Spyke
lemmy.world

When nudity/sexuality is shown artistically or actually has some depth or place in the story being told, I enjoy it, but 90% of that hollywood shit is hot garbage and I think a lot of folks feel the same.

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lemmy.world

90% of that hollywood shit is hot garbage and I think a lot of folks feel the same.

And who HASN'T been in a situation, watching TV or movie with parents or other polite company, when a sex scene comes on (completely unnecessary to the plot), making everyone uncomfortable. I'd like to think that audience surveys have been taken into account to make Hollywood stop including sex scenes.

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MBMreply
lemmings.world

It's only uncomfortable if you make it uncomfortable, but if you're all adults it doesn't have to be. Maybe it helps to grow up in a less puritanical country than the US though.

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Everyone fucks. I don't need to see the details about that aspect of most characters' lives in order to understand the story being told about that character. I love sex scenes. I hate sex scenes that are gratuitous and don't enhance my understanding of story or character. If it's not needed for one of those things, it doesn't belong in the story. (and that's true for any kind of scene, not just sex scenes)

If the purpose of the sex scene is "you get to see this actress mostly naked" and no other purpose - then yeah, that feels cheap and gratuitous. Make a movie where her sex life matters if you want to show me that.

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lemmy.nz

Drag was a teenager when drag saw Oblivion with drag's dad. The underwater sex scene was not fun.

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That's why I only watch shows like sex/life with my in laws the sex is crucial to the plot.

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where_am_ireply
sh.itjust.works

The disappearance of the sex scene in American cinema, the suppression of the body under the moral imperative of commodities in neoliberal capitalism, and Verhoeven as antagonizer.

Bro, you gotta stop reading shit like this. It's bad for your brain. Not everything is capitalistic plot to suppress your whatever.

Why wouldn't you be able to see it as "the viewers didn't enjoy our cringe sex scenes, so we got rid of them, cuz we sure as hell couldn't put real sex scenes into movies". And no, not because of purity. But because even good porn is cringe and fake.

So maybe it's really a decomcratic decision and it's only possible because through capitalism there's monetary pressure on the film industry to do the things people want.

Whichever it is, you gotta stop reading BS that starts with a conclusion in the first sentence, and no matter the subject it's the same conclusion: capitalism oppressing the working class. You'd make Lenin cringe.

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Yeah, I'm not discussing the article further after checking your post history.

Just one little tidbit of information for you: The sentences at the start on a rather lenghty article, usually set in a different typeset, is called "synopsis". I know I know, I was like "wooaaah" when I learned that >30 years ago.

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where_am_ireply
sh.itjust.works

The world didn't do shit.

It was as normal in Europe to be naked and talk about sex as it is now. Actually, it probably got even a bit more normal.

Your stupid Hollywood is somehow watched by everyone around the world while it's produced to cater to your dumb average American. And they're religious and prudent. And that has been the case since forever. Which is why having naked breasts in your cinema is something wild.

In the meantime french movies would casually have people full naked every second movie.

Am I really on a movies community?

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Now, your dumb Hollywood realized their cringe sex scenes aren't appreciated by about anyone, and so they cut them out. Big deal.

Definitely not the world shifting, and not even your moronic populace. Proportion of religious prudes is still dropping even in the dumbfuckistan. And yet no more sex in the movies. Go figure.

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You use strong words for my taste, although I would agree that Americans are much more prudent than Europeans. But the graph we're discussing here shows a decline in sex depiction in the movies. It shows there are less sex scenes than there used to be. The decline cannot be explained by the differences between the USA and Europe.

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M137reply
lemmy.world

You realize there is more than the US in the world right...? You're really proving stereotypes by saying "the world" and then giving only US states as an example. A lot of the world haven't shifted to the right. It's pretty certain this graph was based on mostly American stuff anyway, so both the image, this whole post and you are all doing the classic 'Murican thing of thinking US specific things apply to the whole world.

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Only on-screen violence now though. If you dare protect yourself physically, you'll go to prison and everyone will scorn you.

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lemmy.world

What bothers me more is that violence gets a PG rating here, sex gets an X rating. How in the world is it more inappropriate for kids to see people naked than for them to watch someone hack someone else to death? The graphic violence should get a more restricted rating than on screen sex.

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lemmy.world

When your nation always needs to be at war, it's helps to repress sexuality and normalize violence. This isn't so much a conspiracy theory, but an observation of an emergence behavior that reinforces itself.

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telllosreply
lemmy.world

I think you have a good point. It's also a important part of the handmaid's tail. Where sex is repressed for most of society. Especially soldiers (?!).

Another part maybe is sports, American society spend so much money in teaching sport to kids at a level that is pretty high. Compared to other nations.

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i think it was prevalent before the interwebs because there was largely few places to get porn, and throwing it in a movie meant more eyeballs.

as porn became immediately available in other forms (mostly the internet), the unnecessary scenes could be eliminated as a waste of time and a detraction from plots. they ceased being a reason to draw eyeballs.

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Bingo. This is 100% the reason, and it’s funny that people assume anything else. When you can just watch porn at any time with no effort, sex scenes are gratuitous and awkward distractions except in rare circumstances.

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frezikreply
midwest.social

You can get gratuitous violence on the internet, too. Far more than the most violent slasher film. Availability isn't the reason.

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moist.catsweat.com

the desire for gratuitous violence is probably orders of magnitude less sought for than our sex drive.

sex is so much more of a psycho-social driver than violence as to make your assumption invalid.

e. i would also add slasher films are slasher films. they arent regular movies with slasher film parts thrown in to attract as many eyeballs as possible. they were written to attract people into that niche thing.

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frezikreply
midwest.social

If it's not as desirable, then why would it be so prevalent in movies?

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moist.catsweat.com

it isnt. its your own confirmation bias.

gratuitous [unnecessary] sex scenes are/were in an incredibly larger number of movies than the violence i think youre referring to.

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frezikreply
midwest.social

Uh, the graph in OP says otherwise. I guess it depends on your definition of "gratuitous".

Is James Bond shooting his way through badies--without a drop of blood being shown--gratuitous? How does that compare to a flash of boobs on screen in another movie?

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that why i mentioned it depends on the type of violence. it was mentioned 'slasherfilms' which i find is an entirely different level compared to james bond.

i dont think that level has changed much at all. movies that require action, still have that nonsense.

you dont see sites advertsing short form violence like pornhub. its apples/oranges.

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Would you say that the conversion of TV from broadcast/cable to streaming has resulted in a lot more nudity? If so, why hasn't Internet porn reduced it?

Here's the point I've been circling around: the availability of Internet porn does not adequately explain why depictions of sex and nudity in movies have gone down. It's the first idea that pops into peoples head, but it doesn't quite fit. What does is the rating system. Somewhat with the introduction of PG-13, and more dramatically so with NC-17. "This Movie Is Not Yet Rated" goes into this in more detail, but I'll lay out what it's getting at.

If you go back to the 1970s and '80s, you have PG movies with nudity. "Airplane", released 1980, had a quick flash of boobs along with an extended blowjob joke. "Superman", released 1978, had Superman as a kid climbing naked out of that pod. Expressly non-sexual, but nudity none the less. Today, Airplane would go straight to an R rating for that flash of boobs unless it's from a director like James Cameron, who gets to pull strings and do whatever they want. I don't think you could do the Superman bit at all.

You also have some R rated movies at the time showing extended closeups of the faces of women in sexual pleasure. This has almost entirely disappeared from all mainstream movies. Liv Taylor's character in "Jersey Girl" (PG-13) talks about masturbating, and that was scandalous.

Then PG-13 shows up in 1984 in response to movies like "Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom" pushing PG too far. When that happens, PG becomes the older kids movie rating, and PG-13 is supposedly for teenagers. Except, now you can't really do scenes like Temple of Doom did and still be PG-13, either. Too much blood. Plus, you can't have nudity except maybe the odd butt (usually male), again with the exception of being James Cameron.

Also, you get one F-bomb in PG-13 movies. It has to be stated in anger ("fuck you") and not in reference to sex ("Should we go home and fuck each others brains out"). This isn't an official rule anywhere, but even people outside the industry have picked up on it.

So now you can have James Bond shooting up tons of baddies as long as you don't show any blood. The same movie will also go to great lengths to carefully conceal the lead actresses' nipples at all times.

This gets much worse when NC-17 comes along. This was an attempt to rebrand the X rating, which tended to be associated with outright porn. "XXX" was never an MPAA rating; the porn industry adopted that for itself, but the association got stuck. So hey, surrender that idea to porn, change X to NC-17, and now we can make "serious" movies with lots of sex.

Showgirls then completely bombs.

What happens next is that NC-17 is used as a bludgeon by the ratings board. Do what we say, or else we'll rate you NC-17 and most of the theaters won't even show your movie. There's a bit of psychology going on here where the ratings board wants to feel like they have a say in the movie itself. This has sometimes resulted in directors deliberately putting in stuff they know will never pass, then it gets flagged by the ratings board, they drop it, and the ratings board gives it the OK.

You can't always do that, though. Directors won't bother shooting a scene at all when they think the ratings board will nix it. Nudity has become nearly absent from R rated movies altogether because of this, and it's a very brief flash if it's there at all. One exception being Wolf of Wallstreet. Directed by Martin Scorsese--another director who has enough pull to get whatever they want. Anybody less than an S-tier director doesn't get to do that. That movie is now 11 years old, and I'd challenge you to find another R rated movie with that much nudity and sex that's been produced since.

Violence in R rated movies hasn't gone the same way, because the ratings board members don't care as much. They're largely Americans (as far as we know; they were when "This Movie Is Not Yet Rated" was produced), and American culture is stuck in a mindset that violence is less bad than nudity. Also, Showgirls was known for sex, not violence, and that's the sack of bricks hanging over every R rated movie director.

So in a perverse way, the opening of PG-13 and NC-17 ratings have actually reduced artistic expression, not opened it up.

Streaming evolved in a totally different way, and isn't subject to the same incentives.

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sh.itjust.works

That sex is even considered a vice on the same level as drugs and violence is fucking bonkers.

This graph alone gives legitimacy to this idea. Nudity and sex are completely normal (and necessary) things in life. That something that is needed for everyone reading this to exist being labeled as a vice like violence and drugs is actually disgusting IMHO.

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where_am_ireply
sh.itjust.works

So is peeing and shitting. And yet somehow you don't get a 5 minute scene of someone on a shitter and then the exact shot of their turds being flushed down.

Sex and nudity are normal. And yet I don't wanna watch my friends have sex. Do you? Wierd huh?

So, why exactly is it so unbelievable that people just don't wanna watch actors pretend to do the most intimate thing we all got?

Feels awkward, yes. Feels akward when it's bad and feels even more awkward when it's good. And it would be most akward if they actually properly showed the entire process and it was real.

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Nice strawmen you got there. I never said anything actually about the use in film nor did I say anything about personal preference.

I protest the idea of categorizing sex and nudity as vices at the same level as drugs and violence. That is something the graph presupposes by comparing to these and actually labeling sex as a vice.

Of course one could have a discussion on when and how sexuality in media should be depicted but not under the premise that sex is a vice.

Edit: Surely you would agree that defecating is not a vice? No one should tell someone they should not shit. Or you should be ashamed of shitting.

No one says shitting is on the same level as taking drugs or beating someone to death.

So why do people lump sex in with violence and drugs.

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lemmy.ca

Sex scenes in movies are a combination of this weird shameful "I want to show I'm having sex but I can't actually show it" and "It's almost like porn if you removed all the porn."

You're really stuck in a pointless awkward middle ground that satisfies nobody. And 95% of the time it isn't even plot relevant so you're just wasting time. The decline basically just coincides with internet access to the masses.

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lemm.ee

I correlate it with the weird feelings that religion introduced about sex and let Al Pacino speak my feelings in Devil's Advocate:

"let me give you a little inside information about God. God likes to watch. He's a prankster. Think about it. He gives man instincts. He gives you this extraordinary gift, and then what does He do? I swear, for His own amusement, His own private cosmic gag reel, He sets the rules in opposition. It's the goof of all time. Look, but don't touch. Touch, but don't taste. Taste, don't swallow."

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Not all religion. (I know, this reads funny.)

There are Christian societies where this kind of repression doesn't exist. It's treated as something very important, though, and you show such feelings (in social perception) towards the person you want to have kids with, but without this strange contradiction.

Though most kinds of European Christianity are like what you said.

And then I want to say one thing - this contradiction already existed in Greek and Roman pagan religions. We tend to imagine those folks as some olive and fish smelling libertines, always half-naked. But even getting drunk (on a party, where everyone drinks wine) was considered something really shameful and hedonistic. Sexual morale was considered pretty important. Prostitution and non-obligating contacts would happen, but there's no society without such.

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AJ1reply
lemmy.ca

how about marionette sex? cause the extended version of Team America World Police has like 3 minutes of uncensored doll sex and it is hilarious

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Yes, but why? Sex is an important part of human life and relationships, it influences people's behaviour and decisions, yet it's being depicted less and less and often not in a satisfying way. So why doesn't it get depicted in a meaningful and plot relevant way? A good recent example that it can be done is The Poor Things (sexuality is one of the main topics there and is depicted and talked about very openly).

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You can show cute emotions of real people having a moment relevant to their arcs and the plot.

You won't show anything of meaning in a mainstream movie, though.

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lemmy.ml

My brain just go ..... when random awkward 30 second sex scene happens out of nowhere or they just start making out, kissing and moaning loudly then suddenly we are in the next scene and everything is back to normal. Why?

Unless the film is sexual in nature random full frontal nudity, stray tits, stray ass, visible privates always makes me so confused.

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superkretreply
feddit.org

It's purely in the film so producers can tell young actresses to get naked for the "job interview" cause it's part of the film.
The fact that those useless sex scenes aren't in films as often anymore is a good sign.

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Yes i am glad i am seeing less of those useless sex scenes. In my opinion implied sex is better than graphical sex scene most of the time. You don't need to see them have sex to know that they did and it will get the point across just the same to the audience without all the awkward and cringey aspect that comes with two actors playing pretend.

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Demdarureply
lemmy.world

Naked is okay. Sexual is unneeded. Normalize body.

I sound like some brainswashing machine from 80' movie xD Anyway, I am more rolling my eyes hard at current trend to insert romance everywhere than occassional, non-sexual nudity.

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You've exactly put my thoughts into words in your first couple sentences.

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TheFriarreply
lemm.ee

Okay, but what makes it “random” to you? It’s art. Nudity in art has been around since art began—took a few years off for puritanical reasons, sure, but we’re all human, we all share having a naked body in common. And sex is the most natural thing. So to include it in art is just as natural.

Our attitudes toward it have changed. Why, though? What makes you feel awkward about seeing sex or nudity

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lemmy.ml

I get art. But there are alot of nudity in the mainstream films that are not that. If i want to watch sex there is porn. If i want nudity in art those exist too.

Don't you feel awkward watching two actors play pretend? Or having your 5.1 audio system start moaning in a film when you are not expecting those type of content. Random naked body parts i don't mind those but often time you can remove those and nothing of value will be lost. So my question is why?

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TheFriarreply
lemm.ee

Do I feel awkward watching two actors act? No. Do you?

My point is, what makes you guys so uncomfortable with sex? Doesn’t that strike you as a little odd? Watching a movie with superfluous sex scenes with, say, your family, is definitely weird. But not because of the sex, but because you’re watching sex with your family there and that is awkward.

Everyone keeps saying “if I want to see sex, I’ll watch porn.” But that’s…such a weird take, I think. It’s not about getting turned on by sex scenes or trying to get off. It’s just a portrayal of a pretty massive part of life that everyone seems scared of or something. I just don’t get that.

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piccoloreply
sh.itjust.works

It’s just a portrayal of a pretty massive part of life that everyone seems scared of or something. I just don’t get that.

Perhaps if it was included for character development between two individuals, you might have a point. But a lot of time its just shoehorned and out of place. Also, for the record, its not a major part of life for many people, which creates even more disconnect.

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The proportion of people conceived by ivf and asexual through their lives, with no romantic interests ever, and no other connections to sex has got to be vanishingly small … more power to you if you are, but you can’t claim that’s the mainstream experience

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Sexual frustration is a massive part of peoples lives too. Only asexual people escape the influence of sex.

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lemmy.ml

When it comes to surprise sex scene yes. The whole thing is just awkward. But when i am watching a film and i am expecting it to happen then no.

Uncomfortable with sex? No. My point was I don't want to be watching an action movie and get a surprise sex scene that last too long and add nothing to the story. Maybe i am weird but clearly i am not the only one that appreciate a good film without those unnecessary sex scene. Otherwise we wouldn't be seeing a steep decline of sex in films.

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Well I dunno if people not liking it is the reason we’re seeing a steep decline. If that were the case, we’d be seeing a steep decline in shitty movies. And that line is trending the other way.

I personally think it’s more a sort of return to Puritanism—in some respects. People are, in fact, very touchy these days. I mean, the intention is good in those touchy people. We want to see less exploitation, see less offensive or unequal treatment of people. And that’s great. But I don’t think sex in film is inherently exploitative nor does it necessitate unequal treatment.

But you know what else we’re seeing? A steep decline in young people having sex. Millennials were the generation having the least sex, until gen Z came along. Now they’re the generation having the least sex (in adolescence/young adulthood). I personally think there’s a connection there, too. We are more wary of anything that might get people upset—well, I say “we” but really I mean the capitalists. They want your money and will be as inoffensive as they think is necessary to get it. So really, what we’re seeing is a capitalist response to a seemingly more sensitive consumer.

And that’s just shitty all around. Thanks once again, capitalism.

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AA5Breply
lemmy.world

Maybe it does all come down to whether you think most sex scenes are randomly inserted to sell the movie, or are actually connected to the plot or character development. Clearly there are both, and which dominates might be related to what each of us watches

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lemmy.ml

I watch all kind of films and I have no issues with the latter. It is a good thing we are getting less of those unnecessary sex scene that add nothing to the story, plot or character development.

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This is a benefit of sex being ubiquitous: you have to try a lot harder for shock value

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TheFriarreply
lemm.ee

I mean, isn’t that a matter of opinion? Puritans thought bare shoulders and exposed knees were graphic. There’s definitely a discussion of what type of sex on film is exploitative. But “graphic?” Look to other culture’s cinema. Routinely showing full nudity, men and women—not glorifying it or exploiting it, literally just a naturalistic exposure of skin—makes the story grounded in reality. And has a way of not fixating on it or exploiting it, but rather depicting people and just exposing bodies.

And also, we’re talking about nudity and sex being “graphic” while network television has us hacking up human bodies. That’s not thought of as too graphic but exposed breasts and genitalia somehow is? How backwards is that? That type of behavior, I think, creates your type of outlook, because it’s hidden away and thought of as “too much.” I’ve never cut open a body or shot someone, but I’ve definitely been naked and had sex. How do you square that?

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And yet in The Matrix, Trinity’s devotion to Neo is central to the plot, the sharp distinction between the gritty real world and colorful virtual world is central to the plot. Sex fits. (Unless you mean the newest sequel, that I haven’t seen)

(And yes, I give Carrie-Ann Moss bonus credit for that)

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TheFriarreply
lemm.ee

I mean, I get what you’re saying but my whole point is how does sex “ruin the entire experience?”

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I think many people feel uneasy because they were taught sex (and nudity!) is something naughty, shameful. It's easy to feel that way when you grow up in certain culture and it's a hard thing to break free of even when you're adult and know better.

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GladiusBreply
lemmy.world

We are all here because of sex. I think it's outrageous that violence is glorified when there isn't a single person here not made from sex. Ok maybe a few but it's a really small percentage.

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We never had a choice. I'm certainly not thankful for being born.

I've also been told here that I'm probably partly asexual, which I believe is unrelated. But it shows that some people just aren't interested.

I really don't see the reason for comparing it violence either. Drugs seem to be popular there too and they're probably also a common reason for conception and I also don't like seeing them.

Is there such a thing as fluff movies? (I'd probably give one of those a try.)

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jjjalljsreply
ttrpg.network

I remember a bunch of years ago talking about This Film Is Not Yet Rated, and how I thought it was absurd a scene where someone's brains get shot out and they die is ok, but a non-graphic cunnilingus shot was unacceptable. The two people I was talking to, a woman older than me and someone my age, were both like "No that makes total sense. I'd watch a violent movie with my kid but not one with sex in it"

I was like, "You'd rather your kid run around fantasizing about murder than sex?" And they were like "yeah"

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Sex scenes on the other hand, come out of nowhere, add nothing to the plot and only leave you in disgust

These are not universal truths

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Drag also thinks it's important for kids to know about murder. They should get to hear stories like Beowulf, the Iliad, and Star Wars. Children need to be taught that violence is a valid solution to certain types of problems. Otherwise you'll raise a society of cowards who believe in following the law and keeping negative peace.

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Anticorpreply
lemmy.world

It bothers me that we're at a place in society where all real violence is vehemently condemned. Mutual combat is prohibited in 46 of the 50 states, kids get expelled if they stick up to bullies, people are raised from birth to be complete victims if they're ever in a physical confrontation, but then there's all of this non-stop glorification of violence on-screen.

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If Thanos tries to destroy the world, the Avengers cut off his head.

If Rupert Murdoch tries to destroy the world, you're not even allowed to smash his windows. It's not fair! Violence is good and TV taught drag why.

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GiveOverreply
feddit.uk

I'm not saying any of that I just want to see sexy movies

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Zahille7reply
lemmy.world

They're talking about "ultraviolence" like The Boys or Dredd. Scenes that show incredibly detailed and gory violent acts like someone getting their skull crushed against a wall, or someone literally going "splat" against the concrete after falling a hundred stories.

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I'm not following your logic. I think there's an unspoken leap being made

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as an asexual person i find other people's opinions on this interesting. the sex scenes do nothing for me and i'm usually just waiting for them to end but i understand my circumstances are not common. i can only assume that someone who is into sex gets something out of sex scenes, otherwise they wouldn't exist.

what i don't understand is the demonizing of sex scenes in movies. like does everyone only watch movies with their parents/kids? i don't like sex scenes due to my asexuality and i'm glad that there are few of them because this cultural shift benefits me specifically (who has never been in the target demographic) in a roundabout way. but i wouldn't say they are all gross/unnecessary/graphic/etc as a blanket statement like i see people in this thread and other places online say. art doesn't need to be for everyone.

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lemmy.dbzer0.com

As a sexual person sex scenes do nothing to me either and feel like time lost for the actual plot.

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As a don't get any sex person sex scenes reminds me that I'm horny and makes me unconfortable and feel like a waste of time in a movie

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Yea unless somone is getting killed or mugged in the middle of the sex, it usually adds nothing of value

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AA5Breply
lemmy.world

HuH, I feel like I’m in a minority at least in this thread. I’m definitely interested in the sex scenes. It doesn’t matter how easy it is to find porn, because that’s not in universe nor even “how far” they go on screen since things can be implied. A movie with sexual tension, progressing toward sex is interesting, and external porn is irrelevant to that plot.

Of course that assumes it fits the movie somehow. I definitely agree some sex scenes were just inserted for the prurient interest and really shouldn’t be there. Then again, there are bad films saved only by random appearances of boobs

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I'm with you, I like sex scenes, sometimes because they represent a satisfying conclusion to a narrative arc but also because sometimes they are just pleasing to look at. Personally I don't buy the argument that hard-core pornography makes them irrelevant. Have people stopped taking photos of shirtless guys and women in bikinis? No, of course not. The internet is still chock-full of photos and art of this content.

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lemmy.world

Let's make a movie about the creator of the nuclear bomb! We can explore the moral implications, the political drama of communists in the USA during and after WW2, the creations of Los Alamos, the interesting science of...

Random corporate head: "Let's have a sex scene! That will make things interesting!"

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ChowJeeBaireply
lemmy.world

Now I am become death, the destroyer of...... Ooo... titties!

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Booties

Though admittedly IRL and not in jokes I like titties more too, hair and eyes even more so.

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ok, now I'm torn. I am completely happy with less sex scenes and prefer it because it just isn't trivial to the plot what-so-ever. But, then you had to bring Florence Pugh into it.

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lemmy.world

It's kind of a bummer as it's nice to have a more artistic representation of sex outside of porn which is more of a commodity. Movies can connect the sexy scenes to the non-sexy scenes which potentially makes them more powerful. Also, movies can tie moral value to sex which is interesting to explore.

I am in favor of sex in movies making a comeback, as long as it doesn't create problems for the actors.

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lemmy.world

I think a lot of times the scenes are still done heavily through a male gaze. You'll see more frontal of her than you ever will of a man.

Sex in movies always felt awkward because usually it's a plot device to push the male character's story, a 'reward' for the male character... Or just one of many sexual assault scenes bestowed on nearly every female character ever because "DRAMA."

Not all sex scenes are like this, but a LOT of sex scenes are like this.

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lemmy.world

You never get full frontal of dudes because many of even the most sex-positive people hold a double standard against penises. Any time a penis might have to be on screen, it's vulgar to them and at most belongs in humor.

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Anticorpreply
lemmy.world

They do show them now, although a lot less frequently. What's fucked up about it is that they use giant prosthetic penises, and the majority of men already have insecurities around that area, regardless of their size.

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Zahille7reply
lemmy.world

I remember seeing people complain that Game of Thrones has too many dicks swinging around. I can remember one specifically from the entirety of the show: towards the beginning of the show, possibly season 2 or 3, there was an assassination plot against Khaleesi and they left one of them alive so they could pull him with their horses while he was naked and bound. That's the only one I remember seeing from that whole show.

And then in The Boys there's only like two they've shown so far? Who is seeing all these dicks where there aren't any?

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I mean, The Boys isn't a great example. It's kinda rife with dicks. There's guys hanging dong, there's people going inside dicks, there's exploding dicks, there's self-elongating dicks, there's (in the spin off) a person climbing a dick.

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Anticorpreply
lemmy.world

They've been showing full frontal male nudity over the last 10 or so years, which was never done before.

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Not anyway near the same way they show women. It's usually brief and then still spent more on her being the sexual one. He gets to be gruff and whatever.

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Have you ever seen Original Sin. That's the steamiest non-porn film I've ever seen, and it's actually a really good movie.

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lemmy.world

Ok I understand the comments here where people are saying they dislike sex scenes that don't advance the plot. However there are certain movies where sex scenes are essential to the plot such as Boogie Nights. I can also think of examples like The Name Of The Rose where a sex scene is thematically improving the film (in my opinion).

Sex scenes in film/tv are hard to get right but I'd prefer if directors worked harder to capture/deploy them properly rather than a large facet of human experience disappearing during script interventions by producers and studios.

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I think we're on the same page, but you gotta look at the data a little differently. The way I see it, if we're cutting down on sex scenes that are unnecessary to the plot, then the number at the end is what's left. That's the number of scenes that do advance the plot, and the number isn't 0.

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I agree, but the downward trend is from the 00s when directors would just hamfist sex scenes into movies and shows regardless of whether they're relevant to the plot. I like to think we're trending back to normality where sex scenes actually serve a purpose instead of being there just for the sake of being there.

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The number is going down, it is not going to zero.

So, how about out of 20 movies, 18 cut the crap, and the other two put some fuckin effort into their sex scenes.

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lemmy.nz

rather than a large facet of human experience disappearing during script interventions by producers and studios.

If sex is a facet of human experience then so is video games. Why don't movies often show people playing video games? Perhaps we should treat the lack of gaming in movies as a serious issue too. /s

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grrgylereply
slrpnk.net

I know you said /s but I've thought similar things. I think it's because unless it's two characters playing couch co-op, then it's not really social or character building. Even eating lunch together gives the characters so much more "business" to work with.

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lemmy.nz

Drag was making a point about how not everyone likes sex, and calling it a "facet of human experience" is a little grandiose from that point of view. Drag used the video game equivalence to illustrate that point to heterosexual non-gamers. Drag likes to fuck dragons, but drag respects asexuals and thinks about how allonormaty affects them. It's asexual awareness week.

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angrystegoreply
lemmy.world

This makes no sense to me. What else would be worthy of being called grandiosely a facet of human experience if not sex? Sex has it's olace among the importan experiences of human life - it's how human life starts. It's an important driving force, it influences people's life, decisions, relationships, even lack of sex and the resulting frustration influences human behaviour. Asexuality is actually very interesting for the same reason - it's a lack of something that most people experience. I wpuldn't mind more films woth openly asexual characters. Falling in love is depicted very often even though there are aromantic people who don't experience it.

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lemmy.nz

What else would be worthy of being called grandiosely a facet of human experience if not sex?

Death. The reaper man comes for us all.

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angrystegoreply
lemmy.world

Yeah, sure, I didn't want to say there are no other facetes, just that sex is one of the important ones. I wasn't really askin :) The death and birth are kinda key, right?

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lemmy.world

Incline if use of shades of greys in diagrams instead of easily identifiable colours: up 500%

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lemmy.ml

Three grey value lines is stupid.

Don't be stupid.

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It's considered a good design practice if you want to draw attention to a particular metric

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The effect porn on portable devices had on how much people need to make deposits in the spank bank

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WhyFlipreply
lemmy.world

No, it's not. Has everything to do with sex scenes not adding anything of value to a film.

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lemmy.world

Might have something to do with movies catering more heavily to "Family" audiences (the functional death of the R-rate film in theaters) while TV shows cater more heavily to childless adults.

We've literally coined the term "sexpository" to justify injecting gratuitous naked time into our 8-12 hour prestige TV shows. We've also made these sex scenes a lot gayer, which rubs the Family Friendly crowd the wrong way but plays great with the 20-30 somethings who are all on board with it.

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I think this is it. Most movies are trying to avoid an R rating and slide into PG-13, because PG-13 movies generally make a lot more money than R-rated ones because the audience is greater.

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lemmy.ca

This is at least as true of action scenes, and it doesn't stop them from bloating the run time of 90% of the movies coming out today.

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lemmy.world

Sex scenes and action scenes dont necessarily "bloat" movies if they are fun to watch. That's the whole point, right? To be entertained?

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Agreed, well placed and executed action or sex scenes can be used to great effect. They are also equally capable of adding nothing but wasted time. My point is that bad action scenes have been wasting plenty of time in movies lately, so a desire for tight films with no fat is definitely not the cause for the comparative dearth of sex scenes.

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s_sreply
lemm.ee

Nah if you want to watch porn you can just watch porn.

Access to adult content is never been easier so we don't need half-assed versions in our film.

also, there's some selection bias as the "top X grossing films" has included more and more childrens films over time as adult consumption of all content has moved out of the theatre and to the internet.

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They have enough time to develop a plot where the sex actually makes sense instead of forced in

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Jesus tap dancing christ.

WE HAVE PORN! INFINITE PORN!! 24/7 IN OUR POCKETS!!!

We used to find sex on film exciting, now if we get turned on we pause Netflix and hit the real stuff.

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And that's kids how you make an argument about capitalist suppression of sex. Netflix can probably get a 10% revenue boost if they just cut out all the "stimulating" sex scenes.

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sh.itjust.works

It's due to easier accessibility to porn. It both reduces demand for the relatively timid sex scenes in films and also reduces their edginess/shock value.

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Yeah, but I think sex scenes don't need any shock value or compete with porn. They can depict the many ways sex influences people irl.

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Shock value being non-zero desensitizes the public. I mean, this is a problem with everything today from action movies to software, so not sure if I can even find an example showing that this is a bad idea.

But they could, you know, go for subtlety and artful cinematography and acting, lights and colors, sounds and shadows.

But would be strange to expect that from sex when they don't do that with central parts. Movies like "Blade Runner" and "Total Recall" are something unthinkable today.

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I also think this is it. Sex scenes in movies used to have an effect on people. Now they just tune out and go get a snack and a drink or something until it’s over. Boooriiing. I will say, though, some filmmakers have been forced to get creative. That scene in Bladerunner 2049 was pretty hot. It didn’t even need to include anything gratuitous.

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lemmy.world

I wonder how much of this correlates with the rise of intimacy coordinators. I’m sure there are productions that think it’s not worth the investment so they just scrap the scene and have it take place off camera etc.

And perhaps a rise in actors not wanting to have their stuff on the internet forever now (even more so with the rise of AI training)

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lemmy.today

I think it correlates more strongly to the prevalence of pornography. Mainstream movie scenes look fake and contrived, because they are. As unrealistic as pornography is, that is actually a dick, and it is actually going in a vagina.

When your mainstream movie sex scene is going to be compared (unfavorably) to a scene of two people actually fucking, why bother even shooting it?

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I think this only happens because sex is as fake as most other emotions in today's movies.

I also hate how everything is glossy, even character faces. Even fear, blood and shit are glossy.

FFS, old Hollywood with exceptionally cute actors on main roles still would have a bit of that noble mess around, chaotic here and there and in conversations. Good 3d artists know that you need some chaos in everything distinguishable in your scenes or they will look fake.

It's rather that fake-looking sex scenes in movies don't feel like art, they feel like porn without satisfaction. So nobody bothers.

While fixing that culture would require changing the environment around film making. You know, the one forming the demand for bore and glossiness.

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Granitereply
lemmy.world

I wonder how much of this is because Disney owns everything.

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I'm guessing it's because the highest grossing films are now just slop trying to appeal to the widest demographic possible, so if they include sex, the are excluding families from seeing the film.

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Drag doesn't think the Raimi couple have any chemistry. Peter and MJ are bad for each other. They don't know how to relationship. Tom and Zendaya are comfortable together. They're mutually supportive.

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Sex scenes were usually forced in by people screaming sex sells. These days there are different ways to see breasts than going to a cinema.

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This, I think, may be one of the reasons, yes. I have a feeling it's a combination of this (which I see as a change for the better) with people being a bit more prudish (which is not very good in my opinion). And the latter might be the reason for the former, when I think about it, but not necessarily. I wonder whether there's some good research on this.

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oo1
lemmings.world

"I've I've been waiting for the right time to bring this up, but I feel like we need to address the elephant in the room, no?" . . . "where's the dong?"

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lemmynsfw.com

All the colors in the fucking universe and they pick three shades of gray.

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Yes and then they used a very misleading non-zero axis. More truthful would be to show this as the percent that it is, and sex scenes went from being in 40% to 26% of the top 250 movies. So now I wonder how else they biased this, maybe in selecting the sample size...

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Is the spike in the early 2000's from the cinematic masterpiece The Room? Three sex scenes in the span of like 15 minutes, ooh la la.

Seriously though, as much of a horndog I can be, I like the decline of random sex scenes in movies. Very rarely added anything to the story for me. I'm not a fan of violence, but fortunately it's not too hard to avoid.

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Yeah, my bet is that sex used to be this thing you rarely see, so seeing it in a movie was this interesting event. Now we have access to more porn than you could possibly ever consume at your fingertips. Sex in movies used to sell a movie. Now I don't think anyone really cares.

Some people are seeing this and assuming sex has become more divisive so they stopped showing it. I'm almost certain it's the opposite. No one cares anymore.

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BluesFreply
lemmy.world

Three sex scenes using footage from only one lmao

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IIIreply
lemmy.world

But extending the chart to include before 2000 wouldn't support the chart's agenda...

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I wanna see this extended back to at least 1980, which was around the peak for nudity and sex scenes in film; after porn was legalized but before internet porn.

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Still got a pretty good body count, though. Can’t have a sex scene, but films of virtually non -stop violence is cool.

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cm0002reply
lemmy.world

Fast Forward has been a thing since like....the 80s

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lemmy.world

Watching with your family kinda makes it awkward with some random sex scene out of nowhere.

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Blackmistreply
feddit.uk

But the kids love seeing people being stabbed and shot and torn apart, right?

We should be more comfortable with tits and ass than guns. We're not and that's a problem.

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We should be more comfortable with tits and ass, both sexualised and casual, but not every action flick needs a tacked on romance with two leads slobbering over each other two thirds through the movie

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lemmy.ca

So sex is a vice now or just when its in a film?

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It’s long been treated as a vice when practiced outside marriage. I disagree with that but it’s a thing

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lemmy.blahaj.zone

My question would be how much of this is actors no longer being completely subjected to the gross wims of the director. How many scenes had little to do with a story and felt more like the director using the opportunity to make pretty people obey them.

We have intimacy directors now and what may also be happening is individuals having more say in production and in their bodily autonomy and I don't see that as an issue particularly.

Did random sex scenes really hit the level of art for you folks? Is pornography art the same way? 🤔 You know both are made for mass sale and consumption usually, the same way, much more than trying to make content to say anything.

But um "it so bad we block the titties!" or whatever is popular to say. Even though i personally don't remember many that added anything story related. Show me them bonding in a real way, sex doesn't cement anything if you've ever had a cheating partner, but a real collection of moments spent together between them that shows understanding and sacrifice for each other can really have an impact.

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angrystegoreply
lemmy.world

Even cheating can have an impact (mostly negative) and in general, sex or even the absense thereof influences our life and therefore is worth depicting in a movie. Bad sex scenes are as awkward and boring as bad action scenes. Both can be done well and be plot relevant or artistic.

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I do have many movies specifically, from the top of my head: the Poor Things, Brokeback Mountain, Breaking the Waves, the 5th Element (where it's just for fun and it's ok), the English Patient.

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lemmy.ca

Because it's been done so many times and it's mostly just cheesy stuff. There's really no new way to show people having sex in movies/shows.

Sex in movies peaked in Team America. You know the one.

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I find myself watching older TV a lot because it's got way less graphic sex and violence. I don't want to see a person get ripped in half and their guts flying everywhere and i don't need to see every actress' boobs. sorry if that makes me a "prude" or whatever but it's way too much for my taste

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I think some of this comes with age?

I used to be more willing to watch that stuff 20 years ago, which was almost half my lifetime ago.

But it's personal choice.

There were some pretty horrendous stuff on TV, particularly an episode of Law and Order LA where they were dissolving a guy in lye in a bathtub and an episode of Medium where a guy was putting out lit cigarettes on the belly of a dog. I noped right the fuck out of those. These were both years ago at this point but I pretty much refuse to watch cop shows anymore as a result.

One aspect of sex in media is probably the accessibility of pornography. It's not special anymore to see a butt or a nipple, so it's not driving people to the theaters. When I was a kid the closest thing that I had to a Playboy was the Lane Bryant catalog, so seeing Cindy Crawford's side-boob was pretty awesome, even if I had to endure Alec Baldwin's hairy ass for the privilege.

The social acceptance of things seem to be like a pendulum rather than a continuous movement too. It's definitely swinging towards the prude at the moment. It will swing back eventually.

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lemmy.world

Is this what it feels like to be color blind and have people show you charts? Who the hell puts all the other comparison metrics in gray scale?

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Roughly correlates with the rate of decrease in people 18-30 having sex. I'm not sure of the order of influence there, or if there even is one, but it's possible the declining presence of sex in media is a result of it being less relatable for something like 30% more young people than previous generations.

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Good! it always looks "bolted on", awkward, and doesn't advance the plot

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Usually if it pass the 20 seconds I reach for the keyboard to skip ahead.

I mean, who cares about smushys , I get it you are in love, lets go ahead

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Gotta maximize the target market on everything to get the most clicks and all. It's why anything that comes out now is so good damn bland.

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Funny how the peak of sex in movies was right around the time Tommy Wiseau blessed the world with 3 sex scenes the first 30 minutes of one movie.

That man has a glorious ass and anyone who got turned off to sex in movies because of it deserves shame

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fedia.io

I just find it hard to believe that more films have drugs than profanity.

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vovoreply
lemmy.dbzer0.com

You can't read the chart like that. Everything starts with 100. It shows the decrease/increase of each vice separately.

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I noticed this as well. I don't really care either way, just that it was noticeable. The other part I noticed is that if there is nudity, I feel like it's a way higher percentage that it's a male. I'm not going to lie if I had to choose I would rather see the other sex, but I understand we had way too long of a time with it being a one-way street.

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It has no draw because we all have 24hr access to porn to the extent having it in a film is like having people take shits in film, like, yeah we all do this, but it's mostly gross so, no thanks.

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lemm.ee

So basically in the distant future year of year 2000 movies mostly had it all?

Like fast food (chains) - products topped with sugar, fats, and salt, so there is no need for actual quality?

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midwest.social

I'd argue that it's more that pornography is easily accessible and there's simply not a need or market to titillate audiences like that. You're just alienating potential audience members who might have gone to see it with their kids, because obviously it's okay that they see a city destroyed or people shot in the head fifty times, but who won't buy a ticket because somebody is briefly showing boob.

I'm curious about what, exactly, counts as violence and drugs for this graph though. Is it extreme gore? Any violence at all? Any weed use at all? Drinking?

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Pornography with good acting is not.

I know that it's a joke about it having a plot and all, but I'm personally not very interested in just looking at videos of all the orifices being methodically used as if it's a factory mechanism during maintenance, unless the woman is very beautiful. But even then the effect from beauty is orders of magnitude less than if there were some real plot and acting.

There are gradations of taste, ya knaw,

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I was saying that movies with all of the above are for pleasing the average viewer (which doesn't exist), so something arising from financial pressure rather than art.

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Interesting, I thought I noticed this trend but never saw it quantified. I guess the public sentiment changed around '05 about sex in movies. Might be they just get it from pornhub now instead.

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This chart makes me wonder about cigarette smoking specifically. It feels like if you looked back 40 years it would be a "U".

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grrgylereply
slrpnk.net

Thanks for the recommendations. I was just joking.

One of my buddies is Dutch. I don't know why but I just love dunking on Dutch people. They're good sports.

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lemmy.world

The movie that made me want to avoid all sex scenes in movies was Watchmen. Between the completely unnecessary scene and the song that played but just tainted the whole movie.

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vovoreply
lemmy.dbzer0.com

I saw unnecessary violence in a movie and now I never want to see violence again.

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leftzeroreply
lemmynsfw.com

Except for the music, the scenes were pretty much straight from the book:

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I didn't have any issues with the Dr Manhattan scene. It was the Nightowl one with Hallelujah playing that felt so cringe.

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lemmy.world

I wonder if it’s linked to the decline in sex in real life due to young people staying inside more and playing video games instead of socializing. I swear I saw an article about that at some point on Lemmy (or maybe Reddit).

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People, especially young people are having sex less across the board because everyday life has become a crushing grind, not because of videogames and staying inside. People do choose to do those things instead of socializing... because they are burnt out from trying to meet rent, getting treated like shit at work and sitting in hours of traffic everyday.

Young people are still just as horny, they are just also very tired and sad.

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lemm.ee

Dishonest graph, the y axis goes from 65 to around 100, rather than starting at 0

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Don't know why you got voted down. It's true and it's the first thing I noticed about the graph

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lemmy.world

They NEVER add to the story. Sex scenes are what perverted assholes like Harvey Weinstein wanted.

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lemmy.world

Guillermo Del Toro's "At The Mountains Of Madness" got rejected because there's no love interest. Sex scenes rarely if ever add to a movie plot unless that IS the plot

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sh.itjust.works

Counter point the orgy in Caligula. Or atleast that one is simply historically accurate, actually I think they may have toned it down.

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lemmy.world

Sarah Conner banged a time traveller in Terminator and it actually applied to the plot by creating a paradox. It's one of the very few times that I wasn't sitting their thinking "WHY THE FUCK IS THIS HAPPENING?? WTF DOES THIS HAVE TO DO WITH ANYTHING??"

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lemmy.world

No, just not a pervert who doesnt understand the concept of right and wrong times for fucking

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Apologies that it's a link to a paywalled site. I believe they allow viewing one video for free? (I can also give out up to 3 people one week for free, so if anyone's genuinely interested DM me—preferably not from a lemmy.world account though because federation problems mean I may not receive it for over a week.)

But I found this video and its part 2 very enlightening in terms of ways sex scenes can be used in a way that genuinely does enhance the story.

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