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nostupidquestions·No Stupid QuestionsbyMighty

what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? [close this topic maybe?]

[edit: I thank everyone for their comments and time. A lot of very interesting opinions and view points. Unfortunately also a lot of things that went away from the actual answer. So I'm thinking maybe this thread can be closed without deleting it?]

The more I hear people talk about it who aren't cis-het men, the more I hear criticism about the concept. But so far, I've only heard people say that it's stupid, that it's not a thing, that it's men's own fault etc. But I've yet to understand where that criticism comes from. I don't want to start a discussion on whether or not it's real or not. I just want to understand where the critics are coming from.

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canada·CanadabyMighty

meeting people on my solo vacation through canada

Hi peeps, My big trip through Canada is only three weeks away now and I'm starting to feel nervous 😬 So I thought I'd post here to ask y'all a few things, mainly about socialising and meeting folks. - specifics about my travels at the bottom

1.) I'm still looking for couch surfing hosts in Vancouver and Toronto. People on beWelcome aren't really answering. Is there some advice? Or advice on cheap accommodation for 1-3 nights in those towns? Or maybe even some of y'all who'd like to hosts me :)

2.) what are some good ways to meet people on the road? Are there social media apps that are favoured in Canada? Specific places for travellers? (YMCA, hostels, clubs...?)

3.) any other things you'd like to tell me? XD

My trip is: arriving in Vancouver on the 25th of Juli, renting a car on the next day. Plans to travel the west for about 3 weeks. Domestic flight to Toronto on the 16th of August, rental car in Toronto on the 17th, driving around Ontario and the east for two weeks. Departure from Toronto on the first of September.

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motorcycles·MotorcyclesbyMighty

electricity or whatever?! losing my mind

Hey y'all. I'm honestly lost and feel super down.

  • Facts: CBF1000 sc58
  • Last thing I did was get my alternator and regulator repaired/changed. My alternator was burnt out. The mechanic said that it's am usual problem with this model and the regulator is the problem.
  • I had to learn to take it out and rebuild it myself. About a month ago, I finally put the alternator back in and my bike actually started! I was overjoyed.
  • Since a week now I'm trying to actually ride it again and it won't start. I recharged the battery (Li-ion). When I tried starting it, the battery kinda drained immediately. It just didn't start. Luckily, I have a second (gel) battery that was full. I put that in and my bike didn't even light up. The fuses all look fine to me. The cables should be correct (there aren't that many options).

I just don't even know where to start. Thanks for reading

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artshare·Art Share🎨byMighty

purple rain - watercolour with crayons

I've started doing more watercolour paintings again at work (I work with kids at a school) and I really enjoy it. I think I started enjoying painting a lot more since I stopped trying to paint something specific and started to just see what happened and what I felt like. Today I wanted to experiment with crayons and watercolour. It worked out perfectly: the watercolours didn't run over the crayon lines and thus created this cool "rain" effect. Everything is done in watercolour, I just traced the buildings with a dark blue crayon before applying the runny paint for the rain

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canada·CanadabyMighty

about my holidays

So I already posted here about my holidays https://lemmy.world/post/23417267

I was wondering what online platform you can recommend where I can connect more directly with Canadians, ask questions, look for recommendations, accomodation,... I'm still torn between buying and renting a car. And there's the whole idea of seeing BC area and Ontario. Any tips concerning inland flights? Or greyhounds? Rail? Do you think that there might be people who want their car to be taken from one Vancouver to Toronto and would rent it to me? Should I post that on Craigslist?

You see I have many questions. (Yes, I'm autistic) It's gonna be a once-in-a-lifetime journey, so I want to be prepared.

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canada·CanadabyMighty

How to travel Canada on a budget

Hi Canadians, I am giving up on web search and rely again on actual people.

I want to go to Canada in Summer for about 5-6 weeks. I already asked a travel agency for a quote for renting a RV, but thats STUPID expensive. I used to go couchsurfing. the website is no more (i think), i am registered on BeWelcome now but haven't looked into it.

What's the best ways for someone with little money to still travel most of the country? renting a car there? buying one and selling it later? RVs? couchsurfing (and how)? hostels? camping?

I am grateful for all hints and tipps and connections :)

edit after some comments: I'm from Germany. My budget is not high. I think I can maybe push it to 4000$, but that'd be pretty high for me.

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dach·DACH - Deutschsprachige Community für Deutschland, Österreich, SchweizbyMighty

Lockere Unterhaltung: Weihnachtslieder

Hallo. Ich hoffe dass es erwünscht ist, hier einfach mal eine lockere Unterhaltung anzuzetteln

Ich merke immer wieder dass die Traditionen und Gewohnheiten sehr unterschiedlich sein können. Zu dieser Jahreszeit sind es bei mir die Lieder, die sich stark unterscheiden. Lieder, die ich schon viele Jahre singe, die andere Menschen noch nie gehört haben und umgekehrt.

Also mal die Frage: welche Lieder singt ihr in der Winter- und Weihnachtszeit?

Meine Lieblingslieder:

  • Maria durch ein Dornwald ging
  • Es ist ein Ros entsprungen
  • Es kommt ein Schiff geladen
  • Oh come oh come Emmanuel
  • Macht hoch die Tür
  • Vom Himmel hoch da komm ich her
  • Señora Donna Maria
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bravebrowser·Brave BrowserbyMighty

Brave search glitch

This image shows how my search window looks. i'm using firefox as a browser. I already disabled all the ad blocks and paused ghostery but it still looks like this. the problem is, that I cannot click images or the other tabs because the search bar is above it and doesn't go away. I can't find anything in the settings and i couldn't find a similar topic on the Brave support page. anything i'm missing?

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moviesandtv·Movies and TV ShowsbyMighty

Studio 60 on the sunset strip [possible spoilers inside]

After listening to a podcast about Studio 60 i got into watching this show. I'm now on episode 15 our of 22.

These are my thought and I was wondering if anybody would like to talk about it. I know it's an older show, but hey you can't watch everything as it's coming out.

i'm gonna talk about some plot lines, so these are [SPOILERS]

I really loved the first few episodes. The writing is crisp and witty, the jokes are good, the plot moves nicely and the internal conflicts seem to drive everything. But after a few episodes, more and more toxic behaviour and positions crept in.

::: spoiler Spoiler First with Harriet's position on gay marriage. sure, the show makes people say that the statement was wrong. But at the end of the plot line, she gets this whole mushy scene with Matt how they're both stupid and that she was misquoted and stuff. Where I absolutely agree with the previous statement in the same episode, that saying "The Bible says it's a sin" is not the same as saying "I don't know".

Harriet is a super toxic person in the relationship with Matt, but constantly gets off the hook by the show and they end up in another "cute moment" together. She absolutely FLIPS when she knows he had a relationship with someone else, even though Matt and Harriet weren't together when Matt dated Jeany AND Harriet was the one who broke up with Matt AND later we find out she slept with Luke. But the show still presents her as being "correct" in the end and Matt being the idiot. :::


Some of the plot lines, but especially the conflict resolutions feel so unfair, unbalanced and weird. Really of the time. While some transcend. I guess that's why I'm disappointed. The show has so much potential. But again and again shows me that people get judged for things that aren't their fault and get off the hook too easily for things that ARE.

what are some of your thoughts after watching a few or all episodes?

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adhs·ADHS - Austausch, Tipps, ErfahrungenbyMighty

Hilflosigkeit wegen Medikamenten

Ich bin gerade ziemlich verzweifelt von meiner Ärztin wieder gekommen. Kinecteen ist seit über einem Jahr nicht lieferbar. Ich habe bisher von der Apotheke etwas anderes bekommen. Aber das ist jetzt auch nicht mehr lieferbar. Die Apotheke hat mir zwei weitere Medikamente aufgeschrieben die analog sind, aber die EINE Tablette mehr haben als mein Rezept. Also zurück zur Ärztin um ein Rezept für 30 statt 29 Tabletten zu bekommen. Das gibt es nicht. Das darf sie mir auch nicht ausstellen. Es gibt die Medikamente also. Sie sind identisch mit denen die ich brauche. Aber die sind nicht für Erwachsene zugelassen. Nur für Kinder. Warum auch immer (Kapitalismus im Gesundheitswesen ist immer eine gute Idee /s) Das trifft mich gerade sehr. Sie hat mir wieder Medikinet aufgeschrieben. Das habe ich aber nicht gut vertragen und es tut nicht das was ich brauche.

Hat irgendwer irgendeinen Trost für mich? Ich habe jetzt Emails an zwei Firmen geschrieben mit der Frage warum die Medikamente nicht zugelassen sind. Davon erwarte ich mir genau gar nichts.

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citiesskylines·Cities: SkylinesbyMighty

i need some ideas for this roundabout

okay. here's a few things that trip me up: basically every exit lol, but specifically north-east. this corner is super weird. the road north (1 way) is not really connected to the roundabout, there is like a seperate road/lane that runs "past" the roundabout from east to west. but the roundabout has an exit to that road. and that road splits up into a lane onto the roundabout and one that runs past it.

i'm also not 100% on what to do about the slip lanes that still kinda brush the roundabout. i'm trying with curbless roads, but they're super finnicky

here's one more image with the streetview lanes

https://imgur.com/a/DYMuMMC

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adhd·ADHDbyMighty

rejection anxiety and real pain

Hey there. I am incredibly sad, downright depressed and mentally exhausted.

I wanted to celebrate my birthday yesterday for the first time (maybe ever?) with lots of nice people. I invited about 30-50 people. Some, I invited personally, some just casually through groups. Lots of those people I thought of as somehow close and friendly.

I exhausted myself in the effort of preparing the party, I rented a room, I prepared photos, activities, food, music, and just put a lot of mental energy into the planning. I have been planning it for about 2 months, invited those who were most important to me back then even.

5 people showed up.

I am devastated. I was always so anxious about my birthday and never celebrated it. I think I removed myself from groups a lot in my life. And only the last two years, I've started to understand my diagnosis and how to communicate with people. This throws all my anxiety and pain back into my body and brain.

I don't know how to deal with it. Especially I don't know how to interact with the people that were important to me and who didn't show (or those who didn't even cancel). My past behaviour was burning down all the bridges. I don't think I should do that. But I also don't know how to pretend like it doesn't hurt....

Any advice about rejection anxiety and ... well, real rejection?

Thank you.

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