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The Ur-Tradwives Are Leaving the Aprons Behind

Tradwives come off like a modern phenomenon, a social media chimera spawned by MAGA, fed by women’s exhaustion over “having it all,” and wrapped in a pretty apron. In some ways, that’s true—the Nara Smiths and Ballerina Farms of the world only went viral in the 2020s. But the earlier round of the submissive-woman-as-influencer experiment ran long enough ago—hawked on tape, book, and DVD—that the women involved are now in their 40s or older. Some are becoming the loudest voices warning against the movement.

Bernadine “Bluntly” Barber, a former trad Instagram influencer—here she is dancing in a milkmaid dress gifted to her by the alt-right magazine Evie—has opened up on Instagram and just this month spoke out in the New York Times against the abuse that can thrive in marriages with such a power imbalance. Enitza Templeton, a former tradwife with more than 247,000 TikTok followers, uses her platform to warn young women they may one day regret forgoing education. Templeton describes how a wifely fixation on pleasing one’s husband can leave women emotionally and physically depleted.

Earlier this month, former advocates of stay-at-home-daughterhood Elizabeth and Anna Sofia Botkin issued two apologies on YouTube (and published a lengthy written self-critique) to women negatively impacted by the form of submission they once advocated, when they argued that young women should remain home under their father’s authority until they got married and thereafter could live in submission to their husbands. The sisters’ 2005 book, So Much More, and 2007 film, Return of the Daughters, spawned the stay-at-home-daughter movement, a training ground for the wifely-submission pipeline. It was a stopgap encouraged by Christian patriarchy-preaching ministries to keep women from ever being outside the authority of a man—and usually, out of college, where they might learn Marxism, or worse, feminism. While young women stayed home, they perfected domestic skills, preparing for marriage. Some helped with their father’s business or ministry. A few served as nannies (unpaid or poorly paid) for submissive wives from their churches—training for the day they would have their own big broods of kids.

“We have come to the very painful conclusion that we believed and taught some very destructive things when it came to stay-at-home-daughterhood,” Anna Sofia said as part of their YouTube apology. (Elizabeth and Anna Sofia did not return Slate’s requests for interviews.)

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‘I wanted to change the stigma’: Nikita Hand on winning her civil rape case against Conor McGregor

Nikita Hand had a compelling reason to not pursue a civil rape case against Conor McGregor. She was, in her own view, an imperfect victim.

The day of the assault, she had been partying with alcohol and cocaine before contacting McGregor, who took her to a Dublin hotel.

Hours later, bruised and stunned, Hand made a report to police, but Irish authorities declined to pursue a criminal case against the mixed martial artist, saying there was no reasonable prospect of a conviction.

That left the option of a civil case. But that would strip the hairdresser of anonymity, and pit her against a powerful celebrity who denied wrongdoing and had teams of lawyers and a vast online following. Hand went for it.

“I’m not the perfect victim and I never portrayed myself to be,” she said in an interview in Dublin. “But I feel when victims are not perfect, they seem to get blamed. And I really wanted to try to change the stigma around people thinking you have to be a perfect victim to be believed or heard.”

The cross-examination in the witness box at Dublin high court in 2024 felt like another violation, but Hand emerged victorious: the jury found that McGregor had assaulted her in 2018 and awarded nearly €250,000 in damages.

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'Ek Kachori, Do Samosa': Why Indian Women Are Using Quirky Slogans To Protest Against Rape

Something unusual is happening on the streets of Delhi right now. Women have taken over the streets to protest against rape and sexual assault cases, demanding something that should hardly need to be demanded in the first place: the right to feel safe in public spaces.

But alongside the familiar chants of azaadi, justice and accountability, a new kind of protest language has emerged. Rhyming, cheeky and distinctly Indian, these slogans are making their way from protest sites to Instagram Reels, just like the CJP protests that led to the then education minister Dharmendra Pradhan's resignation. Two months later, a new set of slogans is echoing through Delhi streets as remixes, even finding an audience online. Scroll through Instagram, and you will hear women chanting and men 'vibing' to slogans like:

"Ek Kachori, Do Samosa, Inn Mardon Ka Kya Bharosa?"

"Ek Aloo, Do Pyaaz, Bhaad Mein Jaye Mard Samaj."

"Aloo Lo, Puri Lo, Inn Mardo Se Duri Lo."

"Paani Ka Rang Neela, Inn Mardon Ka Character Dheela."

The protests, which have involved women and queer students from several Delhi University colleges, have followed a series of reported sexual assaults in Delhi and elsewhere. The protesters are demanding safer public spaces, better infrastructure and accountability, while pushing back against the idea that women's freedom should be restricted in the name of safety.

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For Gen Z, a protest does not necessarily end when the march does.

The streets are being documented on Instagram, with protestors filming their chants, creators turning them into Reels and other users picking up the slogans and giving them a life of their own online.

That means a chant heard outside a Delhi University college can quickly become something for the people who were never at the protest to watch it, share it, and recreate it for social media.

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Women ‘set back by 50 years’ as Bolivia, Chile, Argentina and Peru debate tougher penalties for false reports of sexual assaults, despite such cases being rare

In Bolivia, Chile, Argentina and Peru, lawmakers have proposed bills that would toughen punishments and, in some cases, create new procedures for people found to have made false reports, with a particular focus on cases involving domestic, sexual or gender-based violence.

Individually, the measures are presented as safeguards against fabricated allegations. Taken together, women’s rights groups say they reflect a growing – and disturbing – narrative that women routinely misuse laws intended to protect them, one they say risks making victims too afraid to report abuse in the first place.

That the bills have been presented almost in “parallel” suggests that conservative groups campaigning against women’s rights are pursuing a broader and coordinated regional strategy, according to Paula Ávila-Guillén, director of the US-based Women’s Equality Centre. “The likelihood of it being a coincidence is very low.”

And the proposals are advancing despite scant evidence that such cases of false accusations are widespread – and that false reporting already exists as a criminal offence in each of the countries concerned.

Women ‘set back by 50 years’ as Bolivia, Chile, Argentina and Peru debate tougher penalties for false reports of sexual assaults, despite such cases being rarehttps://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2026/oct/05/defend-our-men-fears-for-womens-rights-in-latin-america-over-plans-to-counter-gender-violence-lawsOpen linkView original on sh.itjust.works
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‘Nothing has changed’: Cornell assault case reignites female fury

It was the screen grabs that did it.

Over the last week, as news spread about the lawsuit filed by Jane Doe, a former Cornell student who alleges that she was gang raped by seven Chi Phi fraternity brothers in 2024, the tenor of the reaction on social media can perhaps best be described as white hot fury.

For many women, it was as if seeing the vile messages shared that night — the accused offenders advertised “free” sex on Snapchat, saying “you can walk in and whip it out” — had roused an army of sleeper cell agents into action. This incident, judging by the online outrage, was not just another #MeToo moment: It was cause for a flip-the-table, burn-it-all-down primal scream.

As the actor Rati Gupta put it: “Maybe instead of Me Too, this round is [Expletive] Off.”

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I was raped at a fraternity and changed Texas law. When will other states follow?

I was 19 years old when I was drugged and raped at a fraternity party at the University of Texas. One member spiked my drink, and a man I had called a friend sexually assaulted me as I lay dazed and helpless. The next morning, that “friend” told me “you tried to push me off” as he laughed about it.

His fraternity brothers later joked about what happened, about how my attacker had been picked up by police for public intoxication and immediately after his release, “got laid”.

It was traumatic, life-shattering and life-altering.

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It would be a decade before I finally felt able to talk about what had happened to me. But then, as I learnt more about Texas law around sexual assault and intoxication, I was horrified to find that it may not have even legally counted as rape.

At the time, Texas, along with at least 23 other states, had drawn an almost incomprehensible legal distinction around intoxication. In these states, if a victim of sexual assault voluntarily consumed drugs or alcohol, they were responsible for what happened to them. This meant a person could be so impaired that they were incapable of consenting, but the law treated them differently because of how they became impaired.

Rather than looking at the actual assault, the Texas statute focused on whether the perpetrator himself had administered the substance without the victim’s knowledge. In my case, I was drugged by one person and raped by another.

The law cared about that distinction. I did not.

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Last year, the Texas legislature passed the Summer Willis Act. The act sets out that a sexual assault occurs when the perpetrator knows the other person is intoxicated or impaired to the point of being incapable of consenting, and established a definition of consent in Texas law.

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Too many women face a "diagnostic odyssey" at the doctor's office. This $20 billion plan could change things.

Women live longer than men, but they also spend more time being sick. Why is that? One reason is that women's health has long been under-researched and underfunded.

According to research from Melinda French Gates' Pivotal, for every dollar spent globally on medical research and innovation, only 5 cents are spent on women's health.

The Society for Women's Health Research is trying to change that in the United States with a first-of-its-kind, $20 billion,10-year federal road map to improve the health of more than half of the population.

Too many women face a "diagnostic odyssey" at the doctor's office. This $20 billion plan could change things.https://www.cbsnews.com/news/society-womens-health-research-healthful/Open linkView original on sh.itjust.works
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Why Advocates For Women's Rights Are Alarmed By Complementarianism

“Complementarianism is the belief that men and women are ‘equal’ in value to God but have different God-given roles that complement each other,” April Ajoy, author of “Star-Spangled Jesus: Leaving Christian Nationalism and Finding a True Faith,” told HuffPost.

“It enforces stereotypical, traditional gender roles and focuses on women’s submission to male authority both at home and in the church,” Ajoy continued. “Complementarianism holds that only men can lead in the church and that husbands have complete authority over their wives. Wives are taught that God commands their complete submission and obedience to their husbands in everything.”

This belief that men and women have clear separate roles in marriage and society is quite widespread across fundamentalist Christian communities and evangelicalism.

Cait West, author of “Rift: A Memoir of Breaking Away From Christian Patriarchy,” grew up inside complementarianism and described it plainly.

“It is just another name for patriarchy, and some believers hold to it more strictly than others,” she said. “Men are supposed to be strong leaders, the heads of their households, and women are supposed to submit to their husbands in all things. The idea is that men and women who follow this “godly” plan complement each other as they serve God.”

Ajoy gave the example of Ephesians 5:22-24: “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”

“Most evangelicals who use this passage to keep women submissive to men conveniently ignore the verse right before it that says, ‘Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ,’” Ajoy noted.

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Polish activists open first abortion pill locker in Warsaw

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Warsaw (AFP) – Polish activists have opened the country's first-ever abortion locker, allowing women to access pregnancy-terminating pills anonymously and immediately in the country with some of Europe's strictest abortion laws, an AFP photographer confirmed Wednesday.

The small, colourfully painted locker, which activists call an "abortomat", consists of 22 compartments containing envelopes with medications allowing them to carry out medical abortions.

"It's a feminist intervention meant to show just how upside‑down things are," Kinga Jelinska, director of the Women Help Women Foundation and co-founder of the Abortion Dream Team, told AFP.

"We always think about how to make abortion care easier, more accessible, friendlier, more people‑centred," she added.

"It's simply logical and makes sense".

The facility's location -- across the street from the Polish parliament, which has failed to follow through on its pledges to relax the country's stringent abortion laws -- is purposefully symbolic.

It was here that activists decided to open an abortion centre just over a year ago.

Rather than a typical medical clinic, it provides women with access to resources, including pills, and a space to be able to seek support or carry out the pharmacological abortion.

Abortion in Poland is legal only in two circumstances: when the pregnancy resulted from a criminal act -- such as rape or incest -- or if it threatens the mother's life or health.

A 2020 decision by the Constitutional Tribunal, ruled that severe foetal abnormalities were not legal grounds for abortion.

Prior to this ruling, 98 percent of legal abortions in Poland were performed for this reason.

The new restrictions set off a torrent of protests throughout the country, which became the largest mass demonstrations in Poland since the 1989 anti-communist movement.

In the first half of 2025, only 846 legal abortions took place in Poland, according to data from the National Health Fund (NFZ) and the Committee of Ministers of the Council of Europe.

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Could An Abortion Have Saved Tierra Walker's Life? Her Family Says Yes And Seeks Justice - Essence

The near-total ban on abortion in Texas states that women cannot have an abortion as soon as fetal cardiac activity is detected, which can be as early as five weeks. This is before most women even know they’re pregnant. In addition, the extreme law gives zero exceptions for rape or incest. Doctors and other medical professionals who violate the state's abortion ban face up to 99 years in prison, creating a culture of fear that leaves healthcare pros hesitant to intervene.

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The Manosphere: Beyond the Moral Panic

How Manosphere Influencers Draw People in: The B.A.D.G.E.D. Playbook

Drawing on my work with young men and the insights of researchers who have examined the manosphere, I use the acronym B.A.D.G.E.D. to summarise a method consistently employed by some manosphere influencers to enlist and profit from followers:

B—Build up the problem: Frame ordinary developmental struggles as personal deficiency. You're not attractive enough. You're not successful enough.

A—Attack the mainstream: Position society as deceptive and hostile. You're being misled. Feminism is trying to emasculate you.

D—Deliver "hidden" knowledge: Claim to be the voice of truth in a world of lies. You've joined the awakened.

G—Gather the tribe: Create a sense of belonging and shared identity. You've joined the awakened.

E—Extract payment: Monetise the solution through courses, programmes, subscriptions and investments.

D—Drip-feed reminders: Keep the threat alive. Stay sharp. Society will try to trick you.

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The EPA would rather monitor abortion pills in water than pollution

With his characteristic deregulatory zeal, Environmental Protection Agency Administrator Lee Zeldin announced before an audience of G20 energy ministers in oil-rich Houston, Texas, that his agency would eliminate climate pollution standards for fossil fuel-fired power plants. “For over 15 years, the Obama and Biden administrations implemented a war on coal to destroy reliable and affordable energy,” Zeldin said in an EPA press statement issued during the Houston meeting. “The Trump Administration has come in to protect American energy and to make sure you can afford to keep the lights on.”

This announcement was yet another example of the Trump administration’s eagerness to reinforce what Republicans have long considered a priority: freedom from government intrusion or regulation. But only a few days before Zeldin reassured energy executives that the government would no longer prioritize protecting public health, the EPA announced a new study that would test the country’s water supply for abortion medication, contraception, and hormones used in gender-affirming care, along with over 1,000 other medications and chemicals. “We have heard loud and clear that Americans are concerned about potential unknown pollutants lurking in their drinking water,” Zeldin wrote in the study press release.

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Outcry as Michigan high school asks girls to share details of menstrual cycles

Under the policy, which appears in a Lakeview high school gym syllabus, female students who miss swimming because of their periods must have a parent submit a written note or email identifying the length of their menstrual cycle before they can make up the missed days.

The syllabus states: “Female students will be given the opportunity to make up days, which are missed only because of their menstrual cycle. A written/email note from a parent stating the length of the menstrual duration is required, so the student can make up the days.”

“Students will complete dry land workouts to be able to make up the days,” it continues. “Students will not just sit out. Each day that is not made up will be considered a non-participation day and place the student on the grade reduction scale.”

The requirement caught the attention of Andy Amsdill, whose daughter attends Lakeview high school. Amsdill told WXYZ Detroit that he was stunned when he saw the requirements in her gym syllabus.

“The teacher wants us to either send a note or an email with the suspected length of the cycle which, by itself, is ridiculous,” Amsdill told the outlet.

Menstrual cycle length can sometimes be difficult to predict, and the US National Institutes of Health estimates between 14% to 25% of women experience menstrual irregularities. Irregular periods are even more common in young girls.

Amsdill later told CBS News that other parents contacted him after he spoke publicly about the syllabus, saying they were glad he had brought attention to the issue.

Among them was Bryan Shishakly, whose daughter is now a sophomore at Lakeview. Shishakly said she faced the same requirement during her freshman gym class last year and that it affected her grade.

“My response was like, ‘If they ask, you have no obligation to tell them,’ and it did affect her grade,” Shishakly told CBS. “She’s a straight-A student, and she ended up with a C in gym, and I don’t know how fair that is since it’s only going to apply to the girls at the school.”

The Lakeview public schools superintendent, Karl D Paulson, issued a statement that read: “We recently became aware of a parent’s concern relative to certain class expectations. Given our commitment to partnering with parents to address any issue that might arise, we immediately sought to schedule a meeting with the parent to engage in a conversation about the concern.”

It added: “We look forward to meeting with the parent in the coming days and working collaboratively with that objective. The Lakeview school district remains fully committed to educational excellence and best practices in all it does.”

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China's Online 'Manosphere' Grows as Beijing Targets Feminism in Battle Over Marriage and Babies

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.sdf.org/post/59372222

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.sdf.org/post/59370594

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China's gender conflict has moved well beyond dinner-table arguments. Male content creators who openly criticise feminist ideas have built audiences on major Chinese platforms, while researchers say misogynistic online communities have continued to find space despite periods of censorship.

A CNA Insight documentary, published on 17 September 2026, put a face to the trend through David Wang, a content creator who has built a following by targeting what he calls 'extreme feminism'.

One broadcast summed up his position: 'Only unattractive women support extreme feminism.' Wang is part of China's growing 'manosphere', where male grievances and hostility towards women find an audience on platforms including Bilibili, Zhihu and Hupu.

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Academic research published in Feminist Studies in 2025 found that 'misogyny in China has grown increasingly radicalised' but is 'rarely curtailed by state censorship and is often amplified by platform algorithms'.

The study examined misogynistic communities across Chinese digital platforms and argued that such misogyny can channel rising class discontent into hostility towards women.

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The demographic figures highlighting the pressures facing Beijing are stark. China's National Bureau of Statistics reported that births fell to 7.92 million in 2025, down from 9.54 million in 2024. The country's population contracted for a fourth consecutive year, shrinking by 3.39 million to 1.40489 billion.

Marriage figures show a similar decline. China's Ministry of Civil Affairs recorded 6.106 million marriage registrations in 2024, down from 13.47 million in 2013, less than half the number recorded 11 years earlier.

The 2024 total was down 20.5 per cent from the previous year, according to official data. Demographer Yi Fuxian of the University of Wisconsin-Madison has warned of the implications of China's demographic decline for the country's future.

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The United Nations Population Division estimates that China's total fertility rate is below 1.0 births per woman, compared with the roughly 2.1 children per woman generally associated with long-term population replacement in the absence of migration.

Beijing's efforts to regulate online gender discourse therefore sit alongside a much broader demographic challenge involving marriage, fertility, economic conditions and changing attitudes towards family life.

Against the backdrop of a widening gender divide and low marriage rates, the demographic shift could have consequences beyond China's borders.

A contracting and ageing population in the world's second-largest economy could affect labour supply, domestic demand and the country's economic outlook, with potential implications for businesses and economies that depend heavily on China.

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A related report says that last Friday (18 Sep 2026), Sophia Huang Xueqin the imprisoned journalist who helped to ignite China’s MeToo movement, was released from Chinese prison, five years after her arrest. She will return to see a feminist movement that has dramatically changed in the years she has been detained.

Experts question, however, that Ms. Huang will be able to move freely as the Chinese internet has changed a lot since her arrest in 2021.

At the time of her conviction, Huang was also sentenced to four years “deprivation of political rights”. Human right groups say it could prevent her from continuing to work as a journalist or travelling abroad.

In a statement released on Saturday, activists pushing for Huang’s release said “though she is released from prison, none of us [her friends] were able to reach her or receive any information from her.

[...] Li Sipan, a Chinese investigative journalist and feminist scholar, says: “The Chinese Communist party regards all mobilisation of the public and movements demanding changes from the government as threats. The feminist movement clearly has these characteristics” {...]

Jasmine [a member of China's MeToo movement - says: “If you want to organise a public event, anything explicitly related to feminism or LGBT issues is basically not possible, at least in Beijing. If you advertise it that way, there’s a risk the event will be shut down [...]

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“Not the Oklahoma Standard” : Lawsuit filed over abortion ban after fatal fetal diagnosis

Hoffman said doctors told her her daughter would never be able to leave the hospital because of a fatal fetal diagnose.

“Which means that your baby is not compatible with life,” Hoffman said.

She said doctors gave her the option of continuing the pregnancy and providing comfort care after birth or leaving Oklahoma to terminate the pregnancy.

“The anatomy center basically told me that I had two options. I could leave the state and terminate the pregnancy, or I could carry to term where I would deliver her here, and my husband and I would just have to wait and watch her die.” Hoffman said she ultimately decided to leave the state. “So I knew immediately that that was not the option that was right for my family and my husband completely agreed with me.”

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