I’ve heard that this is instinctual. We have evolved to find crying and upset children intolerable because it motivates us to do something about it.
Children are also exceptional and figuring out how to push our buttons because they instinctively find and repeat behaviors that get a reaction out of their caregivers when they desire attention.
Unfortunately the most motivating emotions are often negative ones.
When hurricane Beryl hit us, Target was on generators with very minimal lighting and no music. It was such a great shopping experience, that I flagged down the manager and asked them to do this full time.
Some noise I do like though, if a store is dead quiet it feels like you can't talk to anyone or even ask a vendor a question without being the attention of everyone in the surrounding area. There is a bit of privacy to a bit of noise. Though I agree to much is terrible.
That was last night at the family gathering. Why was the tv volume on at all? Everyone was shouting to be heard over everyone else. The amount of questions directed at me and me not able to string two thoughts together to reply intelligently because someone turned it on some bakeoff marathon and then hid the effing remote.
Thankfully, the family understands that I'm not anti-social. I just can't sit in a room with the TV on and two grandchildren listening to iPads all at the same time.
I have plenty of tasks in my office or in the garage.
At one office i worked in the guy on the other side of the cubicle wall from me was a loud eater and constant snacker. Drove me insane. Sound of people eating just completely puts me on edge.
My folks bought a new house and got all this expensive LED lighting installed everywhere and they ALL run at such a low frequency they look like strobe lights to me. I hate it so much.
Unfortunately in the US people are OBSESSED with dogs. Everyone has one and so many people just leave them outside to bark and bark and bark and bark and bark and.... :/
If you think of how light and color works that's pretty close to what's going on. She's reflecting the light wavelengths that we perceive as gray and absorbing the rest. So kind of like emitting a gray color.
Yeah I used to go for a walk at my old neighborhood and one dog would start barking then the next and the next and soon I would have the whole neighborhood barking just by walking around the block.
Also my old neighborhood my neighbor will leave for work at 6:00 in the morning and his dog would woefully and loudly bark for a solid hour after he left.
I get this a lot too... Sometimes it extends to placement of an object but more like; I adjusted this candle and it went too far counter clockwise so now I need to adjust it equally counter clockwise before moving to the right position or it would "feel" off.
Yeah I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes I try not correcting/redoing the thing that was bothering me, and it makes me feel vaguely uncomfortable/unsettled. It's like I fixate on it.
Microfiber towels sticking to dry skin on your hands like velcro. Soggy sandwich bread. The way cotton balls feel and sound when you pull them apart. Non-skid on bare feet. Wooden utensils or popsicle stick wood on my tongue. Being touched by dogs with wet beards. Trying to sleep in bed with dirty feet. Synthetic fragrances.
I kind of understand why these things bother you. They don't really bother me, except the synthetic fragrances, but I can get the gist. It's kind of weird.
Where do I even start? The one that affects me most is that I absolutely can't stand wearing any pants at all.
I hate the texture of all sorts of porridge and oatmeal with a flaming passion. Wearing a coat indoors for more than five seconds makes me want to punch something. When you're at a beach, come out of the water, and your feet are covered in sand. (bonus points if you're trying to put shoes on)
Sandpaper. Dry skin. Dry clay on my skin. A lot of plastic things. Body hair touching me. Dry lips. Sleeves that are too tight around the armpits. Neon colors. Those fucking bright lights that look like they're made for the purpose of blinding people. Flashing lights. The sound of people chewing or even swallowing loudly. Nearly all beeping sounds.
Pants - Do you also not like wearing any shorts? If you don't have any problems wearing shorts, then how long does a short have to be to stop being a short and start annoying you?
Porridge - What about macaroni or chilli ? Do you know that jelly thing with bits of fruit chunks in it? What about that? What happens if your cereal gets too soggy?
Coats - Do you live in a warm/humid region? How do you cope with winters when it gets cold? Does a sweater feel different than a coat?
I'm with you on the sand-on-your-wet-skin-at-the-beach thing.
Sandpaper is supposed to be irritating. But is there any correlation between your thing against Sandpaper & the sand-on-your-wet-skin-at-the-beach thing?
Dry skin? Is it because it reminds you of Sandpaper or sand-on-your-wet-skin-at-the-beach ?
Dry clay - again, is it correlated to the sand-on-your-wet-skin-at-the-beach thing ?
Plastic things? Like plastic things just existing & minding their own business or plastic things that touch your skin or the ones that you're in contact with? What about the kind used in hospitals for IV fluids? Or the so-called BPA free that is used in takeaway containers or food storage?
Body hair touching you - WHOSE body hair? Your own body hair or somebody else's body hair? Does it remind you of wearing a coat? What do you do when you are trying to get physically intimate with someone? Do you avoid the hairy body parts? Aren't they the most fun?
Tight sleeves around the armpits - yeah, I can imagine that. Now I don't want to imagine it anymore.
Neon colours? - okay. To each their own.
Yes, people using those bright lights should have Gorilla Glue put in their eyes.
Flashing lights - Do you also not like the small twinkling fairy lights? What about blinking festival lights? Do you also not like any flashing traffic lights? Do you ignore flashing traffic lights?
Eating or chewing loudly is a sign that you were not loved as a child. I'm with you on this.
Beeping sounds - what do you plan to do when you have to be in a hospital? Say you have to visit the dentist & there are beeping sounds from their machines, you'll have to bear the beeping sounds along with your toothache.
We have one of you at our zoom COVID pub group. We try to not chew the chips and peanuts around our you but we forget. But we do think about your issue all the time. Sorry.
YES. This stuff just feels sticky. As if it's latching onto my skin and creating the same feeling I get when someone is rubbing two pieces of Styrofoam against each other, only this time literally palpable.
I hate things on my face. Glasses, masks, creams, etc. Covid mask requirements drove me crazy. Still followed them because I'm not an idiot or an asshole, but, boy was I always happy to get the fuck back to my car or home so I could remove it.
I also hate cacophonies. A single loud sound is annoying but not unbearable. Being in a crowded space where hundreds of people are talking, even at a normal volume, however, is maddening. I used to have recurring nightmares about people coming up to speak to me and when they opened their mouth, it was just that murmuring sound of a large crowd. Shit gives me the willies. 😬
An indoor range? Never. Plenty of outdoor ones. Mostly as a cub scout, so it was all super low caliber shit (.22s and shotguns). that wasn't really all that loud. Loudest thing I ever fired was a random 30 ought 6; only ever knew it as that. Even with ear protection, that thing hurt to shoot.
being indoors, surrounded by concrete and firing guns tho? I can only imagine it being pretty bad.
If you are like me and looking for nice holiday lights that won't hurt your eyes, check out Technology Connections on YouTube who has tested all the brands and found two that include soft blue lights! I am investing in them soon because I miss having colored lights.
Oh I've only ever bought one turtleneck. Couldn't get over the feeling of needing to throw up even after attempting to wear it for hours. It is no longer with me.
The sound of a metal utensil squeaking against a plate. Nails on a chalkboard. Dry skin on dry paper. The smell of tobacco smoke. The sound of a modified or worn out muffler on a car or motorcycle. The tickle of a runny nose. The tickle of drops of sweat running down my face and back on a hot day.
-Oil/butter on the cap or outside of the bottle/container it's in. I don't want to feel the oil when turning the cap or opening the container.
-Spaces that ventilate so hard the air feels dry and just makes you thirsty (most retail spaces).
-New car headlights that might as well be your brights.
-Standing in shower water. I need that water to flow down the drain.. if it starts backing up, I'm not showering. I'm cleaning out the drain.
-How to describe this.. my feet in the winter will be cold without socks, but with socks they tend to get warm enough to sweat which then makes them cold and now wrapped in a sock. There's no winning.
Many many things! Notably though: having anything on my hands (I cook and bake by stocking paper towels and an empty sink and reminding myself constantly I can stop and wash at any time), anything too tight clothing wise (this is so much stuff it sucks), strong perfumes, the scent of peanut butter, feeling a glass that has not been cleaned (it feels ugly)
Not much, but I have nerve damage from injuries and surgeries that drive me nuts. I'd rather they be painful than the half numb, "wrong" feeling I get.
Agreed on chalk and similar feels.
In Germany we have sweets called "Traubenzucker" (according to my quick web search they are dextrose sweets) which also have this feel and it's even worse in the mouth.
Biting into meringue is also quite uncomfortable to me.
When you're at the beach or some body of water and the dirt, mud, or sand gets on your hands, you get out of the water and start to dry off. I despise the feeling when your hands dry out.
Any sort of collar on a shirt except surprisingly dress shirts. Also tags on shirts, but those are slowly disappearing so I'm getting the option to not buy tagged shirts.
I blame it on an itchy wool sweater I wore when I was a kid that is my earliest sense of the feeling.
Just talking/thinking about itchy collars can give me goosebumps!
Children.
I’ve heard that this is instinctual. We have evolved to find crying and upset children intolerable because it motivates us to do something about it.
Children are also exceptional and figuring out how to push our buttons because they instinctively find and repeat behaviors that get a reaction out of their caregivers when they desire attention.
Unfortunately the most motivating emotions are often negative ones.
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I have so many. Here are some top ones:
How do people manage to BITE a fork and drag it out? How do they not immediately blow their brains out afterwards?
Idk it hurts my skeleton just thinking about it.
The only thing worse for me is imagining the feeling of biting down on a damp popsicle stick and pulling it slowly out of your teeth.
I don't like you
I don’t blame you
sluuuuuuuurrrrrrrrrrp
When hurricane Beryl hit us, Target was on generators with very minimal lighting and no music. It was such a great shopping experience, that I flagged down the manager and asked them to do this full time.
Of course they didn't. But man, I miss that.
earplugs have been a game changer for me. i haven't been shopping without them for the last six months.
Some noise I do like though, if a store is dead quiet it feels like you can't talk to anyone or even ask a vendor a question without being the attention of everyone in the surrounding area. There is a bit of privacy to a bit of noise. Though I agree to much is terrible.
If someone has the TV volume too high, I cannot focus on anything else
That was last night at the family gathering. Why was the tv volume on at all? Everyone was shouting to be heard over everyone else. The amount of questions directed at me and me not able to string two thoughts together to reply intelligently because someone turned it on some bakeoff marathon and then hid the effing remote.
Thankfully, the family understands that I'm not anti-social. I just can't sit in a room with the TV on and two grandchildren listening to iPads all at the same time.
I have plenty of tasks in my office or in the garage.
Hearing the sound of people eating. Especially if it's louder than what i would consider normal.
At one office i worked in the guy on the other side of the cubicle wall from me was a loud eater and constant snacker. Drove me insane. Sound of people eating just completely puts me on edge.
I have this happening right now. He likes crunchy food but chews it weirdly slow so the sounds happen for longer.
Me too, it makes me so irrationally angry.
My wife hates eating noises. I never used to notice them, but she complains a lot.
She also eats pretzels and chews ice all the time. Now it fucking annoys me.
This is a specific thing called misophonia
Mask those sounds with music or some banal tv while either of you eat. It's been a lifesaver for me.
Just stop eating, the both of you. Problem solved!
That's why I only install dumb headlights. Less confrontations that way.
The fact that 99% of LED Christmas lights are mini strobe lights.
My folks bought a new house and got all this expensive LED lighting installed everywhere and they ALL run at such a low frequency they look like strobe lights to me. I hate it so much.
Nice place otherwise, though.
I don't notice normal LEDs generally.
But anything moving in front of Christmas lights gives me a giant headache. It's incredibly obvious.
Barking. It drives me absolutely mad.
Unfortunately in the US people are OBSESSED with dogs. Everyone has one and so many people just leave them outside to bark and bark and bark and bark and bark and.... :/
I have a cat. She is currently emitting no noise and is a moderate grey color.
I read "she is emiting a moderately grey color"
If you think of how light and color works that's pretty close to what's going on. She's reflecting the light wavelengths that we perceive as gray and absorbing the rest. So kind of like emitting a gray color.
That too.
This is how you can easily differentiate people and assholes. Assholes leave their dogs outside.
Cats too. Assholes who lets their cats out looooove mosquitoes.
Yeah I used to go for a walk at my old neighborhood and one dog would start barking then the next and the next and soon I would have the whole neighborhood barking just by walking around the block.
Also my old neighborhood my neighbor will leave for work at 6:00 in the morning and his dog would woefully and loudly bark for a solid hour after he left.
I hate dogs (dog owners, actually)!
Dry, dirty hands after working in the garden. I mean dry.
Sharp Scrape of utensil on plate.
A thick seam on socks at the toes.
Too-tight clothing.
Repetitive noise.
Sometimes people chewing. Or talking around chewing.
Dyson hand dryers.
How something so loud can be installed in public without hearing protection beats me.
Hand dryer, you say? Oh…
I’m not a professional but that sounds a lot like OCD
I get this a lot too... Sometimes it extends to placement of an object but more like; I adjusted this candle and it went too far counter clockwise so now I need to adjust it equally counter clockwise before moving to the right position or it would "feel" off.
Yeah I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes I try not correcting/redoing the thing that was bothering me, and it makes me feel vaguely uncomfortable/unsettled. It's like I fixate on it.
Eating noises
Fibers snagging on a chewed or broken nail
Loud low frequency noise. So cars, leaf blowers, lawn mowers.
I generally don't like people touching me. Even with my wife it can be a little upsetting depending on the duration.
Pencil with the tip broken off on paper.
High pitched noises (CRT displays, dyson vacuums)
Sweating while wearing full clothing
Microfiber hand towels that don't properly absorb water
That last one, wtf
Microfiber towels sticking to dry skin on your hands like velcro. Soggy sandwich bread. The way cotton balls feel and sound when you pull them apart. Non-skid on bare feet. Wooden utensils or popsicle stick wood on my tongue. Being touched by dogs with wet beards. Trying to sleep in bed with dirty feet. Synthetic fragrances.
I'm sure there's more.
I kind of understand why these things bother you. They don't really bother me, except the synthetic fragrances, but I can get the gist. It's kind of weird.
Loud music in restaurants
People reacting loudly at sports (sudden clapping, yelling, etc)
Velvet
Leather not letting sweat evaporate
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Stickiness anywhere on my body, but it most often happens when I eat something sticky with my hands like a caramel or something.
Having something stuck between my teeth.
Mouth noises and ASMR stuff. Makes me want to break things. Condition’s called misophonia.
Where do I even start? The one that affects me most is that I absolutely can't stand wearing any pants at all.
I hate the texture of all sorts of porridge and oatmeal with a flaming passion. Wearing a coat indoors for more than five seconds makes me want to punch something. When you're at a beach, come out of the water, and your feet are covered in sand. (bonus points if you're trying to put shoes on)
Sandpaper. Dry skin. Dry clay on my skin. A lot of plastic things. Body hair touching me. Dry lips. Sleeves that are too tight around the armpits. Neon colors. Those fucking bright lights that look like they're made for the purpose of blinding people. Flashing lights. The sound of people chewing or even swallowing loudly. Nearly all beeping sounds.
I have questions.
Pants - Do you also not like wearing any shorts? If you don't have any problems wearing shorts, then how long does a short have to be to stop being a short and start annoying you?
Porridge - What about macaroni or chilli ? Do you know that jelly thing with bits of fruit chunks in it? What about that? What happens if your cereal gets too soggy?
Coats - Do you live in a warm/humid region? How do you cope with winters when it gets cold? Does a sweater feel different than a coat?
I'm with you on the sand-on-your-wet-skin-at-the-beach thing.
Sandpaper is supposed to be irritating. But is there any correlation between your thing against Sandpaper & the sand-on-your-wet-skin-at-the-beach thing?
Dry skin? Is it because it reminds you of Sandpaper or sand-on-your-wet-skin-at-the-beach ?
Dry clay - again, is it correlated to the sand-on-your-wet-skin-at-the-beach thing ?
Plastic things? Like plastic things just existing & minding their own business or plastic things that touch your skin or the ones that you're in contact with? What about the kind used in hospitals for IV fluids? Or the so-called BPA free that is used in takeaway containers or food storage?
Body hair touching you - WHOSE body hair? Your own body hair or somebody else's body hair? Does it remind you of wearing a coat? What do you do when you are trying to get physically intimate with someone? Do you avoid the hairy body parts? Aren't they the most fun?
Tight sleeves around the armpits - yeah, I can imagine that. Now I don't want to imagine it anymore.
Neon colours? - okay. To each their own.
Yes, people using those bright lights should have Gorilla Glue put in their eyes.
Flashing lights - Do you also not like the small twinkling fairy lights? What about blinking festival lights? Do you also not like any flashing traffic lights? Do you ignore flashing traffic lights?
Eating or chewing loudly is a sign that you were not loved as a child. I'm with you on this.
Beeping sounds - what do you plan to do when you have to be in a hospital? Say you have to visit the dentist & there are beeping sounds from their machines, you'll have to bear the beeping sounds along with your toothache.
Dry hands. I absolutely have to moisturize at all times.
This whole thread shoulda come with a trigger warning, lol
I can't stand chewing noises over headphones. its fucked up to eat when your mic is on dont do it
We have one of you at our zoom COVID pub group. We try to not chew the chips and peanuts around our you but we forget. But we do think about your issue all the time. Sorry.
Acrylic blankets and microfiber. I just can't. Even thinking about it make me cringe.
YES. This stuff just feels sticky. As if it's latching onto my skin and creating the same feeling I get when someone is rubbing two pieces of Styrofoam against each other, only this time literally palpable.
Is it like hungryphrog's thing about Sandpaper or the sand-on-your-wet-skin-at-the-beach thing? Or is it like hungryphrog's Coat thing?
I'm not sure what those are, but it's not sandpaper. It's like a billion tiny clinging fibers
I hate things on my face. Glasses, masks, creams, etc. Covid mask requirements drove me crazy. Still followed them because I'm not an idiot or an asshole, but, boy was I always happy to get the fuck back to my car or home so I could remove it.
I also hate cacophonies. A single loud sound is annoying but not unbearable. Being in a crowded space where hundreds of people are talking, even at a normal volume, however, is maddening. I used to have recurring nightmares about people coming up to speak to me and when they opened their mouth, it was just that murmuring sound of a large crowd. Shit gives me the willies. 😬
Ever been to a busy gun range? Within 20-minutes my entire body is vibrating. I wouldn't shoot if I didn't have my own range in the boondocks.
An indoor range? Never. Plenty of outdoor ones. Mostly as a cub scout, so it was all super low caliber shit (.22s and shotguns). that wasn't really all that loud. Loudest thing I ever fired was a random 30 ought 6; only ever knew it as that. Even with ear protection, that thing hurt to shoot.
being indoors, surrounded by concrete and firing guns tho? I can only imagine it being pretty bad.
Chalky foods (merengues, smartie candies, antacids, etc). I also hate the sound of chalk being used. It makes my teeth hurt.
Blue LEDs that aren't properly balanced (they give me migraines)
Electricity whining (I can hear this almost anywhere inside)
Dense fleeces (they make me itchy regardless of material)
Turtlenecks (I feel like I am choking)
Yeah I can hear the 60Hz hum a lot. It's a blessing and a curse to have good hearing.
If you are like me and looking for nice holiday lights that won't hurt your eyes, check out Technology Connections on YouTube who has tested all the brands and found two that include soft blue lights! I am investing in them soon because I miss having colored lights.
Oh I've only ever bought one turtleneck. Couldn't get over the feeling of needing to throw up even after attempting to wear it for hours. It is no longer with me.
Touching cardboard, I have realized how rough and dirty it is.
Stepping on crumbs with my bare feet.
Finally!! Somebody else who hates touching cardboard! :D
I have many sensory problems, but cardboard-touching is definitely the worst.
Crumbfoot!!!
I hate it to the point that I vacuum and wipe the floors in the common areas by hand everyday.
The sound of a metal utensil squeaking against a plate. Nails on a chalkboard. Dry skin on dry paper. The smell of tobacco smoke. The sound of a modified or worn out muffler on a car or motorcycle. The tickle of a runny nose. The tickle of drops of sweat running down my face and back on a hot day.
Nail filing, chalk on chalk boards, using the eraser on chalk boards
Wooden spoons
Unglazed ceramic
Synthetic fur / thermal fabric that sticks just a little bit to the microscopic burrs on the tips of your fingers
I don't like handling anything most people would call soft and fluffy. Such as the fuzzy coats.
Cotton is fine, animals are fine. It's the material that I find becomes grippy for my dry skin.
A plastic disposable straw in a plastic disposable lid. The sound hurts my teeth.
-Oil/butter on the cap or outside of the bottle/container it's in. I don't want to feel the oil when turning the cap or opening the container.
-Spaces that ventilate so hard the air feels dry and just makes you thirsty (most retail spaces).
-New car headlights that might as well be your brights.
-Standing in shower water. I need that water to flow down the drain.. if it starts backing up, I'm not showering. I'm cleaning out the drain.
-How to describe this.. my feet in the winter will be cold without socks, but with socks they tend to get warm enough to sweat which then makes them cold and now wrapped in a sock. There's no winning.
Chewing gauze or tissue. Yes I had my wisdoms removed recently.
Wearing latex gloves.
Many many things! Notably though: having anything on my hands (I cook and bake by stocking paper towels and an empty sink and reminding myself constantly I can stop and wash at any time), anything too tight clothing wise (this is so much stuff it sucks), strong perfumes, the scent of peanut butter, feeling a glass that has not been cleaned (it feels ugly)
Not much, but I have nerve damage from injuries and surgeries that drive me nuts. I'd rather they be painful than the half numb, "wrong" feeling I get.
Anything kinda powdery like flour, chalk in general, or things like dried mud or clay. Can't stand them, especially on my hands and feet.
Yep! I do pottery and absolutely despise how my hands feel covered in dry clay.
I was considering you an outlier. Turns out you aren't.
Agreed on chalk and similar feels.
In Germany we have sweets called "Traubenzucker" (according to my quick web search they are dextrose sweets) which also have this feel and it's even worse in the mouth.
Biting into meringue is also quite uncomfortable to me.
I wouldn't mind it being legal but oh my god I can't stand the smell of weed
When snow is so cold it is bone dry like a chalk board and squeaks any time it is touched.
Oh snap I love that
It's okay when it first starts crunching and squeaking, but as it gets colder and drier it gets bad.
Don't worry, give it a few years and you will only hear the sound in films.
When you're at the beach or some body of water and the dirt, mud, or sand gets on your hands, you get out of the water and start to dry off. I despise the feeling when your hands dry out.
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I guess you could say extreme temperatures, sitting/laying in regular poses, not being dry, and the feeling of dressing up too much.
Bass(Musical bass), the sound of metal cutlery scrapping against themselves, and the "sss" sound that seems exaggerated for sleep related podcasts.
Scratching paper.
It makes my skin crawl.
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this makes sock shopping immensely difficult
For me it's seams in my socks, like right across the toe, and then that shit bunches up inside my shoe if I don't put it n right and it makes me nuts
Dragging a guitar pick up guitar strings, and touching those hologram images.
I was gonna say high freq vibration noise, but those two also give me the creeps. I think I have whatever it is you also have.
The way that glassware feels when it first comes out of the dishwasher and you’ve just washed your hands.
Any sort of collar on a shirt except surprisingly dress shirts. Also tags on shirts, but those are slowly disappearing so I'm getting the option to not buy tagged shirts.
I blame it on an itchy wool sweater I wore when I was a kid that is my earliest sense of the feeling.
Just talking/thinking about itchy collars can give me goosebumps!
Felt fabric
Corduroy...
The preview of hereditary rheumatoid arthritis.
Dry clothes on wet skin.
People who smack when they chew
Lisps. I can hear even a slight one
Dry pasta sauce stuck to the lid or the entrance, I hate it.
My kid hates anything and everything velvet or velvet-like, such as the back of some picture frames.
Detached pubic hair.
Music. It's obnoxious