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This is true. I wear my socks until they are more hole than sock and I currently have a couple of shirts in the "home clothes" level that I got about 15-18 years ago.

Fuck fast fashion. Be a man. Save the planet.

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This is so spot on I feel like the person that made this meme has been sneaking around my house to spy on me.

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Sylvartasreply
lemmy.dbzer0.com

On that front, yes. But then there's our usual fascination with engines/computers/power tools (you have to pick at least one) so it probably evens out

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But I drive a small sports car with a reasonably sized engine while she drives the v6 supercharged SUV and I'm using those tools to extend the life of things around the house... Got me on the computing front though lol

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lemmy.world

I’m still wearing clothes with holes in them. It’s not fair, if someone buys brand new ripped jeans that’s “fashion,” but if I do it I’m a “slob.”

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Malycareply
lemmy.zip

My husband won't stop wearing band tees with holes in them. He's a tech executive. I keep telling him showing up on zoom like that isn't doing him any favors. Man doesn't care. Can't help but respect his convictions.

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I keep telling him showing up on zoom like that isn't doing him any favors

As a programmer, I'd trust a tech exec with a scruffy beard and/or wearing dilapidated band shirts over some guy with nice clothes and an impeccable shave any day of the week. You're right that it probably doesn't help him with other execs or finance guys though

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If working in a professional career while wearing a band tshirt is wrong, then I don't want to be right.

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I am a chief engineer in a national governement agency where I live. I am pretty specialized with 20 years experience.

Every day in a hoodie is a win.

But there is something in the fact that if you show up in a shirt, suit/ suit trousers and a sweather you show respect for the people you are meeting. Meeting someone and they did not even care enough about the meeting to wear something "decent"

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Why not sew the holes? When washing the laundry I check all clothes, pile them alone and do quick stiching.

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holes are only fashionable if you paids 100s or 1000s for them. not if you created them yourself

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cannedtunareply
lemmy.world

Gotta learn the art of tastefully slobbish. The secret is ::: spoiler Spoiler Money :::

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Be rich.

Your fucked up clothes go much further if you see extra stitching and fabric. The way it drapes.

Cheap plastic clothes look like shit new or fucked up.

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The problem with real ripped jeans, at least with all of mine, is that they usually come apart at the knees and the hole tends to expand downward every time you put them on and your big toe snags into the hole, which makes them impractical and bad looking in the long run, compared to "designed" holes that may also be reinforced so you don't accidentally make them larger when putting the pants on.

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For the same price, men's clothing are often far thicker with better quality fabric.

Next time you see a simple men's t-shirt, look at the equivalent for women. It's more expensive and thinner.

People always say 'vote with your wallet' as if women didn't already have to deal with the ridiculousness of non-standard sizes, bloating, bra compatibility, and constantly being heavily judged for appearances. Taking all of this into account, better fabric and pockets are a premium that can't always be afforded or not even offered.

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What does my head in is the way so many casual clothes like t-shirts are pointlessly gendered. There's way more variance between one individual person and the next, versus the difference between men and womens' bodies as an overall group. There's plenty of top-heavy guys just as there's plenty of justice-chested ladies, so why not just market casual clothes based on what shape they are rather than what gender you should conform to in order to wear it, and let the customer decide whether a given design is too girly or manly for them.

Sports shoes are the worst offenders, because stylistically these days 98% of them look absolutely identical but are split by gender anyway for no fucking reason.

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I'm currently wearing my painting clothes, working on painting the front hallway. The shorts are around 25 years old, and the shirt is about ten years old. The shorts only have a couple of small paint spots on them, and I admit that I wear them for everyday too. In preparation for painting, I used an old t-shirt as a rag.

Apart from underwear and socks, nearly all of my clothes are at least ten years old. My winter parka is about 35 years old and still looks fine, the color is just a bit faded. I have a belt that's over 40 years old, I got it in high school. It's my favorite belt.

I'm old, no one really cares what I wear as long as I'm decent.

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I still have a leather Dickies belt I got at Zumiez about 25 years ago. Only in adulthood did i start paying attention to materials, and I'm still a bit surprised that the cheap skater belt i got as a teen was evidently quality leather.

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I sew my clothes back together when they start to fall apart. Until they are so threadbare that there's not enough structure to hold a hole together. Then they become rags.

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Protip, a pin badge works to cover those holes around the tshirt/shirt pockets. You can also learn to live with the holes below the belly button, especially if there's some crumpling going on down there. This further blurs the line between home and outside clothes and elongates your public enjoyment of holey clothes. For shorts, cotch holes adds some nice airflow, and once all socks are more hole than sock, you just switch to sandals.

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I feel seen

I should probably go put on nicer clothes

Or you could stop looking. Either way's fine

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No no no. My entire outfit cost me $2.50. How will I get such good prices if you all hold onto your clothing?!?

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lemmy.world

Sure, i do wear my clothes for a long time. But i'm still bored by the selection, and i wish skirts & thigh highs were more accepted in society.

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I bet we can find football teams with pink colours, should be possible to get pink football socks

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Or, Dog's New Sheets.

Yes, my das grabs his old shirts and uses them to cover the dog at its bed.

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Only problem we have around here is it gets pretty humid so the older clothes sometimes catch on a weird smell, but if you wear them a couple of times in fresh air it goes away...

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Ahh yeah, the Jerry Seinfeld strategy! Wear your underwear until they're so thin that they barely retain the properties of underwear, then open a window and let them waft out on the breeze like a dandelion.

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And the actual reason for this is that it's impossible to find good clothes as a Murican-shaped man in the first place.
We have to wear them until they fall apart because we don't know whether we will ever find new ones that fit.

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kadotuxreply
sopuli.xyz

I'm a man and I do this. I'm actually eating lunch rn with a shirt with holes in them. I don't mind. And if somebody does mind, I see it kinda as their problem, not mine :)

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As someone married to someone like you, sometimes it's inappropriate, but that is absolutely my problem and not his.

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I have dress shirts that can buy cigarettes, but they don't make them like this anymore. Well stitched, natural fabric is so soft after years of use. The logo is worn off, but the designer turned out to be a racist so that works for me.

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I'm literally wearing one of my favorite old T shirts that has so many holes the neck and shoulder seams are the only things really holding it together and my most destroyed pair of old jeans right now because we're doing some painting and home repairs. And they both used to be "home clothes" until my gf started shaming me for wearing them.

I was lowkey happy to get an excuse to wear them in public on the unavoidable last-minute supply run to the home improvement store.

Edit : I also got pissed at my mom for throwing away another old t-shirt because it was slightly too small, mildly discolored and only had one (admittedly pretty big) hole. It was still a perfectly fine "home t-shirt" ! She didn't even make a rag out of it because they already have more than enough from my dad's old clothes.

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europe.pub

Literally what everyone should be doing now for the environment. Clothes waste is a huge problem. The fact that people throw away stuff that can still be sold at thrift stores is appalling. Understandable if your body shape has changed or something, but "getting bored" of clothes is indefensible. This extends to people "getting bored" of phones and cars too, which is terrible.

Also: I'm in this picture and my wife hates me for it. I have something from 25 years ago thats still wearable.

OP's post has also missed the category of "sleep clothes".

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Are they really throwing it away if it ends up at a thrift store? I wear my clothes until they've disintegrated but if someone wants to keep up with trends is donating them so someone else can buy some gently used nicer stuff at a lower price really that bad/wasteful?

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Malycareply
lemmy.zip

I only throw shit out if there are holes or massive stains. I thought everyone was doing that...

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lemmy.world

If your body shape has changed, donate your old clothes! My wife lost a bunch of weight because medical reasons, and she recently went through her entire wardrobe; I dropped five 30-gallon bags of perfectly serviceable clothes off at a nonprofit thrift shop.

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Malycareply
lemmy.zip

That's what I did. I hope they don't end up in a landfill in Africa :(

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lemmy.ca

30y/o.

I have bought a grand total of 3 brand new pieces of clothing in my whole life(not including underwear/socks). Every single other piece was either given to me for xmas/birthday/random gifts or bought from thrift stores. Anything I can't wear anymore has either been donated back to thrift or cut into rags myself.

I've also directly worked in a thirft store, where anything unsellable get tossed into 'rag out' where it's donated to a company that turns it into cheap bags of shop rags: so even stuff that's falling apart is still worth donating.

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cRazi_manreply
europe.pub

In England they tell us not to donate anything that we wouldn't consider worthy of gifting to someone. They have to use volunteer time to soft/sort (and I guess clean) all items. If it's not something anyone will buy then best to take it directly to clothes recycling drop offs rather than charity shops.

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(and I guess clean)

May be a difference between regions, but thrift doesn't clean clothes around me. You're expected to donate clean clothes; But if it's visually in such rough shape that it needs to be washed first, it's 'rag out', otherwise it goes on the sales floor. Laundry is a huge expense for a nonprofit; instead, they expect you to wash it yourself before wearing it.

I'm not aware of any seprate clothes recycling facilities around me, and can't find one with a quick search. Just the typical thrifts.

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Bananareply
sh.itjust.works

My friends and I have been doing clothing swaps with the local femme community and honestly its been a huge game changer for closet refreshing! We had like 260 people come through last time and anything left after the swap is done is donated to local youth/addiction/women's centres :)

I've gotten some of my favourite outfits from the swap!! And it's completely free!

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Thanks! Feel free to have your own clothing swaps, the more, the better!

All my homies love sustainability :)

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Well, I had 260 people come through me just last night at our emergency church service at midnight that definitely wasn't a booty call on my congregation

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Hadriscusreply
jlai.lu

I have a sweater that my grandma got me when I was 7. It's purple with a handful of printed comic panels featuring Harry, a snow dog. It goes "Harry is a snow dog. Harry is a good dog." and you can see Harry doing snowboard and stuff.

I am 35 today. It's worn out a bit but still my dearest, most beloved pajama. It still fits, somehow

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Hadriscusreply
jlai.lu

It was very baggy back then but today it fits perfectly. Great foresight on her part. Ah, grandmas...

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lemmy.world

My mind is also reeling at the idea of something fitting you both at ages 7 and 35. I'm roughly 5/3 as tall as I was then and weigh about four times as much. Do you have a pituitary gland?

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Do you have a pituitary gland?

It's in there somewhere, let me take another look

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lightnsfwreply
reddthat.com

Not quite that extreme but I'm older than they are and still have some clothes from when I was in 7th grade.

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lemmy.world

It's more plausible that someone stopped growing around that grade.

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ColeSlothreply
discuss.tchncs.de

I got a pair of 25 year old Chuck Taylors I'll still wear. I had no idea they came back in style among the Gen z kids until my buddies 12 year old daughter was impressed by them. Lol

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I've had the soles of a couple pairs of Chucks fixed. One is almost a decade old. I got the leather kind so I can keep repairing them

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I think this is a different case, they never really went completely out of style, and are totally back. It's just like doc martens.

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lemmy.today

You don't have to keep buying new shit all the time. If you keep your old, still working stuff then you don't need to buy new stuff

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I can't remember the last time I bought something just to replace and throw out a perfectly good item. That's not how clutter originates.

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user_namereply
lemmy.world

Clutter is a slur invented by big minimalism to sell more less.

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lemmy.world

Yeah that works until you have a stack of 20 pizza boxes you're saving "just in case."

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Why is everything either 0% or full tilt with some of you folks?

Throw your trash away, keep the things you like. For fuck's sake. Judgement exists.

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sh.itjust.works

They're useful for putting down before an oil change. But that's like, one every six months or so. Not 20.

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Could just use any old cardboard for that. Pop open your recycle bin and just grab whatever box you broke down recently.

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Saapasreply
piefed.zip

Better solution for that is not to get new shit when you don't need any

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socsareply
piefed.social

Yeah, when I turned 18 I just went out and bought everything I'd need for the next 60 years or so. Doesn't everyone do this?

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That would honestly be awesome. Me, I just buy stuff as the need arises

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lemmy.world

I really don't know the last time I got rid of an article of clothing besides shredded socks. I like this post.

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kalpolreply
lemmy.ca

Socks make excellent dipstick wipers, then once well impregnated with oil, they're good for lubing bike chains

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Omg.. I remember fixing my bike chain in the freezing winter. Would have been perfect.

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And when they are so full of dried cum that you can't bend them any more, they make excellent roof shingles

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I just went to the thrift store last month for clothes. And this is absolutely correct. The entire store was huge, and then there's two racks for men lol.

Something interesting I noticed is most of the men's clothes are nice shirts. Button downs, dress shirts, polos, all sorts of different fabrics, there was even a wedding shirt in there. Not a lot of tshirts, unless they're made of something different.

My theory is the men's clothes that ends up in thrift stores are the nice clothes given to them as gifts, or the wife found it and added it to her bag of clothes to donate.

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Saapasreply
piefed.zip

Or stuff someone had to buy for some occasion

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Either that or there's old people clothes because the guy died.

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sh.itjust.works

There's another aspect of this. Y'all are assuming cycling out your wardrobe regularly is "normal" and men are "abnormal" because they don't. But the reason women cycle out their wardrobe regularly is not because of some universal law that men ignore, it's because women go through weight fluctuations that render their old clothes unwearable. You'll hear a woman talk about losing 30 pounds and having to buy new clothes because of that... the fact that women's fashion includes a lot of form-fitting items (whereas men's fashion is often looser or more forgiving) certainly contributes to this as well.

I have some items I've had for over 20 years I could still wear, because I haven't had any significant changes in figure in that time... because I'm a guy.

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lemmy.world

I think the more prominent difference is fashion, and the cultural approach to clothing.

Women are expected to "keep up" with the latest trend, and are influenced to dress like the celebrities and influencers they see. When my wife and I go back and look at pictures of ourselvelves, my wife can guess the year by the waistline of the jeans she's wearing. Meanwhile I'm always there in the same jeans, with the same styles of t-shirts, buttoned-shirts, flannels, or thermal shirts depending on the formality and temperature of the occasion.

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sh.itjust.works

I don't know if that's a women thing. I think people with that precision are the minority regardless of gender.

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There are people of all genders who do so, but I think society places more pressure on women in particular.

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It's more cultural I'd argue. You can design clothes so that it's adjustable.

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Don't lose weight then, so there won't be need to buy more clothes

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I have lots of stuff from my youth as a woman. I still wear my prom dress lol.

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Yes, as a woman that does not like shopping, I still have to buy clothes more often than my boyfriend. Even with a relatively stable weight (+/- 3 kilos over the years) clothes stretch out and loose form, which makes the fit bad. The shirts that survive are the shirts with a more boyish loose cut, the form-fitting stuff looks bad after a while.

That said, I do put them in the home/nightwear category until significant holes appear or they don't feel comfy anymore.

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Yeah I do this. I never buy clothes myself. Usually kinda just acquire stuff over time. It goes good -> everyday -> work -> rags

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piefed.ca

The good men's clothes you find at thrift stores are there because the owner passed away and their next of kin donated them.

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Yes, this. That's why the clothing in op shops are frequently classic, dated styles. Sometimes you get more modern things (maybe a young adult moved out and the parents cleared their old room) but anytime I walk into an open shop, it has 'estate sale' vibes.

Another thing i notice is that all of the clothes in my local OP shops are pretty dated, but the women's section is always ten times larger (or more!) The same is true for places that sell modern, returned goods, too: Women's clothing gets returned/exchanged at far higher rates than men's.

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slrpnk.net

I swear some of my underwear is 50:50 underwear to holes ratio.

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Saapasreply
piefed.zip

Well there's the leg holes, hole I use to put it on and ofc the peepe hole and poopoo hole.

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Saapasreply
piefed.zip

You need a hole to poopoo out of. Or what, you're just poopooing in your pants??

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And the big trunk home too. Actually more holes than I remember.

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Well, I usually, not intentionally, have a pile of rags by my garage door that kinda sit there for grease, oil, etc. till they get washed separately, so I’d assume probably something along those lines for the guy who made this.

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piefed.social

I use my scrubs this way. And my jeans. Nothing else really lasts that long and I kinda blame the additional wear and tear from my boobs. I buy thick socks and mend them when they get a hole I guess.

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MrShanklesreply
lemmy.world

I've just accepted wearing my (thick) socks with a hole on the heel... why tf have I never considered mending them‽ I feel a bit (very much) embarrassed about that, and I appreciate the thought. Also excited to realize I can reclaim like 4 pairs of my socks. So thanks for making me feel a little dumb, friend!

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I ain't darning socks. I'mma just wear mismatched socks without holes before they hit the rag bin. And while I will use my own washed wornout underwear for rags, I ain't no way in hell ever going to use yours.

Signed, Old Man in the forest.

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If good mens clothing was that hard to find in thrift stores, we would never have gotten the lyrics:

I wear your grandad's clothes,

I look incredible.

From what I've been seeing in memes recently, I wonder if this is just another shitty thing only seen at Goodwill, the worst thrift store chain ever.

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arrow74reply
lemmy.zip

See those lyrics are proof of the lack of selection in men's clothes.

90% of the donated clothes are something you'd see old people wear. My theory is that this is from families clearing out closets after someone dies

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Pretty much. Not that fashionistas aren't on the lookout for vintage fashion.

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Exactly, these just happen to be the clothes that he hadn't yet worn into oblivion

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piefed.world

The best part of this approach is that I don't buy clothes very often, saving money!

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Yeah I did a big clothes shopping trip 3 years ago for a new job, so going by the record I should be good for another 7 years.

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"Home clothes", "repair clothes"? Nah. There's just clothes, and clothes my SO gets mad at if I get paint on them.

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I definitely own a shirt that is "good enough to fall off a roof in" and half a t shirt in the wood shop I cut up for wiping on varnish.

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lemmy.world

I do have some gym shorts that are old enough to vote... I'm actually wearing them right now lol. They're not even bad off by any means (just a singular cigarette burn from college), but I've never had another pair last as long. They're not even any type of brand name nothing, just sturdy I guess... and oh so comfy!

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I've got a vintage pair of Converse tennis shoes that I got shiny new back in the mid 1970s. Still wear them on occasion. They were the shoes I wore playing basketball in high school.

I tell my Daughters that one of them will be the lucky recipient of them after I die.

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I could buy a New Outfit every day, but do exactly this. Well, minus the into-space-part 😁 Wifey has more bags in a specific color than I have clothes altogether... As long as it's somehow clean and doesn't reek, it's still fine.

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Depending on your style, the third tier work clothes can become outside clothes again. I've got paint stains on this old T-shirt that matches the paint stains on these 25 year old jeans that have a hole in the knee. Badge of honor, really!

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Space! Of course!

I knew I forgot to look somewhere for that shirt... er, rag...?

Whatever I can still fix it!

Maybe...?

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lemmy.world

As someone who's always hot (and as someone concerned about micro-plastics), the widespread use of polyester in clothes is something I loathe. If I'm lucky, I'll find 100% cotton in my price range. Still looking for some quality linen, I hear that's the best for hot days. Would love to try it someday, if I can ever find it.

I don't shop for clothes online - it's nearly impossible to ensure sizing is accurate, and the place I live isn't a good location to have boxes sitting outside all day.

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You can find 100% cotton in Walmart sometimes.

Get your linen in the winter on clearance.

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lemmy.world

I have never seen a linen shirt in my life 🫤 I would have to buy it from Amazon or a specialty online store probably

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Shopping isn't really convenient for me where/how I live, so I just do aggressively mediocre sewing repairs. That often don't even last because polyester (and I didn't use backing). Just using binder clips on the waistband of pajama shorts I got as gifts years ago.

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Well fuck, where do you think all that dust and lint in the house comes from? Shit doesn't just magically waltz in all by itself. Takes effort, you know. You're welcome.

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If it wasn't for grease stains I'd barely every buy a new shirt and tend to only buy new ones ob the summer when it's too hot to have a layer over top

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