It is to stop items from accidentally getting charged to the wrong person. It benefits both people. I never expect a thank you for doing it. If something gets charged to the wrong person, everyone gets screwed. You, the cashier, and this idiot. Now everyone has to wait for the cashier to void the transaction and call a manager over. Congratulations, you played yourself.
They can just go get the thing they're missing, they've lost nothing but you've wasted money in some weird senseless vendetta that only you suffer from.
Practically never in my whole live, standing in thousands of checkout lines, have l heard anyone say "Thank you" to another person placing a divider.
Maybe under very special circumstances that primarily had nothing to do with the divider itself.
It is in both person's interest to place it, so the the one who has the opportunity to do it just does.
Had I encountered the woman from the post, I just would have classified her as mentally not entirely stable and kept my distance...
Which is totally ok!
Although I would either be slighty confused by it or more likely wouldn't even register it at all, as not expecting thanks to be directed at me.
After all, placing the divider is somewhat of a selfish action on my part, omitting later stress...
I had a girl say thank you to me three days ago. But that was because I put the divider down and then used it to drag my stuff towards the cashier to make more space for her stuff.
Home Bargains is British, isn't it?
So maybe region-dependent custom.
Here in Germany I would judge it to be equally uncommon both in cities and the more rural areas.
Yes, it is. I had assumed you were British, since the tweet is also about a British, albeit multinational, store chain. My bad, perhaps I should've looked at the instance you're from.
I'd recently blocked "LadyButterfly she/her" because I was getting fed up of her constant low effort ragebait, so I was surprised to see this post appear on my feed - it turns out she's posting from multiple instances, presumably to get around either blocks or bans.
Yup. Also the post captions always read a bit too engagmentey, if that makes sense? Like either the account is a bot, or it's one that being run cynically by a farm who's following a set of guidelines to maximize reach over anything like sincere interest or value or humanity.
It's hardly tinfoil hat time - I defy you to name a single poster anywhere on Lemmy who reads more like a repost bot or engagement farmer than that particular user.
If I was getting paid I wouldn't have needed to beg for money a few weeks ago just to try and remain homeless. If I was getting paid I wouldn't be so worried about getting holiday gifts for my friends or myself. Getting paid... fuckin' lol
It's kinda funny to be honest. So many people get so worked up the second that they start seeing someone post because, to them, they cannot fathom someone posting that much to social media without an actual incentive whether that be monetary or anything else.
I'm sorry but I have to assume you're not British (which is fine, not your fault). You wouldn't survive one day in the jungle of unspoken rules of politeness that is a Tesco queue.
No 'thank you' for a divider? That's a firm mild stare for you
No 'no worries' when people apologise for forgetting to thank you for the divider? Rude.
No 'nonono it was me luv' when people tell you 'no worries' after you apologised for forgetting to thank them for the divider? Are you some sort of sociopathic asshole?
Sorry it's actually in the law. It was voted by a very large majority of MPs in 1988. Not putting the divider on the belt usually results in the bobbies taking you out of Tesco and shooting you on the bus replacement service.
In all of my experience, it's required for the person behind them to put the divider on the belt before putting their own groceries down. Not on the person in front to put it down after their items (unless they're trying to be courteous)
I'd say it's a case of both parties should be prepared to do it, like cleaning the lint traps in shared dryers. Sure it's typical for the person behind to do it, but the person in front can be courteous and if the person behind doesn't it's no big deal the person in front can.
Just for fun I would have considered not putting the divider in so they had to make sure they told the cashier when the last item was, or pay for stuff they didn't want.
I too would have left the divider out, because I default to assume others are acting in good faith.
I would have wondered why we needed to not use a divider, today. I would have assumed she knew something I didn't know. And then I would have shrugged and left it how she put it.
So I guess I would have achieved an accidental malicious compliance. Haha.
Edit: No joke or anything, I'm just that naive sometimes.
Just for fun I would have been crab walking on the floor too low down to see what happened. To the cashier, I would appear only as an arm from below the conveyor placing items
When the calling comes, one must crab. No one knows when the call will come, sometimes you're just standing in line at the market.. then you gotta pop it, drop it, lock it, and crab your way out 🦀🦀🦀🦀
Yeah its the person adding their stuff to thw existing belt inventory that is responsible for placing the divider. Its not like its rude not to, but its them wanting to load up before the person if front of them is done with their transaction.
Again not rude but if it's one person's role it the person joing the other at the register.
Yes? Obviously? Someone else got mildly publicly embarrassed for not being polite to a stranger
As someone who does the little things like hold the door for others, I think to myself "okay, asshole" every time doesn't acknowledge it. It makes me just a little more hesitant to do it in the future
When someone does get called out for it, it's incredibly vindicating. Even seeing it second hand is validating
There's such a thing as a good Karen. Society does need Karens, but we need them to call out people making the world a worse place in little ways like this
No? I just expect acknowledgement. Just a little head nod or basically any sound
I'm not a doorman. I'm holding the door so you feel like you're in a slightly friendlier world, I didn't have to do this. I don't expect others to do it for me, but my day gets a little better when they do.
These little interactions are how a society feels friendly. It's the fabric of civilization
When you walk through like you're entitled to have doors held for you, then fuck you. You're snubbing someone trying to make the world a slightly friendlier place
That depends. Active rudeness, yes; but punishing passive rudeness just leads to a society of "you didn't even thank me for holding the door open", which I would argue is a form of active rudeness. Be polite for its own sake
I am autistic. Talking to total strangers anywhere but online is really fucking hard. I find the words catching in my throat every time I go to speak. And even then, sometimes it's barely above a whisper.
To a normal person, this is petty. To me and mine, this is cruel. And you have no way to tell which it will be. Maybe you shouldn't support this.
I can't fault you. At least we should organize into groups of 150 or less, the theorized maximum number of people that your average hairless ape can comprehend compassionately.
I propose a cell-based or council-network system that uses directly overlapping membership via 25 member subgroups, with each person a member of two groups. It maximizes empathic reach as members would better empathize with members of their two groups while increasing the likelihood members would empathize with members of a different group through the connection of another group member.
Putting the divider down is also polite. Why are we expected to always be the most polite or suffer cruelty if we don't comply? It's a two-way street.
And my voice is fine. It's the presssure and anxiety of the situation. The nervousness makes it harder to speak loudly.
The point here is that removing the divider after having placed it simply for the person not thanking them is petty at best and cruel at worst, and it simply shouldn't happen.
People should be better, and should have some fucking grace and consider that maybe said person has a hard time speaking, or yet again worse, is mute.
Putting the divider down is also polite. Why are we expected to always be the most polite or suffer cruelty if we don’t comply?
I always put the divider down behind my stuff, line behind me or no, and expect nothing in return from the people behind me. If the person in front of me can't be arsed to put the divider down after their stuff, it's fun to see how many of my items get scanned before they get to have an awkward conversation with the cashier. Yes I'm normal and well adjusted, why do you ask?
I agree that we should all work on ourselves to the best of our ability, but I think the point I'm sticking on is the idea that this person deserves to be punished with revenge rudeness if they fail to perform politeness a specific way.
I did cold calling as a neurodivergent person. At first it was really hard to compete with my neurotypical coworkers in terms of sales, but after brute force cold calling 200+ people a day, I eventually leveled myself with them. It took a couple weeks of failure because of my disability.
Also autistic :
Rules are a construct we ourself shape and create in order to archive the illusion of control over the raw anarchy that is the reality of free will and sovereign thought.
literally, the divider is to protect the person in front from having to pay for a accidental scan of the items the person behind them may place. it’s literally is everyone’s interest that the divider is there. don’t go expecting thanks yous in general but especially when the action was in self interest
We live in a society in which that's the preference of most people shopping today. Thus I dont think your advice is the best advice.
Also, If you're gonna (needlessly) waste everyones time gonna with a meltdown by causeing a scene, then you are being as selfish as someone driving slow in the fast lane.
This is grocery shopping, get your celery and get out. Im not saying lock him in a padded room.
Not saying thank you isn't having a meltdown or making a scene, nor is it analogous to unsafe driving practices. Are you thinking this up just because they said they're autistic?
My advice is only to not be passive-aggressive when people don't behave the way you think they should, which is pretty low-effort.
Yeah exactly. This is like holding a door for the person 2 steps behind you. It's something that decent people do without a second thought, because it's the right thing to do.
I'm human and I enjoy these stories of pettiness just like anybody else.
But if I may please speak in my "old man who has seen things" capacity for a moment, this is not the way to live. You should endeavor to do positive things every day to make life better for people around you as well as yourself. And you don't do this because it gets you praise or rewards, you do it because of the internal rewards. It's good for your mind.
Does Amanda not do shopping? You place the divider behind your shopping. It’s Tesco Woman’s turn to put the divider, she’s in front. If he places the divider in front of his groceries, she should say thank you.
This doesn't make a lot of sense. Amanda is talking about a "woman in Tesco", but somehow knows the reason she took the divider back. Did the woman announce this or something? Or is it just guesswork? Or is it a bullshit made-up story? You decide!
More to the point though, putting the divider would help her more than it helps the man. Because without the divider she risks the mans stuff being confused with her stuff, such that she might pay for items that aren't hers, or just wait her own time. So why should the dude be thanking her if she's actually just looking after her own interests? (And all that is aside from the fact that it is such a low-effort ordinary interaction that a person might not notice or care that it happened.)
If you require a thank you you didn't do it for them you did it for the validation, not saying you shouldn't say thanks but that if you do something for someone you should expect nothing for it to be truly altruistic.
The divider is so the cashier knows when to stop ringing more stuff up because it isn't yours. If she moved the divider back afterwards, that almost implies that she wants to buy the persons behind her products.
The story makes no sense, the divider is something you put up for yourself, it just happens to benefit everybody.
Is that not how you are ment to put the devider down. If the next person to put it down you may still have stuff to put on the convaer belt. This is potentially a high stakes event.
I just had someone not hold the door for me, after I held the door for them and they acknowledged it, and said thank you. 🤷
I was walking towards the entrance of a building, texting on my phone and didn't realize someone was walking behind me as I got to the main doors. So I apologized to the woman (for being in her way), put my phone away and held the door open and let her go in first. She said "thanks!"
Then we went through the 2nd set of inner doors she opened the door and didn't bother holding it open for me or look back or anything. Just pulled it open just enough for her to squeeze through and let the door start to close in my face.
Reminds me of the time I accidentally blocked someone behind me in the grocery store. Before I could say anthing, she shouted "Some people say excuse me!"
So I looked all confused and did sign language saying I couldn't hear. I will never feel bad about it because I'm trash and divider woman can join my trash villain team.
I've given up on having expectations of other people.
I've decided to just be nice to everyone no matter the circumstance or reaction. If you don't want to be nice or polite ... screw you.
If you want to be unkind, negative or rude ... I'm going away from you as fast as possible ... and if I can't avoid you, I'm giving you an earful of how I feel about your stinking guts
I often shop at places with no dividers so I just make a neat crisp line of products with a 10cm gap to the person in front. The cashier never asks, they just know.
so the cashier knows where one customer's groceries end and the next begin. this feels like she's going to punish herself, buying his groceries, out of pettiness, i guess
see, a reasonable person just leaves a gap. but some people think that if they cram the belt full, the cashier will somehow process everything more quickly.
same people who glare at you when you don't start loading items when the instant free space appears on the belt. like mf I got a cart full of stuff, and I know how to unpack onto the belt so they get packed back into the cart neatly, I need two feet to start laying out the big things. mfs want you to start the belt out with bananas and shit
I think someone on 4chan once answered this question: It's the only form of segregation white folks are okayed to use, so they cling to it like they do guns and religion.
I've never understood this either. If someone is holding things in their arms it's helpful, but if they have a cart then nothing is really gained. I can easily fill the conveyor belt by the time the person in front of me finishes paying. So getting started early feels like I am crowding them for no reason. Like flooring it between red lights; you're just wasting energy to wait anyway.
It is to stop items from accidentally getting charged to the wrong person. It benefits both people. I never expect a thank you for doing it. If something gets charged to the wrong person, everyone gets screwed. You, the cashier, and this idiot. Now everyone has to wait for the cashier to void the transaction and call a manager over. Congratulations, you played yourself.
Congratulations, you've now only played yourself here, ending up buying something you didn't want or need.
You've also played the other person that is now missing an item
They can just go get the thing they're missing, they've lost nothing but you've wasted money in some weird senseless vendetta that only you suffer from.
And then they state that and you gotta wait for the items to be removed from your order and you might have to wait for the supervisor. Own goal.
All because you're ego is so fragile you need praise for something you have to do anyway.
They have to go back. Effort is my death penalty. I would suffer
Well some jobs require effort to earn the money to buy the needless item out of spite. But not all of them.
And pettily buying other people's selection is also pretty great.
“Thanks for the muffin carton, dick!”
Practically never in my whole live, standing in thousands of checkout lines, have l heard anyone say "Thank you" to another person placing a divider.
Maybe under very special circumstances that primarily had nothing to do with the divider itself.
It is in both person's interest to place it, so the the one who has the opportunity to do it just does.
Had I encountered the woman from the post, I just would have classified her as mentally not entirely stable and kept my distance...
It’s like saying thank you to someone for flushing the toilet.
I say thank you when people put them in front of me, including the cashier.
Which is totally ok!
Although I would either be slighty confused by it or more likely wouldn't even register it at all, as not expecting thanks to be directed at me.
After all, placing the divider is somewhat of a selfish action on my part, omitting later stress...
I would thank you too. GET APPRECIATED BITCH.
#idontthinkyoureabitch
#sorryaboutthat
#igotcarriedaway
#thanksforthatdividerthingthough
I had a girl say thank you to me three days ago. But that was because I put the divider down and then used it to drag my stuff towards the cashier to make more space for her stuff.
That's one of the exceptions I was thinking about. Looking at someone and deciding to do something beneficial specifically for that person.
Do you live in a city? In the admittedly pretty large village I live in, I hear it almost every time I go to Home Bargains.
Home Bargains is British, isn't it?
So maybe region-dependent custom.
Here in Germany I would judge it to be equally uncommon both in cities and the more rural areas.
Yes, it is. I had assumed you were British, since the tweet is also about a British, albeit multinational, store chain. My bad, perhaps I should've looked at the instance you're from.
Have probably heard thank you more often than not in California
I'm sorry, I fail to see how this reads as anything other than "Amanda" being an insanely self-important cunt...
So, if you "support this" feel free to assume that extends to you as well
I'd recently blocked "LadyButterfly she/her" because I was getting fed up of her constant low effort ragebait, so I was surprised to see this post appear on my feed - it turns out she's posting from multiple instances, presumably to get around either blocks or bans.
Yup. Also the post captions always read a bit too engagmentey, if that makes sense? Like either the account is a bot, or it's one that being run cynically by a farm who's following a set of guidelines to maximize reach over anything like sincere interest or value or humanity.
People who get stirred to rage by someone momentarily impressed by mild and inconsequential pettiness: "This is some kind of social media conspiracy."
It's hardly tinfoil hat time - I defy you to name a single poster anywhere on Lemmy who reads more like a repost bot or engagement farmer than that particular user.
Shit, is she getting paid? How do I sign up?
I browse by subscribed, so I don't see a lot of stuff. But off the top of my head? Stamets, King, Mickey7, probably others I don't recall.
Pretty sure OP switched instances some time back if you're wondering why you see her stuff.
If I was getting paid I wouldn't have needed to beg for money a few weeks ago just to try and remain homeless. If I was getting paid I wouldn't be so worried about getting holiday gifts for my friends or myself. Getting paid... fuckin' lol
It's kinda funny to be honest. So many people get so worked up the second that they start seeing someone post because, to them, they cannot fathom someone posting that much to social media without an actual incentive whether that be monetary or anything else.
I'm sorry but I have to assume you're not British (which is fine, not your fault). You wouldn't survive one day in the jungle of unspoken rules of politeness that is a Tesco queue.
No 'thank you' for a divider? That's a firm mild stare for you
No 'no worries' when people apologise for forgetting to thank you for the divider? Rude.
No 'nonono it was me luv' when people tell you 'no worries' after you apologised for forgetting to thank them for the divider? Are you some sort of sociopathic asshole?
I'd rather shoot myself than have to navigate that purgatory, holy shit
No worries love! (subtitle: 'go on shoot yourself')
Wow, really? You're just going to literally tell someone to go kill themselves because they don't want to live by your grocery store line etiquette?
Yeah, that's not fucked up or anything...
Yikes.
Sorry it's actually in the law. It was voted by a very large majority of MPs in 1988. Not putting the divider on the belt usually results in the bobbies taking you out of Tesco and shooting you on the bus replacement service.
No reason to get all riled up like this LMAO.
It is well within the confines of the conversation
Or wait, is this missing a /s?
Now that is outside the confines of the conversation.
I don't think you understood the joke. And since I imitated a joke about shooting myself, continuing that joke was fine, even funny; this is not
💀💀💀😭😭😭🗿🗿🗿🗿
I'd rather get punched in the dick then deal with this passive aggressive bullshit.
No worries! Cheers. Ta. Sorry.
Putting down the divider is not a courtesy, it is expected of you.
This is like expecting someone to say thank you because you flushed the toilet before leaving it
In all of my experience, it's required for the person behind them to put the divider on the belt before putting their own groceries down. Not on the person in front to put it down after their items (unless they're trying to be courteous)
Here in Germany, i've observed it the other way around: Everyone always puts a divider behind their items.
Other way around. If you don't want to pay for my shit, set your divider.
I'd say it's a case of both parties should be prepared to do it, like cleaning the lint traps in shared dryers. Sure it's typical for the person behind to do it, but the person in front can be courteous and if the person behind doesn't it's no big deal the person in front can.
i liked the other comment that also said it was like thanking someone for flushing the toilet and hour after you posted
Am from Germany and this reads like absolute asshole behaviour TBH
Just for fun I would have considered not putting the divider in so they had to make sure they told the cashier when the last item was, or pay for stuff they didn't want.
I too would have left the divider out, because I default to assume others are acting in good faith.
I would have wondered why we needed to not use a divider, today. I would have assumed she knew something I didn't know. And then I would have shrugged and left it how she put it.
So I guess I would have achieved an accidental malicious compliance. Haha.
Edit: No joke or anything, I'm just that naive sometimes.
Just for fun I would have been crab walking on the floor too low down to see what happened. To the cashier, I would appear only as an arm from below the conveyor placing items
When the calling comes, one must crab. No one knows when the call will come, sometimes you're just standing in line at the market.. then you gotta pop it, drop it, lock it, and crab your way out 🦀🦀🦀🦀
Yeah, try that at an Aldi with the lightning speed cashiers.
Y’all are less likely than Americans to say excuse me when navigating (walking) past people right, only when it’s a true squeeze?
So dumb.. the divider is for her and the checkout person’s benefit. for fuck sakes
Yeah its the person adding their stuff to thw existing belt inventory that is responsible for placing the divider. Its not like its rude not to, but its them wanting to load up before the person if front of them is done with their transaction.
Again not rude but if it's one person's role it the person joing the other at the register.
Yeah, but social punishment for rudeness is how you get a world where strangers are polite to each other
Causing a tiny inconvenience for yourself is worth it
Bwahaha sure it is.. look at what the OP posted…Do you think this event made the OP polite?
Yes? Obviously? Someone else got mildly publicly embarrassed for not being polite to a stranger
As someone who does the little things like hold the door for others, I think to myself "okay, asshole" every time doesn't acknowledge it. It makes me just a little more hesitant to do it in the future
When someone does get called out for it, it's incredibly vindicating. Even seeing it second hand is validating
There's such a thing as a good Karen. Society does need Karens, but we need them to call out people making the world a worse place in little ways like this
No? I just expect acknowledgement. Just a little head nod or basically any sound
I'm not a doorman. I'm holding the door so you feel like you're in a slightly friendlier world, I didn't have to do this. I don't expect others to do it for me, but my day gets a little better when they do.
These little interactions are how a society feels friendly. It's the fabric of civilization
When you walk through like you're entitled to have doors held for you, then fuck you. You're snubbing someone trying to make the world a slightly friendlier place
It only causes inconvenience for herself and the cashier. It doesn't effect the guy behind her even slightly.
That depends. Active rudeness, yes; but punishing passive rudeness just leads to a society of "you didn't even thank me for holding the door open", which I would argue is a form of active rudeness. Be polite for its own sake
She should have smacked him on the forehead with it before putting it back.
this isn't like somebody left a cart blocking the sidewalk in front of the store lol
Yeah, and a simple arm movement could put it back
It's proportional
I am autistic. Talking to total strangers anywhere but online is really fucking hard. I find the words catching in my throat every time I go to speak. And even then, sometimes it's barely above a whisper.
To a normal person, this is petty. To me and mine, this is cruel. And you have no way to tell which it will be. Maybe you shouldn't support this.
Cruelty usually is the point. It's why I think humans should part ways from each other, end this civilizational bullshit.
I can't fault you. At least we should organize into groups of 150 or less, the theorized maximum number of people that your average hairless ape can comprehend compassionately.
I propose a cell-based or council-network system that uses directly overlapping membership via 25 member subgroups, with each person a member of two groups. It maximizes empathic reach as members would better empathize with members of their two groups while increasing the likelihood members would empathize with members of a different group through the connection of another group member.
Sadly, some Anticrist wannabies run the world. Ask them.
I'm autistic, rules are rules. The divider provider must be acknowledged.
Voice is improved with practice. Join a toastmasters,or learn to sing?
Putting the divider down is also polite. Why are we expected to always be the most polite or suffer cruelty if we don't comply? It's a two-way street.
And my voice is fine. It's the presssure and anxiety of the situation. The nervousness makes it harder to speak loudly.
The point here is that removing the divider after having placed it simply for the person not thanking them is petty at best and cruel at worst, and it simply shouldn't happen.
People should be better, and should have some fucking grace and consider that maybe said person has a hard time speaking, or yet again worse, is mute.
I always put the divider down behind my stuff, line behind me or no, and expect nothing in return from the people behind me. If the person in front of me can't be arsed to put the divider down after their stuff, it's fun to see how many of my items get scanned before they get to have an awkward conversation with the cashier. Yes I'm normal and well adjusted, why do you ask?
I would just stop doing polite things, like holding up a door or returning a shopping cart, if I had to make such considerations.
Yes, that's why you have to practice. I got over mine by working in a hifi shop when I was 16. You have to speak to people, practice makes you better
That's one of those things where the only way out is through.
Yes!
I agree that we should all work on ourselves to the best of our ability, but I think the point I'm sticking on is the idea that this person deserves to be punished with revenge rudeness if they fail to perform politeness a specific way.
Or people could try not being so prissy and obsessed with victorian “values”.
I did cold calling as a neurodivergent person. At first it was really hard to compete with my neurotypical coworkers in terms of sales, but after brute force cold calling 200+ people a day, I eventually leveled myself with them. It took a couple weeks of failure because of my disability.
"I did something great, you must now do it or you are less than me 👋"
Now let me condescend to you with advice that you don't want from a pretty obviously petty person that overcame one small flaw
Sounds great! Where do I sign up!
Yeeeeeah fuck off with that
And I'd tell you that, in person, both assertively and clearly
It's called shared experience you retard
Yeah you clearly don't have offline friends
New flaw found! Gotta practice not being an asshole
I overcame it when I was just a boy, you should practice more!
Edit: I just couldn't resist
I think you might be taking this personally and not really understanding what it's like.
It's you that is lacking compassion.
Couldn't resist what? Being a massive bell end? Are you autistic? No? stfu then
Also autistic : Rules are a construct we ourself shape and create in order to archive the illusion of control over the raw anarchy that is the reality of free will and sovereign thought.
Free will? Sovereign thought? Scientificaly disproven.
It's just polite, I wasn't being entirely serious
literally, the divider is to protect the person in front from having to pay for a accidental scan of the items the person behind them may place. it’s literally is everyone’s interest that the divider is there. don’t go expecting thanks yous in general but especially when the action was in self interest
You can be a victim or a victor, you made your choice....needlessly.
You can Literally order groceries to be picked up w no human interaction or go to self check out.
I don't think "cease interacting with humans" is the best advice.
We live in a society in which that's the preference of most people shopping today. Thus I dont think your advice is the best advice.
Also, If you're gonna (needlessly) waste everyones time gonna with a meltdown by causeing a scene, then you are being as selfish as someone driving slow in the fast lane.
This is grocery shopping, get your celery and get out. Im not saying lock him in a padded room.
Not saying thank you isn't having a meltdown or making a scene, nor is it analogous to unsafe driving practices. Are you thinking this up just because they said they're autistic?
My advice is only to not be passive-aggressive when people don't behave the way you think they should, which is pretty low-effort.
Eh. I just consider it a common courtesy thing that doesn't require a response.
Yeah, nobody has ever said thank you when I've done it, nor did I expect them to.
Oh I'm sorry. Everyone deserves a thanks on occasion. Thank you kind stranger, i am so flighty i forget to say it at the store 😋
Yeah exactly. This is like holding a door for the person 2 steps behind you. It's something that decent people do without a second thought, because it's the right thing to do.
Yeah? You're supposed to put it down after You're done.
I'm not gonna thank someone for flushing the loo after they're done either.
why would you just copy another comment like that?
Maybe they are the same person trapped in different multiverses
seems likely
Aren't we all.
Big Karen energy.
“entitlement”
use your vocabulary…
“all bad women are karen” is so 2010…
psh, real Robert energy coming off you, chief
Now you're cooking with gas.
Whatever Chief.
so you only speak in cliches then?
I'm human and I enjoy these stories of pettiness just like anybody else.
But if I may please speak in my "old man who has seen things" capacity for a moment, this is not the way to live. You should endeavor to do positive things every day to make life better for people around you as well as yourself. And you don't do this because it gets you praise or rewards, you do it because of the internal rewards. It's good for your mind.
Exactly.
Does Amanda not do shopping? You place the divider behind your shopping. It’s Tesco Woman’s turn to put the divider, she’s in front. If he places the divider in front of his groceries, she should say thank you.
Dunno if it's a US vs UK thing, but my experience has always been the opposite. That is, you put the divider down before putting your groceries down
Plot twist the man behind her was nonverbal...
And blind.
This doesn't make a lot of sense. Amanda is talking about a "woman in Tesco", but somehow knows the reason she took the divider back. Did the woman announce this or something? Or is it just guesswork? Or is it a bullshit made-up story? You decide!
More to the point though, putting the divider would help her more than it helps the man. Because without the divider she risks the mans stuff being confused with her stuff, such that she might pay for items that aren't hers, or just wait her own time. So why should the dude be thanking her if she's actually just looking after her own interests? (And all that is aside from the fact that it is such a low-effort ordinary interaction that a person might not notice or care that it happened.)
Delighted to realize that my default internal voice for this man is the one from South Park.
If you require a thank you you didn't do it for them you did it for the validation, not saying you shouldn't say thanks but that if you do something for someone you should expect nothing for it to be truly altruistic.
The divider is so the cashier knows when to stop ringing more stuff up because it isn't yours. If she moved the divider back afterwards, that almost implies that she wants to buy the persons behind her products. The story makes no sense, the divider is something you put up for yourself, it just happens to benefit everybody.
Imagine needing to be thanked for that, yeah I can do it myself if you really have the need for pointless gratitude lol
Yeah... OK biatch, if you wanna pay for my food too...
Is that not how you are ment to put the devider down. If the next person to put it down you may still have stuff to put on the convaer belt. This is potentially a high stakes event.
Yes it is high stakes.
When I go for it, I leave exactly one milk carton of blank belt before adding the divider.
I feel that it gives me an air of unhurried friendly eye-contact-free confidence.
I've heard other people speak in this situation, but that sounds like a pro player move that I might warm up to in a few more years.
I just had someone not hold the door for me, after I held the door for them and they acknowledged it, and said thank you. 🤷
I was walking towards the entrance of a building, texting on my phone and didn't realize someone was walking behind me as I got to the main doors. So I apologized to the woman (for being in her way), put my phone away and held the door open and let her go in first. She said "thanks!"
Then we went through the 2nd set of inner doors she opened the door and didn't bother holding it open for me or look back or anything. Just pulled it open just enough for her to squeeze through and let the door start to close in my face.
People are fun.
Reminds me of the time I accidentally blocked someone behind me in the grocery store. Before I could say anthing, she shouted "Some people say excuse me!"
So I looked all confused and did sign language saying I couldn't hear. I will never feel bad about it because I'm trash and divider woman can join my trash villain team.
I've given up on having expectations of other people.
I've decided to just be nice to everyone no matter the circumstance or reaction. If you don't want to be nice or polite ... screw you.
If you want to be unkind, negative or rude ... I'm going away from you as fast as possible ... and if I can't avoid you, I'm giving you an earful of how I feel about your stinking guts
Eewwww, Twitter.
I'm this way with helpful comments
Thank you
I’m not gonna assume it’s flirting but if it is…
ngl pettiness is hot sometimes and I love it when people get angry.
I often shop at places with no dividers so I just make a neat crisp line of products with a 10cm gap to the person in front. The cashier never asks, they just know.
The guy behind me is a different story though...
so the cashier knows where one customer's groceries end and the next begin. this feels like she's going to punish herself, buying his groceries, out of pettiness, i guess
so the cashier knows where your items end and can start the payment portion of checking out, getting you out the door more quickly
I don't put the divider up for the benefit of the person behind. I put it up for me. well, and also to be nice. but it benefits me
see, a reasonable person just leaves a gap. but some people think that if they cram the belt full, the cashier will somehow process everything more quickly.
same people who glare at you when you don't start loading items when the instant free space appears on the belt. like mf I got a cart full of stuff, and I know how to unpack onto the belt so they get packed back into the cart neatly, I need two feet to start laying out the big things. mfs want you to start the belt out with bananas and shit
I think someone on 4chan once answered this question: It's the only form of segregation white folks are okayed to use, so they cling to it like they do guns and religion.
I've never understood this either. If someone is holding things in their arms it's helpful, but if they have a cart then nothing is really gained. I can easily fill the conveyor belt by the time the person in front of me finishes paying. So getting started early feels like I am crowding them for no reason. Like flooring it between red lights; you're just wasting energy to wait anyway.