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Why is leadership valued so much over expertise?

Part of this is accountability. As you move up, you take on more responsibility for bigger and bigger things going right or wrong. This can mean a greater potential to do big things for the company, and it can also mean a higher risk of getting fired in disgrace and becoming unemployable. Most people demand more compensation to step into such a role. Agreeing to do so means you're becoming a more deeply embedded part of the company, so the company cares more whether you're happy, because it's theoretically more vulnerable now if you should go rogue.

Leadership also means you're more likely to be thinking about work (which is itself work) outside of standard office hours, which is only possible if your compensation allows you to outsource some aspects of your life, e.g. hiring a cleaner.

And if you're in a position that's visible within the company or beyond, they want you looking good. Nice things, clean clothes, a lifestyle for junior employees to aspire to, and an image that projects success on behalf of the company.

Also all the reasons everyone has already named. Lots of reasons. And yeah, it should be possible to move up to the same compensation level by being good at the actual work, but capitalism = scaling = constant need for leadership. Anyway, you won't be there forever, so if you're really that good, the company extracts more value out of you training those coming up behind you than just rewarding you for doing the same things for 30 years.

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We all watched ICE walk up to her window, pulled out his gun and shot her point blank in the face

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There's an undeniable racial component, yeah, but there's also the very real fact that those suffering past abuses were broadly in a different category from the majority of ordinary (white and white passing) American citizens, creating the illusion that they themselves were safe, or could choose to be safe by keeping their heads down.

As soon as the victim is in a position that you yourself could easily find yourself in (like dropping your kid off at school in a residential area), and you can imagine that you might make the same choices (like trying to leave a dangerous situation safely), your own safety is under direct threat.

A lot of people were sad, angry and outraged before, but now they're scared.

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It also suggests you might be willing to walk away from an incompatible work situation, whether due to workplace toxicity or your own outside priorities, which can be scary to the person you'll be reporting to.

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You okay babe?

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That's the line they feed us, for sure. But if you ever actually added up federal income tax, state income tax, state and local sales tax, Social Security tax, property tax and assorted taxes for any instance in which you might come into additional money (capital gains, interest, prize winnings, inheritance, etc. etc. etc.) most Americans would probably be shocked to learn what real percentage of our income we actually pay to the government.

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When you buy keyed doorknobs and deadbolts, there's sometimes (always?—not sure, but def sometimes) a sticker on each package with a code. This lets you look through the available inventory to find and buy additional locks with the same code so that if you need multiple locks for the same house, they can all use the same key.

So no, as others have said, mass produced locks aren't unique, but sometimes that's a benefit.

Edit to add: it's okay that locks aren't unique, because the lock itself isn't really what keeps people from entering locked doors. Mostly it's the social contract. Your house key might unlock several houses in your neighborhood, but you're not gonna try it, because how would you explain yourself if you got caught? And if you weren't worried about that, then you'd probably be okay with just smashing the window...which means that for someone who would violate it, the lock is moot.

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How important is flirting within the dating scene?

Try to look at it from the perspective of the person you're talking to. Nobody wants to make a fool of themselves, and assuming someone is interested (without evidence) is a great way for someone to become very embarrassed. Flirting is how you subtly let a person know it's safe to suppose you might be into them and proceed accordingly. Conversations and invitations that are completely devoid of flirtation will instead tell them that you're just being polite or friendly.

So it's important!