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me_irl

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Or trauma, depression, etc, etc. We should really stop diagnosing people and just suggest mental health support from a professional when something is wrong.

Sincerely - a person with cptsd, who has been constantly misdiagnosed with autism and adhd by the community (I have neither, and it was harmful to think that was my problem).

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Dating Apps Are Dying

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I turn my profile visible for about 24 hours. As a late 30's woman, that gets me about 300 likes in a medium sized European city. (I pay for it, it's impossible to use otherwise.)

I then go into my list of likes and use filters to start left swiping based on hard cutoff criteria (wants kids, Christian, etc). That drops it down to ~100 people. I use an app that has good filters.

I then go through reading profiles and looking at who is attractive for me (pictures and bio). That leaves about 25 people. I then match with all of them at once. Usually leads to 5 or so good conversations, and a few dates. Give it a shot, repeat if necessary.

If I leave mt profile visible for more than a few days I have thousands of likes. I match with most people I see swiping. It's just not a feasible way to do it. And I'm not even attractive.

It's just a flood and it's nearly impossible to manage. It's such a broken, asymmetrical system. I hate it so much.

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Private Property: For Abundance and Diversity

The erosion of property rights over much of the last hundred years has worked to the great detriment of the poor and disadvantaged. Strengthening those rights could do much to enhance liberty and opportunity for the least well-off, and to boost economic growth and innovation in society generally.

Ok, read the whole thing. This was never once addressed. How does private property help, in any way, the poor and disadvantaged?

It never once addresses VC and funds like Blackrock mass-buying private property and forcing a predominantly rental based market to extract capital from the lower class, preventing them from ownership. Instead, it leans on zoning (??) as a primary problem in access to property.

And most egregious, it never once discusses how private property is ethical on stolen, native land. The entire US, and many other countries. (I'm not American.)

Anyways, I just really don't get it.

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What was the scariest “We need to leave… now” gut feeling that you’ve ever experienced?

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This is exactly the feeling. Went through a tornado when I lived in the midwest. It hit two streets over, just missing us. The sirens were going off but we were teenagers and still hanging out on the couch, parents were out. There were a ton of storms growing up where the sirens went off so we were a little desensitized.

Suddenly just knew it was time to go, something was here. Don't know how else to describe it, the air changes, it's like the vibrations change in the wind, or a sound that's too deep to hear. Can't say exactly, but I still remember the feeling of move now. We all just bolted at the same time and ran to the basement.

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15 years

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I love this, thank you. I actually became an aunt this year! My family is on the other side of the world (good and bad) and my plan is to be the super cool auntie that visits occasionally. :)