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Lemmy is a worse platform for women than Reddit was

To be a woman online means to feel unwelcome. Leaving a new community is pretty much inevitable unless you are willing to swim in toxicity.

I've lost count of how many 'welcoming' communities for game/hobby/interest that I have left because of the inevitable creep of (male) toxicity and harassment.

And it sucks to watch so many people not speak up, and to be targeted for further harassment simply because I said rape jokes weren't funny. (Or tying and drugging up a woman so T could have a girlfriend, if the group I play online games with are stalking my account read this. You guys are part of the problem.)

I just want liked minded people to share my interests and play games with.

I, and other women shouldn't have to navigate or ignore toxicity to simply exist in public spaces.

[Downvotes prove my statement. I'm not welcome or wanted, I get it. See you after my funeral.]

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Video gamers worldwide may be risking irreversible hearing loss and/or tinnitus

I've had tinnitus for decades, and it SUCKS. I've always been careful for my hearing, but after a concussion it arrived and never went away.

I play games with most sounds off. I can't use headphones, wearing them gives me a migraine no matter the volume.

I've had hearing tests, seen a specialist. I have no hearing loss, but I do have misaphonia and tinnitus. The combination is pure hell, there is no respite.

I can't distinguish voices in chats well enough to follow what's being said if more than one person is talking. It's even worse online when I can't lip read to decode what's being said.

Project your earholes.

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How was your valentines day weekend?

Dud. After years of having to remind, plan and remind the other half again and again, I gave up and said nothing last year. Nothing happened. Nothing happened again this year. Next up - Mother's Day, which I expect to be equally nothing, just like last year.

I can't wait for the complaints that I planned nothing for birthdays or Father's Day.

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Has google stopped working for finding anything?

I have noticed this. I have a few searches that I do regularly, and over time I've watched the results get less and less relevant for the same keywords.

One of the more recent searches was for a set of data I had been building. I had the keywords from my notes, and when I went to search for it again, using the same keywords that found it the previous times, it was no longer a result. I knew the dates of one event in particular, so I narrowed to that, and still google served me results for ten years before the specified date range. A bit more fine tuning, and Google continued to serve the same results, all not even remotely close to what I was after, and results that were found even as recently as last week are not longer there.

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Mark Zuckerberg says anyone who quits Meta is 'virtue signaling'

It's not virtue signalling if you truly mean it.

Our feeds should be our own.

I quit Crackbook a decade ago over the algorithm forcing shit at me I had no interest in.

That's when I learned what a dark pattern was. I started seeing it pop up nearly everywhere that used algorithms.

Did the same with Twatter a few years ago. Again, I was over being forced to see shit I had zero interest in. This time I removed my footprint, leaving a handful of posts.

No one noticed either time I'd left. (No one ever does. That's a whole other rant about the state of anti social media.)

Never used Threads. Won't even click on the ones that are shoved at me through Insta.

Kept Insta for patterns and recipes, and over time I've stopped engaging on the platform. It's just as bad as the others for the algorithm and ads. Staying is on me, I know. Sunk cost fallacy or whatever. I didn't want to lose my collection of patterns that exist no where else.

I started the process of removing what little remains of my presence on IG. Discovered I'm not allowed to remove likes 'to protect the community'. Deleting my own content bugs out often. Removing saved bookmarks bugs out often. No way to keep the videos I refer to often to make things.

Damned straight I mean it when I say I will cease using Meta products. I am tired of being told how to use something, or how I should think and what I should believe.

Zuck can fuck all the way off.

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Introducing Steam Families

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We've been using it since it came available to test, and is such a lovely change from before. The check out system is so much cleaner than the old locked out of account while someone in the family is playing.