Sit on the porch with you, have a drink and talk, go for a walk, sleep, whatever.
Why not just ask? Or:
I'm gonna watch Hot Fuzz, do you want to?
OMG you are so hot I want you right now.
Not that it's someone's responsibility to know how to ask things, but I think it does help to you know, know your partner. Someone asking "sexy time?" wouldn't make me want sex, and I might want to watch a movie if I know which one.
Even better - "I'm gonna play Genshin, unless you wanna watch a movie, is there anything you want to watch? "
Like, there are probably a thousand better ways to approach this. Maybe it's in the delivery not the suggestions.
I have had this exact meme happens to me just yesterday.
Sexy time no, movie no. She went to bed and i turned on pc and she was looking at me exactly like this.
In her defense, she was looking at me like that because I wouldn't have good sleep if I play more than 30-40 mins, and she would be worried I wouldn't log off in time and won't be able to sleep herself till I log off.
played videogames for years without a problem, had a PS4 for a year and I swear that little beep gets mapped as a pavlovian reaction for being pissed the fuck off. Started more fights than being hungry.
Yeah, I had an Xbox for one game (Midtown Madness 3), and played through the trial for live, but never subscribed. I'm not sure if I paid for a month of psn+ during the gta5 launch, but if I did that would have been the only time I've put money to play multi-player. Didn't take the bait for Games for Windows Live garbage either. It would take until the pc release of Halo 3/ODST/Reach/4 for me to play them, even though I badly wanted to play in their prime. Principles and all that. And I was pissed that MS shelved their windows gaming division to milk the Xbox.
Have... Have y'all considered not marrying partners that you don't share interests with? Like, I know I'm an edge case in that I'm 35, gay, and have never had a live in partner, but it's really not that scary being single until you find someone you actually enjoy being with. Either it'll happen or it won't, but I'd rather be single and able to enjoy my hobbies and passions than be with someone who shares none of them.
My SO and I don't share interests that much, but we share values and are similar/compatible in so much regards. When we start talking it is hard to stop. We have been living together for 20 years.
I don't think having shared interests is as necessary as you seem to suggest.
This is the way, I game with my wife nearly everyday.
Sometimes when we come back from an obligation (visit parents, friends, shopping etc) we stay up later than we should and get a couple rounds of ARAM or whatever crafter builder we’re playing before we sleep because the day feels wasted if we didn’t get a bit of playtime together.
I’ve dated people who weren’t gamers and it is so pointlessly painful to regret doing one of the things that brings you the most joy in life.
I mean, unless you wanna be unhygienic about it, the amount of preparation involved and gadgets/accessories available to make it easier certainly lands it in hobbyist friendly territory
Eh just playing video games isn’t much of a hobby. Most gamers veg like tv watches. I wouldn’t say sitting in front of the tv all day is a hobby. Really low bar for hobbies if so.
Oh no. I lost what i thought was my main hobby. /s
I think gaming is way more engaging than just watching something where you don't do a thing but watch. There are many games where you actually have to use your brain, maybe make different choices or immerse yourself in a character. Whatever you are into.
Of course there is brain-dead stuff too which can be awesome as well at times.
Sometimes you just don't discover everything out about that person even years after being with them. This is especially true when you meet at younger ages. Also everyone changes the older you get. The person you marry can absolutely change over a decade as everything becomes a never ending routine and you each find things you can no longer tolerate as much as you used to when you dated and tried harder (for some reason) to be like the other person. Knowing this now I wish it was mandatory for everyone to wait 5 years before getting engaged and 2 of those years has to be living together. Even then you never know who they will be 10 years from now. The worst part about getting older is wishing you knew all of what you know now but 20-30 years ago so you could have actually applied it when it mattered.
That's exactly what it is. Unfortunately, a TON of people are in boats like this everywhere. Encourage them to seek help, is what I think would be the best course of action for literally everybody in the entire world.
Can you turn off the stupid BEEP BEEP BEEP so that it doesn't yell at you for unplugging it when the actual problem is that it just wasn't in the mood to run anymore?
yeah but then he cant whine about like people requiring sleep at night like it is some sort of insult and pretend hes a victim to her rudeness for not slogging his dong.
we cant be having respect and consideration in these adult relationships!
I can see how it would be very annoying to genuienly be trying to sleep, and someone is playing video games in the very same room.
Maybe move the console to the living room, use a headset?
If he's got too much energy to sleep, and she wants sleep now... this seems mutually agreeable?
Maybe I'm an odd duck, but what's always made sense to me, as a very light sleeper, is that a couple would each have their own beds, where they could sleep in the same bed when feeling more cuddly, or seperately when truly exhausted.
I suspect that if we ever do start building housing in a way that makes any actual attempt at being affordable, it'll be floors of studios with small bathrooms, maybe mininfridges, but communal kitches and washing machines on each floor.
Basically, college dorms, for everyone, forever, lol.
I respect that you're the only person to actually dig deeper into my remark. I think it's both and neither of those at the same time.
Love and appreciation cannot coexist with squalor, misery and poverty that is present in today's common marital home. A wife (or husband) would be more receptive if we all didn't had to work vast amounts of overtime to live in our tiny houses.
I broadly agree with that, but phrasing it as you originally did... leaves open the potential of many interpretations, and is thus... well in this context, inherently inflammatory.
Such as the interpretation of basically 'all women want only money or expensive things/experiences'.
I would say that love can exist amidst squalor, but certainly the poverty makes it much, much more rare and difficult achieve or maintain.
I'm not going to tell you gold diggers do not exist, or that many women are not broadly financially illiterate, irresponsible, or that many women are not vain.
But many of them are none of those things, many men are.
Qualified statements are probably a better plan with uh, high conflict topics.
depression can very much make you become bored by things you used to like, its called anhedonia and it doesnt always go away even after some pretty intensive treatments, or even if the depression itself is managed.
I've separated them purposefully because I think there's an important semantic distinction. The boredom you describe is driven by disinterest due to neurochemical dysfunction.
That's distinct from boredom as a state of mind which assumes or asserts that curiosity, entertainment, etc, are presented and consumed. There is not necessarily a chemical imbalance imposing this state on the mind.
If you like, you could reword the sentiment as; only boring people are bored (and those with depression are not necessarily boring).
I've considered that phrasing previously but found it diminishes the concept.
My wife hates that she "always has to pick the restaurant," when we go out. I cant make her realize she shot down my first 3 suggestions before asking what she wanted. Yes you pick because everything i suggest you dont want tonight and ill eat everything.
I listened to the "I don't care just get whatever" response once. So, I did. It uh, didn't well as I knew it wouldn't. I wasn't being a dick about it either, just got what I know she'd want from a restaurant we frequent... She wasn't happy about it because I didn't read her mind and know that she didn't want that kind of food at that moment... Sometimes there's no winning.
She can't figure out what she wants and wants you to solve it, exactly. She has to pick because she wants to want the answers you give but she doesn't. What's it like for you to have to go through this repeatedly, does she know or care?
Ive gotten over itnas best i can. The worst is when i cook something, and she decides thats not what she wants, so she cooks something else for herself.
But she also gets upset that she does most of the cooking. Like yeah no shit. I dont need praise from you for everything i do, but less negative reinforcement would go a long way.
Therapy is helping though. I can hear it in the way she talks to our kids about life and how to treat others. So the realization is coming through
Sounds like the world isn't meeting her needs and she's bitter she has to meet her own. Sounds rough man, I feel for ya. So many men deal with wives and girlfriends like this.
Relative to what? Why does men sharing difficulties mean those are the only ones? You sound like a wife trying to gaslight her husband about how good he actually has it while she abuses him...
More patient than me. I just got the divorce and now my ex and I are both happier.
Man I remember telling her one day when she came downstairs and I was feeding our newly diabetic son pancakes with syrup for breakfast and hearing "what are you doing? His blood sugar will go high?". I stopped told her we would give him more insulin and then gave up and told here it was why I asked for a divorce. At no point was there a good morning. It was right into what I was doing and how it was wrong. God forbid we parent different.
Long story short I've put a lot of work in with the kids and they have every other week with me and I am doing my best to correct the issues created from our 10 years of marriage. Is she aware? I don't think so. Even when she has the kids they still come to my house and I still have them for sleepovers. They don't do the same with her.
No shit they don’t do the same with her. You give them freedoms she doesn’t and she has to be the parent. Any kid will go to the less responsible parent for being more “fun”.
The example you gave, we will presume it’s the worst of your complaints, And it’s such a non complaint it seems ridiculous you’d use it as an example. You gave your diabetic child pure sugar and you’re blaming your ex for giving a shit about that?! You can’t be real. You can’t seriously think doing shit like that then expecting a constant smiling happy wife to come thank you for doing it! Go get yourself a trad wife who doesn’t work if you want to weirdly abuse your kids or grow the fuck up before you trick another woman into dealing with a man baby.
That's what "nope" means? I thought it just meant "nope."
I figure something like "No I just want to cuddle with you and have a nice chat" would be a more descriptive way to say "nope," maybe we should look into that.
If "she wants to talk to me" then she should use more than one word.
Neurotypicals communicate the "i just want to cuddle" bit through body language and tone. Of course, being neurodivergent, we dont see that. Then they get mad because they cant read our minds, thought they were being clear (because it was to people like them) and assume we're blowing them off
That's not being neurotypical. That's just having poor communication skills.
Based on the actual women in my life, "blame partner for own communication failures" is the divergence rather than the norm. Regardless of what shallow media portrays.
That's not being neurotypical. That's just having poor communication skills.
I won't even bother replying to him, that's what I'd have said, thank you.
Based on the actual women in my life, "blame partner for own communication failures" is the divergence rather than the norm.
YMMV. In mine it's about a 50/50 split, probably edging on the "blame others" side. I do also know guys that expect you to read their minds too though, mostly middle managers, and plenty men and women who can't take responsibility for any of their faults/actions (which is in essence the same issue, just broadened), it's not really a gendered issue, it seems like there's a general accountability problem these days.
ok so shes trying to sleep probably from a hard day work and here youre running all over the house turning on all the things and crawling up walls? what are you a cat?
the fuck is with lemmy quality lately? sounds like a bunch of abusers airing out their dirty laundry in an AA meeting.
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Is this terriblefacebookmemes. We get it boomer you hate yer wife haha
The amount of people taking this meme seriously is mind boggling. Literal Reddit behavior.
Oh no you didn’t phrase your meme in the exact format my therapist told me to communicate, you are the asshole and deserve to be divorced.
Boomer ass meme.
Sexy time? No thanks
Movie? No thanks
What do you want to do?
Sit on the porch with you, have a drink and talk, go for a walk, sleep, whatever.
Why not just ask? Or:
I'm gonna watch Hot Fuzz, do you want to?
OMG you are so hot I want you right now.
Not that it's someone's responsibility to know how to ask things, but I think it does help to you know, know your partner. Someone asking "sexy time?" wouldn't make me want sex, and I might want to watch a movie if I know which one.
Even better - "I'm gonna play Genshin, unless you wanna watch a movie, is there anything you want to watch? "
Like, there are probably a thousand better ways to approach this. Maybe it's in the delivery not the suggestions.
(Racks shotgun) "You're off the fkin CHAIN!"
I have had this exact meme happens to me just yesterday.
Sexy time no, movie no. She went to bed and i turned on pc and she was looking at me exactly like this.
In her defense, she was looking at me like that because I wouldn't have good sleep if I play more than 30-40 mins, and she would be worried I wouldn't log off in time and won't be able to sleep herself till I log off.
I wish donald duck was my wife so bad
Feathers so soft...
wife bad
plot twist wife is pc master race
That's a frown that says: "Fucking console peasant, go cry about getting no physical media".
Brother you can’t start with sex and expect to get good results, she’s not your right hand.
played videogames for years without a problem, had a PS4 for a year and I swear that little beep gets mapped as a pavlovian reaction for being pissed the fuck off. Started more fights than being hungry.
that beep is a horrible sound too, sounds like a microwave. like they couldnt program something better than a basic beep?
I've heard the exact same beep from AC units.
Can you turn that off on a PS4? I know you can on a PS5
The straights are not okay
How do you know they're straight
We can tell
Everyone knows only straights can use DD memes. /J
Given the contents of the meme, even if they're both women or enby, they're somehow still straight.
Agreed
She's judging the husband for using a Sony product now that they've enshittified.
I've been annoyed since multi-player became a paid service since the ps3, but it's nice to finally have some validation. Only took 20 years but...
E: and we can't forget the rootkit fiasco either
You had to pay to play online on Xbox a decade before that. It was free on PlayStation. When they changed it I just stopped playing online.
Yeah, I had an Xbox for one game (Midtown Madness 3), and played through the trial for live, but never subscribed. I'm not sure if I paid for a month of psn+ during the gta5 launch, but if I did that would have been the only time I've put money to play multi-player. Didn't take the bait for Games for Windows Live garbage either. It would take until the pc release of Halo 3/ODST/Reach/4 for me to play them, even though I badly wanted to play in their prime. Principles and all that. And I was pissed that MS shelved their windows gaming division to milk the Xbox.
stares lovingly at my PC
Same!
And yeah, getting 2 free games for compromising all user data, months before they launch PSN plus with rotating free games... Felt odd...
There were 2 games compromising user data on the ps3? Which ones were those?
They enshittified long before the PS5 came out. I think it's been about two decades since the music CD rootkit scandal, for instance.
Bit late to the party. They got caught infecting their customers' machines with rootkits back in 2005.
I still cannot believe that no one went to jail over that.
I mean I can, corporations are only people when it results in a positive outcome for them, but still. A fucking rootkit.
Very boomer/wife bad/facebook meme. Surprised to see it here.
There are some pretty serious boomers on this site lol, just fewer than elsewhere.
She wants to cuddle and have a normal human conversation.
So communicate that?
You are supposed to read her mind like an esper like in the drama series.
I think that's a pretty good baseline assumption for all situations? And if either of you need alone time then that can be communicated.
Cuddling sucks when you're horny.
For me it's the opposite. Best cuddling ever
No, post sex when you're not all pent up is the best cuddling ever. Doing it when you're unsatisfied is just frustrating.
Well we can do that while im saving the world from aliens.
Have... Have y'all considered not marrying partners that you don't share interests with? Like, I know I'm an edge case in that I'm 35, gay, and have never had a live in partner, but it's really not that scary being single until you find someone you actually enjoy being with. Either it'll happen or it won't, but I'd rather be single and able to enjoy my hobbies and passions than be with someone who shares none of them.
My SO and I don't share interests that much, but we share values and are similar/compatible in so much regards. When we start talking it is hard to stop. We have been living together for 20 years.
I don't think having shared interests is as necessary as you seem to suggest.
This is the way, I game with my wife nearly everyday.
Sometimes when we come back from an obligation (visit parents, friends, shopping etc) we stay up later than we should and get a couple rounds of ARAM or whatever crafter builder we’re playing before we sleep because the day feels wasted if we didn’t get a bit of playtime together.
I’ve dated people who weren’t gamers and it is so pointlessly painful to regret doing one of the things that brings you the most joy in life.
I used to love playing video games and now it feels like a Soul sucking waste of life to play anything. So sometimes people change.
You don't have to share every hobby. You just need to not shame each other for enjoying different things.
Soooo, is buttsex a hobby?
It's a career
No it's a calling
If you make it one
I think it takes more dedication than most possess to call it a hobby but I have no doubt that there are some who could rightly call it that
I mean, unless you wanna be unhygienic about it, the amount of preparation involved and gadgets/accessories available to make it easier certainly lands it in hobbyist friendly territory
Eh just playing video games isn’t much of a hobby. Most gamers veg like tv watches. I wouldn’t say sitting in front of the tv all day is a hobby. Really low bar for hobbies if so.
Oh no. I lost what i thought was my main hobby. /s
I think gaming is way more engaging than just watching something where you don't do a thing but watch. There are many games where you actually have to use your brain, maybe make different choices or immerse yourself in a character. Whatever you are into. Of course there is brain-dead stuff too which can be awesome as well at times.
Bro what the fuck. I'm gonna need to see some sources for a claim like that.
Sometimes you just don't discover everything out about that person even years after being with them. This is especially true when you meet at younger ages. Also everyone changes the older you get. The person you marry can absolutely change over a decade as everything becomes a never ending routine and you each find things you can no longer tolerate as much as you used to when you dated and tried harder (for some reason) to be like the other person. Knowing this now I wish it was mandatory for everyone to wait 5 years before getting engaged and 2 of those years has to be living together. Even then you never know who they will be 10 years from now. The worst part about getting older is wishing you knew all of what you know now but 20-30 years ago so you could have actually applied it when it mattered.
how do we know the person who posted is not just being extra about reasonable boundaries?
You can turn the beep off
she would still the the tv screen going live from the bedroom
Wife bad huh huh huh funny
To me this reads as "look how dysfunctional we are! I don't know how to communicate! Lol!"
That's exactly what it is. Unfortunately, a TON of people are in boats like this everywhere. Encourage them to seek help, is what I think would be the best course of action for literally everybody in the entire world.
Exactly. It shouldn't be "haha I relate!". It should be "oh no... I relate" and then spawn action.
i heard "WAAAA BOUNDARIES!"
Are the straights ok?
why not get a husband? similar interests right?
One of my best relationships was with a woman who enjoyed sex, movies, and videogames as much as I did. They're out there.
points to self yes, we are. we're just kinda busy romancing Halsin in BG3 for the 47th time.
BG3 has decent enough multiplayer NO EXCUSES! :-3
listen we can't both fuck Halsi-
oh! wait! he's poly! we absolutely can 🥰
It's always the bear.
🐻😉
So, uhhh, what happened to that relationship?
We had different long term goals and parted ways mutually.
(turns out she didn't appreciate the destruction of cutlery and went off to set up a hospital for damaged forks)
I forgot my username for a second and had a pretty good laugh once I put 2 and 2 together hahahahhahaa
Fuck it. Get two. Every night is boys night!
Boys night, and you can take turns being spit roasted.
That's pure communism.
Exactly what Marx would have wanted o7
👍
Protip: You can turn that beep off so your wife won't get pissed.
Can you turn off the stupid BEEP BEEP BEEP so that it doesn't yell at you for unplugging it when the actual problem is that it just wasn't in the mood to run anymore?
Protip: you can set that beep as your phone's notification sound.
You can learn to make that beep with your mouth and then beep when you sneeze or are in pain
What's the fun in that?
Video games.
yeah but then he cant whine about like people requiring sleep at night like it is some sort of insult and pretend hes a victim to her rudeness for not slogging his dong.
we cant be having respect and consideration in these adult relationships!
Seems like she's trying to sleep?
I can see how it would be very annoying to genuienly be trying to sleep, and someone is playing video games in the very same room.
Maybe move the console to the living room, use a headset?
If he's got too much energy to sleep, and she wants sleep now... this seems mutually agreeable?
Maybe I'm an odd duck, but what's always made sense to me, as a very light sleeper, is that a couple would each have their own beds, where they could sleep in the same bed when feeling more cuddly, or seperately when truly exhausted.
Multiple rooms? In this economy?
Fair point, lol.
I suspect that if we ever do start building housing in a way that makes any actual attempt at being affordable, it'll be floors of studios with small bathrooms, maybe mininfridges, but communal kitches and washing machines on each floor.
Basically, college dorms, for everyone, forever, lol.
... beats being homeless!
Yeah, are these the same people complaining about how they have trouble falling asleep?
When I was in a good poly relationship we had 2 beds between 3 people, and sometimes I'd want to have one all to myself - I slept sooo well
So yes, sometimes being able to have your own bed is just what's needed!
Sleep is for the weak. Now be my medic and cover me.
NOW, DOKTOR!
Should have asked what she wanted to do instead
“Whatever you want to do.”
“I have a headache.”
“I’m fine!”
Try having more money and those excuses vanish
Just buy another wife?
Wtf
So you're saying that ... a woman's partner having more money ... makes them... decisive?
Like, inherently?
... or because women only want to do things that cost a significant amount of money, and give noncommital answers when such money is not present?
I am genuienly trying to follow the logic here.
I respect that you're the only person to actually dig deeper into my remark. I think it's both and neither of those at the same time.
Love and appreciation cannot coexist with squalor, misery and poverty that is present in today's common marital home. A wife (or husband) would be more receptive if we all didn't had to work vast amounts of overtime to live in our tiny houses.
I broadly agree with that, but phrasing it as you originally did... leaves open the potential of many interpretations, and is thus... well in this context, inherently inflammatory.
Such as the interpretation of basically 'all women want only money or expensive things/experiences'.
I would say that love can exist amidst squalor, but certainly the poverty makes it much, much more rare and difficult achieve or maintain.
I'm not going to tell you gold diggers do not exist, or that many women are not broadly financially illiterate, irresponsible, or that many women are not vain.
But many of them are none of those things, many men are.
Qualified statements are probably a better plan with uh, high conflict topics.
It has nothing to do with money. This is something people will struggle with sans agriculture and in a perfect gift economy utopia.
Only boring people are bored (and depression is not boredom).
depression can very much make you become bored by things you used to like, its called anhedonia and it doesnt always go away even after some pretty intensive treatments, or even if the depression itself is managed.
I've separated them purposefully because I think there's an important semantic distinction. The boredom you describe is driven by disinterest due to neurochemical dysfunction.
That's distinct from boredom as a state of mind which assumes or asserts that curiosity, entertainment, etc, are presented and consumed. There is not necessarily a chemical imbalance imposing this state on the mind.
If you like, you could reword the sentiment as; only boring people are bored (and those with depression are not necessarily boring).
I've considered that phrasing previously but found it diminishes the concept.
The lack of want is horrible to live with.
Yeah, that's totally how it works.
It is in a healthy relationship.
No. In a healthy relationship you understand when the other one needs their me time and support them with it. That includes video games.
That another way that healthy relationships can work, yes. But yours is not the only way.
She wants you to know what she wants so she doesn't have to do the work figuring it out, because she wants to be a child again.
My wife hates that she "always has to pick the restaurant," when we go out. I cant make her realize she shot down my first 3 suggestions before asking what she wanted. Yes you pick because everything i suggest you dont want tonight and ill eat everything.
I listened to the "I don't care just get whatever" response once. So, I did. It uh, didn't well as I knew it wouldn't. I wasn't being a dick about it either, just got what I know she'd want from a restaurant we frequent... She wasn't happy about it because I didn't read her mind and know that she didn't want that kind of food at that moment... Sometimes there's no winning.
She can't figure out what she wants and wants you to solve it, exactly. She has to pick because she wants to want the answers you give but she doesn't. What's it like for you to have to go through this repeatedly, does she know or care?
Ive gotten over itnas best i can. The worst is when i cook something, and she decides thats not what she wants, so she cooks something else for herself.
But she also gets upset that she does most of the cooking. Like yeah no shit. I dont need praise from you for everything i do, but less negative reinforcement would go a long way.
Therapy is helping though. I can hear it in the way she talks to our kids about life and how to treat others. So the realization is coming through
Sounds like the world isn't meeting her needs and she's bitter she has to meet her own. Sounds rough man, I feel for ya. So many men deal with wives and girlfriends like this.
Yall live with a high level of privilege and entitlement.
If that’s all you have to complain about.
Relative to what? Why does men sharing difficulties mean those are the only ones? You sound like a wife trying to gaslight her husband about how good he actually has it while she abuses him...
Rooting for you too
More patient than me. I just got the divorce and now my ex and I are both happier.
Man I remember telling her one day when she came downstairs and I was feeding our newly diabetic son pancakes with syrup for breakfast and hearing "what are you doing? His blood sugar will go high?". I stopped told her we would give him more insulin and then gave up and told here it was why I asked for a divorce. At no point was there a good morning. It was right into what I was doing and how it was wrong. God forbid we parent different.
Long story short I've put a lot of work in with the kids and they have every other week with me and I am doing my best to correct the issues created from our 10 years of marriage. Is she aware? I don't think so. Even when she has the kids they still come to my house and I still have them for sleepovers. They don't do the same with her.
In a way I feel sad for her.
No shit they don’t do the same with her. You give them freedoms she doesn’t and she has to be the parent. Any kid will go to the less responsible parent for being more “fun”.
The example you gave, we will presume it’s the worst of your complaints, And it’s such a non complaint it seems ridiculous you’d use it as an example. You gave your diabetic child pure sugar and you’re blaming your ex for giving a shit about that?! You can’t be real. You can’t seriously think doing shit like that then expecting a constant smiling happy wife to come thank you for doing it! Go get yourself a trad wife who doesn’t work if you want to weirdly abuse your kids or grow the fuck up before you trick another woman into dealing with a man baby.
Oh sweet Jesus a few things.
Jesus Christ talk about taking a comment from 0 to 100. Do you feel better driving the car off the edge of reason?
Maybe they should have expanded on their 'nah' then
Sleep
Happy wife, happy life.
ok boomer
That's funny, but if this is really you, you have emotional and relationship work to do and need solo and couples' therapy.
She wants to talk to you, you fucking dolt
Then she should tell me that, ironically, because I'm neurodivergent and can't read my own mind sometimes, let alone hers.
If you're able to relate to this joke then you can read her annoyance and figure it out.
Nope.
There's nothing to read into. Nothing to interrupt. She's literally asking to spend time with you.
That's what "nope" means? I thought it just meant "nope."
I figure something like "No I just want to cuddle with you and have a nice chat" would be a more descriptive way to say "nope," maybe we should look into that.
If "she wants to talk to me" then she should use more than one word.
Neurotypicals communicate the "i just want to cuddle" bit through body language and tone. Of course, being neurodivergent, we dont see that. Then they get mad because they cant read our minds, thought they were being clear (because it was to people like them) and assume we're blowing them off
What we have here is a failure to communicate
That's not being neurotypical. That's just having poor communication skills.
Based on the actual women in my life, "blame partner for own communication failures" is the divergence rather than the norm. Regardless of what shallow media portrays.
I won't even bother replying to him, that's what I'd have said, thank you.
YMMV. In mine it's about a 50/50 split, probably edging on the "blame others" side. I do also know guys that expect you to read their minds too though, mostly middle managers, and plenty men and women who can't take responsibility for any of their faults/actions (which is in essence the same issue, just broadened), it's not really a gendered issue, it seems like there's a general accountability problem these days.
ok so shes trying to sleep probably from a hard day work and here youre running all over the house turning on all the things and crawling up walls? what are you a cat?
the fuck is with lemmy quality lately? sounds like a bunch of abusers airing out their dirty laundry in an AA meeting.
playing video games is the worst kind of abuse
you stretched hard for that one bro. watch out you dont pull a muscle.
typical "women are bad" meme format psyops.