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Tradition is just bullying by dead people

Tradition is brainwashing younger people that they should keep doing what you did even after you're gone.

Not that every tradition is bad, or that everything should be done differently. Humans learn from the previous generations, that's a fundamental of our existence. But the way some traditions are imposed onto the young despite all issues with them sucks. It's about balance and not being dogmatic, I guess.

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Boys: Should I take my L and move on from her, or risk trying to revive it? I think my L is clear here but need some dude inputs:

Well you didn't give much info about what supposedly went wrong. What do you suspect? Maybe you should share or paraphrase what your last texts were, if you think that was where you messed up. Or anything else you think made her withdraw. Then people can actually give you advice based on that, because whether you still have a chance depends on what went wrong. You need to analyze.

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I’ve hit a wall with tech.

Well said. Yes, I do feel the same way.

So, why not just step away? It depends on your attitude and your aspirations, I guess. If it's solely for your own peace of mind and if you can actually detach yourself emotionally from knowing about the evils going on around you, then yes, i'd say stepping away is a great idea. I won't judge some level of blissful ignorance.

For me personally, I kind of can't convince myself that things are fine or not my business. They are not fine and they do affect me, and I know it. So I choose to fight it, and I find peace in knowing I do my best, and that I'm just getting started. No shortage of big ideas. Also, it's a great feeling that I actually do something that matters. Even if I don't succeed in the end, I didn't just play along with this shitshow. Also, I now have a few people I got close to that are on a similar mission, and not being alone in all this feels great.

At the same time, I did kind of step away, at least partially. I quit certain platforms and cut off some kinds of contents, and carefully balance screentime. Sometimes you just need a break and protect your sanity.

About the issues themselves, in short: I think what's needed are more coordinated efforts, with an agreed and sound strategy. We need better systems for collaboration. People need to come together and design resilient ways of organizing what they do. We do have a lot of power to bring about change, but we must join forces more, and we must dare to think outside of the estabished approches.

I'll be to FOSDEM in Brussels in two weeks. Really looking forward to connecting with like-minded people!

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is skeuomorphism still applicable if the symbol has lost meaning to most?

I think up until which point you would still call things like that skeuomorphic is entirely subjective, depends on how you want to define it. These things will always be of skeuomorphic origin, at least.

It's a very interesting process indeed. I imagine these designs will morph over time into something else, as their original meaning does not matter anymore since no one remembers it vividly, and all that matters is them being widely known and distinctly recognizable. Just like it happens with words changing over time.

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Did you already find communities that match your interests well, in general? Or are you missing only specific kinds of communities? I was kind of lost at discovering what's out there at first, now with a set of nice communities, it's much more clear where to post.

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[NSQ] What are you actually looking forward to this year?

Feeling happy again and moving forward on a personal level after all the hardship of the last two years! Had a really toxic and draining relationship that ended last summer. Took a few dark months of sorting things out afterwards. Now things slowly start to look brighter. I look forward to summer, a lot of festivals and stuff is planned with friends. I look forward to rebuilding my career.

In terms of state of the world, I hope for a lot, but there are few fixed dates of definitely good things to come. I do look forward to the launch of the Artemis 2 moon mission in April.

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That sounds nice overall. I think, in some cases, being a late bloomer at this may be a good thing. You may get to skip immature and inappropriate behavior from people who don't know any better since they're barely more mature than children. On the other half, dating in your teenage years can be intense and exciting, even when it looks corny and immature from an adult perspective. And that early experience can be valuable for not making "beginner mistakes" later. But I guess since it's your first time now, it is intense and exciting nonetheless?

Anyways, I'm 29m now, and had my first relationship at age 15. She was in my class. The tension and butterflies were insane, a lot of passion in a way, even though we were just texting at first. When we took it to real life, it was a beautiful thing for a while. I eventually messed it up and my world shattered. But life went on and so many more wonderful, crazy and sad stories followed.

I have had 7 relationships total as of today, all committed and rather long. Almost married the last one. I think I learned so much about what makes and breaks a relarionship and about human beings in general and I feel confident I'll know what I want and what to do in the future. On the other hand, I wish I could have romantic emotions as pure and intense as back in the days. A part of it is just the novelty and not yet having been scarred by life, I guess. But then again, thats just the "honeymoon part". Real love comes after that and goes much deeper.