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Do you ever just sit and listen to music, or do you have to be doing something else at the same time?

I've mentioned that I like to just sit back in my easy chair, put headphones on and just listen to music without doing anything else. People say this is weird and say they would fall asleep or go crazy from not doing anything. Am I weird for doing this?

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I wouldn't say weird. You can enjoy your music however you want.

Personally i wouldn't be able to do it, having ADHD and sitting still doesn't really go together.

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Mr. Wobblereply
thelemmy.club

Same here. I think walking and listening to music also qualifies as "just listening to music" for me, and I find it quite easy and enjoyable. I don't think the sitting part is all that important, only the "just listen to music" part.

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Good point, yeah that i do regularly, though not with the explicit purpose of walking to listen to music. Generally just walking to somewhere and combining that with listening music.

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lemmy.world

If you have adhd I suggest getting a good quality IEM or headphones. I can sit still and just listen to music if it’s layered and lush and have myself fully stimulated trying to piece everything.

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I already have decent earphones, Marshall major IV. Just the hyperactivity part is generally too strong, neither do i have that much free time to spend it on just listening music. I can do that while working, combining multiple activities.

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feddit.org

I thought that's exactly what we pretentious audiophiles do.

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kn33reply
lemmy.world

I don't appreciate being called out like this

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I mean, it wasnt uncommon that normal families just did this as well , thats why many of us always had good listening setups in the living room.

Now they are usually relegated to the basement and only listened to by crazy ol gramps.

I swear this is a reason for growing depression , among other things. Music is one of humanities strongest past times, and the majority of humans now dont give a shit and put it on as background noise with 0 care.

I blame parents.

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"I'm gonna vape instead of drink and play the same games"

[cuuuuhhhhh]

reclines, opens music app

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I “metaltate” several times a week. Dark room, closed eyes, focus on breathing, and headphones with black metal.

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One of my earliest memories of listening to music was in exactly this style.

Our family inherited a mobile trailer that was parked in our front yard for a while. I was a young kid and would use the trailer as “my house”.

I distinctly remember plopping down a boombox on the “kitchen table”, which was just a fold out table with a chair on either side.

I popped in Dr. Dre’s Da Chronic into the cassette deck of the boombox and hit play. Listening to the whole album while sitting on the chair.

Fun times. Stop worrying about how other people consume entertainment and just do what feels good to you.

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lemmus.org

I think everyone should try to only listen, at least sometimes. We've been trained to need input constantly and we're not built for it. People can't just watch TV any more either, need more screens!

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I agree. Music is as diverse as people. It's a good thing that sometimes I can use music to relax, and sometimes it gets me to looking into myself for some introspective. It lets me process my emotions, problems, and try to come out with a solution or just for cope.

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As many others have already said, you are definitely not weird for it. If thats what you enjoy, don't let others take it from you just because they might consider it weird.

For me personally, I do both. Sometimes I listen to background music while doing other things. As someone said above, its like elevator music. However, for me it improves the mood for some tasks.
On the other hand, I sit down maybe three times a week just for listening to music. I fully follow the emotions and story of a song or album.
The music is quite different between these two modes. For the background music I just need some good tunes. When listening fully, the song must have a text I like or be a really good instrumental song. Then I also need the right song and order of songs depending on mood. Mostly it's a curated list from which i select song by song. If I hear a great song in background listening I add it to the list. Later I listen to a more songs of the album or artist with full attention and add the ones I enjoy to my list. Funnily there are songs which then have so much meaning for me, I cannot listen to them in background anymore. Either I skip them or i put my full attention to them.

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I do, but not with headphones. If it's headphones, it's second to something else. If the activity is specifically listening to music, I'm doing it on the good speakers.

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Sometimes but never in headphones. In the living room right in the stereo spot on the couch. Mostly I listen and do, but sometimes just listen.

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reading this thread made me realize why music visualizers were so popular

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Doing something as in having a coffee or not doing anything at all ? I'll have a coffee or a drink and listen, at most eat a light meal.

I'm weird in that I can't listen to music and do something else because I can't.. listen I mean, it's just noise in the background, like elevator music, so why bother? and listening while running, walking or cycling is beyond me as there's so much going on and you need so much situational awareness when engaged in those avtivities.

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depends. I have music on like 90% of the time. Sometimes I like to put headphones or quality speakers on and close my eyes and really pay attention to the music. Otherwise it's daily activities or kareoke

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Both actually. BUT the type of music I listen to changes drastically depending on my activity.

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I quite rarely listen to music but sometimes I just want to hear one or two songs and then I often just sit and listen.

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Both. The distinction being when working I listen to albums or a stream, when listening only, it's by the song.

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Thanks for the replies, all. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one who does this! I find it very therapeutic, and I enjoy being able to really focus on the lyrics and the music itself. My high school band teacher taught us that music is not a spectator sport - if you're only hearing sounds, you're missing out on half the experience. :)

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I need something to engage my hands and eyes. If I want to just sit and listen to music, or an audiobook, or podcast I usually play Tetris. It's a really low engagement task that keeps me from zoning out. Starting to get tired it though so I'm open to recommendations for similar games.

edit: typos

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I do this sometimes, especially when I am stressed out and just need time to relax and forget everything for a while by immersing myself in whatever I'm listening to. Same with just sitting on public transport. Sometimes, I just stare out the window, and everything I hear is just sound because I'm just in the moment. I'd otherwise be on my phone like everyone else.

No, you're not weird.

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lemmy.world

I can't. Music just doesn't interact with enough senses to be a standalone activity for me.

My brother though, could spend the whole day doing nothing but listening to music.

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You dont have it loud enough 😉

Sound: obvious

Sight: things falling off the walls

Touch: vibrations

Smell: your tube amp cooking off dust/and or speaker coils burning up/record sleeves

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I can't, because of adhd. If I want to listen to a whole album I put it on headphones and go for a walk.

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Have to do something else. I mostly listen to new albums when doing cardio at the gym, or when playing multiplayer vidya.

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People experience music differently. If I'm going to listen to music, I have to sit there and actively listen to it. If music is playing when I'm trying to work on something, I have to turn it off, it's too distracting.

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Same. For me, listening to music is an active experience that takes up my brain slot. I can't do something else while listening to music. Eg, many people study better with music, or do coding with music. That's impossible for me. Exceptions are when I'm driving with the radio on, or walking to the train station with my earphones in.

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I do it sometimes, but mainly for music I really enjoy or have a keen interest in. Technically I also did it for a music competition a few months ago but that probably doesn't count...

There is research on this btw! I had to dig a bit, but this is a 2011 research article (might be paywalled, I can try & help if anyone is really interested in) on why people (psych undergrads, but still) listen to music. They identified 6 mostly independent factors, one of which ("personal identity") may be more linked to ppl listening just for enjoyment; one of their experiments showed that 75.66% of participants listen to music as "background noise". So music as primary activity is probably relatively uncommon (but not non-existent). Funnily enough I rarely use music as background distraction these days

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The Offspring recommended this method for listening to Smash

Ah, it's time to relax You know what that means A glass of wine, your favorite easy chair And of course, this compact disc Playing on your home stereo So, go on, and indulge yourself That's right, kick off your shoes Put your feet up Lean back and just enjoy the melodies After all, music soothes even the savage beast

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I like to take my Bluetooth speaker outside and lounge in the hammock while I build playlists.

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Most people I know that enjoy music do it this way. Taking time to just relax, listen to music, maybe have a drink along with it.

I can't sit and listen to music like that for long periods of time (like, maybe 2 songs), but I always figured I was the weird one for it.

You're perfectly fine. Do what makes you happy and enjoy music however you want!

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If its on a bus or train I like to ponder while listening to music. I should probably be doing something better with my time, but I like it.

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I have an over-active imagination and music stimulates it. There’s almost no time in which I’m listening to music and not imagining some emotion-stirring scenario in my head.

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It's the best way to analyze a track or just let my brain juices flow and just think or plan or just drift into the aether.

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I love music so much I have it on almost all of the time, but I admit, I'm almost always doing something else too.

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I do this if I get sleepy but it's too early to go to bed. Put my noice cancelling headphones on, close my eyes, and usually nod off.

I wish I could just meditate like you, but my mind is always racing if I'm not sleeping or focused on something.

I just think you're lucky to be able to tune everything out, not weird.

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If I'm just a passenger in a vehicle, I don't mind sitting back and just listening to music. Otherwise, I'm so used to doing something else while listening that it feels kinda weird to not have it as background when I'm working, when appropriate.

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I love doing that from time to time. It's not something I'll do daily, but probably once or twice in a week, especially if I've found a new song or artist that I really like.

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Depends. If it's "normal" music, I'm doing something else while it plays in the background. If it's some avante garde prog concept album, I can just sit and focus on the music and experience the complex subtleties.

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I do it. I miss having linear, defined "playlists" we used to call listening to an album. So, duh, you can still do it. I play curated playlists when I'm driving. If something catches my attention, I go to that song's album (please don't be a single, please don't be a single). If the album plays through well, I'll probably give it a go at home.

Granted, sitting still is not my strong suit, so it's not all that common. Video games are my main TV/couch thing if solo. I always have some other chore or project nagging me. But damn, is it relaxing to lightly hit a thc vape and play deadmau5

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I think it's not as common as it used to be. Now there are endless forms of distractions through small screens, and I think most use music as background entertainment while doing something else.
I can listen to music while doing other things, but I prefer to actually listen while not distracted so I can fully take in the phonics and arrangements. Otherwise it's merely hearing and not listening. I find that this distinction is more common with musically inclined people.

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I do, since I have a dedicated listening setup, always have, even in small apartments.

Sometimes I read while listening. Usually I'm more engaged in the music.

Having an engaging stereo setup definitely helps. Am i sitting doing nothing listening on crappy airpods? Definitely not.

Also people saying its werid must be zoomers or alphas. This is literally how we have enjoyed music for the past century. Do they know what a typewriter is? Or even a desktop computer nowadays I suppose. Man.

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I used to do that all the time in my teenage years. I would buy a CD Album, go home, play it on my stereo, listen through the entire album while reading the lyrics or Look at the art in that little Booklet that came with the album.

Or i would just play an album, lie on my bed and just listen.

Nowadays i mostly listen to music while working or driving. I dont have a stereo and no space to have one. I would like to have a "music corner" it like Rob in High fidelity.

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I mostly listen to music whilst walking the doggy, and sometimes when doing chores around the house

Occasionally I have a random moment though of "it's music time" and just focus listen to a whole album in one sitting

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1000% Not weird at all. The ones judging you for it are the weird ones. Love kicking back and listening to good music. I'm actually laying back on the couch right now after a tiring day and the only reason I'm on Lemmy right now is because I didn't have my headphones.

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It definitely depends, but sometimes! Especially if it's a fairly musically complicated thing or if I'm trying to learn to play a song. When the new Sleep Token album came out (and the new Angine de Poitrine album) I just put them on, alone, straight through

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It’s a good sign for your ability to focus and concentrate 👍

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I wish I could do this, but I need something for my eyes and/or hands to be doing. and eyes usually means reading, which requires attention and language processing, so it has to be instrumental music, otherwise the lyrics get distracting

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Yes, our main floor living room doesn't have a TV. Instead we have a piano, guitar, and high end speakers hooked up to a vinyl player with a collection that I'm constantly growing (probably to my wife's chagrin). It's my way of putting my phone out of reach and disconnecting for a minute while The Armed yells at me.

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I listen to a lot of music while I'm doing things as background, but when I get a moment for it focused listening is a great experience. I don't listen to the same type of music for both, though there's definitely some overlap. But I'm not listening to funeral doom at work or Lightning Bolt sitting in bed before I go to sleep. I think both experiences are equally valid ways to enjoy and appreciate music.

The gym has given me an interesting middle ground as it is something that requires some planning and thinking at times, but at some point my body knows the movements well enough to do it more or less on its own. So the music I listen to ends up being the most diverse. It can either fade into the background while I'm setting up, making notes, etc. or be the main thing I'm focusing on toward the last reps of a movement I know well.

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Honestly, people judging how you consume anything is weird. Personally, i do the same as you, and i lay down to.listen to some music, and honestly, i've had the best musical experiences that way. Laid down, eyes closed. That way your imagination can go wild and sometimes (sometimes) cook you up some wild stuff xD But all in all? Extremely normal if you ask me.

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