A lot of good advice in this thread for some very thoughtful people. OP I want you to practice setting some boundaries with this guy even if you like him and continue seeing him.

Tell him no about things sometimes. Like “no, I can buy that myself”. Make sure he respects your wishes about minor things and has even, level-headed emotionally mature reactions to your boundaries.

I swear I wear a different style ever day. Monday could be scrubs+sponge bob t-shirt, Tuesday embroidered jeans and a blouse, Wednesday khakis and a cardigan, etc. My only constant is full coverage and sneakers with everything.

10k doesn’t feel like enough

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I like that they talked about the difference in how it feels as well. Solo stuff is maintenance and it can get the job done effectively and reliably. It is obviously not as gratifying. I guess this should be obvious but…who wouldn’t want reliable orgasms with a caring partner? Anyway, it’s good to have the data on the books.

Yeah true, but I guess this article is about sexually active individuals.

Mine died while we were talking on the phone. He had been rushed to the hospital (hiding how bad his cancer was), went into cardiac arrest, got revived, called me and said hello and asked how I was. I asked how he was and he said okay, normal voice. That was it.

Can it do tops too?

It was. Thank you.

True stuff. I can’t deny that he came back from the dead and I was the person he called, lol. So that’s a privilege no one else got.

I expect my children to stay with me forever. Then they can have the house.

Got me through my fieldwork after grad school.

It’s punching up.

Mom here.

Plan B: Yes …and…!

Go to the health dept/gyno and get tested. If you haven’t had an HPV vaccine you’ve also been exposed (and exposing others). HPV can cause cancer, which develops slowly with no symptoms. Make sure you get routine paps. Get on birth control, ASAP.

And yes I’d say you have things to process, being as you’re doing this knowing it will feel bad and scary later. Therapy is expensive and all, but I’d look into why you might do things to yourself that are clearly self-sabotaging.

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Just being comfortable and peaceful when nothing is evidently wrong. People taking things for granted bothers me because I can’t. Permanent fight or flight.

I was this kid. Our household was a little free range (lots of booze and rolled up dollar bills, not a lot of food and often no electricity). I had lice a few times, and we also had some food insecurity, but I honestly have almost no memory of it. So I stole food and I was stinky. Being ostracized, I made up friends to talk to as a coping mechanism. I guess those were my crimes.

She had a post a while back about potentially being in a relationship that’s more serious. Perhaps that?

These kind of posts were pretty common post 9/11 as well. People who don’t actually care about women suddenly super concerned about this issue. But ask them about the issues closest to them and they are definitely not supportive of feminism.

I like talking to real people. To me that’s a benefit.

Reddit also feels like it’s gotten less friendly to me as a woman. That’s just been my personal feeling.

Kindergarteners say some interesting things. The amount of times I had to “yup, okay, anyways this neat (redirection)” were daily. But you work with them long enough and you know their family secrets without asking for sure.