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I need to work out

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Going three times a week is better (assuming you're weightlifting and increasing the load progressively) but you might also need to lower your body fat. You can be hella ripped but if your body fat is above a certain percentage the muscles won't show through. It takes time and discipline. Though sustaining very low body fat levels is unhealthy, and some super ripped folks are also very dehydrated. It's not something you want to sustain long term.

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Do you think this guy likes me, or is he just being nice?

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Delete Facebook, hit the gym, lawyer up?

But in all seriousness, being generous and effusive with a prospective partner is not an issue in itself. The problem is when it's used to manipulate someone into being "hooked" on you then go on to abuse that person. That's why multiple people here are saying to be wary, we're not saying to write him off outright.

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What's one highly extolled piece of media that you absolutely cannot stand in any way shape or form.

Have a few in mind:

Catcher in the Rye. Holden is insufferable and I found it baffling that adults expected me to relate to him as a teen.

Grease aged very poorly and I do not understand the hype (is it because John Travolta is wearing tight pants?)

Family guy. The ship that launched a thousand cringe as fuck "adult animation" shows. Yes, I'm salty as hell about it.

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What are your thoughts on this meme? ***WOMEN ONLY COMMUNITY MEN PLEASE DO NOT COMMENT***

Lesbian here, so maybe not the target audience for this. However this kind of meme and discourse makes me somewhat uncomfortable. Like, really? Pedro Pascal is -the only nice guy- in the world, every other guy is trash? Too often I hear women speak about men as if they're inherently bad people, rather than victims of the patriarchy just like them. It reeks of "that's just the way men are" and "boys will be boys", except now it's being used to shame and admonish. Shame isn't going to change mindsets, it's only going to make people defensive. It's not as if men are genetically assholes, but these kinds of memes sure make it sound like they are.

It bothers me because I have a son who will grow up to become a man (at least that's how it's looking right now). I worry about what he internalises when he hears that people expect he'll grow up to be a sexist asshole, just because he was born a boy. I have to defend against that just like I defend my daughter when sexism is directed at her, because frankly that's exactly what it is. If I were told from a young age that the default expectation is I'll grow up to be trash just because I have a penis, why bother to do better? I'd probably also listen to the Tates and Petersons who make me feel good about myself instead.

I understand why women are angry and frustrated, they have every right to be. I've also been on the receiving end of sexist and frankly traumatic shit because I was born a girl. I just don't feel like it'll get any better by creating more division, more "us vs them".

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Democrats Will Win Again Once the Economy Tanks

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Ding ding ding! This is the right answer folks. US citizens will be lucky to get fair elections (if at all) for the foreseeable future. There is no counterweight to what lies ahead, the doors to hell have been opened and no one is coming to save you. If you are in the US, you have the following choices: leave, survive (read: assimilate or hide), or fight.

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This internet poll is breaking men's brains! - What we get when male fitness standards clash with female preferences.

Disclaimer: I'm a lesbian so I don't have a dog in this fight, but I'm not surprised women vote more for the photo on the left. He just seems friendlier and more approachable, someone you would have fun hanging out with, so I guess that anecdotally gives credence to what the author is saying. The photo on the right looks like someone who's a bit too intense, and I say this as someone who is also trying to get somewhat ripped. It's funny because when I'm at the gym almost a lot of times I assume the super ripped dudes working out there are bi or gay, and more often than not I'm right. I know it's judging a book by its cover, but clearly that aesthetic appeals to other guys (who are also into guys).

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I refuse to get a phone without a headphone jack. Mostly because I know I'm inevitably going to lose my headphones, forget to charge them, forget them in my trouser pockets that will go in the wash. The latter has happened at least a couple of times with my current headphones and they still work just fine. Try that with your Bluetooth pair and let me know how it goes.

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Tourist attraction

There used to be google reviews for the Pacific Ocean that were pretty amusing, but Google took them down. Same for other oceans. Seems they left one review on the Atlantic and Indian Oceans but there used to be way more than that. Can't be having too much fun now can we?