A particular man's penis. I realized too late that he didn't routinely clean under his foreskin.

You’re ignoring how many women, femmes, trans, enbies, and POC are on Reddit.

Reddit’s population size is going to naturally make it way more diverse than Lemmy for a long time still.

Ah, there were quite a few great subreddits I was involved in that were incredibly diverse and friendly. I miss those spaces, though I've find a couple of communities on Lemmy with similar feel.

I've found Lemmy quite harsh and exclusionary for women, so maybe my experience has just been different than yours.

Piss and stagnant sweat and more.

Misogyny is just as rampant here as any online space, it’s a systemic issue, it was not a reddit/4chan-exclusive issue. It existed before and will outlast reddit/4chan until we solve the actual fucking problem: men are both socialized and encouraged to fundamentally disrespect women. They need to do just as much brain-rewiring as we do when we combat our internalized misogyny.

Well said. You're right - the root of the problem is that the users here are predominately male and that then influences the tone of the space. Without conscious effort it is easy to allow misogyny to flourish.

Been missing seeing you as often after Blahaj went down last week! Good to see you again today :)

Definitely one of the users that make Lemmy a pleasure to be on!!

My favorite is when they acknowledge we live in a patriarchal society, that women are treated worse than men, but we are overreacting or simply imagining men are treating us this way.

Fucking asinine indeed!

More shelters would mean the subway benches stay because the government isn't trying to solve the homeless problem by punishing them. And if the subway benches stay, they benefit everyone.

The meme is on your side and you're still fighting it lol

Initially yes, the most active communities are filled with incredibly pedantic and holier-than-thou users that are more than happy to call you a drooling idiot for not agreeing with their logical opinions.

Once you start subscribing to communities you actually enjoy and block comms that allow users to muse about how 14 year olds have a "consenting nature" (looking at you ![email protected]), Lemmy becomes a lot more useful and inclusive. There's a lot of communities that are more active than it seems. I suggest going to the communities page and subscribing to just those comms that interest you.

Also be the change you want to see! Start posting and commenting without worrying about what the average Lemming thinks of you. We can build the type of communities we want instead of allowing this place to become another 4Chan.

It’s not been a goal amongst Christians.

Quote where I said I needed to be shown the difference between Biden and Hitler.

Show. Me. Where. I. Said. That.

When I used Reddit, there was a particular humour that had an interesting vibe about it, but the blackout and mod bans had me leave for the fediverse and while I miss that brand of humour, I don’t regret leaving and from time to time I see the seeds of it here.

You also have to remember, this is by comparison a pretty small community and it’s going through growing pains, triggered by regular influx from other platforms.

On the whole, I’m glad I’m here.

I fully agree with you, I enjoy Lemmy more than Reddit for a few reasons. And now that I've been here long enough to tailor my subscription feed, it's great. There's quite a few thoughtful and interesting users here that I very much enjoy running into from time to time.

There is a feeling that this place is not dissimilar to early Reddit or 4chan and those places had their issues with being predominately male as well. I'm not going anywhere and I'm hoping to help shape this place to be even more welcoming for a larger range of different people.

Great points! The mastery of a craft is often only bestowed on men in those types of careers.

Just wanted to add that pink collar jobs also include child care, teaching, and nursing - care-oriented jobs essentially.

And for context:

Louise Kapp Howe popularized the term pink collar in her 1977 book Pink Collar Workers: Inside the World of Women’s Work.[5] She used the term to describe jobs predominantly occupied by women, such as secretarial, clerical, teaching, nursing, and other caregiving or service roles. These positions were seen as extensions of traditional domestic responsibilities and were characterized by lower pay, limited career advancement opportunities, and a lack of prestige compared to "blue-collar" or "white-collar" jobs.

Source

I know the solution isn't giving up and allowing men to say these things out loud with absolutely no push back, so I'm rather prepared to be unpopular on Lemmy hahah

Or women pointing out rampant misogyny.

Again, it's not just one user here and there. It's constant. So yes, the admins work hard on banning them, but there's so many here on Lemmy that are unwilling to respect women.

My state is similar. The USPS were supposed to meet with state lawmakers this week, but cancelled last minute.

Hmmmmm.

Posting a meme like this and volunteering/donating are not mutually exclusive.

People being upset about their government punishing homeless people seems like it's in the right direction.

https://sh.itjust.works/post/62283101/26027884?sort=New

This type of attitude is incredibly common on Lemmy. I think a lot of AMAB people don't see it very often though.