believer in sillyposting because the nothing is sacred.
IDK, call it a character badge or whatever you want. It's just how i am.
almost all the subs that "are women" are basically astroturfed by men, or some of them are male users posting as a "woman"
Can somebody explain to me a thing about anti-feminism: as a 99.5% cishet standard regular manly man man, even from an extremely cold, selfish, objective, all-for-me approach I cannot understand what I stand to gain by this. What's the point?
hexbear is heavily transfem and bans aggressively for misogyny/transphobia. Spending some time there when their recent domain crisis defederated from the rest of Lemmy was actually quite relaxing
unless you have an external opinion, in which case they fucking lynch you.
that external opinion is usually either bigotry or supporting US empire from my experience. Other Lemmy spaces are just as likely to ban for wrongthink ie: not being pro genocide or whatever war libs are supporting this time.
i've never seen a pro genocide lemmy instance, everytime i've argued against it i've been banned or moderated on, granted my instance isn't pro genocide, so there's that. But that seems to be a regular occurrence on lemmy in my experience.
I posted one thing on the one hexbear thread people used and immediately got banned lmao, what a terrible instance. I just ended up blocking the whole thing because why even bother at that point.
You are right, but a lot of people want to avoid politics.
If they're tired of getting hit on or oppressed all the time then the communities for women on Lemmy might not be an upgrade. /joke
Reddit is pretty pro-female, what is this riddiculous gaslighting ?
BTW, ALL of Lemmy+Mbin are pro-female as well.
opinion discarded
You are functioning well within your parameters, eventhough your software version is a bit outdated
Sorry I am not hip to the most recent lingo of the circles that call women females.
please don't call women "females"
It's fine. Call men "males", too.
You already do that & much worse. So don't pretend
Guilty as charged. What is my sentence for this crime?
Look man, from a technical language point of view there is nothing whatsoever wrong with calling people 'females'. However, by speaking to such people face-to-face you quickly learn that basically not one likes to be called that. The reasons are subtle, and frankly not very important. But the fact remains that calling people 'females' is now seen as a sign that you don't understand or respect them - on the grounds that you are using a phrase that you've been asked not to use. Just say 'women' instead.
As if I didn't know that right, but it didn't stop you (not you in particular) "People" from assuming & attacking
I didn't get technical on you - that's kind of the point. But whatever; I was just trying to help with some context. Ignore if you like.
I appreciate the help
bar yourself?
Go home & take a nap, you need it
You’ve gotten banned from four instances already for misogyny. I wonder how long before your own instance bans you.
Why did I get banned I wonder ? yes because I questioned them asked for evidence & they provided none
I linked my evidences & they were evading questions.
BTW, I blocked those instances as well. The real question you should ask is how long until your echo-chamber fades into obscurity.
Didn't you mock ModLogs ?😂
Lemmy is aimed at pleasing all of humanity.
Asking for a women-centric flavor of any site is parallel to asking for a version with less men. If you're implying there is a difference to the interests of both, I'd love to show you the Grey's Anatomy sub.
i mean, i don't see anything necessarily wrong with it though.
It's like making a linux specific lemmy instance, or an anarchist focused lemmy instance (the one im on)
it might go against the principles of lemmy, but there's nothing inherently wrong with it.
I think there are differences in the interests of both. Can you explain your argument here, without super obscure references?
We just shouldn't consider either gender's interests as stereotypes. Also, if a community becomes one or the other "centric", then on some level, it's exclusionary.
You know that just because gender is a social construct, it doesn't mean we should or even can just ignore it? You took step one on the awareness ladder but stopped before step two
Why you want to create division?
Onlyfans
Edit: forgot the /s
Instead you resort to insults!
it's called pinterest
Edit:
PS: Ok so it looks like people here are just as bad as redditors. I was answering the question in the Reddit caption of this post. Pinterest has been known to be an alternative to Reddit (as a link aggregator) which attracts women a lot more than men.
This is a KNOWN thing, check this 10 year old article from the people managing Pinterest stating as much
https://www.thestreet.com/technology/why-pinterest-wants-more-men-and-how-it-plans-to-get-them-13101082
Of course women are welcome here, there is no question about it. Does it matter if there is an instance for women? I don't even know, I know women who love stereotypical male stuff and vice versa. I assume anyone, male, female or anything in the spectrum, can browse around and collate their favorite subs
Not funny, not ok. Women are just as welcome here as anyone else and your comment is exactly why they are asking. “It’s a joke” - nope don’t even. Be better than this.
it wasn't a joke
pinterest is an link aggregator just like reddit and geared towards women
of course women are welcomed here, no clue how you get otherwise from my comment
https://www.youthsense.com.au/youth-insights/men-are-from-reddit-women-are-from-pinterest/
Well..yes, it is a link aggregator, but have you ever used Pinterest? The uses for it vs reddit are wildly different...
Yes, I have. And the differences that you allude to are a huge part why women find it attractive, more so than men.
Pinterest itself have publicly stated this was not necessarily intentional and they wanted to bring more men to the platform.
I am more trying to argue that Pinterest and Reddit/lemmy are fundamentally different enough that they aren't really interchangeable.
I personally use both, but, again, for wildly different purposes.
I agree, but at a higher level the analogy works... like a sports car vs a pickup truck vs a minivan. Very different but at the end of the day they are all vehicles and men tend to like one of those more than others, same as women (and no, I am not implying women like minivans... my wife forbade me from getting one when our kids were little and I had given up on a cool car for the convenience of one)
Well my argument is that they fall under a different analogy. Something like a car and wheelbarrow? They're both used for transportation, sure, but they also have two distinct functions that don't cancel each other out.
Your comment can be read in multiple ways
"It's called pinterest. Go there instead. This site is not for you."
or
"It's called pinterest. This thing you are interested in already kind of exists. Just thought I would let you know."
The people downvoting had the first interpretation, I assume.
Honestly, I really cannot stop people from making up things I did not write and tagging them along in their heads.
I was answering the question in the picture of this post:
The way I worded it "it's called Pinterest" came from me thinking this was a well known thing which apparently is not for many lemmy users.
Check this article which is 10 years old, where Pinterest representatives acknowledge this demographic divide and want to correct it
https://www.thestreet.com/technology/why-pinterest-wants-more-men-and-how-it-plans-to-get-them-13101082
You’re the joke, got it, moving on.
Oh I see, you are just an idiot... go back to reddit please
You need to calm down
You need to sit down and learn
Nah im ok
I don’t agree in this particular instance, but in general I think you’re right - all this shit is really getting to me. And I always appreciate a good call out. Going to touch some grass, hope everyone has a great day ✌️
People who cover their drinks when you're around.
Everyone is a woman on this blessed day!
Speak for yourself.
I am one with everything, so by speaking about myself, I speak about the whole of reality. Checkmate!
i don't go to bars or anything, so i guess everyone is a man?
You don’t know what a woman is? Or is this some kind of attempt at trolling?
I think maybe it would have been clearer to just ask this question directly and openly. The way you phrased it is the way a lot of bigots do to try to start trouble.
No one would understand this is what you intended if you use a transphobic dogwhistle for that.