Happy to help, Miisha, and I'm glad to hear you two figured it out! :)

And I should've left it up. I have a tendency to write looong comments and in the moment I thought, hey, all this other advice is great too, and way more succinct lol.

You're super cute too and you've made so much progress in the past few months. Just imagine how things will be in five years!

Or a good leakproof tent and a super-comfy sleeping bag. Finding a nearby campsite while on vacation instead of a hotel for at least some of the days is so much fun, not to mention cost-saving.

When I was five, a friend would lend me her dresses to wear at school. I kept it going for almost the whole year, but the bullying was so bad that I had to give that up. So my five-year-old self would be happy I ended up transitioning even though there were setbacks.

Happier accomplishment: I was always an independent person, and my parents told me when I was five, "When you're 18 and out of the house, you're the boss." And I was able to move into an apartment and find a job at 18 while going to college.

I don't really feel like I dodged bullets, but it does sound like we both had separate struggles during that time. I'm sorry you had to deal with that when you just wanted to stay friends with your guy friends. It's worst when guys use terms like "friendzoning" and ascribe blame for not having feelings back.

Honestly, the "I identify as an attack helicopter" and the "trans women are pretentious SJWs who are offended about everything" stereotypes feel quaint these days as the usual offenders have generally moved on to calling us child abusers and sexual predators in the U.S.

I have friends who says "I still run Windows because I don't want to do any tinkering," but don't realize they'd do less tinkering if they switched haha. It's not 2015 anymore.

You'd think the literal apocalypse happening would be an acceptable justification for not being dolled up 100% of the time, yet here we are with Aloy.

And honestly, she looks pretty good for someone socially ostracized her whole life, not having a mom, and roughing it her whole life in a cabin that doesn't have running water. It could be a whole lot worse than just peach fuzz 🤷‍♀️

I'm on the reservation list for a Steam Machine and personally have no regrets, but I'm so happy these exist. I don't think it has to be a big competition, but between not appealing to a mass audience and have limited stock, the Steam Machine may have inadvertently ushered in a prebuilt Linux PC revolution, and that's a wonderful thing.

Unless you're 5'11" or taller, in which case nothing will fit and you have to special-order everything and you don't get to have the fun clothes-shopping experience everyone else gets to have.

It's a complex issue for sure, but I'm really proud of this thread for consistently using the term "trans women" when talking about the differences between trans women compared to cis women and cis men in sports.

On Reddit, most people on this debate just say "biological males," "males," or "men" in situations where they're clearly talking about trans women, which is a clear tell that it was never about fairness in sports for them.

It's frustrating. It feels like even progressive men here (not all, but many) aren't willing to listen, while making it all about them. And because of the vast male majority, it feels like most threads on womens' issues consist of off-topic defensive comments. I don't recommend Lemmy to women either.

That being said, you're all worth it. Reddit as a whole isn't what it once was. And womens' Reddit communities tend to have lots of people, which can sometimes lead to negative spiraling when bad things happen. I get it, but it would make my mental health worse.

On Lemmy, it's a small, friendly space much like the old internet. I recognize a lot of the same folks on these communities. We uplift each other.

Lots of people here can very hostile about us being here, but we're making this place a little friendlier and more inclusive, and I'm glad we're all here. We've got each other's backs.

You, a non-trans person, went into a trans community talking about trans stuff, implied that they shouldn't talk positively about trans stuff on a trans community, and then accused the mods of powertripping when you were banned for going off topic.

It's not like that post was put on a general Lemmy community. Trans people are going to say nice things about trans people in their own communities. It's okay when a trans person has a friend who chooses of their own volition to be accepting of them. Is a personal genuine-held belief "pandering"? Does the OOP, a single person expressing this personal view rise to the level of "at all times"? If you personally don't want non-neutral acceptance in your life as a gay man, that's your choice.

Idk what you were expecting.

https://jakelazaroff.com/words/dhh-is-way-worse-than-i-thought/

If ethnic cleansing constitutes "fairly normal right-wing views," then right wingers have no place in polite, civil society because they support a violent, genocidal ideology bent on destroying Western Civilization. How can we have empathetic coexistence, for example, in a government that forcably disappears legal non-white immigrants and sends them to labor camps via federally funded masked thugs operating in unmarked vans? How can anyone peacefully coexist with a group that only wants to make space in society for white Americans and is willing to achieve those ends violently and extralegally?

It didn't used to be this way. Right-wingers can go back to peaceful coexistence when they put aside the supremacist and nationalist viewpoints and return to advocating for low taxes and small government without excluding entire groups of people. But make no mistake, the Right -- the intolerant ones -- have to change first. The fact that you think that this is "normal" is a chilling indictment of modern society. At this rate, in 10 years you'll think unelected leaders, concentration camps and death by firing squad is "normal" too.

It seems like these news stories only get written when the victim is a cis person mistaken for being trans.

Can't stay on Android because Google is anti-privacy. Can't get a GrapheneOS phone because they're only compatible with non-repairable devices. Can't get a FairPhone or Jolla because I live in America. Can't get an HMD because the bootloader is locked.

Even e/os and LineageOS have security problems.

There is no good phone on the market, to my knowledge. You can't have privacy, repairability, and security all at the same time.

I've fortunately never had to use online dating apps myself, but I have looked over male friends' dating profiles.

I think my best guy friend would be one of the better men out there, but he just got out of a seven-year relationship, is in a hurry to settle down before 30, and comes off really intense in his profile and messages without realizing it. Three big red flags right there.

One example in his profile: while it isn't a red flag to like cuddling, it is one to say his idea of a perfect first date is meeting for coffee, then going back to his place to cuddle and watch a movie. It took a lot to convince him to revise that section on the grounds that most women prioritize safety and won't want to go back to a man's place on the first date.

It was a yellow flag when Framework invested heavily into an affordable non-repairable, non-upgradable desktop designed for AI developers. "Let them make money," they said, as Framework positioned itself as a Trojan Horse to the ubiquitization of harmful AI.

This was the straw that broke the camel's back for me. I was saving up for a Framework 16, but I'll just stick with my Thinkpad and get the next Steam Deck for gaming. It's really a shame that such an important company would support transphobia and white supremacy, not just rhetorically but financially, as Hyperland gets ₤600 a month from them and DHH gets ₤24,000 via Rails.

I know this will be a controversial take since Framework is so beloved, but that is just how I personally will choose to spend my money.

Companion Cube 😍

The only thing the old Steam Machines were missing a decade ago was good Linux compatibility via Proton, but now we've got that! I have literally never been more excited for a new "console." Goodbye, Steam Deck.

Conservatives spent at least two decades saying that queer acceptance is a slippery slope would lead to the normalization of incest, then bestiality, then pedophila, in that order. And then it turns out that being conservative was the thing that led to pedophila all along. So I'm left feeling like every accusation is a confession, and that homophobia is their way of covering their tracks.