Reddit has this stereoytipe of being a niche community of insufferable internet chuds while Twitter was seen as more mainstream.

Now nowadays, this is completely different. Maybe it's the generational change and Gen Z men ruined Twitter, but it's like it got invaded by 4Chan mentally unstable losers and edgelords.

Reddit is a much more sensitive place, sometimes even too much, but I prefer people to be overly sensitive or offended over "Haha kill yourself liberal, and fuck women in video games women don't deserve to exist 👨🫃🏻"

Lately it feels like edgelords and trolls are multiplying, they used to be a minority of men no one cared about because they would drown in their own misery. But now they're like the average Instagram/Twitter user and you can see them on YouTube as well posting their opinions on lengthy debates.

I transitioned 9 years ago and these symptoms started to me around 4 years in. Usually they're not talked about in trans spaces despite being documented.

1. Lower body temp than people who aren't on HRT despite not feeling the cold. Sometimes I even feel hot despite my body being 36.5°C

2. Terrible blood pressure, my nails on my fingers and toes are always purple-ish and the nails grow thin and weak.

3. Dry skin.

4. Extreme dry eyes, they actually cause me vision loss.

5. Bruising, random bruises appearing on my thighs out of nowhere. One day I fell on my knees and even tho it wasn't a hard fall I got a terrible black bruise on my knee.

6. Dizziness, people report headaches more often but I don't get those as often as dizziness.

Some people say "wow HRT made me feel so good" and I'm here feeling like a corpse in recent rigor mortis 💀

For some reason when I'm talking to an American from the North East and the fact that I'm mixed comes up they always say they aren't white they're actually native because his grandpa once mentioned something about a Cherokee ancestor.

It's always Cherokee, no other tribe but that one. And it's always the whitest looking person ever, straight up 6ft tall blue eyed and blond guy.

I get it, I'm mostly white too, Spanish and Slavic. But even tho I'm not mostly native American I still look native enough that people think I'm Asian.

But when your ancestry has been so diluted over the generations... You're not native. It's not just that you don't look native, it's also that you don't even participate in the culture.

Dude you're just a farm boy from Philadelphia you're probably more Amish than Cherokee, if that supposed ancestor is even real at all and not just some random claim by some of your ancestors to have a "right over these lands".

As another trans woman it has been so hard for me to connect with other trans women because of this.

I'm very critical of men and the way they behave in our society, and my cis girl friends and gay male friends almost always agree.

Now every time I bring this up to trans friends they jump to defend men, girl why are you defending men when they're literally the ones killing trans women and cis women at exponential rates and you're telling me that men don't have a problem??

I genuinely don't understand that need they have to defend men...

I met up with this guy who I met on social media, I assumed he knew I'm trans because it's all over my profile.

Well imagine my face when he asks if I'm taking the pill. So I had to stop him there and tell him that I'm trans.

Good thing he didn't mind, but it was such an embarrassing moment at first because I was like "what pill are you talking about?" 😭

I watch some YouTube channels that narrate crime events while doing makeup, to some people this might sound weird but it's actually very comforting because it feels as if it was a friend telling you something that happened while you eat or do your own makeup yourself.

But I'm starting to notice that listening to these terrible things happening makes me more wary around other people in situations where normally I wouldn't be overthinking so much. I'm scared about making friends in uni because what if any of them ends up being dangerous people?

This also translates to dating, I stopped going on dates because I keep thinking I'll end up meeting my future murderer or rapist.

I'm even scared to meet my friend group this summer, we are going to a holiday chalet to spend some days in that house. I obviously know nothing is going to happen but I have this small worry that "what if they're just plotting to kill me in that house" I might sound like I'm crazy right now.

But I can't keep thinking that these paranoid thoughts would have saved a lot of the people in those true crime cases.

Anyone with a similar experience or am I schizophrenic? 😂

The only way I'll ever have children is through adoption but it seems most guys want biological children.

Most of the guys I met would say that they fear that they wouldn't see an adopted child as theirs which honestly breaks my heart a little.

I did some research and apparently most adoptive parents generally chose that option because the man is infertile, not the other way around.

So it would seem like most men are only contemplating adoption if they're infertile themselves but if their partner is they'll prefer to just get a different girlfriend over adopting kids.

Let me know if you think this is not the case, I want to believe you.

I'm not a political person but I've noticed that for example Reddit has a more left leaning moderation in comparison to what X (Twitter) is.

For example, if someone does hate speech against LGBT people on X and you report them the moderation team will tell you that the content didn't break the rules and guidelines, but if you as an LGBT person answer to the homophobic conservatives with the same energy you'll get a 24 hours suspension from posting or interacting.

I've personally experienced this many times and it's making me so annoyed specially since there's huge accounts on X that are dedicated to spread extreme hate even wishing death on other people.

I've been thinking about it for some years now and I'm 100% sure that I'm not overthinking. My aunt's boyfriend is actually kind of a nice guy he's not a toxic type of guy, he actually comes off as very emotionally in touch with his feelings. Which is great considering my aunt's last boyfriend was actually kind of toxic.

But ever since some years ago I've noticed something odd about him, he does some things, some little gestures that makes it obvious that he is actually kind of attracted to me in some way.

He would acknowledge that I'm pretty but that's not something weird that's something a family member could say. The issue here is that sometimes he is too touchy. He'd touch my waist and say "oh your waist is so tiny", that's a part of my body that he touches a lot, like one time when I was playing football-in and he hugged my waist from the back.

Another weird thing is when he touches my feet, he does that the most and I don't fucking know why. When I'm laying on the sofa he will touch my feet and he once said that my feet are very soft, which I was confused about because why would feet not be soft? It was just such a weird comment.

Now the last time that something like this happened was two days ago, we were playing some board games with the whole family and I couldn't concentrate because he was touching me with his hand on my leg.

And this was the last thing that made me really weirded out and I'm not confusing this because this is the kind of thing he does to my aunt and doesn't do to anyone else other than her and me, he doesn't do it to my little brother, he doesn't do it to my mom or my dad or anyone else.

I've mentioned this to my parents and they don't take it seriously, so I didn't insist too much because I really am afraid that I might cause problems inside the family.

And I actually don't think he's a bad guy, it's normal to feel attracted to other people other than your partner sometimes, and my aunt and I look kind of similar in appearance. But what's wrong is that you shouldn't act on it, you shouldn't do this kind of behavior.

As I mentioned in a previous post, I (Gen Z) was a parentified kid. My parents (millennials) didn't actually raise my younger brother... They didn't even parent him.

My brother is 12 now and I've always noticed that he lacks a lot of basic skills, like making his own breakfast, using a microwave or even closing a window. I used to think it was because he has ADHD that he doesn't know how to do basic stuff and I was made to do everything for him as a kid.

But after him having friends over and seeing their behavior... It's not just my brother, these kids are genuinely slow sometimes.

The conclusion I ended up with was that being raised by phones, tablets and computers instead of parents drove these kids away from the real world. So now they look like versions of Mr Bean, or like aliens that have never been on Earth (yes genuinely like that, it's not even an exaggeration these 11-12 year olds struggled to pour themselves a glass of water)

Now I've seen some millennials trying to pretend this is just the general trend of older generations hating on the younger ones... But it's not just that, when I was my brother's age I was able to take care of a toddler, an animal and the house chores, these kids can't even fix themselves a basic snack without making a mess.

It's so sad that their parents have destroyed their social and basic skills like that.

It's the same kind of man who hates Twilight, Taylor Swift, BTS. They hate anything that women like and make it their personality even though no one ever asked for their opinion.

They're also the kind to be grown men into super heroes, we don't gaf about your supetheros even if it's ridiculous, let me enjoy Twilight alone damnit

From when I was 10-11 to when I turned 19 I was made to take care of my neuro-divergent brother (ADHD and autistic traits).

When I say take care it's not just making a few meals... I mean being made to bathe him until he was 10 and wipe is ass after he went to the toilet and feed him because my parents didn't want to let him eat by himself because he'd take too long...

I wouldn't mind doing it when he was little because it's understandable that a baby/toddler needs those things done, but when he was a prepubescent child and on top of having to do everything for him I had to deal with his constant ADHD (he likes to make you angry for fun) and also having to do the normal house chores (keeping the house clean, it's not a small house), and also on top of that I had to deal with my own adolescence, highschool drama and the stupid people in class. So as a result I started to do the same things my mom did to me when I was a kid.

My mom used to hit me very badly as a kid despite the fact that I was actually very well behaved. They hit me when I committed mistakes like spilling a glass of water. So when my brother was being annoying or committed mistakes I hit him and insult him like my mom did.

He always laughed when I did it, so it didn't make me feel regret afterwards.

Now as an adult (21) living away from my family I feel so terrible about how my brother got raised... My parents didn't give him any attention, then the person parenting him is his abusive sister that is always angry and hits him and insults him.

I really regret the way I handled it, someone else would have probably handled it better, but now the harm is done. My brother seems fine but I fear in the future he won't be and it's all our fault because the people around him failed him.

This has happened too many times to be a coincidence and it's always men from Taimi that already know I'm trans, it's never the men from Hinge whom I date stealth.

They invite you over everything seems nice until you tell them you don't want sex. I'm asexual, and this leads to some agressive reaction from him always followed by "you're too young and immature you can't be asexual" with tarnsphobic remarks. ALWAYS the same sentences.

This last time this guy yelled at me saying "You think I'm stupid? You're asexual but post pictures of your fat ass in your profile" I'm not joking he literally said that shit 💀

Mind you they're not pictures of my butt, I'm fully clothed, this is an example:

It's funny how I never get these reactions from men that I'm having a date with while stealth, not even when I tell them later. They either don't care or just tell me they're not interested in trans people, but the guys who are from Taimi seem to be the most transphobic and deranged.

My only hobby is shopping, even if I can't afford it I prefer to not eat if I can get new shoes, jewelry, clothes... I don't understand how I ended up like this.

As a kid I was the complete opposite... I didn't demand any toys. But I guess my teenage years were too traumatic causing me so much self-consciousness about myself.

Now I have a very high maintenance appearance, clothes, jewelry and stilettos make me feel better about that void. The compliments I receive on the street feed this fake ego I'm building.

I've become so selfish I think I care more about getting what I want more than I care about people. People are disgusting and evil and deserve all the bad that happens to them, but a nice dress? There's nothing wrong it could do.

The only reason I have friends is so that they praise my appearance. There's no point in looking good if no one notices it.

They'll be pretending that they're so interested in knowing you but once you tell them their mask falls off.

I hate that most guys are hypersexual, chill, be a normal person and not a wild animal for some time.

I spent years under a strong depression when I was in High School, I didn't take care of my appearance and that made people think I was a lesbian for some reason.

Now I'm in uni and living my best life.

I feel confident again and I get compliments on the street everyday.

I'm still very prone to depression but it isn't as strong as before, at least enough so I can take care of myself.

There was a period where I took care of my physical appearance but not my health which really affected me specially because it made people think I was fine at that point. But they were very serious issues.

I'm healthy and happy like when I was 13 and I can only regret that I allowed bullying to take that away from me.

All my life I've been led to believe that unattractive men will treat you better or are more genuine. Mainly movies like The Hunchback of Notre-Dame and many others where they depict a pretty girl with an unattractive male partner/protagonist where she falls in love with him because of the way he treats her.

Who would have said life is not like in movies? But for some reason we will still have this stereotype in mind.

The truth is I've been treated worse by guys who were unattractive in comparison to guys who are attractive. Specially when they make you feel bad about yourself which never happened to me with an attractive guy. They never made me feel unattractive or lesser than them.

Nerdy guys have been the worst in my experience, no flowers, no gentleman behavior or trying to be interested in your interests. Many awkward silences and only interacting with you for sex.

This is just a tendency, not a rule. Just never believe that someone's appearance is related to their personality (even if it's in a positive way).

I'm in northern Spain and have to take a train to Madrid to get to a flight. But I arrive to the train station too late at 11:40 so booking is not an option since most places check in are at 12:00 and I'd probably not get in time.

Would it be too dangerous to stay up all night on the street?

So before anything I'm a trans woman (20), I do not claim to be a real woman or try to put women down or mock them. So please I'd like to ask you to abstein from comments about it because I already know what I am.

I've been trying dating apps because they feel safer than just dating people from your daily life when I was a teen (friends and classmates).

I do have a note on my profile that notifies these men about what I am before they can chat with me, some unmatch, others will say bad stuff before leaving, but another big amount stay. Everything goes fine we chat for a long time, we have a few dates, but in the end they all seem to lose interest at some point.

It just makes me so tired of meeting a lot of different men every month. I don't understand what they want.