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What are some green flags in a partner in your opinion?

Green flags:

Their smile.

Their obvious kindness.

Their big heart.

They make you laugh.

They drive.

They ask you to drive.

They have friends that you like.

Your friends like them.

They read novels.

The play a musical instrument.

They speak another language.

They can ride a bike faster than you can and you think you’re kind of hot shot about that.

They openly tell you that some of your habits are unsavory. You know they are. How courageous of them to mention it.

They like you anyway.

They can make chocolate chip cookies from memory and do like for no reason.

You like their family.

They don’t like your family but then again neither do you.

34 years later the two of you not only love one another but find things to like about one another every single day.

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This was culture. Just because we have managed to slightly altar a few cultural norms over a hundred plus years hardly makes us better people.

In fact...

Majority of these people lived without electricity, phone, or private vehicle.

Huge percentage of these people still did not have indoor plumbing.

Many had never had a hot shower.

Hygiene norms for the majority were a once a week bath of that.

Impoverished children were born to parents that sent them to work as early as four years old.

They were beaten with heavy blunt objects if they objected to anything.

Many watched their mother's murdered by drunken fathers who received zero consequences for the murder and would not receive consequences for the suspicious death of a child either.

These children went to work the next day.

I'm no expert on this but I look at the faces of the children in the forced child labor pics and I can see that they are dead inside.

My heart goes out to the people who built this country. Millions were once enlaved. Millions more lived in a harsh universe where death of loved ones was common place and ailments we now think nothing of were deadly.

These were hardy people doing the best they could in a world that would astonish us if we were teleported through time on a one way ticket. That their sense of humor trended dark makes sense to me. I'm glad that found anything funny at all.

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Feeling like Privacy is a lost war.

If I may, might privacy be both a personal, individual endeavor and a collective endeavor?

On the personal level, can’t we foil the corporate intrusion by choosing apps in the Fediverse?

And on the collective level, can’t promotion of the Fediverse help?

I’m aware that city and county records often contain my street address and that doesn’t bother me. I’ve got to pay taxes and vote.

But I look at it this way: that’s my front facing public identity. Basically the one I use at work that gets a paycheck. Not private. And yes, that’s a pity and that war is lost, but I lose nothing because of that.

But then there’s my identity that shares the goals of global groups that chafe against injustice and oppression. All that work separated from my public identity by multiple barriers. Personably not perfect privacy — watch The Conversation by Francis Ford Coppola for a discussion of perfect privacy.

Is this kind of approach practical and one that means we haven’t lost?

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Pathetic 🤷

Hey OP — did you make this meme? Do you really have a 2 active users instance of Lemmy. If so… you make it seem like something manageable…

Do you know if I could run an instance with a raspberry Pi?

I’m thinking of a summer project… I know there’s a big learning curve but it might be fun?

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This ad was produced decades after the abolition of slavery. Yes, things were even worse during slavery. And slavers were not average people; they were scum then and now.